What is your view of online dating?

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   Rohan Kulkarniposted 9 years ago

   May it be dating online or offline,trustworthyness is the main key point.Everything else can be checked after dating with him/her.so u can go for it with taking caution offcourse. Its a new idea where u know different cultures and values and all the beautiful things between you two and u can share memories and many general yet unique things about u.Ther are actually many things you can get or learn.All is you should not blindly trust him/her, give some time chitchatting to know both of you.

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      savvydatingposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      It takes time, a bit of patience, and good communication to get to know someone. Trustworthiness is also a crucial factor. Thanks for chiming in, Rohan.

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      Rohan Kulkarniposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      most welcome.

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   Liz Bracerposted 9 years ago

   Online dating could be both rewarding and dangerous. You could meet the person of your dreams, the one person that you know you could spend the rest of your life with. Or, you could encounter a predator, that has no interest in you and that might just want to mess with you. I would never judge someone for going online to date but my only advice would be to just be careful.

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      savvydatingposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      As my hipster son would say, "True that."

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      cam8510posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      liz, I respect your position.  It is true that a woman could encounter a predator on the online sites.  But couldn't she encounter that same person at the library? Online she at least has a chance to scrutinize him and do a background check.

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   Suilaruinposted 9 years ago

   I think its ok for some people but Ive known people that have had disasters.

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   blessing okoyeposted 9 years ago

   Dating site is where you will interact with people you don't know, make friends with them,  it has helped many people find their soulmate.

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   suraj punjabiposted 9 years ago

   I think it is ridiculous. Call me old fashion but I feel it is much better to hook up with someone who you have met through an acquaintance. Or someone who is introduced to you by a trusted person like your best friend or your parents. I will trust my friends and my parents more than I trust a server located somewhere in the basement of some building in Silicon Valley. This is one thing I will not leave to algorithm and maths.
   
   Most of these sites matches your preferences with others. Well, that does not necessarily guarantee that you will hit it off. It is more complicated than that, and the sooner people realize this the better. Please get of your couch stop being lazy get out there, mingle, socialize find some human connection and get into a relationship the healthy way.
   
   Finding a partner online is like going to a fast food restaurant expecting to get a healthy meal.

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      savvydatingposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Well, McDonald's does have apple slices, but who ever orders them when it is easier to buy the french-fries. Yes, you make a good point. It is "healthy" to meet people in groups or through friends. That is not to say one is guaranteed anything...

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   krischavezposted 9 years ago

   Found only some friends thru online but never into a relationship. Because I believe that is better to get know each other in person.

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      savvydatingposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      You and Suraj are on the same page on this one. I wouldn't say online dating is bad, but I do prefer meeting people through groups or friends. Thanks for stopping by, Kris.

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   MBurgessposted 9 years ago

   My experiences with dating sites were varied. I've used them a few times over the past five years or so, but have only met up with a few people. I've set my standards and my safety practices pretty high. Past relationships have me playing it very safe and I am serious about a long term relationship.
   
   The first few minutes always helped me decide whether I wanted to move forward with a second date or not. The meetups always occurred at public places. I am very cautious when letting someone new into my life. I understand that one lax decision can have deadly consequences. The older I get the more paranoid I get about people. This makes it extremely difficult for me to really relax around my date. If it doesn't feel right or I am pressured in any way I'm an extremely nervous lady.
   
   What I found were assorted players. I suspected most of them were looking for a playmate while maintaining a Mrs. One of them was just creepy. Others were looking to move way too fast for my tastes and I ended the situation quickly. I did see one gentleman for a few months but ended the relationship when his religious zeal got really strange. I'm looking for a long term relationship, not play time. I prefer to get to know someone very well before I put myself in a very vulnerable situation.
   
   I had three in a row tell me that they had family emergencies within one to two hours of the first dates. Reliability red flag. In my opinion, they found another playmate. Several tried starting the sexting thing... Ahh, no thanks. Gross! unless I have been dating you for a while and am really into you. Then there were the graphic images. Yeah, wow. Thanks, but no. And last but not least a couple of them said they had an important situation in Phoenix they just had to break the date for. Really? What is so darn interesting in Phoenix?
   
