Should gays/lesbians be afforded equal rights?

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  1. dentist83 profile image60
    dentist83posted 13 years ago

    Well I follow the protestant faith; and now based on what i learn in this forum, I will suit the catholic church for denying me the right to be married in a catholic temple, becasue they based on that I do not follow their creed! 


    Totally no sence!

    Catholic wont mary Protestant believer.  Neither people who had not baptize with them, or people that do not summit to their rules.

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      sneakorocksolidposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      C'mon we're talking about sexual preference not creeds.

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      sneakorocksolidposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      C'mon we're talking about sexual preference not creeds.

      1. Colebabie profile image60
        Colebabieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        Its sexual orientation, not sexual preference. And it doesn't matter if it is creed or orientation. The church has its rules, and if someone wants to get married there it can follow them.

      2. dentist83 profile image60
        dentist83posted 13 years agoin reply to this

        haven't you read the bible?  Sexual behavior are part of christian church creeds.

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          sneakorocksolidposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          You're gripping now.

  2. Colebabie profile image60
    Colebabieposted 13 years ago

    I guess religion just really contradicts itself to me. But I understand what you're saying. However my point was that I was not baptized, I am not any particular religion. There are a lot of people like me. Some may want to be married in a church, so they do what the church tells them to be able to do so. Are there any mass cases of these people suing churches?

    I'm sure there are more of these people then there are gay couples wanting to be married in a church that doesn't accept them.

  3. Colebabie profile image60
    Colebabieposted 13 years ago

    So Sneako, you're going to deny thousands of couples the right to marry because a very small percent may want to get married in a church that doesn't accept them and that throws off your whole balance of morals?

    There are churches with gay services, if it was made legal they would probably hold marriage ceremonies. That is their option. I don't see the problem.

  4. Colebabie profile image60
    Colebabieposted 13 years ago

    I'm for adoption by gay couples as well. Go ahead, tell me I'm wrong. Do you guys not have any gay friends?

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      sneakorocksolidposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Well my favorite uncle died of AIDS and my sister is gay. I have gay customers and buisness relations with gay suppliers we joke about it alot but we know the line and we respect it.

      1. Colebabie profile image60
        Colebabieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        How can you not want these things for them? Marriage and a family. Having someone you love and just wanting them to be happy. I don't understand.

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          sneakorocksolidposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          They chose their lifestyle as I chose mine. They knew the road blocks and they felt it was worth it now they want to change the rules. Thats not how things work you make a decision and you live with your choice good or bad. I am for a civil union not marriage it's the best I could support.

          1. Colebabie profile image60
            Colebabieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            And after all of that. Losing your favorite uncle, having both him and your sister go through struggles in their life. You still believe homosexuality is a choice? That someone would choose the harder path in life.

            1. Friendlyword profile image60
              Friendlywordposted 13 years agoin reply to this

              I dont even argue that point about choice with anyone anymore. What difference does it make anyway to the people that hate me? It's my choice, and I live with it, and I love myself, and  I love God for what he made me. He did't make a mistake here.

              But, I totally disagree with Gay people that want to force Churches to marry them.  I respect peoples religious beliefs and I dont want to intrude on their lives anymore than I want them or would let them intrude on my life and beliefs.  I want to be able to legally join with a man, in a Civil Union, down at City Hall. Then I want to have the same benefits and tax breaks a straight couple would get when they go to City Hall to register their Union. I dont want nothing more in the terms of rights. I dont want any special rights,  and I should not have to settle for something less.

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                Madame Xposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                Here, here! And very well-said smile

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                sneakorocksolidposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                Now you're my kind of Homo!(sorry I lost control of myself)smile

              3. Flightkeeper profile image65
                Flightkeeperposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                Right on!

              4. livelonger profile image88
                livelongerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                So do I...but do they really exist? Seems like a straw man to me.

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    Scott.Lifeposted 13 years ago

    Here's an observation marriage is not a right, but a privilege much like driving, that is left up to the states to decide, and many are about to do that, and formally recognize the unions, will this lead to the downfall of humanity or the destruction of our government. I seriously doubt it. Will it even effect your life if you're heterosexual, once again I really doubt it.

  6. Colebabie profile image60
    Colebabieposted 13 years ago

    I'm with you Tex. Equal rights but no adoption. Hmm...

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    Am I dead, yet?posted 13 years ago

    yes.

  8. Colebabie profile image60
    Colebabieposted 13 years ago

    Did you answer my question sneako?

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      sneakorocksolidposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      No I hadn't Cole because it's more complicated than that as life usually is. My uncle married my aunt and they were married for quite awhile and had a child. My uncle was very promiscuis and had his share of affairs he talked and seemed like he loved sex so much he just couldn't get enough. As best I remember it thats what caused the break-up and it was during the bath-house disco craze and he came out. Knowing my uncle the way I did I wasn't really surprised when I heard he had AIDS. I couldn't believe he turned his back on his family for sex and he was never about monogamy.

      My sister abandoned her husband and their two boys to find herself and she found out she is gay. She left her boys they were in grade school her husband got child support from her but thats not the same. She doesn't talk to us any more it's been about 11yrs now.

      My life with my church is my rock and I love the people there and I know they love me. I don't know what I would do if someone ruined it for me and my family.

      1. Friendlyword profile image60
        Friendlywordposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        That horror story is repeated a million times over because people fear the hate and disgust and even violence they will face if they come out. So they do the RIGHT thing. Get married, have Children and try to be happy. Sometimes it catches up with some of us. Most of the time Gay people raise their families, grow old and die without ever being able to tell anyone the truth. I'm sorry about your family.

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          sneakorocksolidposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          I'm way to simple for all that. All I know is what I know. I appreciate your understanding, thanks! You seem to be a very reasonable person and I take my hat off to you.

      2. livelonger profile image88
        livelongerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        First and foremost: equality advocates are not trying to destroy churches. They dislike the fearmongering and perpetuation of myths that many evangelical churches seem intent on continuing, and want that to stop, but that's a different thing than forcing churches to change their internal policies. I think it's unnecessary & redundant to do so (and a red herring to make a focal point of the discussion), but I fully support adding something in to marriage equality legislation that allows churches to continue to decide who they'll marry.

        Second: stories of gay people being so afraid of harrassment and even violence that they pretended to be straight used to be very common, and is still common in less accepting parts of the country. As your story makes clear, when people aren't free to lead their lives as they see fit and are instead forced into roles by a society, then often they make irresponsible choices. For the life of me, I can't understand why conservatives would rather gay people be promiscuous and single than part of a stable, mutually-dependent relationship with each other. (Well, I guess I know why for the likes of Larry Craig & Ted Haggard: married gays means fewer trolling public bathrooms with them!)

        There are many gay couples who lead shockingly boringly conventional lives (which is why there really is no such thing as a "gay lifestyle"; like colebabie said, it's an orientation, but there are all sorts of gay lifestyles as there are straight lifestyles). And as acceptance grows, there are fewer and fewer gay people who lead depressing, lonely and unhealthy lives.

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          sneakorocksolidposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          civil union not marraige

        2. Friendlyword profile image60
          Friendlywordposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          Thank you so much for saying that.

      3. Colebabie profile image60
        Colebabieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        Thank you for sharing the story of your family. Because they are just that... your family. They led  unhappy and unhealthy lives because they were denying themselves the truth. The ability to live honestly and have love for yourself and who you truly are is important. I am glad that you have the church, it makes you happy and it fulfills your life in a way that nothing else can. It is a part of who you are. To deny the what you believe leads to to live a difficult life. Just as they led. I asked you because they are your family, and they should have been happy sooner. I commend you for being able to say "it is their business". But still wish that you could find it in your heart to realize that homosexuality is not a choice, and that they deserve to live happy complete lives like anyone else. And often that completion, just like heterosexual couples, involves marriage (not civil unions). I apologize if I opened a wound for you. That was not my intention at all. Thank you again for your story.

