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Why Do Girls Crave for Marriage With All Its Problems?

  1. ngureco profile image84
    ngurecoposted 8 years ago

    Why Do Girls Crave for Marriage With All Its Problems?

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    cheekyracer76posted 8 years ago

    I think that it is for a sense of security. As an adult we are sopposed to be out and on our own in the world, yet that is it ... we dont want to be alone. We want a best friend, an alli, someone to come home to and spill the beans about the daily troubles to and then curl up in a set of muscluar arms to let us feel safe and then that everything is going to be ok, and taken care of.

  3. Uninvited Writer profile image84
    Uninvited Writerposted 8 years ago

    Not all girls crave for marriage. Some prefer to hold onto their independence. I guess people who do crave marriage crave it for the security and to be connected to the person they love in a more permanent way.

  4. Mighty Mom profile image86
    Mighty Momposted 8 years ago

    I think both sexes seek the social stability and financial benefits of being married. But in these times, more lifestyle options are accepted. People can live together without the benefit of marriage. Women can have babies out of wedlock and it's not a stigma.
    As to "girls" specifically, I believe young girls are idealistic that way. They seek the ideal, romantic relationship. Those of us who have been married know it is a lot of hard work. And there are no guarantees that it will last, despite the hard work!

  5. carolegalassi profile image59
    carolegalassiposted 8 years ago

    Yes, girls do crave this because its what has been conditioned in their minds from television, magazines, and music. They are bombarded with having a boyfriend and finding the right guy to marry. I think women/girls in general are romantics and most of us just want to find a good man to spend the rest of our life with.

  6. dana825 profile image56
    dana825posted 8 years ago

    This is a bit too much of a stereotype. I agree with Uninvited Writer. It's not only women who crave marriage. Men also hit an age where they generally want to get married too. I am a woman and have no desire to get married. I value being on my own. I feel good being independent and I like having my space.

  7. Lisa HW profile image75
    Lisa HWposted 8 years ago

    Not all young women "crave" marriage.  The thing that can make some seem more interested in it than guys are is probably the fact that those who want children (and most do) start to worry about having time to have the number of children they want, being able to space them the way they'd like to, and generally not running into reduced fertility and difficulty having those children they want.

    Put simply, young women - more than young (or even old) men - have to consider how much time they can spend on a relationship that isn't likely to lead to marriage and the family they want to have one day.  The "baby factor" isn't the only one, but it does accompany other factors.  Even women not wanting to have a baby right away often want to have time to be married and childless before starting that family.

  8. Ladybird33 profile image57
    Ladybird33posted 8 years ago

    Marriage is what you make it.  Going through good times is great, but when you go through the bad times and make it to the other side, you have a true committment to each other that should be unbreakable.  Marriage is like anything, what you put in it, is what you will get out of it.  All my best.

  9. commercialprintin profile image58
    commercialprintinposted 8 years ago

    It think the idea of marriage has been institutionalized to a point that everyone craves it. I am a guy and I think even guys want to get married, just when is always the question. People do want to feel secure and know that their life is almost complete because of marriage. Being connected to people as well as society is what we all strive to achieve.

  10. makeyourwifehot profile image52
    makeyourwifehotposted 8 years ago

    Since the dawn of time women crave security. Prehistoric men have provided it by bringing back food from a hunt and modern man provides it as income so "mom" can stay at home.

    Sociologists have been watching since WWII the trend of working moms. (A whole different topic)

    Marriage, which used to be based on security, property rights, and family lineage, has transformed into romance and love.

    The excitement of romance always fades and strong relationships have learned to navigate these troubling waters to transform their excitement into a deeper connection of love, trust and, you guessed it, security!

    Not many people think about the problems of marrige when they are "high" on the drug of romance.

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    EveLopezposted 8 years ago

    society tells us we must get married in order to be happy.

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    Crazdwriterposted 8 years ago

    I never craved marriage. I had this thought that if I met my one true love then I will get married but until then I am just dating for fun. And yes there are problems in marriage but that is what brings two people closer together and makes their love and appreciation for one another stronger. Yes this doesn't always work and there are still divorces but marriage does and can still work out. You just have to have to look for the one you truly love and who truly loves you.

  13. Queen_Kevyn95 profile image51
    Queen_Kevyn95posted 8 years ago

    women crave marriage for a sense of security.
    someone to lean on, and if they feel like they're too old then they may crave it more.  they feel like they're reaching their expiration date.