   The five years and a few dollars in premium upgrade fees have really turned me off to the online dating scene. Mr. right for me will be along at some point I am sure. Most of the men I met were seriously immature and needed a class in proper etiquette and an idea of what an intelligent conversation is like (required first and foremost!) Dating and courtship used to be a respectful thing, not this - Oh, hey we've known each other for an hour now, do you want to go to my place??? I'm over it. I'd rather just write my blog posts and grow a fabulous garden.

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      savvydatingposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      That's the thing about online dating----you meet a lot of creeps. After awhile, you get a feel for who to avoid, but it's still discouraging to meet so many "bad apples" in one place. Why some guys they think that icky behavior is OK, defies reason.

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   Sulabhaposted 9 years ago

   I was restraining myself from answering your question as I felt it was not for me! You see I am married for 35 years.
   But online dating has become popular in India of late. Often while looking for suitable match for my daughter in matrimonial sites, we found that boys  wanted to talk to the girls directly even when parents such as us clearly stated that we were not comfortable with the idea. But more than that, their approach was a contrast to the description given by them.
   Thankfully, my daughter got married to a boy staying just 10 min. away and who was well known to many of her friends.
   Also, now my son too has found a match for himself without going for online dating.
   I truly feel online dating is dangerous. You just don't know what is in store for you.

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      savvydatingposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for commenting, Sulabha. I truly appreciate hearing perspectives from those whose culture differs from my own. I am happy for you and your children for having met life partners in a manner which is acceptable for you and them as well.

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   nessemilyreeceposted 9 years ago

   Right so my view is of a 25 year old I find it very difficult to try and get to know someone on there as there only after fun! I done an experiment afew months back I made a confident/sexy account and a plain jane account as you can gather yes the sexy account got 99% more attention BUT the plain jane account got men from 40-45 year olds old enough to be my dad am sorry to say it but girls in there 20s dont stand a chance on sating sites if you aint after sex

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      savvydatingposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      How depressing, nessemily! Can't say I'm at all surprised by your sexy account findings, but the plain Jane results were truly alarming. My feeling is that meeting people in group settings is best for you. I'm sorry you had to experience all of that.

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      nessemilyreeceposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah I think I will be from now on ive met afew diffrent types of people online and I can honestly say its not for me nobody wants to talk for more than afew days before they get bored and want to meet nobody has patience anymore ha

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      savvydatingposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      The important thing is that you are not allowing yourself to be rushed. I think that's great. One day you will meet someone. Have you thought of joining a group whose interests are similar to your own? That way, you can observe how a man interacts.

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      nessemilyreeceposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Ive tryed alot of dating sites and its all the same but ive kicked it to the curb for abit my patience with the same convo has worn thin haha

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      savvydatingposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Understandable. Well, you've retained your sense of humor. That's the bright side!

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    micadeoluposted 9 years ago

    Online dating offers opportunity to meet new people you would never thought could get close to you. The good thing is that you communicate from your hearts rather than lips talk which in most cases are wrapped up in pretext, self defence and ego centeredness.
    In online dating, since you will be making your communications via the mind, you will find yourself waiting to speak your heart instead of pretending depending on your social and moral up bringing.

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       savvydatingposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Excellent point, Michael, about moral values. Without them, communication is not gratifying or truly meaningful in any way.

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    Leigh Moirposted 9 years ago

    I think it varies, person to person. Some people find it easier to get to know someone by talking to them a lot, whereas some people need to actually spend time with the person. I think it can be nice to date someone online, as it puts much less pressure on each person. However, some people feel that online dating lacks intimacy. Personally, I disagree, as you can learn a lot about a person from talking to them.
    
    -L

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       savvydatingposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Hi Leigh. If the person is willing to talk, you can definitely garner some information; however, observing a person's actions and interactions is even better. Thank you for commenting..