  9. Flightkeeper profile image65
    Flightkeeperposted 13 years ago

    I'm sorry to hear about your uncle and your sister Sneakorock. I hope their families are doing better.

    Sometimes, people who don't have a faith don't understand that the church is an anchor in people's lives and that trying to destroy the churches would be devastating for many. As with everything in life it's hard to reconcile competing interests but we have to find a way to do so without judging and a lot of acrimony.

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      sneakorocksolidposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for your compassion and don't get me wrong our families are big and we have some truely amazing people in our family. These are tough chapters and as with every family not every thing comes off like you plan. We are a blessed family and I wish we had them back. And again you prove you're the whole package smart and pretty.smile

      1. Flightkeeper profile image65
        Flightkeeperposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        smile

  10. Choke Frantic profile image71
    Choke Franticposted 13 years ago

    Of course gays and lesbians should have equal rights. They are still people after all! Nobody should be judged on their sexual orientation.

  11. tantrum profile image61
    tantrumposted 13 years ago

    So what's the sin in being gay ??!! Pleassseee !!!! thisguy thetruth, is he serious ? yikes
    Or maybe it's that his truth hurts so much, he can't think properly ? big_smile

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    cosetteposted 13 years ago

    haha! big_smile we are not even having a discussion, let alone an 'argument'... you're like all over the map.

    you make me laugh. sweet dreams smile

    http://i38.tinypic.com/xcvskn.gif

    1. tantrum profile image61
      tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      lol lol
      Maybe, as I said before, her truth hurts so much, that she can't think properly big_smile

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    C.J. Wrightposted 13 years ago

    The homosexual community should look at the marriage issue closely.  The rest of us let the government get involved with our personal affairs and look whats happened!  Marriage Liscense, Divorce Court, Custody Battles, Tax Penalties....
    Its a nightmare! Why would you want any part of this?  I often hear the argument of "Estate Planning".  Marriage will not garantee you any thing in that respect.

  14. TimTurner profile image70
    TimTurnerposted 13 years ago

    Sorry if that was too harsh.  I just get irritated with biblical quotes.  You can find one on why it's ok to beat women and enslave people but for some reason it doesn't hold true today.

    blah blah blah

  15. Uninvited Writer profile image77
    Uninvited Writerposted 13 years ago

    All these religious debates about law would be okay if the US was run by a Christian Taliban...which it is not...

  16. dejajolie profile image61
    dejajolieposted 13 years ago

    Is this seriously a question, Geez! What someone does with THEIR OWN life should not have an impact on your moral beliefs. If you don't agree then don't invite them over for dinner. We are all created Equal regardless who we decide to share our bed with. The religious references are killing me..... "Let those who are without 'sin' cast the first stone" So using 'your' own beliefs you have no right to chastise anyone just make sure 'you're getting into heaven'!!!!

    1. Friendlyword profile image60
      Friendlywordposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      God Bless you. KISS KISS

  17. elisabethkcmo profile image81
    elisabethkcmoposted 13 years ago

    I so agree with dejajolie... it's sad that this is even a question, isn't it?

    How about should redheads have equal rights?
    Should people with a Q in their name have equal rights?

    What business is it of ours who someone chooses to love? And what gives anyone the power to discriminate?
    Love is a good thing.

    1. dejajolie profile image61
      dejajolieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Luv it (elizabethkcmo) thanks for simplifying it even more, you know what today I'm discrimiating agains all people who wear green because I hate that color! Ridiculous isn't is.

  18. hinckles koma profile image61
    hinckles komaposted 13 years ago

    What rights, you have a personal right to emotions. The human right is we are all free citizens to choose a partner of our choice.   Rights by law... to all people making a choice for themselves!!  love all.  Who we choose to love marry divorce use...lust  isn't it all part of emotions?

    1. video lost profile image59
      video lostposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      If your child wants to jump off the hill, will you let him to do so as per his/her own rights phenomenon???

  19. mandybeau1 profile image60
    mandybeau1posted 13 years ago

    Hell I am sick of hearing about Gays, whatever that terminolgy means. They don't just want equal rights, they are now trying to make it mandatory. Boring.

  20. Lee Boolean profile image59
    Lee Booleanposted 13 years ago

    Why should anyone be a second class human being?
    In my group of friends there is a gay couple where one is dying of cancer. I have never seen anybody love each other more than these two, his partner takes care of his needs, cleans up the puke, bathes him... and at the end for all his love he has no right to the estate or pension  of this man who has shared his life for the last 15 years... and then according to some he deserves to burn in hell afterward.

    Are we really so closed minded that we need to legislate who you are allowed to love and who not? religion aside, shouldn't every one at least have the right to choose how he/she wants to live their lives, and with whom?

    1. Friendlyword profile image60
      Friendlywordposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      That is all we want. To live and die with dignity the same way straight couples do. Gay people have their Children taken from them if their partner dies. The only time that was allowed in the history of this country was during slavery. We just asking to be treated as whole human beings. Not 3/5 of human. Just show some decency. Thats all we ask.

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      C.J. Wrightposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Thats what happens when you legislate personal affairs to begin with.  The government has absolutely no place in marriage period.
      The government tracks birth records, records property deeds, and regulates financial transactions.  Thats more than enough information to settle contract disputes and divide property via the courts. Now instead of the majority insisting that they be free of government intrusion, you have a minority demanding that they be intruded upon. Its silly really.

  21. mandybeau1 profile image60
    mandybeau1posted 13 years ago

    Honestly no one really takes any notice anymore, you could shack up with an elephant, anfd I think people would pretty much accept it.
    I just don't get why people start Posts like this one. Sorry about your friends. He would get half out here.

  22. Mark Knowles profile image58
    Mark Knowlesposted 13 years ago

    I wonder if you are aware how sick and tired the rest of us are of people like you shoving your ridiculous beliefs in to every conversation?

    It is wrong and you know it? Dear oh dear. And you know where you can stick your imaginary friend. lol ;lol:

  23. Lee Boolean profile image59
    Lee Booleanposted 13 years ago

    If the bible was perfect there would not be so many interpretations of it. Children growing up in a gay environment are not more likely to become gay. Most gay people grew up in classical families.
    I am not gay, and I take it neither are you, but for gay folks its as unnatural to think about having a hetero relationship as it is for you to think about being gay. In the past, these people had no other refuse than the church and monasteries... locking yourself up for feeling different is probably not the way god would have intended for anybody to live. Blurring the line between men and women? that is absurd, what about hermaphrodites, should they be killed at birth? the human gene is such a delicate balance, do you really feel qualified to judge people?

  24. tksensei profile image60
    tksenseiposted 13 years ago

    Some of y'all need to take this peeing contest over to the religion forum.

    1. Lee Boolean profile image59
      Lee Booleanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      it was inevitable that the issue comes up don't you think?

      1. tksensei profile image60
        tksenseiposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        Not inevitable and not necessary. In fact, the insistence by some that it be seen in only such a light is why no real discussion takes place on the topic.

        1. Lee Boolean profile image59
          Lee Booleanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          I could not agree more, it is one of the main reasons the issue has never been dealt with properly, politicians don't want to lose the believers vote, so they trod very lightly around the subject.
          On the other hand, I feel its not appropriate to leave religious bigotry uncommented.

          1. tksensei profile image60
            tksenseiposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            I hope you feel the same way about anti-religious bigotry.

