When guys say the want to be left alone do they really mean it?

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  1. Shyron E Shenko profile image70
    Shyron E Shenkoposted 4 years ago

    When a guy says he wants to be left alone, yes he means it. That could also mean that he wants to be left alone to daydream about someone else.

  2. profile image53
    VIVEK PAREEKposted 3 years ago

    try to feel alone but every time everyone disturb a personal feeling so try to go alone place and just shutdown the light and listing slow music in earphone

  3. Ken Burgess profile image90
    Ken Burgessposted 3 years ago

    in general most have it right here...

    The vast majority of guys are straightforward, and this is pretty constant for all times and situations in our lives.  Guys just don't need/want/care-for company to deal with things, they prefer down time or alone time.

    Women are often the opposite, they want support, they want to hear from their mom/girlfriend/significant-other, they are more dependent upon input from their 'support group' and socialization overall...

    Look at how many People, US, Teen, Vogue, etc. magazines are out there for women... do you see any such things that men are constantly reading?

    Men read Science and Auto mags... the whole 'does she think I look better in blue or dark green' never enters their minds and never will.

  4. allankeere profile image59
    allankeereposted 3 years ago

    sometimes   they do especially if you are are a nagging type of girl.Guys love their space to identify  who they are and where the relationship is taking its course

  5. iggy7117 profile image78
    iggy7117posted 3 years ago

    Some men want to be left alone, others may need time to process what just happened or was discussed. I have said it myself because I needed time to cool off so I did not say something to make the situation worst. It also gave me time to think.

    If someone asks for alone time then give it, because you do not know why or what they are capable of doing.

  6. roselinsojan profile image59
    roselinsojanposted 3 years ago

    Yes all of us want to talk to someone who understand and hear us. but the most important thing is stay silent for some time to refresh yourself.I mean a meditation,it is good for our mind health.

  7. AntonListov profile image61
    AntonListovposted 3 years ago

    In most cases, i really do want to be left alone...for a while. Just for me to calm down, gather my thoughts, compose myself. I would hope that the other party initiate the conversation after giving me some time.

  8. Kayte profile image42
    Kayteposted 3 years ago

    No it is not, when a man says he doesn't want someone he really doesn't. Men usually don't say what they don't mean. Men are completely different creatures than we are but then again younger women are different from us older ones, because I don't say that I don't want to talk to a man if I do. Many women will play games because they feel the need to but if you tell a man that you don't want want him then don't be upset if he finds someone who is not you.

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    marcuscaineposted 2 years ago

    Men mean it and they really want to be alone. It is not that he hates you, it is just that men need some alone time once and while. I assume women are the same way sometimes

  10. old albion profile image65
    old albionposted 2 years ago

    Hi Christina. Yes it's different. A man means it when he says it. No explanation from me, that's just the way it is.

  11. Maryam Rehman profile image81
    Maryam Rehmanposted 2 years ago

    Every one needs his own space. when a guy says he want space, a girl should understand that. the guy would need the time to think and relax himself. he might have so many thinks to go through and he might need a time of his own. so when he is given space when he needs it he ultimately finds his way back to his family or lover. so be patient and give your guy some a little space. he might start to share his feelings and trust you that you can understand.

  12. Herb Sennett profile image72
    Herb Sennettposted 2 years ago

    Great question! But the issue is not gender specific. Do you mean it when you want to be left alone? Well, if you do, then perhaps you should give the same consideration to a person in your life of the other gender. Hello! We're not that different. So, the answer I might give is this: It all depends. I've been married for nearly fifty years. I've learned that when my partner wants to left alone she indicates that in many different ways including saying it. But, I've learned that when she does, I let her be! Maybe that's why we've gotten along so well. I don't speak for her, but I think that our relationship is build on trust; we trust one another as well as respect one another. I'm jealous of her time and affection, yes. But, I am not "possessive" of her time and affection. I don't own her; she doesn't own me. Yet we choose to be in the relationship with trust and respect. Oh, and that includes not hovering over her or checking up on her and ... I think you get my point. We let each other be who we are. We don't attempt to change each other. We accept each other as we are ("warts and all," as they say). If you are happy and content within yourself, you'll find it so easy to accept the other person's wishes as theirs, not yours. And theirs never have to be yours. Good question for Hub Pages!

  13. silkywayavenue profile image60
    silkywayavenueposted 2 years ago

    I guess 80% of women are like that. if they say one thing, it means another thing. So if they say they want to be left alone, it means they don't want to be left alone. With men it's quite a different story. When they say that they mean it

  14. toradrake profile image80
    toradrakeposted 2 years ago

    90% of men do mean it, but not fully. They want to be left alone to gather their thoughts and hold their anger. Once they have calmed down and/or thought things through...then they want someone to talk to. Typically another male. Rather than chase them down at those moments to make them talk to you, take that time to situate yourself also. Give them a little time. Then approach them calmly and let them know, your there to listen.

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    navikeshposted 2 years ago

    It depends on the nature of the person. If he is attached to you and if you are more than anything else, Then he doesn't mean it. Otherwise he wants you to leave you to occupy with something else for a period of time. There are some cases he may leave you permanent if he is totally uncomfortable with you.

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    charlesjuposted 2 years ago

    I think a lot of "girls" are like you and say one thing when they mean another. It's childish at best. A "woman" would not do that as they have grown and are mature enough to say what they mean and mean what they say.

    Same goes for Men. A real "Man" is going to tell you exactly what they want and not expect you to be confused by this.