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    Stacy Deasonposted 9 years ago

    Though, there are mixed responses of people about online dating, but the truth is that it took dating to a whole new level. It is not necessary that all online daters get success in their relationship, but many of them have also found their true mates. Well, what I think of online dating is that it is an easy way to connect with people who can be a potential date in future.
    Nowadays, in real life people don't have much time to go and search for a mate either in social gatherings, clubs, pubs, or public places etc., so they take help of online dating and I don't think there is anything wrong in that.
    Another advantage is that it is assured that people who are available on online dating sites are looking for a romantic connection. Well, there are cases of fraud on online dating sites, but that depends on what website you are using, if the website is reliable, chances of fraud greatly reduce such as Elenasmodels.com.
    Online dating not only help people in meeting other potential mates, but nowadays online dating coaches are also trending greatly. They assist people the right ways of dating. If anyone faces problem in approaching the other person for dating, dating coaches provide the right and instant solution to his problem.
    Dating industry is seeing a new high these days with online dating and dating coaches. And, I am sure that they have solved problems of many regarding dating. It can be said that dating coaches have become a way of transforming dating life as mentioned in the given link: https://yourdatingteacher.wordpress.com … /#more-204

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       Say Yes To Lifeposted 8 years agoin reply to this

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    sumitnabhamposted 9 years ago

    Online Dating is good for time pass. But, I don't think that it results in marriage.
    
    The biggest problem is that you choose your date by just looking at his beautiful pics or reading about his nature.
    
    That is the biggest drawback of Online Dating.

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       savvydatingposted 8 years agoin reply to this

       Beauty is as beauty does.

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    ZaiTheAngelposted 8 years ago

    I believe online dating is a great thing. Even through I have never used online dating and some my find my views bias, I do know a friend who used an online dating service and is now happy with that person.
    
    It can be a great way to find others that have the same interest and its alot easier to talk to that person if you are someone who is shy or find it difficult to open up to people easliy.
    
    However, It can also be a danger as the person on the otherside may not always be who they say they are. We have all heard the stories of 15 year olds and 12 years olds talking to people online who they thought were the same age as them but then turned out to be someone who was 30, 40 years older. Even though you mainly hear the stories about young teenages it is still possible to happen to people of the older generation.
    
    This is why I am saying that onlie dating can be a great thing if you are talking to the right person but can also be a bad thing aswell.

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       Say Yes To Lifeposted 8 years agoin reply to this

       "Onlie dating"?  Sounds like a Freudian slip!  LOL!

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    Esad Uhmediposted 8 years ago

    Online dating is totally acceptable if both parties are truthful, honest and legit about their intention. The online issue in online dating nowadays is that too many spam user and hacker are right around the corner to stalk or do something nasty. So yes, Online dating is a good way to meet new people, as long as you just take the necessary safety measures

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       savvydatingposted 8 years agoin reply to this

       True. Without safety measures, we're asking for trouble. Unfortunately, some people find it all too easy to lie when hiding behind a computer screen.

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    Massacre Mamaposted 8 years ago

    I've been watching the tv series "Catfish". It's about a guy who gets calls from people who are online dating, to see if he can get the online daters significant other to meet with them. More times than not, the people end up not being who they said they were, and had been lying to their significant other the whole time. It's pretty scary. So I don't really like the idea on online dating.

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       Say Yes To Lifeposted 8 years agoin reply to this

       You probably know"catfish" is the term for falling in love with the profile of a person who doesn't exist.

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       savvydatingposted 8 years agoin reply to this

       I had not heard that term. Good to know.

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    Aldous Orwellposted 8 years ago

    If done correctly, I believe it can be very beneficial. I mean we all meet for the first time at some time. At least this way we can find a little bit out about the person before hand. Contrarily, it can be very dangerous and useless. If you don't take the proper precautions for meeting a potential date. Also, if you don't put in the proper work into it, then it will fail and be a waste of time.

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       savvydatingposted 8 years agoin reply to this

       Aldous, I believe you are exactly right.

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    chocolateboy1996posted 8 years ago

    I think online dating is safe and good as long as you have either met the person or seen them somewhere because now there are so many cases where people see the profile picture and read the bio but when in reality they meet the person who has been chatting with them for months and have not met face to face chances are they are disappointed, So, it is safe if you have met the person or at least seen them before.