            1. Lee Boolean profile image59
              Lee Booleanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

              I feel the same about any kind of bigotry, as long as they are consenting adults, there is no difference between gay and non gay couples.

              1. tksensei profile image60
                tksenseiposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                Well, obviously there is a difference.

                1. Lee Boolean profile image59
                  Lee Booleanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  do we need to state the obvious? smile
                  Maybe I worded it badly, as far as human rights are concerned all SHOULD have a right to choose how they live, who they love and who they make a commitment to. There should be no legislation barring them from living a fulfilled life.

                  1. tksensei profile image60
                    tksenseiposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                    And there isn't.

  25. profile image0
    Madame Xposted 13 years ago

    Homosexuality was considered a normal part of life and no one even noticed it until the church decided to "make it a sin" during the Dark Ages. The Dark Ages, for anyone who is interested, is defined as when the church controlled everything. All writing, all arts, all laws, etc.

    Gee, I wonder why it was labeled "The Dark Ages"?

    1. Lee Boolean profile image59
      Lee Booleanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      lol even normal marital sex was regulated... there was even a sheet with a hole in it so that the partners did not actually need to touch...

    2. video lost profile image59
      video lostposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Those were dark ages but now the situation is worst than that due to the control of Anti religious thoughts like that of Freemasonry, Zionism, Hinduism, Humanism, Liberalism, Socialism, Materialism, Consciousness etc. You people wrongly subtituted the world dominance.

      1. LiamBean profile image82
        LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        One of the derogatory terms were from the dark ages. The term faggot originally meant a bundle of sticks for burning. A fate many homosexuals suffered in the past. Often at the hands of the secular arm of The Church.

      2. Friendlyword profile image60
        Friendlywordposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        I dont know what you mean when you added Consciousness in with the rest of you isms...Would it have anything to do with the normal human being having a conscious and acting with some decency and humility in their daily life? humm???

        1. video lost profile image59
          video lostposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          The answer is here

          http://www.scribd.com/doc/20978645/The-Limit

          http://hubpages.com/forum/topic/23109

          I can not repeat these things again.

          1. Friendlyword profile image60
            Friendlywordposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            I have never seen such a ridiculus conversation go on so long. Why in the world didn't someone Cry Uncle?

  26. Suiiki profile image61
    Suiikiposted 13 years ago

    Can we clear something up with the marriage issue?

    The term "marriage" refers to the legal state of being married, recieving the same legal status and having the same tax responsibilities as other married people.

    The term "Matrimony" refers to the religious binding of two people under the laws of the church, etc.

    Allowing same-sex marriage does not force religious institutions to recognize same-sex matrimony, because it has NOTHING to do with matrimony. Only with marriage under the law of the LAND.


    And homosexuals do not want to be a protected class, they just want to have the right to walk down the street and NOT get beaten to a bloody pulp by some wing-nut who likes screaming the word "f*g"

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      A Texanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      No, they want to be a protected class

      1. livelonger profile image88
        livelongerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        How so?

      2. Suiiki profile image61
        Suiikiposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        No, they don't. Or at least, the vast majority don't. Please kindly stop telling me what I (and the hundreds of other homosexuals in North America) want.

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          A Texanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          Hundreds? There are only hundreds?

          1. Suiiki profile image61
            Suiikiposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            That is called a typo. I meant hundreds of thousands. And that is only counting those who are open and out...

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              A Texanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

              And you speak for all of them?

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      C.J. Wrightposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Everyone in America has that right.

      1. Suiiki profile image61
        Suiikiposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        Which right? To be married under the law? (Not true) To not be beaten senseless? Tell that to the thousands of homosexual and transsexual people who are beaten and murdered every year, only for their attackers to either be praised as heroes, or let off with aggravated assault even though they killed someone in cold blood.

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          C.J. Wrightposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          You Said:

          "And homosexuals do not want to be a protected class, they just want to have the right to walk down the street and NOT get beaten to a bloody pulp by some wing-nut who likes screaming the word "f*g""

          Tens of thousands of people are beaten senseless yearly that have nothing to do with homosexuality.

          "or let off with aggravated assault even though they killed someone in cold blood."

          Now I think your exagerating. If you make a statement like this, you should probably follow up with an example. Charges of Agg Assault are not made when a DA has a corpse!

          1. Suiiki profile image61
            Suiikiposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            You clearly know nothing of society if you think people are not killed for being homosexual. There are literally thousands EVERY YEAR. I suggest turning off Fox News Channel and picking up a major newspaper.

            As far as Agg Assault charges not being made when there is a corpse? Yes, they are. Also, Involuntary Manslaughter in cases where someone was just killed FOR BEING DIFFERENT. Look up the case of Brandon Teena. His is one of the most widely known cases of a transgender person ebing killed and the murderers being let off with NOTHING. Here are a few more:

            http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_q … n14577222/

            http://con-stellations.blogspot.com/200 … ender.html

            http://www.thefreelibrary.com/Bitterswe … 0138859443

            http://www.washblade.com/2005/4-22/news … s/5401.cfm

            http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/americas/3219591.stm

            http://www.365gay.com/news/plea-bargain … ans-death/

            Do a google search. There are more, but I have an appoinment in a couple hours and I need to get ready.

            One a final note, here's a site were you can finds tons of info on transpeople that were murdered. Possibly some news links, too.

            http://www.gender.org/remember/day/

            If someone can kill me for being homosexual, or kill my wife for being transsexual, does that mean we can go out and kill heterosexual, cisgender people?

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              C.J. Wrightposted 13 years agoin reply to this

              I don't own a TV.  I do read major news publications. 
              NYTIMES
              Washington Post
              Wall Street Journal
              Houston Chronicle

              etc....

              Again you exagerate.  The perps are serving hard time.  The sheriff's office lost a civil suit.  You can't force people to change opinions via legislation. You can punish actions. That happens to those that commit crimes against homosexuals as it does with anyone else. Also that case happened in Lincoln Nebraska, 1993.  Don't you think things have come a long way?

              1. LiamBean profile image82
                LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                No you can't legislate opinion. But a state can most certainly legislate as crime acting upon that opinion.

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                  C.J. Wrightposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  Those actions(violence and discrimination) are illegal now.  What difference does it make who it was done too?  When we say that a crime is worse because it was committed against a particular group its says the opposite of the laws intended purpose...EQUALITY! Again, the marriage issue did not start with homosexuals. It started when we allowed government into our bedroom.  In most states Adultery is still illegal. Many states have sodomy laws.  Even California, the most progressive state in the Union refuses to acknowlege gay marriage by popular vote.  Popular opinion says that marriage is a hetero institution. Popular opinion apparently states that sexuality is primarily for reproduction.  Technically the government is in a pickle aren't they? They have gotten themselves into a no win situation. Had they never entered the bedroom to begin with, this would not be an issue.  Morality and social norms are community based. It shouldn't be federalized. When you try to do so, you are no different from a Church that tries to push its agenda on all.

                  1. LiamBean profile image82
                    LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                    The "no win situation" of government is absolutely correct. It's the reason I keep saying the DOA should never have made it to the house and senate.

                    As to Proposition 8, the California initiative to declare marriage as an institution between a man and a woman, that was a very close race. Very close.

                    We here did not know the results of that particular proposition for days.

                    It was not only hard fought, but the fact that donors for or against Prop 8 were a matter of public record meant that many of those who contributed to the campaign suddenly found their businesses boycotted and picketed. Yes on eight generated $43 million dollars. The campaign against it generated $40 million. More money was spend on this proposition than any other ballot initiative.

                    There was also a schism between gays and some black churches with ministers declaring from the pulpit that gays not only did not have the right to marriage, but that claims of discrimination, though not false, were relatively recent.

