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Why do girls play hard-to-get?

  1. chasemillis profile image66
    chasemillisposted 6 years ago

    Why do girls play hard-to-get?

    Honestly curious. And what's the difference btwn hard-to-get and I really don't like you... Because they seem the same to me, so I usually just move on...just saying..

  2. cyoung35 profile image86
    cyoung35posted 6 years ago

    I think you should be able to tell hard to get from I really don't like you. You should see some type of interest but it will seem like she is making it hard for your to break down the wall between you two. If a girl really doesn't like you then she will most likely tell you in one way or another. Having a rude attitude towards you is definately a sign of Ireally don't like you.

  3. Agnes Penn profile image80
    Agnes Pennposted 6 years ago

    The difference is the type of relationship she wants.  A once-in-a while date will get a "no" and it means goodbye.  A girl looking for a serious relationship uses hard-to-get not as a game, but as a test.  If the girl wants to find out if a guy is seriously interested in her he has to fight for her now so that later on he can pass the harder tests of staying together. 
    In this case a boy that gets a no must keep trying without offending.  Never bully or impose yourself on a girl - that's harassment.  Be creative and patient if what you want is a serious relationship, but don't ignore her or you may loose her to another.

  4. edhan profile image60
    edhanposted 6 years ago

    That is the joy of chasing girls.

    If one can get easily, it seems to be less fun. But when one is playing hard to get, the joy of chasing is fun.

    Guess it is part of growing up and feeling the joy of being chased for girls.

    Guys like to do the chasing to win the girl's heart.

  5. Nefarious_Misery profile image69
    Nefarious_Miseryposted 6 years ago

    In my experience most women play hard to get because they understand that for most men it's all about the thrill of the hunt.

    Meaning that if the girl gives it up too soon the man may (and usually does) lose interest because there was no emotional connection.

    If the girl makes the guy wait for a significant amount of time the thought is that he will get to know her as a person much more and therefore be less tempted to move on to his next target.

    FYI - Dated my wife for over 6 months before we slept together and we've been together 12 years now.

  6. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    It's tradition for the most part. There still remains a large segment of the population that believes the more hoops a person jumps through to be with someone the more they will treasure or respect them once they finally connect.
    However in modern times it is best for a man to tone down is pursuit of a woman. Too many love notes, flowers, phone calls, compliments, or "showing up" in many people's minds today is borders on (sexual harassment) or (stalking) when you don't know the girl very well. Naturally if she's (interested in you) that same behavior would be deemed romantic :-). It's not worth the risk to chase too hard.
    You're better off assuming if she doesn't flirt back with you then she's not interested in you. Some guys take it a step further and subscribe to the old female saying,
    "We love the ones who ignore us and ignore the ones who adore us".
    Simply put you igore women that have guys chasing after them. Eventually their curiosity will get the best of them and they will approach you. One man's opinion! Best of luck!

  7. cobrien profile image77
    cobrienposted 6 years ago

    We want to make sure we have your Interest. It's human nature to want what you can't have. If we give in too easily, guys will have no respect. We want to make sure you are really interested. If we like you, we will flirt with you.

  8. Lisa HW profile image73
    Lisa HWposted 6 years ago

    Not all girls/women are "playing hard to get" when someone else assumes they are.  Some ARE hard to get, and if someone really isn't interested in a guy she'll be impossible to get.  Sometimes guys need to learn to call it a day and move on, because the girl/woman isn't "playing".  Girls and women who have a set of standards (as far as what they want in a guy goes) and aren't interested in someone who doesn't meet them are usually dead serious when they're "hard to get".

  9. sarasotadui profile image59
    sarasotaduiposted 6 years ago

    nature, I guess... Nurture as well. Usually, when we were kids, our parents told us not to engage in love relationship. When we grew up, we bring this nurture in our system. That is why most of the girls play hard-to-get I guess.... LOL

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    Elaina Griniasposted 6 years ago

    Because love is a game.  Guys don't want what they can have...they want what they CAN'T have.  SOO if she plays hard to get he will come back stronger and want her more.  In your case.. it seems like you aren't exactly like that.  So if you really like the girl.. DON'T give up on her until you have gone on a couple dates.  She then will begin to like you and the games chill out a bit.

  11. onegoodwoman profile image76
    onegoodwomanposted 6 years ago

    Because, the magazines tell us,  guys like the chase!