According to you, why it's important to be a nice human being?

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   Shake Shahposted 11 years ago

   According to you, why it's important to be a nice human being?

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   MasculistFeministposted 11 years ago

   I will define nice as treating others the way you would like to be treated (No I am not religious). Why is that important? Because it ensures the sustainability of your own existence and that of the wider community in which you reside. As much as we are taught to think otherwise, we are dependent on each other for our own self interest and survival. That means we have to respect each other if we want a civilisation that sustains itself and a personal future that is secure and prosperous. In the coming decades the world is either going to have to relearn this lesson the easy way or the hard way. The complex interdependent relationships of our society are growing at a phenomenal rate because of globalisation, technology and an ever increasing population. We cannot continue to behave as if all of our self interests are mutually exclusive. They are not and they never were. Hopefully we remember that before we start another world war.

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   Spongy0llamaposted 11 years ago

   Despite the popular phrase, nice guys actually finish first. It is our capacity to cooperate and trust one another that has led the human race to the global community we know today. People who cheat, lie, steal, and hurt others for their own personal gain can often earn a measure of immediate advantage over others, but in the long term, such habits often backfire. Being a consistently decent human being inevitably pays off in the long term.

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      Pop Culture Worldposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      This is how I always felt too. Nice guys and girls end up better off because they don't leave a trail of hurt, vengeful people behind them. Making enemies everywhere never pays off.

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   debbiepinkstonposted 11 years ago

   This is a great question...why do we choose to be nice?  My answer is this: The world is a hard place to live (and none of us have much choice in the matter).  There are plenty of negative, mean people.  Why not make the world a little better by being nice to people?  We don't know how important it might be to someone who is having a rough time. A smile or some small gesture of goodwill might be just what turns their day around, or might give them hope to go on.
   
   p.s. It feels much better inside to be nice, rather than cruel or mean.  It's easier to sleep at night knowing we have been a nice person.

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      manatita44posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Quite so.

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   lburmasterposted 11 years ago

   If you are not nice, you meet more resistance in the world. By being nice, a lot of stress is taken off your shoulders and life is considerably easier as you continue on.

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   jansharesposted 11 years ago

   My answer is the law of karma; I get what I give, I give that which I want to receive. Being nice also makes life so much easier :-)

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      Pop Culture Worldposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I totally agree!

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      lupineposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Good answer...yes, much easier to be kind, for me anyway.

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   travel_man1971posted 11 years ago

   Remember the Golden Rule? It is the ethical code of morality. Meaning, there will be pros and cons on things we do or acts we inflicted with our neighbour.
   
   "Do unto others, as you would want other do unto you".
   
   Or its early version during the times of Confucius:
   
   "Do not do to others what you do not want done to yourself",

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   Frank Atanacioposted 11 years ago

   There is just too much hate in the world...  Nice has to start somewhere..

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      lupineposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, we can start with ourselves, everything else will follow.

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      Express10posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You are so right Frank. Let the change we want to see begin with us. Not always easy but true, "nice has to start somewhere."

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   sweethearts2posted 11 years ago

   I am in agreement with all these answers and would just like to add:  nice has a comfort level for everyone around you and yourself.  And, I like to feel comfortable and stress free.

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      lupineposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, there are comfort levels of kindness according to those around you.

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    Dan Barfieldposted 11 years ago

    According to the psychology lecture that I just listened to, kindness is the number one attribute that people look for in a partner. Also it turns out that the happiest people are the people who are 'nice' or 'kind' to others. It turns out that there is an actual physiological reaction in response to performing acts of kindness on the part of the giver. Being nice actually gives people a buzz. In other words, if you want to be happy, be kind. That's a pretty cool thing to know.

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       lupineposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       I would love to hear about that psychology lecture you mentioned. Can you tell me more about it? To me, kindness is a great attribute in any person. Especially in a partner...it makes them that much more attractive. GREAT ANSWER - voted up.

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       Dan Barfieldposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       It's on itunes U - the TED Psychology course. It is the audio file entitled Paul Bloom on Sex, George Clooney, and other Pleasures. They discuss some really interesting stuff.

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    MsDoraposted 11 years ago

    You'd be at peace with yourself, and that's important.

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       manatita44posted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Too true. Welcome, my loving sister.