                    Clearly these ministers did not study the history of the church and it's attitude toward homosexuality. In the dark ages homosexuals were hanged, burned at the stake and sawed in half.

                    That the Mormon church was a primary contributor became a real problem for the church. Picketing of temples began shortly after the outcome was announced. Ironically, some of the protests prevented marriages from taking place at the temples, a side-effect, that the protesters were not aware of, but applauded anyway once those facts came out.

                    Interestingly, technology played a large role in the protests with the "No on 8" protesters using twitter and facebook to coordinate their efforts.

                    The California Supreme Court got involved because Prop 8 changed the text of the state constitution. An effect that no previous proposition had. The court ruled that the proposition was valid, but that it did not affect marriages performed before it's passage.

                    "No on 8" isn't over. There are already propositions in the works to overturn Prop 8. Also, though the governor is Republican, he did not support Prop 8 and even urged citizen to vote "No" on it.

                    There is a lawsuit "Perry vs Schwarzenegger" which will attempt to overturn the change to the constitution on various grounds. It will be heard in January 2010.

    3. rhamson profile image72
      rhamsonposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      By defining the ceremony or the classification seems to be a real big issue with both the religious and the homosexual parties in this argument.  Why is naming it marriage so important and and not calling it a civil union to gain the rights and placate the religious arguments a good compromise?

      1. Suiiki profile image61
        Suiikiposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        It would be, if it were also called civil unions for straight people.

        1. rhamson profile image72
          rhamsonposted 13 years agoin reply to this
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            rhamsonposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            So it is the name and the distinction you are opposed to?

            1. Suiiki profile image61
              Suiikiposted 13 years agoin reply to this

              Do you remember what happened with seperate but equal when we did it with black people?

              1. rhamson profile image72
                rhamsonposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                What you are talking about are two separate issues.  One being the legality of the matter and the other which has never been successfully legislated and that is the societal acceptance.  This is too big a chunk to handle at once.

                If I were to try and get this through I would at least settle on the legality for the time being and when societies view changes over time I would revisit it then.  Pie in the sky wants do not a law make.

                1. Suiiki profile image61
                  Suiikiposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  Actually, they AREN'T seperate issues. If yolu call it marriage for one group, and civil unions for another, then one group is going to get the bigger slice of the pie, so to speak. If it is legislated that Marriage means you get such-and-such tax benefit, it has to be seperatly legislated for the civil union group for them to get it. At the same time, if it is legislated that the marriage group must pay such-and-such on their property taxes, it must ALSO be seperately legislated for the civil union group. It's the same issues that kept black schools away from vital funding and support way back when.

                  1. rhamson profile image72
                    rhamsonposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                    That is specifically the issue.  I did not say that gays should not have all the rights afforded to a hetero couple.  That is the issue.  As the law states that a man and woman should have these rights is what you should get as any other citizen should.  The religoius part of this issue fight against it on a belief basis and not a legal basis.

                    Concentrate on accepting the term civil union and recieving the priveledges that it entitles you too and not the acceptance you will never get from many segments of the society.

        2. tksensei profile image60
          tksenseiposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          So you don't just want equal legal status, you demand that society accomodate you in every way you desire?

          1. rhamson profile image72
            rhamsonposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Just my point!  You want to have respect as well as the legal rights.  Just as you cannot legislate morals you cannot demand respect.

            1. livelonger profile image88
              livelongerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

              Who is asking for respect? Gays & lesbians just want equality under the law, all red herrings invented by the right aside.

              1. tksensei profile image60
                tksenseiposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                And Civil Unions would do that, right?

                1. livelonger profile image88
                  livelongerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  No, they wouldn't, unless they came with laws mandating at the federal, state, county and municipal level that civil unions are to be treated exactly the same as marriage in every possible instance.

                  1. tksensei profile image60
                    tksenseiposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                    I don't think all state laws regarding marriage are exactly the same, but say for the sake of argument that Civil Unions were treated the same. How would that be?

      2. livelonger profile image88
        livelongerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        The "religious" do not only have an issue with the term 'marriage'. In Washington State, the religious right is trying to dismantle domestic partnerships, too. They really aren't happy unless gay relationships are completely invalidated.

        And as Suiiki makes clear, separate but equal is never equal. There will be countless instances where rights to married couples will not be extended to civil unions until various legislatures get around to making them equal and enforceable.

        1. rhamson profile image72
          rhamsonposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          I don't agree with your take on the religious do not have an issue with the term.  I have talked with many religious types that are indeed opposed to the name "marriage" applied to the union of gay couples.  So, I would not overlook this in your quest.  I agree that there needs to be legislation to give the same rights to civil unions as hetero marriages. 

          Be careful in your grouping them as they because the same discrimination can be applied to you as you point out to "them".

          Generalizing this whole thing leaves it up to too much interpretation and can add hours of debate rather than making it an all encompasing battle of name and legality.

          Take a page from the civil rights struggle and carve out an identity for your selves rather than putting the two together.

    4. tksensei profile image60
      tksenseiposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      That is already illegal. Congratulations.

  27. earnestshub profile image85
    earnestshubposted 13 years ago

    I believe that people have the same rights regardless of sexuality and the question should not arise.
    Homophobia is just ignorance. There is ample proof that sexuality is not a choice, yet many interpret scripture to support their fear.
    If they would only read some medical info instead! smile

    1. tksensei profile image60
      tksenseiposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Does that matter as regards the issue at hand?

      1. earnestshub profile image85
        earnestshubposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        I believe it addresses one of the reasons why people would vote this down.Ignorance of how sexuality works is evident in some replies So yes, I think it is relevant to the discussion. smile

        1. tksensei profile image60
          tksenseiposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          Do you think that any significant portion of those voting "this" down (not sure what 'this' we are talking about by this point) would change their vote if they were convinced it was not a choice (assuming they don't now think so)?

          1. Friendlyword profile image60
            Friendlywordposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Most know it is not a choice. They dont care. It aint cool to be a racist anymore.  And people gotta climb up to heaven on the backs of somebody. Who's left. Gay people are way to convenient a scapegoat to give up.

            1. tksensei profile image60
              tksenseiposted 13 years agoin reply to this

              You mean some people disagree with  you?

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    thetfinposted 13 years ago

    1. Homosexuals do not need the government to approve of their relationship in order for them to believe it exists.
    2. Homosexuals couples are not prone to reproduce, and therefore do not need the same tax bracket as Heterosexual couples.
    3. Any other issues can effectively be solved through other means. Inheritance issues, adoption, transition/sharing of guardianship and anything else that homosexuals do not have can be granted, but do not necessarily require marraige.

    For these reasons, the legalization of Gay Marraige is a waste of time and taxpayer money.

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      cosetteposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      there you go, assuming all heterosexual couples have children...

      if gay people want to get married, what's the big deal? plenty of straight couples have made a mockery of the institution of marriage, if Dr. Phil and Jerry Springer serve me right wink

    2. Colebabie profile image60
      Colebabieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Nope. There are 1,138 rights to marriage. I think that trumps your 3 reasons why the legalization isn't necessary.

    3. livelonger profile image88
      livelongerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      True, but meaningless when talking about legalizing same-sex marriage.

      There are many heterosexual couples that don't reproduce (either due to biology or choice). Should we not let them get married?

      Those that can be dealt with through contract (clearly not all of them) require time and expense that heterosexuals can opt out of by simply getting married. Does that really sound fair to you?

      You are missing the point of the United States' definition of liberty if this is your metric.

    4. LiamBean profile image82
      LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      You are wrong. The government already makes an exception for same sex marriage with the "Defense of Marriage Act." Same sex couples do not have access to each others social security benefits, and a whole host of other "advantages" married couples have in the eyes of the nation.