  14. charlettevidal profile image74
    charlettevidalposted 8 years ago

    Because nobody not even girls wants to get old ALONE, LONELY and MISERABLE and eventually die not experiencing what it is to have a family that they could call there own.

  15. dabeaner profile image57
    dabeanerposted 8 years ago

    Women's biology rules even more than men's.  It can be overruled by logic, but logic is in short supply in both sexes.  And even less in women.

    Women marry for many reasons that turn out to be invalid.  Two examples:
    1) they want to have someone to raise their litters with.  Then they get divorced.  Strike 1.  Many won't be able to remarry, and if they do, their second husband is likely to be even more of a loser than their first, since he feels he has to settle for a woman with baggage (children).
    2) they want to be married so they won't be alone.  Then they get divorced or their husbands die on them, so they are alone anyway, and for the last 10 to 30 years of their lives.  Strike 2.  (And previously being married, they have neglected "girlfriends", so they don't have any social network to speak of.)

  16. BarbH918 profile image58
    BarbH918posted 8 years ago

    I know for my generation we were raised that way. Grow up, get married, have kids. No one told us what it would involve. All we had was our parents as an example. Back in the day - parents didn't divorce, it just wasn't done. Perhaps if a young woman is craving marriage, maybe she's looking for stability - looking for something she doesn't have looking at the past hoping it will be THE answer. Marriage is tough. Be sure you're doing it for the right reasons - not to fill a hole, but to start a journey.

  17. Michele Arrvinte profile image54
    Michele Arrvinteposted 8 years ago

    Besides all the other reasons some girls are really dependent of their parents and marriage is a way to become free. smile

  18. LogicalSpark profile image68
    LogicalSparkposted 8 years ago

    Let me state the obvious.

    The wedding dress is so very pretty.
    Which girl in her senses would ever forego an opportunity to wear it , at least once in her lifetime? Plus the entire function is fun, if you ask me.

    As far as problems are concerned, these are part of life aren't they?
    So it better to wear the Dress & face teh problem rather than not wear  it & still face these!

  19. HubChief profile image82
    HubChiefposted 8 years ago

    I feel the need "to be loved by opposite sex" is stressed upon in our media and life events so much, that as the girls and boys grow, they see it as a need and "experience to have".

    Those who calculate it and handle it become successful and cheerful
    and those who are late to learn, call it problematic and diffcult to handle.

  20. poketo secret profile image41
    poketo secretposted 8 years ago

    I do not think that they crave marriage.probably they want so badly to be settled down to live as God says to

  21. Vizey profile image50
    Vizeyposted 8 years ago

    It is related to psychology of girls. they have inherited it from eve.

  22. stricktlydating profile image83
    stricktlydatingposted 8 years ago

    Not all girls crave for marriage.  We are more educated thesedays and most of us would probably rather live a happy life as a single than be married with a thousand problems at home.  We are tending to get married later thesedays and want to make sure when we do make a committment to someone for life, that he is the right one for us.

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    reeltaulkposted 8 years ago

    you answered your own question....because they are girls, no woman would want a male much less a mate that will be problematic.   BTW marriage does not come with problems, it the individuals baggage/immature behavior that brings about problems.

  24. C V Singh profile image74
    C V Singhposted 8 years ago

    Life is incomplete for people who remain unmarried their whole life. Marriage is a part of life for both girls and boys. Marriage has several advantages and helps even in personality development and help people to develop a balance in their life. Girls crave for marriage because of social insecurity at least in developing countries. Majority of the girls have fascination towards motherhood. Marriage is a must even for the development of society and continuity for life in this world.

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    The Single Girlposted 8 years ago

    Girls Crave Marriage because girls crave security .

  26. rosey2k9 profile image52
    rosey2k9posted 8 years ago

    In my opinion girls crave for marriage with all it's problems because they feel that they want to be financial secure and have security as well as safety. Love has alot to do with it as well, if you love somebody so much and want to marry them then it means that you are willing to work through any problems that may arise.

  27. prettydarkhorse profile image63
    prettydarkhorseposted 8 years ago

    Marriage as an insitution will never fade because people want security, whether emotional or financial. they feel the need to belong.

  28. NGRIA Bassett profile image60
    NGRIA Bassettposted 8 years ago

    Most humans want relationships and women in particular are generally wired for love, security and affection.
    I think that relationships are all problematic in one way or another, if not by virtue that we are all individuals raised in different households, with different values, desires and experiences.
    So if relationships are generally problematic, why wouldn't it make better sense to risk having those problems and solutions with one person within a committed marriage?

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    Ask Dr Dykeposted 8 years ago

    Many women want companionship at any cost. They usually have low self esteem brought on by society and believe they NEED someone!