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    NiaLeeposted 11 years ago

    being good is essential because it will permeate the fabric of the Universe and your own self and create colors, light, love and peace in the Universe. It seems far fetched or so metaphysical but it is so simple and easy to prove.
    Love and peace to you and all.

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    MKayoposted 11 years ago

    Simple answer from my dearly departed Granny - "A bird never flies so high that its tail doesn't follow."  In other words, what goes around comes around. I make it my personal mission to be nice to those around me and figure that that simple act of kindness will alter their day and they will pass that little "nicety" on to someone they meet. Wouldn't the world be a much better place of we would all do this?

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    dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

    I once had an instructor who told me intelligence is the ability of an organism to "adapt" to it's environment. In other words the situation or circumstance one finds themself in will determine "the best way" to approach or respond to get your desired outcome.
    Sometimes being nice is the way to go and other times being assertive is best. People tend to relate better to others who are like them. You have to "meet them where they are." There is a technique called (mirorring) where for example if you are talking with someone who talks fast you would then match their pace. After a few minutes you gradually slow down or go to what is normal for you and they will genearally follow your lead.
    Each of us has kindness and assertiveness within us. It's not about always being one or the other. It's about (knowing when) to illustrate one or the other to get the outcome you want.
    Never forget (you) get to (choose) who you will spend your time with. If you are unhappy in a relationship and (choose) to stay in it then (you) are (choosing) to be unahppy. You can't blame someone else for (your) choices and you can't control another person.
    It's your life. Take the wheel!

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    manatita44posted 11 years ago

    We grow through service. Human nature cannot grow and does not grow without selfless service. Again, cosmic or universal laws will ensure that we get back what we put out. This is an inescapable law of Spirit. As we sow, so shall we reap. Yoga philosophy calls this 'karma'.
    The farmer plants the corn, gets the necessary rain, tills the soil and feeds it good manure. Sooner or later he gets a bumper harvest. So to with human life. Doing good deeds ensures that we have good results, and bad deeds bad results. Besides, the joy of sacrifice will in itself become apparent with ceaseless service as it enlarges our hearts and purifies our Spirit.

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    dksuttleposted 11 years ago

    among other things it lowers your blood pressure...

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       manatita44posted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Very true. Great light-hearteded but invaluable answer.

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       lupineposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Now that's  a very good reason for being kind...for health.

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    lupineposted 11 years ago

    Everthing works better when human beings are kind to themselves, and to others. This creates happiness, self-worth, better health, and balance in our life and in nature. A person is much more attractive when they are kind. I doubt we were brought into this world to behave any other way.

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    SoundNFuryposted 11 years ago

    It's important because of the ripple effect that happens with the energy that you put out into the world.  If you are positive and a good person, giving off positive energy, then others will absorb that energy and transfer it on to others.  It's like being a candle, and you spread light by lighting other candles.  The end result is more positivity in the universe.

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    Lizam1posted 11 years ago

    I think we are essentially all nice inside.  When we share our best selves others share their best selves too.  Being nice (I prefer genuine) creates harmony, community and teaches the younger generations to follow by our modelling.  Sadly the value of niceness is not reflected in many of the systems we have set up such as schools, government and in  business practice.  I am not against competition and I  think that if we were genuinely nicer to each other we would have less poverty, less chance of wars starting and a more balanced world.

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       manatita44posted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Sweet Lizam

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    MissD7998posted 11 years ago

    Because Karma good or bad always comes back to you.

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    NornsMercyposted 11 years ago

    I find it just "feels" better to be a nice human being. Negativity builds up inside of us and turns into a hard, dense stone which weighs us down eventually and doesn't allow us to live our best life possible.
    
    Being nice makes me feel lighthearted and free.

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    Relationshipcposted 11 years ago

    One of the reasons is because it makes me feel better about myself and my role in the world. I have an example.
    
    I worked in an nursing home for a while and had to deal with some pretty cranky people (they had good reason.) However, day after day this one woman purposely tried to make me miserable. She was rude, uncooperative, and mean. She made me feel bad about myself. One day, I decided that the way to feel better about myself was to make her feel bad, so I used my words against her...it didn't go as planned. I felt horrible for the whole day. After I apologized to her (and really felt the kindness and sincerity in my heart) I felt amazing. It was a that moment that I realized being nice always feels better than hatred or anger. I would rather go through my days feeling good than wasting them feeling bad.