      That's a strawman argument. The tax advantage of married couples is not solely there because they can reproduce. If it were then there'd be an exclusion for couples in their sixties or older who marry.

      So, once again, you are wrong.


      Marriage makes all of this available with one act. Without the marriage all of these issues must be handled separately and at some expense.

      So once again, you are wrong.


      The U.S. government making gay marriage "illegal" was a waste of time and money. And it should never have made it to Congress.

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        thetfinposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        1. Are you saying that homosexual couples need Government permission to exist because the participants do not have access to the same benefits as married heterosexual couples? That is absurd. Recieveing benefits and being tolerated are two vastly different things. I was saying that homosexual couples are not prevented from existing by the Government. I don't know what arguement you were trying to refute here.
        2. Mine is not a straw man argument. Why do couples deserve a better tax bracket if they have no children or no way of producing children? Children are expensive for couples, but essential for society. New generations are essential for the growth of any economy. Without new generations entering the workforce, who will pay the taxes that support beneficiaries of Medicare and Social Security? That is why we need to give married heterosexual couples a break. I believe that any undeserved exceptions in the tax system should be fixed, and thus your point in no way detracts from the validity of my point. Your argument may point out a flaw in the tax system, but that does not disprove the necessity of making life easier for families.
        Money isn’t infinite. The Government can’t afford to go tossing it around to everyone who wants a little more—especially when their claim to it is unsubstantiated.
        3. These are issues however that need to be solved for people who are not considered couples. These issues have nothing to do with the orientation of the members involved. Things like adoption should be available to any responsible adult. People shouldn’t have to be in a relationship to have guardianship transferred. Those issues apply to more than just homosexuals, meaning the legalization of gay marriage is not the way to solve them.
        4. That is a red herring. I never mentioned that it should be made illegal. My point was that it doesn’t need to be made legal.

        1. LiamBean profile image82
          LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          There is a national law on the books RIGHT NOW that says same sex couples are NOT and CAN NOT share the same benefits as opposite sex couples. It's called "The Defense of Marriage Act." Look it up.



          It is a "strawman" argument. If what you said applies then ANYONE beyond a certain age, say sixty, should not have the same marriage benefits as a couple that can reproduce. There's no argument here. Either the tax benefits are couples who can reproduce, therefore excluding ANYONE who cannot reproduce, or the tax benefit is for marrieds regardless of their ability to reproduce.



          That is one of over 100 benefits that marrieds enjoy. Your argument is extremely weak.



          It already is illegal from a congressional point of view. Again, look it up!

          Here! Since you seem to be incapable of doing your own research read this link;

          http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Defense_of_marriage_act

          Pay particular attention to item 2. This law was passed in 1996. It is a national law. Because it is a national law it affects social security benefits, medicaid, medicare, and a whole host of federal programs designed to benefit married couples.

          Now, by law, a married couple must be one man and one woman or no federal recognition for them.

          None.

          Period!

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            thetfinposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            LiamBean, I feel like you are using a belligerent tone that is very rude and unnecessary. Rebuttals laced with personal attacks, however minor they may be, will in no way further this discussion. I don’t mean to paint you as trollish, but being so quick to accuse people who disagree with you of being ignorant is not very helpful.

            1. I think there is some miscommunication with point #1. There are two parts to this issue; the toleration of the existence of gay couples and the provision of marital benefits. I am saying that gay couples are currently tolerated. Sure, they aren't always respected by others, but they also don't have big brother knocking down their doors. Marital benefits are denied to them, there is no denying that, but marital benefits are not required for a Heterosexual couple to be considered married. If I got married, and the Government ceased to exist, would I not still be considered married? Marriage is between the two people getting married. The extent of Government involvement is recognizing that the marraige exists. So, to clear this up, ‘Gay Marriage’ in itself is not illegal, but the provision of Government benefits to gay couples is.

            2. Did you not read the part where I said “I believe that any undeserved exceptions in the tax system should be fixed, and thus your point in no way detracts from the validity of my point.”? You are the one making the strawman here because I never said that people who are unable to have children should have the same tax relief as those who are able. My point is that children are expensive and should be a reason why heterosexual couples who have the potential for children deserve tax relief. If you don’t have children and can’t produce children, you don’t need tax relief. The existence of children or the potential to create children are the crux for this, not sexual orientation. For example: A straight couple in their thirties who have no children and a pair of homosexuals who have adopted children both deserve tax relief. I don’t see what is unfair about that.

            3. Your response does not really refute what I said. I said that everyone deserves these benefits, married or not, and in response you made the statement that there are 100 more cases of exclusive benefits without bothering to mention what they are. And if you are right and there are more, why should homosexual couples be the only group added to the list of beneficiaries? Why not others who would like to benefit as well? Of course, I can’t really make such a sweeping assumption. I’m sure many issues aren’t relevant to non-couples. But still, I think my point stands that homosexuals aren’t the only people being denied certain freedoms who deserve to partake in some of them.
            4. The Government might not recognize homosexual marriages and provide the associated benefits, but that does not mean it prevents them from happening.  As I have said before, I don’t see why homosexuals are the only ones who should be benefiting from revised social security, Medicaid and Medicare policies.

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              Star Witnessposted 13 years agoin reply to this

              Well argued; good points.  Yes, the same rights should be afforded to all in domestic partnerships, in my opinion.

              I support gay marriage as a step in the right direction in recognizing their rights, given the fact that marriage is a legal/cultural/religious institution.

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                sneakorocksolidposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                Another enlighten intellectual, Wow.

  29. tantrum profile image61
    tantrumposted 13 years ago

    @liam bean
    Thanks !! smile

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      cosetteposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      are you sure you don't Twitter? wink

      1. LiamBean profile image82
        LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        I have a twitter account, but don't use it. About the only tweets I want have to do with traffic situations. Heh!

        1. profile image0
          cosetteposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          aw

          if you ever get back on, link me smile

  30. LiamBean profile image82
    LiamBeanposted 13 years ago

    So, to get back on topic. The "Defense of Marriage Act" is a direct act of discrimination against a segment of U.S. citizens.

  31. Helen Cater profile image61
    Helen Caterposted 13 years ago

    Everyone should have equal rights. We all come into this world the same way, so we should live with the same rights, and die with those rights. We are all human, and whatever your sexual preference, we are the same, flesh and blood.

    1. earnestshub profile image85
      earnestshubposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Well said Helen! smile

      1. Helen Cater profile image61
        Helen Caterposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        Thanks Earnestshub. Will jump down from my soapbox now.

        1. earnestshub profile image85
          earnestshubposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          It is nice to see people who care about rights, makes me happy! smile smile

    2. video lost profile image59
      video lostposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      You mean to say that in a 100 meter race male and female runners must run together and there must not be any separation and also you want to say that men can start wearing bikinis because they also have tits. Further you want to say that there is no difference between the one who worships Satan and the one who worships God. Everyone should have equal rights that's the reason Bush was allowed to kill and butcher around the world because he had the rights. 

      Previously homosexuality was considered as a sin and crime but today it's not. It clearly reveals that today child abuse is considered as a sin and crime but later on in the near future, you will even allow this and demand rights for that.

      1. earnestshub profile image85
        earnestshubposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        I knew a man who had a dollar and lent it. That does not make him an International Banker! Your examples are stupid and do not apply.

      2. Lee Boolean profile image59
        Lee Booleanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        That is absurd, ever hear of consenting adults? besides the point of this particular thread is not whether its a sin or not, you are not on a religious forum, read the title.

