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Should a Girl Lie She’s Expecting Boyfriend’s Baby to See His Reaction If He’s R

  1. ngureco profile image84
    ngurecoposted 7 years ago

    Should a Girl Lie She’s Expecting Boyfriend’s Baby to See His Reaction If He’s Really into...

    Her The Way She Is Into Him? This Is Because It is A Well Known Fact That Some Men Are Not Honest and Will Just Hit and Run.

  2. Pcunix profile image91
    Pcunixposted 7 years ago

    Yes.  It is a well known fact that the best relationships are built on lies and deceit.

    You should encourage anyone you are dating to lie to you and of course you should lie to them.   

    Do not ever make the mistake of being honest.  It will only lead to pain.  You can't trust anyone, and anyone who trusts you is a fool.  Use fools to your advantage whenever you can.

    This is a particularly good scheme because it is sure to impress the boy when he finds out how skillfully he was fooled and how callously his emotions were manipulated.   Any boy would love to have a girlfriend so cool!

  3. Rangerwife profile image55
    Rangerwifeposted 7 years ago

    Of course not.  There are other ways besides lying to find that out.

  4. dabeaner profile image57
    dabeanerposted 7 years ago

    Pcunix:  Good one!!

    BTW:  Ngureco is one of the most prolific askers of questions guaranteed to push our buttons.  ;-)

  5. jennshealthstore profile image90
    jennshealthstoreposted 7 years ago

    If you need to lie in order to find out if he is into you, then most likely he is not into you. Trust is the whole foundation of a realtionship!

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    WildIrisposted 7 years ago

    A girl just did this my son. He was beside himself. Amazingly the two of them worked through this deception and are still a couple. I do not understand how he could trust her again, but he does and, of course, it is none of my business.

    After this I wondered if the girl, feeling insecure, just needed to know if he would stand by her or bolt from the responsibility.

  7. Lifeallstar1 profile image58
    Lifeallstar1posted 7 years ago

    Lying about something so serious as being pregnant means something else is going on. It's never the right thing to do! Does she lie about everything? How long has he known her? How old are they? Does she just feel he is not into her so she was testing him? Has she caught him in lies or knows things he's doing so she wanted to see who or what was more important?

    Obviously, more is going on. People just don't go doing that, and there's other ways to ask a question about where you stand with someone. If he is not being open and the communication isn't there, lies are going to keep coming if she is so into him and can't gain some self respect and move on with her life, like most would have done. I don't know if she is outright crazy, or he has shown deceit in some way. Guys need to be honest with their feelings.

    They only worked it out because of a few reasons. He wasn't treating her with respect, OR he was guilty about things he has been doing, OR he just doesn't care that much about her. It's easier to "work it out" for some guys, when you don't care, then deal with it. When something better comes along, then it's easier. Hopefully, she doesn't have a problem and he was doing something that made her insecure and they both learned a lesson. Since It must be humiliating to lie about something that serious. You wouldn't if things were going smoothly so the question is, is she crazy or what's the real truth that made her temp crazy?

    I would talk to him. See if he's really into her, and if he isn't (since you know she is) tell him to let her go, even if it's hard to do, at least he is doing the right thing. It's not fair to her, and on the other hand, if he's not and she's that into him, you might really turn out to be grandma.

    Oops, I meshed this question with WildIris response about her son.

  8. Springboard profile image81
    Springboardposted 7 years ago

    If you want him to drop you like a hat, then yes. I would have nothing at all to do with you after such a thing.

  9. Kangaroo_Jase profile image83
    Kangaroo_Jaseposted 7 years ago

    Oh boy, there are little white lies, then there are huge whoppers...I think we know this category....

  10. samboiam profile image57
    samboiamposted 7 years ago

    Regardless of your intention, it is still manipulation any way you look at it. Manipulation and deceit make for good novels but do not do much for relationships.

  11. TheWicklessCandle profile image56
    TheWicklessCandleposted 7 years ago


    A relationship built on lies and deception to inquire about infidelity is doomed to fail in about 4 minutes.

  12. I am DB Cooper profile image65
    I am DB Cooperposted 7 years ago

    Sounds like the foundation for some major trust issues in this relationship. If she can't figure out if he's playing her or not, then their relationship obviously isn't too strong.

  13. Moon Daisy profile image84
    Moon Daisyposted 7 years ago

    I think you know the answer to this! 

    If someone tried this then I'm not sure their relationship would survive the deception. 

    And it's also worth bearing in mind that first reactions are often not to be taken as the final reaction.  A person might act a certain way when they first get big news like this, but once they have time to think about it then they may well come around to the idea of being a parent.  People sometimes need a little time to take things in.

    So this 'test' might not be all that accurate anyway.

  14. Pink Mingos profile image60
    Pink Mingosposted 7 years ago

    I agree with the others that it is deceitful and dishonest. She might ruin an other wise good relationship, even if he stays with her, he might always wonder in the future when she tells him anything else.
    Besides this, it's worthless as a tool for gauging anyone's feelings about a person.  I know adult couples who have been happily married for a year or more and find out they're expecting. The husband's reaction wasn't exactly bliss because he knew his job was unstable. He does love his wife tremendously.  Even young singles who are in a relationship, for this same reason the guy might react today one way, next week another depending on where he see's his current situations that may not have anything to do with his feelings for the girl. .

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    ryansmith1posted 7 years ago

    Hell no. If my gf lied to me, i'd kill her.

  16. trishool profile image78
    trishoolposted 7 years ago

    Should a guy lie about having testicular cancer and being impotent just to see his girlfriend's reaction? I think not!

    Lies are never the answer. If that is the basis of your relationship then forget it

  17. Whidbeywriter profile image88
    Whidbeywriterposted 7 years ago

    Lying will only make things worse.....a relationship that begins with lies will certainly end in breakup....