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       SidKempposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Thanks for your courage in sharing this story so honestly. We all hear this idea, but to hear a story of the actual moment of insight and change is inspiring.

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    Andy McGuireposted 11 years ago

    Because there are so many of us on the planet now that we've become overly cynical, irritable, and even self-loathing. We are losing the concept of human decency a bit more everyday and if that concept dies, then what are we? A planet full of dicks, according to my hub, "Easy Steps To Avoid Being A Dick."
    
    If everyone made a conscious effort to be a bit nicer to everyone then everyone WOULD be nicer to everyone and then "effort" would eventually become "second nature."
    It's a process that won't happen overnight, but we need to start right now.

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    Express10posted 11 years ago

    I find that it simply feels good to be nice to others and to have it returned. The more exposure you have to nice people, the easier things in life seem to become, even life challenges. I have also seen that my being nice to others can motivate them to work hard through difficult situations. I want to remain an optimistic realist, not bogged down by others projecting their problems on me, nor do I ever wish to project my problems onto others by being mean or negative. This is not to say I will not respond when attacked as even a mouse will protect themselves. But, I don't claim to always be nice as I only have two cheeks to turn although I make my best efforts. Those dead set on being mean or negative to others more often than not view their lives in this manner and this is not how I want to live my life.

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    rexyposted 11 years ago

    Ah- to be a nice human being to me is like =  to be a good role model.

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    Born2care2001posted 11 years ago

    There is no downside to being kind and the return on the energy expended is infinite. Kindness fertilizes the atmosphere of joy. It is also very,very contagious!
    Peace be with you!

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    dbroomfiposted 11 years ago

    It is important to be nice because you never know how your behavior towards someone will influence them. Think about the troubled individuals who commit crazy crimes. When you hear their stories you find out that they were at times mistreated. We all want to be treated nicely so we should practice being kind even when others are rude and mean. What we put out will some how come back to us.

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    MissJamieDposted 11 years ago

    Because that's what God intended for us to do and if we expect to be treated with respect and dignity, shouldn't we pay it forward?
    
    Evil is the root of all bad behavior so I try to keep that to a minimum. Also, I like to help others and make them smile or just help them be more comfortable in their situation. At times in my life when I've been down on my luck, I still thank God that I had good friends and family that helped and supported me. Had I had to face some of those problems alone, I probably wouldn't be here today due to utter depression which can ultimately lead to death, or suicide.

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    SidKempposted 11 years ago

    I wouldn't tell anyone else to be nice - that wouldn't be nice!
    
    It's an individual choice. I choose it for many reasons. The inner experience of feeling peace and love towards everyone and everything is just great. The relaxation opens my sensitivity, and I commune with nature. Animals like me, and children smile at me.
    
    Some people don't notice. But many do. Just catching the name of the checkout clerk at the grocery and thanking him or her brings a smile back to me. Some people really appreciate kindness. And those are the kind of people I surround myself with.

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    calynbanaposted 11 years ago

    It isn't. We should never just be nice. We should be loving and honest. That often rules out the choice to be "nice". The origin of the word nice seems fitting since people often try to be "nice" while their heart/thoughts are the furthest thing from it. Originally to nice was to be silly, ignorant, or foolish. In todays society there is way to much emphasis on being nice, polite and respectable. On tolerating everyone around us. It may seem "nice". But is it really? When it is an act, when people behave in a way that is contrary to their beliefs and opinions just to appear nice?
    
    I opt for the honest not so nice but a lot more loving approach.

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       lupineposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Being "nice" is just the tip of the iceberg...there's a lot more to it. If someone is just trying to be nice for appearances, as you mentioned, are fooling themselves. Being loving & honest is important...being nice/kind goes right along side.

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    Sherry Hewinsposted 11 years ago

    I'm not actually sure that being "nice" is a goal of mine. I'm not saying that I want to be mean or cruel, just that sometimes being nice translates to being passive. I think that kids, especially girls, are often trained not to make trouble, so do not ask questions or stand up for themselves when they need to. Sometimes I think that I need to be less concerned about being nice.

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    mathiraposted 11 years ago

    When you are a nice human being, it makes you feel good about yourself. I think that sympathy, care, humility, love and honesty all make you a good human being and when you have such qualities, you can lead a fruitful life.

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       manatita44posted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Very nice mathira. You also have a nice face. God bless.

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