        1. video lost profile image59
          video lostposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          i used both words "sin and crime"

          read it again

          1. Lee Boolean profile image59
            Lee Booleanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            O sorry, sin AND crime, that still does not make your statement and more sensible. Of course child abuse is a crime, but how can it be a crime for adults to live the way they please? In some countries women are treated like property by their husbands, in my mind this is much more a sin and a crime.

            1. video lost profile image59
              video lostposted 13 years agoin reply to this

              In other countries, women are treated as sex symbols and society butterflies. That's the reason those sick males wear a complete formal suit whereas force women to show off their legs and thighs.

              1. Lee Boolean profile image59
                Lee Booleanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                In Europe women basically have the right to wear whatever they please, most choose to look good on their own, the only contribution men have to how they look is telling them they don't look fat in those pants.

      3. Ralph Deeds profile image65
        Ralph Deedsposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        Your arguments are ridiculous.

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          C.J. Wrightposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          Are you sure?  NAMBLA....

          1. Ralph Deeds profile image65
            Ralph Deedsposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            What does NAMBLA have to do with my comment on video's ridiculous reasoning? What does NAMBLA have to do with gay and lesbian rights?

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              C.J. Wrightposted 13 years agoin reply to this

              The guys point was that every one wants to be special these days.
              Thats what I got out of it, anyway.

              That is whats at the root of the argument. Is it equality or the creation of a special class? You said his arguments were rediculous. I only offered an example of a group who believes that child abuse is not a sin or a crime.
              Fact:
              Gays, Lesbians can not legaly be discriminated against in the United States of America.
              Fact:
              Not allowing homosexuals to obtain a marriage liscence does not preclude them distributing their estate as they wish. It doesn't preclude them from buying a house together. They can even get family insurance plans.

              I'm not against equal rights for all. I'm against creating laws that are based on special classes.  Its devisive. I'm also for limited government. I don't want the government in my house.

              The Religous Right is afraid of this because they believe marriage is a religous institution. Historically speaking thats true. The GOVERNMENT is who muddied the water here.  The Religious Right is also afraid that if homosexuals are allowed traditional marriage all clergy will be forced into sanctioning and performing homosexual marriages. Is that true? Who knows. I'm just stating what I learn by listening to all sides.

              The homosexual community are aleging descrimination but have yet to prove it in court(when it comes to the marriage issue).

              Here is whats happening in America today. We used the Courts to create new law when the legislature will not. We use the legislature to creat new laws that ride on existing laws to change the courts interpretation of the law. It is deceptive and abusive.  That Mr Deeds is rediculous!

              1. LiamBean profile image82
                LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                Please read the Defense of Marriage Act. Gays ARE legally discriminated against by the Federal Government.

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                  C.J. Wrightposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  Under the Full Faith and Credit Clause of the Constitution. They did so to prevent the chaos that would ensue between the states. The Act prevented homosexuals from obtaining a traditional marriage liscense. They did not prevent them from any of the precieved legal benifits of marriage. In truth their are no legal benifits to marriage. Only legal complications. In discrimination cases you have to prove harm. They have not. In the case of the Act's Constitutionality they have to prove that the congress over reached. They have not proven that.

                  1. LiamBean profile image82
                    LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                    You really should read the link Ralph Deeds posted. And the Defense of Marriage Act. Because of that act gay marrieds are NOT allowed social security benefits as a surviving spouse. This is just one of many Federal benefits heterosexual marrieds enjoy that same sex marrieds do not. There's also the tax benefit heterosexual marrieds enjoy that same sex marries are now barred from. No matter what, if the couple is of the same gender they MUST file individual tax returns.

                    And it most certainly is discrimination in that a segment of the population is legally treated differently than another segment of the population. That, in and of itself, is both discriminatory and harmful. And the harm is not just to same sex couples.

                    The harm extends to all Americans by making a life-style choice the basis for law.

  32. Uninvited Writer profile image77
    Uninvited Writerposted 13 years ago

    Child abuse was not always considered a sin or a crime, remember the saying "spare the rod and spoil the child?" It used to be considered to be bad form to discuss what when on in a family.

    And equating homosexuality with that is completely ridiculous.

    1. Ralph Deeds profile image65
      Ralph Deedsposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Very true. Human morality has progressed (but not yet perfected) since the cave men and women.

      1. Lee Boolean profile image59
        Lee Booleanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        Funny you should mention that, where I grew up it was the order of the day to beat children, especially in school, if a child had a bad grade he was obviously too lazy to learn had had to get six lashes. The also tried beating the gay out of a few kids, did not help much on their case... 3 suicides out of 5 kids.

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        C.J. Wrightposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        Assault, Agg Assault, Man Slaughter, Murder have allways been a crime.  Yes, popular opinion has changed regarding domestic issues. However, all the people had to do was elect DA's and Judges that would enforce the law equally and fairly.  What happened was that new laws were created that clogged up the court systems and tied the hands of Judges and DA's.

        1. Ralph Deeds profile image65
          Ralph Deedsposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          Equality before the law in Texas. Popular opinion among the Texas police hasn't changed much

          http://www.dallasvoice.com/artman/publi … _11499.php

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            C.J. Wrightposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Maybe, no doubt this will end up in court. Officers will be charged and or sued. Chances are the department and the city will experience fall out as well.

            1. Ralph Deeds profile image65
              Ralph Deedsposted 13 years agoin reply to this

              Don't bet on it. And we're talking about popular opinion of police officers in Texas.

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                A Texanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                How would you know what popular opinion is of Officers in Texas?

                1. Ralph Deeds profile image65
                  Ralph Deedsposted 13 years agoin reply to this
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                    A Texanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                    Yes Ralph, I know what I said are you going to answer my question?

                  2. Ralph Deeds profile image65
                    Ralph Deedsposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                    Simple, by what I read about the atrocities they commit, by the increasing number of people imprisoned and executed and by quite a few visits to your fair state. Also, by virtue of a longtime friendship with a former Texas Ranger who became chief of security for General Motors.

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                      A Texanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                      We execute those guilty of Capital crimes, I'm not sure how visiting Texas plugs you into the mind of most officers. And one former Texas Ranger has a direct pipeline into Cops minds? Good job Ralph!

                    2. tksensei profile image60
                      tksenseiposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                      The chief of 'sedurity' for General Motors?


                      ?????????

    2. tantrum profile image61
      tantrumposted 13 years ago

      In Argentina Gay couples can have a civil marriage, with all proper laws as for work,medicine, inheritance, etc.- the only thing they can't do at the moment is adopting children. But they're fighting for it.

    3. Paradise7 profile image72
      Paradise7posted 13 years ago

      I saw a really good movie with Sean Penn, called "Milk".  It was about gays in San Francisco, and Harvey Milk, who ran for office and succeeded, all the way to the state legislature.  He was assasinated.  It was a really good movie for opening minds to the harmlessness of gay people.  Most of the bad press gays get is child molestation--and it is unearned:   97% of child molesters are predominately heterosexually oriented.

      So sure, why not?  Gays are just like ordinary people, only their sexual orientation is in the minority.

    4. profile image0
      A Texanposted 13 years ago

      Guess you got nothing

    5. Ralph Deeds profile image65
      Ralph Deedsposted 13 years ago

      Additional costs for gay couples are significant:

      http://www.nytimes.com/2009/10/03/your- … amp;st=cse

    6. Ralph Deeds profile image65
      Ralph Deedsposted 13 years ago

      The Right Direction on Gay Rights--Detroit Free Press Editorial

      http://www.freep.com/article/20091013/O … gay-rights

      With two wars, health care and the economy crowding his plate, you'd think President Barack Obama would have no room for another entrée-sized issue. But in his Saturday speech to the Human Rights Campaign, the president added gay rights initiatives to his near-term agenda.