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       savvydatingposted 8 years agoin reply to this

       But if you have already met the person, that would not be online dating, Rudra.

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       chocolateboy1996posted 8 years agoin reply to this

       I meant like if i have seen someone but never had the courage to talk face to face  or like a one side lover the other person does not know i exist lol :p but in the other if u r asking about pure online dating then i dnt feel like it is safe

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    Jonhaposted 8 years ago

    Well i think this is for those who are desperate and socially awkward. I know Its nice to have someone in life, the one with whom you can share all your thoughts, but no one should be looking for that "Someone".  You  will find that person eventually,  have faith on fate. Just socialize, instead of winning in  virtual life i'll prefer to lose in real life.

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    lovebuglenaposted 8 years ago

    Not sure exactly, what you mean by online dating, but I did meet someone online at one point and I ended up falling in love with that person. He seemed to echo my feelings. We talked to each other online frequently and for hours on end. He lived in another country though and after telling me all these great things and how much he loves me, etc, and talking about the future he vanished and then resurfaced telling me he found someone else. I felt like I was lied to and was being used until someone close came along.

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       savvydatingposted 8 years agoin reply to this

       Ouch! That hurts. Just know, Lena, that if someone says they're "in love" online, that's always a red flag. It's best not to talk for hours on end. Ironically, we still need our space, even online.

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    Snarky Puppyposted 8 years ago

    Personally, I believe online dating can work, mainly depending on the means of social network you use. Tinder, for instance, will be very divided in users and preferences, varying from people looking for hook-ups to people looking for serious relationships, perhaps even their future husbands or wives. It's a very tiring process to find out about either's motives, as neither wants to disclose any of that information too early on.
    
    I'd say online dating generally works, but you have to be honest with yourself. "What do I want?" is a resounding question that needs to be answered diligently and carefully. If you are looking for a short-term relationship, I would suggest websites or apps like Tinder, Badoo, Twoo and the like.
    
    However, if you are looking for a more serious, long-term relationship, I'd truthfully recommend any dating website with a required (monthly) subscription fee. These sites will separate the wheat from the chaff and will help you find that compatible person more easily.

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       savvydatingposted 8 years agoin reply to this

       The paying sites take complaints seriously, so in that manner, they can separate the "wheat from the chaff." to an extent.  I appreciate your point about "being honest with ourselves" if we decide to engage in online dating. Thanks, Timothy.

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       KCOposted 8 years agoin reply to this

       I met the love of my life on Tinder A free swiping app helped me find my life partner, but that wouldn't have happened if we weren't both completely open and honest about what we wanted.

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    Deadpool607posted 8 years ago

    My friends said if you're not involved in one of these online dating services, you're just gonna get left behind socially, you know. I'm not afraid to try something new, I'm not, so I signed up. Changed my life. I went from feeling pretty good about myself to feeling like a leper alone in a room typing

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    Kim Maravichposted 8 years ago

    I met my husband on Match.com.  We would never never have met otherwise, so it was a true blessing.  We lived about 45 minutes away from each other, but our paths would not have crossed if not for online dating.  We had different interests but also had some things in common.  We might not have been a perfect match on paper, but the chemistry was certainly there once we met in person.  The chemistry was not just physical.  Our personalities just "clicked".  We now have been married 4 years and have 2 sweet little boys!  Incidentally, I also have two very good friends who met their spouses on Match.com.  One thing to note was that we were all in our late 30s or early 40s.  Once someone is beyond the typical "going out" age or just not into the bar scene, it becomes more difficult to meet someone who is single.  I'm all for online dating!

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       dashingscorpioposted 8 years agoin reply to this

       Congratulations!
       I've always said online dating was in many ways better for people in their 30s, 40s, and beyond. It's great to have another option for meeting new people.
       It's not (how) you meet but (who) you meet that counts!

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       Say Yes To Lifeposted 8 years agoin reply to this

       This makes me want to consider Match.com once I return to the Mainland. I heard they host parties for people to get together.

