How long does it take to get over the breakup of a 5 year relationship?

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  1. Aristotle Junior profile image73
    Aristotle Juniorposted 2 years ago

    It will always sting, but you move on, you do your best in life, and maybe some day you'll meet again.

    I'm still working on getting over my recent break up (1 year beast friends, 1 year dating).
    It hurts a lot, but we're strong, we evolve, and we grow from our experiences.

  2. ionestevens profile image92
    ionestevensposted 2 years ago

    When you're in love and in an intimate relationship with your best friend, it's going to hurt no matter how long it lasted. Not only do you lose your lover of 5 years, but you lose your best friend as well. Some people will tell you that you need to take day by day. That's a load of crap, really. Horrible advice, if you ask me. A breakup this hard needs to be taken second by second. As time goes on, it'll change to minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day, week by week, month by month... I wish I could tell you that once you get to a year it'll stop. But sadly, it won't. As every year passes, you'll mourn around the time it ended. Sometimes you'll feel it coming and other times you'll feel sad or depressed without knowing the reason.

    Basically, we just push through with all the strength we have. Remain open to those who do show us love and loyalty. Allow someone to change your life by learning to love all over again.

  3. MyHana profile image56
    MyHanaposted 2 years ago

    It takes forever to break up an used-to-good relationship.
    Instead of trying to break it up, accept it as a part of the journey and keep going.

  4. profile image57
    Andrea Fajilanposted 2 years ago

    Five years is such a long time and moving on will be hard at first. You'll remember every bit of memory you have with that person, every single thing you did or had done, those petty little fights and you'd start to miss him/her all over again. It's a long process, moving on, especially if you've been with that person for a long time. At first, it will be a whirlwind of sadness. You will ask yourself... am I not enough? What are my shortcomings? Why did he/she leave me? But then, it's all about acceptance. At first, you'll be in denial but after some time, you'll learn to forget. You'll be happy once again. Engage yourself in different activities that will get your mind off things. Go out with your friends. It will all come down to you on how you handle the pain and how you will get yourself together again. Remember, everything has a reason. And there are many opportunities out there waiting for you once again. God has a better plan for you. smile

  5. rajdwriter profile image60
    rajdwriterposted 2 years ago

    It all depends upon you, you need to be strong enough to move on and accept that the rub of the green did not favour you. I would suggest that you should start involving yourself into some activities which can take your mind off this event. I have also been through the same phase where my 6-year relationship ended. 

    I made myself busy and focused on learning some new things. Started spending time for myself, enjoyed being lonely and going out movies for alone. These things helped me to come over the phase within 3 - 4 months and now i am a happy singleton who loves to live for himself and is always ready for new adventures.

  6. yogaburnclub profile image84
    yogaburnclubposted 2 years ago

    There is no specific timeline, it depends on time and money investment that you put to make the relationship work.Never allow the situation to overpower you try what you can do to move on as fast as possible.When you allow this emotion to haunt you you may end up living a regrettable life.

  7. ChadCrouch profile image68
    ChadCrouchposted 2 years ago

    It will all depends what your relationship was like. Was it a close bond or were you drifring apart. Perhaps a lot more factors though as well.

  8. Clair Waldorf profile image82
    Clair Waldorfposted 2 years ago

    There's no mathematical formula for us to determine how long it would take to get over someone. It's been 4 mos since my bf for 5 years broke up with me and went back to his ex gf. Sure there were nights when I was just crying in my bed, wishing the pain would just go away but there are also days when I feel numb or okay. You just need to give it time, spend time with your family and friends, write your heartaches, pray and you will feel better eventually.

  9. profile image54
    priyaangel2587posted 2 years ago

    Hello my dear friend, I am so sorry to know about your problem and I hope you will get over this hard situation in your life. It is not easy for anyone to come out from such relationships. It is a long time of 5 year and you will face difficulties to get over it. Breakups are always very sad and heartbreaking moments in anyone’s life and it is very important to handle it in right way. I know that you will miss her for a long time but you should go with situation. I don’t know the reason of your break up but I can understand that you want to come out of this situation. It is very important for you to stay positive and hopeful towards life. Life is very beautiful and you should know importance of other things like your family and your career. It is never a good solution to be sad and depressed due to such problems in any relationships. When it comes to know about time of recovering from such situations, it will depend on your willpower and your current mental situation. If you are strong from inside then it will be easy and quick for you. You should give your time to other beautiful things in your life like your family or your career. I will suggest you should not think about your past because it will create stress and depression in your life. You should think about your future and your career goal. If you want some mental help then I will suggest you to use regular meditation. It is very important to find happiness in small things in your life and you will see the effective changes in your life.

  10. JynBranton profile image88
    JynBrantonposted 2 years ago

    I think it really depends on the importance of a person in your life. With them also being a best friend that's much more of a detrimental loss than someone you may have just casually dated but didn't work out.

  11. mercy mac profile image60
    mercy macposted 2 years ago

    It all depends with how much  are you willing to let it go and move on. Seems hard but possible.The sooner you start the road to healing the better for your own good. Thank you

  12. profile image53
    Lindaherferposted 2 years ago

    Ever since I split from my husband, I was in terrible spirits. Slowly I realized that I loved him deeply, but he wouldn't pick up my phone when I called him to apologize to him. On the advice of a friend I got in touch with Dr Lawrence he cast a spell and I waited. Three days out of nowhere there was a call. It was my husband. We are now back together and happier than ever. Thank you so much Dr Lawrence. i wish you best of lucks email


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