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      If nothing else, the president's attention reminds everyone that there's still much work to do on this front. The federal Defense of Marriage Act (signed by President Bill Clinton in 1996) remains a serious obstacle to equal rights for gay couples. The military policy of "don't ask, don't tell" has probably run the course of its usefulness and needs to be eradicated. And states are still all over the map regarding same-sex marriage.

      If Obama can make headway on DOMA and military policy, as he pledged in his speech, it could represent real change in the lives of many gay Americans. And it might get the president a little closer to earning that Nobel Prize he picked up last week.

      Even those who oppose gay marriage should be willing to concede, on an intellectual level, that a law excluding gay couples not only from marriage but also from federal benefits available to other citizens goes too far. It's overkill, and an embarrassment to a nation that considers itself a defender of equality. The immediately lukewarm response from other Democrats (including Michigan Sen. Debbie Stabenow) to Obama's suggested repeal of DOMA is equally embarrassing.

      Obama may have an easier time moving the country past "don't ask, don't tell," which was a workable compromise during the Clinton administration's first term but now seems antiquated and a little silly. It's OK to be gay in the military, so long as you don't say so? There have been more than enough examples to show that allowing service men and women to be honest (while maintaining the same discipline that heterosexual soldiers are expected to uphold) is a better policy. The key will be getting military buy-in (much of which is already present) to prevent a backlash. That buy-in could also prevent opportunistic demagogues from hijacking what is, and should remain, primarily a military issue.

      The president attached no timetables to his objectives. But speaking up for gay rights was and is the right thing to do, and if Obama can follow through, it will go a long way toward forging the presidency he aspires to pursue.

    7. richypee profile image61
      richypeeposted 13 years ago

      Being a gay or lesbian is one of the craziest madness I have ever seen.

      1. Uninvited Writer profile image77
        Uninvited Writerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        It is as it is whether you like it or not.

        1. richypee profile image61
          richypeeposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          Don't think God is in support of same sex marriage

          1. Uninvited Writer profile image77
            Uninvited Writerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            God does not make the laws in the US

            1. richypee profile image61
              richypeeposted 13 years agoin reply to this

              It's true, God don't make laws in US but one thing is certain, God will certainly judge our hearts

              1. Uninvited Writer profile image77
                Uninvited Writerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                If he exists, yet he will. It is not for anyone else to say if it's right or wrong.

          2. Ralph Deeds profile image65
            Ralph Deedsposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            We'll never know about that, will we? You're entitled to your opinion for whatever it's worth. Not much in my opinion.

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              sneakorocksolidposted 13 years agoin reply to this

              Ralph are you gay or bi?

              1. Len Cannon profile image89
                Len Cannonposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                weeeellllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllp

              2. Colebabie profile image60
                Colebabieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                Someone's sexual orientation is your business because?

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                  sneakorocksolidposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  It would help explain what the hell he's babbaling about. Try to get some bearings and whats it to you?

                  1. Colebabie profile image60
                    Colebabieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                    Because it doesn't look like babbling to me.

                    1. LiamBean profile image82
                      LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                      Or to me. Mr. Deeds provided some very compelling and convincing information. Something the nay-sayers have yet to do.

    8. Len Cannon profile image89
      Len Cannonposted 13 years ago

      Actually, God does make the laws in the US.  Or at least, he is part of the process.  I'm assuming you're all not familiar with Jaweh (I), the Junior Senator from Oregon?

    9. Cagsil profile image76
      Cagsilposted 13 years ago

      I said this once before and I will say it again.

      The PERSPECTIVE is blowning in the wrong direction!

      Every person has equal rights, both MAN and WOMAN!

      You DO NOT get more rights, because of your sexual preference!

      Never in this lifetime or the next.

      Who you SLEEP with or what GENDER they are is completely irrelevant, when speaking about constitutionality of rights of individuals.

      You have a right to get married. Man or Woman!

      If you choose to go against the grain of life, then so be it, but don't think your special or should receive special treatment.

      Your individual sexual partner, regardless, doesn't give you any more rights than you have a citizen.

      Right or Wrong? The U.S. Government has a right to what is in the best interests of the citizenry, by preventing "gays/lesbians" from creating marriage which are unproductive to the rest of society.

      Remember, your individual rights as a person is weighed against what is in the best interest society......And SOCIETY always wins.

      1. LiamBean profile image82
        LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        George Orwell would be proud.

        1. Cagsil profile image76
          Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          Considering I don't know who that is? Would that be a compliment? Or not?

          1. LiamBean profile image82
            LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Not. George Orwell wrote a novel called "1984" where everyone in society had their lives mapped out from beginning to end by a world government. The government determined who could have children, who had to remain single, who got good food or passable food, etc. Every aspect of life life, from the time someone got up in the morning to the time they had to go to bed was controlled.

            The Defense of Marriage act is an attempt to control who can marry.

            George Orwell would be proud.

    10. Len Cannon profile image89
      Len Cannonposted 13 years ago

      I don't think he would be "proud" of a world that embodied 1984's philosophies...

      1. LiamBean profile image82
        LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        You get my point though right?

        1. Len Cannon profile image89
          Len Cannonposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          Yeah, I was followin'

    11. Ralph Deeds profile image65
      Ralph Deedsposted 13 years ago

      Thought We'd Dealt with This
      Josh Marshall | October 15, 2009, 5:34PM

      Louisiana Judge denies marriage license to interracial couple.

      "I don't do interracial marriages because I don't want to put children in a situation they didn't bring on themselves," said Justice of the Peace Keith Bardwell of Tangipahoa Parish.

      1. Colebabie profile image60
        Colebabieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        So sad. So my boyfriend and I won't be asking him to perform our ceremony.

      2. profile image55
        C.J. Wrightposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        DAM, this is embarrassing! The state of my birth!  Well, let me tell you Tangipahoa and its neighboring Parish, Livingston are about as redneck and racist as it gets! I still can't believe a statement like that fell out of a Justice of the Peace's mouth this day and age though.....WOW

    12. Cagsil profile image76
      Cagsilposted 13 years ago

      There is not upside to gays/lesbians marrying to begin with.

      The problem isn't being addressed, as it should be. Instead, it is posed in a wrong perspective(which has seem to gone mad now), because the Medical Association refuses to come clean with the true thought behind "being gay" or "being lesbian", which is that it is a mental problem.

      Just for the pure fact that the actions do not make for good results, nor productive- either in breeding or parenting.

      So, now what?

      1. LiamBean profile image82
        LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        Of for Cripes Sake, not the mental condition canard again! That has been completely discounted too. Even Phil McGraw admits that it's not a "mental condition" or a "life choice."

        Two people who love and support each other do not make for good results? Do tell!

        Now what is wing-nuts like yourself continuing to spread flawed and paid for "research" to further your agenda.

        What's the agenda? Marginalize a segment of the American citizenry because they frighten you.

        How sad!

        1. Cagsil profile image76
          Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          It's not a matter of fear? DUH!

          It's a matter of survival!

          1. LiamBean profile image82
            LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Survival? How on earth do gays threaten your survival?

            1. Cagsil profile image76
              Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

              Okay, if you cannot see that yourself.

              Then, it's no use taking this any further, because regardless of what I say...you cannot seem to wrap your mind the "bigger" picture for the Human Race.

              1. LiamBean profile image82
                LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                You made the assertion you need to explain it. I'm all ears.

    13. Colebabie profile image60
      Colebabieposted 13 years ago

      Cagisil think about what you just said. Really think. Maybe even do some research. Then get back to me.

      1. Cagsil profile image76
        Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        Why?

        Explain?

        I don't need research, to understand life's basic understanding.