    As far as your usage of the word GIRL...lmao..you might find yourself to be part of the reason that the GIRLS you meet have low self esteem.

    Understand little BOY?

  30. Betty Reid profile image60
    Betty Reidposted 8 years ago

    hahaha.  I wonder the same thing, ngureco!  You have some great questions!

  31. retellect profile image73
    retellectposted 8 years ago

    Some women crave marriage as an adult due to childhood dreams of walking down the isle and having that perfect day. Some crave marriage to follow tradition, they want to fulfill what they are used to......especially if they grew up in a household with married parents.

    Although marriage might carry a whole bunch of drama, hardships, breaking points, hurt and pain, it is not always the case. Marriage can be a blissful lifelong commitment of happiness and experience on both sides, whether or not it is smooth running throughout or rocky all the way. As long as you choose your partner carefully and marry for the sake of true unconditional love, marriage is just a symbol to show the world what you share with each other.

  32. nanagirl35212 profile image49
    nanagirl35212posted 8 years ago

    I can't answer for everyone, but I crave the intimacy of marriage. I've been told that what I want can be found outside of marriage, but I've found that, two divorces later, I still crave the security and intimacy that a great marriage can have.
      As a little girl I read a scripture that sent me on the search for a man who would, or could, or had the desire to love me as Christ loved the church and gave itself up for it. I believe that marriage at its very best - is the ultimate high!
       Certainly there are problems in all relationships, but there are those that are truly specific to marriage. I, for, one do not mind dealing with those problems. Communication, honesty and transparency can help to alleviate the frequency and seriousness of these problems.
    I crave the little things in marriage. I crave the arms to hold me in the middle of the night, I crave the spiritual connection.
        I crave what I truly believe I can only find in marriage - a man who will give himself up for me.

  33. Rangerwife profile image55
    Rangerwifeposted 8 years ago

    I think that a lot of women want to be married for the sake of love and security.  Women feel the desire to be loved, and many of us, even though we can care for ourselves, like to know that there is a strong man there who can care for us and our (future) children.

  34. boutlife profile image57
    boutlifeposted 8 years ago

    To be honest I think it's all because of the damn fairy tales they read at a young age.
    They learn that marriage is a wonderful thing... "They all lived happily ever after...", so girls spend all their lives waiting for the 'prince on a white horse' and when it finally comes and they get married, they find out what men already knew: marriage sucks.
    just my 2 cents.

  35. Jersey Jess profile image56
    Jersey Jessposted 8 years ago

    Not all girls crave marriage but I think we do because we want to feel loved. We want someone to love us and us only and to have them all for ourselves. Recently there have been many more divorces than there used to be and only SOME women are wising up. SOME are waiting and rather live with their relatives than start a new family with someone who they always have problems with.

  36. Curious Jen profile image55
    Curious Jenposted 8 years ago

    Not all girls crave marriage.  Some girls really do not want marriage at all.  I suppose for the most part people want companionship but that does not have to be within a marriage.

  37. pipedreamergirl profile image54
    pipedreamergirlposted 8 years ago

    Girls crave for marriage because it is romanticized to them from a very young age. There are the perfect love stories such as Cinderella and Twilight which every girl learns to believe in. Yet, this idea of love just magically working and ending up happily ever after is a misconception that girls place false hope in. Everyone wants to be the girl in the fairytale and have a happily ever after ending, but reality is there are far and few prince charmings.

  38. madam ro profile image67
    madam roposted 8 years ago

    They don't.  Those who crave marriage, crave it without all its problems... and then they get a big surprise.

  39. lola oyedotun profile image81
    lola oyedotunposted 7 years ago

    Marriage is fun,sweet, crazy and annoying sometimes but seriously i think is neccessary because it gives you a best friend, a companion and a life partner. Marriage suppose to be an everlasting institution which should never end but this days divorce has been the order of the day. In those days marriage were long lasting now women prefer to be alone, common we can actually make it work.

  40. ruthclark3 profile image72
    ruthclark3posted 6 years ago

    When you say girls, I am assuming you mean teens and early twenties.  Many times they want to marry to get away from home and the rules they to abide by; being married gives the illusion of being in charge;  sometimes they are looking for security- someone to take care of them. 

    Girls who are secure with who they are aren't so willing to marry early.  They want to learn to fly solo first.  It seems to be the insecure ones who jump off the pier into a sea of tulle and lace.

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    Andre Sanchezposted 4 years ago

    Mostly it's because they are afraid of growing old.