  17. kwade tweeling profile image91
    kwade tweelingposted 2 years ago

    I know I'm late answering this one, but it just popped up on my feed.

    Yes, I really mean it when I say I want to be left alone.

    I think there are exceptions when a man is feeling particularly horrible and truly needs someone to run interference. As a rule though, if a man says he needs space, I've found it's a good idea to give it.

  18. ahmed-umair profile image66
    ahmed-umairposted 2 years ago

    guys really mean it when they say they want to stay alone..

  19. Becky Callahan profile image85
    Becky Callahanposted 2 years ago

    They almost always mean it.  I know it's a stereotype, but I've found that men are usually much more direct with words, and they mean what they say. Although this may be hurtful in the moment, it is ultimately a good thing for understanding in a relationship. In an argument or a difficult time, the last thing you want to deal with is a guessing game about someone's intentions.

  20. thehands profile image92
    thehandsposted 2 years ago


    Personally, when I say I want to be left alone, I definitely mean it.

    It's not just me, I don't think. For the vast majority of guys I know, this is also true. There is really no reason to be coy about it or to play games.

    I'm not sure if women tend to pretend that they want to be left alone when they really don't. I'd like to think that most of them don't do this.

    I guess I just don't understand why someone would say the opposite of what they actually want. Is it because you subconsciously feel more wanted if the other person insists?

  21. profile image56
    kellyksposted 2 years ago

    Yes men surely mean it but not some women don’t mean it. I believe you should read “men are from mars and women are from venus”. It shows the different traits men and women have and how to deal with the signs of drawback that at times happens in number of relationships.  Also space is very important in a relationship so if you are giving enough space to your partner such things should not happen. Besides I feel he may be upset about something or the other. So talk to him once he is out of his cocoon and ready to talk. Till then just chill and have a good time with yourself or your friends. Pamper yourself, go for a steam bath or a sauna or go out for lunch, visit the parlour and get a new look. I am saying so because when me and my husband are not talking or he is in his “Cocoon” that is a golden period for me. I have a lot of fun and without him the fun quotient just doubles up. Also some time alone is very helpful you can think over so many things in this time. Meditate and pray as these things will let you keep your mind calm.  Also try to understand that the psychology of men and women are entirely different. And by that I mean that their reaction to same problems is totally opposite. During stress and conflict the women wants to vent out but a men doesn’t and rather he proceeds towards his cocoon or den. So don’t wait outside his den and just make the most of this lone time.

  22. shon1121 profile image77
    shon1121posted 2 years ago

    In my experience yes, many of us can excuse the male species to act very selfishly and impulsively.

    As much as I see people as individuals not bound by constraints of race, gender, sexuality, personal interests and so forth- I have tended to enjoy the straightforwardness and company of men as friends throughout my life.  My interests tally more with men,  conversation can be randomer,  richer and less personal.

    From my experience, yes they generally do mean what they say but are much less likely to seek help.  Worst thing is to smother them, there are subtle non-pushy ways you can show that you alays have an ear open.

    For your own sanity avoid trying to understand their mind, for you never will!  Suppose this applies to all humans.

    1. Laura Coveney profile image61
      Laura Coveneyposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      The old saying Men will never understand women, Women will never understand men.

  23. Larry Fish profile image77
    Larry Fishposted 2 years ago

    I think that it depends on the circumstances. I know many times I have said that I want to be left alone. There have been times when I said it that I actually wanted to talk with someone. I think it is a man thing with us that if we cave in and want to talk it makes us look weak.

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  25. maliabaker profile image61
    maliabakerposted 2 years ago

    i dont think so because most guys say i want to be left alone to cheat on there partner

  26. Laura Coveney profile image61
    Laura Coveneyposted 2 years ago

    Some men have a hard time expressing their emotions, and they feel it is a sign of weakness, Heaven forbid if they cried in front of someone, they would get called a sissy. But in todays world they should realize It is okay to cry and share how they are feeling, It is better to let it out then to keep it in. It is a wonderful feeling to get a load off your chest, then to having it weigh you down, And of course Men do like some quiet time to them selves too, Just like us females that need time to our selves too, Time to think and clear our minds. When they are ready they will talk.

  27. Victoria Hancock profile image61
    Victoria Hancockposted 2 years ago

    yes because they want to wait to hangout with someone else

  28. Hidalgo C profile image61
    Hidalgo Cposted 2 years ago

    it's definitely different for men. women are such mercurial creatures that we sometimes don't understand ourselves and our motivations...we allow ourselves to be carried along by our feelings. when a man wants space he means it and many women, mis- understand and take it the wrong way due to their own insecurities.

  29. alexarain379 profile image61
    alexarain379posted 2 years ago

    i think it is different from one to another, my boyfriend not always in good mood and ask me once to left him alone but i stayed with him with out talking big_smile, he appreciate that and start to talk with me and finally our relationship get stronger.
    hope this can be useful for you.

  30. Tomasz Golap profile image60
    Tomasz Golapposted 10 months ago


  31. jenniferdaalton profile image55
    jenniferdaaltonposted 3 months ago

    Well, it actually depends upon the situation and also on the relationship between you and that guy. If you're someone close to his heart and the most special person of his life, sentence simply means stay with me and understand the situation along with my mood. But on the other hand if you're someone not close to him, he needs space.
    If a guy need space, make sure to give him that space.

  32. Mark O Richardson profile image69
    Mark O Richardsonposted 6 weeks ago

    Sometimes guys just want time alone. Sometimes its about the activity and not who you are with. I think "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" explains it well when it talks about a man and his cave


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