        If you do, then I would suggest you get a refreshers course on LIFE in and of itself.

        Do you know the purpose of life?

        I might have a clearer understanding than you might think, because there is a good chance you haven't learned what I have.

        Thus, this would make you think that your correct, when in fact you're actually wrong.

        If I offended, I apologize. But, I believe in speaking my mind and typing the words that come to mind, just as if I was saying it.

        And, yes, if you and I were standing, having this conversation, you would get the exact same response. And, your response is already expected and known, which is why I've explained as much as I have in this post.

        But, I do welcome your response and I do await.

        Again, there is knowledge you don't know, because it has not been given to you, which is what I have. That's why I started on Hubpages was to get people to understand their life.

        If I can help you to learn what's been hidden...your life only gets better and not worse.

        Try not to be mad. It's not my fault. I only present what I've learned.

        1. LiamBean profile image82
          LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          Oh great. Another Born Again! roll

          This is not a religious topic. The area of the forums in you are in is called "Political & Social Issues." THIS is a political/social issue.

          If you want to get up on the pulpit and proclaim something I strongly suggest you do it in the right venue.

          THIS IS NOT THE RIGHT VENUE.

    14. Cagsil profile image76
      Cagsilposted 13 years ago

      That judge needs to be to have his butt handed to and stripped of his position.

      That's messed up.

    15. Colebabie profile image60
      Colebabieposted 13 years ago

      Thanks Liam! smile

      Cagsil, please don't tell me the purpose of life is to have babies.

      1. LiamBean profile image82
        LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        Boy! I've helped raise one. I'm almost sixty. I think I'm done with that. I hope I'm done with that.

        Also, I got married in July. My wife cannot have children yet we ARE married. *Gasp*

      2. Cagsil profile image76
        Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        I won't, but it's never meant to end either.

        1. Colebabie profile image60
          Colebabieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          That's what you were gonna say wasn't it?

    16. Uninvited Writer profile image77
      Uninvited Writerposted 13 years ago

      Just got my new motto from Grey's Anatomy..."you can't pray away the gay" smile

    17. Colebabie profile image60
      Colebabieposted 13 years ago

      Survival? What do you think the human race will become extinct because everyone is going to be gay? You're funny.

      1. LiamBean profile image82
        LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        Actually it's one of the most idiotic things I've ever read. And I've read a lot.

    18. tksensei profile image60
      tksenseiposted 13 years ago

      Drifting back to personal attacks again...?

      1. Cagsil profile image76
        Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        I take it - it like that from time to time?

      2. LiamBean profile image82
        LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        You the king of personal attacks asking that question?

        I said the statement was idiotic not the person who made it.

        Do you need a remedial reading for comprehension course?

        1. tksensei profile image60
          tksenseiposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          So you respond with even more personal attacks? Wonderful.

          1. LiamBean profile image82
            LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            That's not a personal attack. Clearly you did not read what I wrote or you did not understand it. Thus the observation that you might want to consider a course in reading for comprehension.

            I do notice that this happens quite a bit with quite a few of the typical responders to threads like this.

            1. tksensei profile image60
              tksenseiposted 13 years agoin reply to this

              There you go again. You should stop this and get back to the topic.

              1. LiamBean profile image82
                LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                So should you.

                You see, there's a difference between stating that something someone said is idiotic. We say idiotic things from time to time. I certainly have.

                It is entirely another to call someone an idiot for saying something idiotic. THAT is a personal attack.

                Thus, my questioning your reading for comprehension abilities.

                1. tksensei profile image60
                  tksenseiposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  Do you insist on continuing your personal attacks or can we get back to the topic of the thread?

                  1. LiamBean profile image82
                    LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                    Your saying a thing does not make it true. Nor does repeating something endlessly make it true.

                    However, you are now trolling; attempting to start a fight. As you suggested to me, perhaps you should get back to the topic at hand...and admit that gays should be allowed the same rights as any other American.

                    1. Tackle This profile image60
                      Tackle Thisposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                      I certainly believe that what happened to Matthew Shepherd was EVIL.  My wife enjoys watching all the real life murder mysteries on cable television.  Something that frightens me is how often men are simply jailed when compared to women that are given the death penalty.  It seems more than a little lop-sided.

                         Having said that, I will try and stay on point -- in terms of the original question.

                      I don't believe that it would be in the best interest of any child to be placed within a home where same sex relations are considered the norm.  I believe it's one thing to peaceably pray and or even attempt to draw homosexuals out of their lifestyle.

                           I do believe it would be wrong to force anyone to change; and along with that, would include having treated anyone horribly or with disdain.  I can tell I'm getting tired -- my English is beginning to suffer.

                      Offer them the same rights; probably but never allow for them to adopt.  Even if God did totally take out Sodom and Gomorrah we should leave that up to him.  Personally, you wouldn't catch me living in any city that was largely gay though; imagine the ramifications, if God decided to throw down the torch again.

                      I'd rather not smolder, let alone be turned into a pillar of salt.

                      Is homosexuality an abomination to the Lord?  He says it is.

                      Does that mean it's our job as Christians to begin stoning them? Absolutely not.

                      Do I think that our current prez could have been making a faster decision about Afghanistan rather than posing for cameras?  Absolutely.

                      I do have an interesting point to bring up.  Homosexuality is often referred to as a natural alternative which begs the question: natural alternative to what, that which is natural?

                    2. tksensei profile image60
                      tksenseiposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                      Does asking you to stop repeatedly attacking me constitute trolling now? There is no fight regardless of how earnestly you seem to be pushing for one.

                    3. profile image0
                      sneakorocksolidposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                      They have the same rights. Why do you allways imply their missing some. It's hoekey liberal poop!

    19. Uninvited Writer profile image77
      Uninvited Writerposted 13 years ago

      No more than 10% of the population will be gay so saying if everyone was gay the human race would die out is a moot point...it'll never happen.

      1. Cagsil profile image76
        Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        Where is your PROOF?

        If it's possible....then it has a possibility of happening.

        1. Uninvited Writer profile image77
          Uninvited Writerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          So, are you going to turn gay overnight?

          1. LiamBean profile image82
            LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Oh now that would be funny.

            1. Cagsil profile image76
              Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

              Yes it wouldn't now would it.

              But, it does have it's possibilities, like everything else. Just not likely to happen anytime soon.

              I have control of my mind.

              1. LiamBean profile image82
                LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                Oh my. I can't let this go.

                Are you sure?

                1. Cagsil profile image76
                  Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  Yeah! More than I am sure than you are who you claim to be.

                  How do I know you're of sound mind?

                  By what we've said to each other, and all the bantering...I'm not sure about you.

                  But, I am positive I'm fine.

                  1. LiamBean profile image82
                    LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                    What the hell does that mean?



                    I don't. I rely on my friends. They indicate that I'm not only of sound mind but a force to be reckoned with. I am intensely logical. I don't argue points unless I have a LOT of research to back them up.


                    Well. that's a good thing...for both of us.

                    The reason I had to respond with "Are you Sure?" is it was such an odd thing to say "I have control of my mind." in this setting.

          2. Cagsil profile image76
            Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            That's not the point.

            1. Uninvited Writer profile image77
              Uninvited Writerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

              Yes it is, you seem to think it's possible that everyone on earth will become gay....

              1. LiamBean profile image82
                LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                This topic is making me feel kinda gay. Let me check with my wife and see if it's OK. big_smile

            2. LiamBean profile image82
              LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

              What is the point. UW is correct. The possibility that gays will take over is quite literally impossible.

              1. Cagsil profile image76
                Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                But, it's not impossible. Therefore, makes it possible.

                1. LiamBean profile image82
                  LiamBeanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  Basing law on something so remotely unlikely is just plain crazy.

     
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