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       savvydatingposted 8 years agoin reply to this

       Hi Kim.....Your comment is a breath of fresh air. I will say that the 30's & 40's is still actually quite young. I think that some of us (not you) who are "middle-aged" have more "stuff" to deal with, but there is hope online nonetheless. Lol.

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    Malorie Thompsonposted 8 years ago

    I think online dating can be a great tool to meet people It's always good to be cautious though.
    
    I met a wonderful man through Tinder (I don't know if that counts) and it turned out we even had a mutual friend. We dated for about 6 months and are now just friends. It was one of the best dating experiences I've ever had though! Maybe I just got lucky and found a gentlemen online (I doubt that happens very often, especially on Tinder!) but I'm really glad I used it and met him.
    
    I think the biggest setback to online dating can be getting to "know" each other before actually meeting. It doesn't seem healthy or productive to text/facebook message/etc before actually meeting in person. Half the fun is having those conversations in person! Plus, then you get a preconcieved idea of who the person is (which could be VERY inaccurate) and same vice versa. That's probably the biggest "issue"  that I see (aside from the whole potential serial killer thing lol)

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    mattdenzilposted 8 years ago

    I don't have a story, but I do have a few naive conceptions of it. People consider me fairly young, but I don't fulfill the millennial mindset. I think the advancement of technology is great. We're connected to billions of people through devices that we carry around in our pockets. But I have concerns. I feel we're becoming detached from what it means to be human too rapidly. This would be science fiction less than 50 years ago. It's just extremely fast for me. We're an advanced civilization, but I don't think we're coping at the level we need to for stabilization. It's just my quirky paranoia, and a contradiction at that. With all of my reservations, I shouldn't just accept surfing the web as normal.
    I apologize. I'm new to this site.

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       savvydatingposted 8 years agoin reply to this

       Nothing to apologize for, Matt. The thing that has bugged me about online dating is it's convenience. Something about mixing love with convenience really rubs me the wrong way. That being said, I do believe that online dating can be used properly...

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    short ladyposted 8 years ago

    I had one relationship that lasted two years with someone I met online. That being said, and maybe this had nothing to do with the online side of things, he was very shady and I wound up finding out he was a total player and had lied to me about a lot of his life when we eventually finally broke up. I think, in his case, he was very crafty and smart about manipulating people and using an online dating site was just one way he did that. I won't ever blame the app for that.
    
    I think it's like anything: If you get a strange feeling about someone you meet, pay attention to it. For me, dating people I was friends with first has always gone better because I knew who they were for the most part before going about dating them. But people meet in bars, on the subway, through meetups, through set ups, and there really is no specific science behind what works out and what doesn't. Two of my best friends met each other on Tinder and have been partners for two years since. They have one of the best relationships I've ever seen.
    
    Life is unpredictable. As long as you are smart, getting out there, and meeting people in many ways (ways you are comfortable with), eventually something works out.

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       savvydatingposted 8 years agoin reply to this

       A very wise answer, Julie. You covered it all, and I agree with what you have said here.

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    Kelci Rossposted 8 years ago

    Online dating success story with all the feels read more

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    realtalk247posted 7 years ago

    I really don't know what to make of it.  Some people have met great people online and even got married. I think on g.p. if you want quality you have to use a website where payment/investment is required -it weeds out a large amount of undesirables. When I think of a more quality online dating sites I think of match.com & eharmony although one should be careful and cautious about anyone you meet online.   
    
    Just being honest, most online dating horror stories reveal cheaters and people seeking sex hookups more often than not.  I've seen the specials on nut-jobs, stalkers, and con-artists that meet up with people and rob/rape them.  Behind the computer people can be anyone or anything so I guess I'm leaning towards normal connection such as talking to the person in the grocery store that you find attractive.  I lean toward old-school dating so you can get a vibe from the person interested in you.

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       savvydatingposted 7 years agoin reply to this

       real talk...a good summation about online dating. And you're right about the grocery store thing. I've been approached that way. It's kind of adorable!

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