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Why do some dark skinned men only date light skin women?


I'm a young lady and I consider my self brown skinned, but in the winters I get very light. I always find it intriguing when I'm approached by a dark skinned male who only dates lighter skin women, not only does he exclusively date the lighter skin girls he denounces the beauty of dark skin women.(major turn off by the way) I always wish in that moment I could find a mirror. But I see this a lot , so whats wrong with our community? we are really damaged.

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    Nelson D. Coy (nelson-coy7) 2 years ago

    You are right on point. This inferiority started with our ancestors in slavery times. There were the field and the house slaves: where the house slaves were predominately light-skinned and the dark-skinned were out working the fields.


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    Bellz23 2 years ago

    I have heard these songs, lol "cake soap" is ridiculous, but on that note most hip hop and some dancehall songs glorify the light skin woman. We still have that slave mentality.

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    Bellz23 2 years ago

    It could just be what they are attracted to, thats true.I have a bi-racial family(nieces,nephews, cousins, my dad,grand parents ect..) I have no problems with preference and love has no color. It Just sounds weird to me hating on your own skin color.

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    Grace Marguerite Williams (gmwilliams) 2 years ago

    To many dark skinned men, the lighter skinned woman is seen as the prize, the trophy, the lady. It is status for the dark skinned man, esp. the more successful dark skinned men to want to date/marry the lighter skinned woman. She is the STEP UP.


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    Harish Mamgain (Harishprasad) 2 years ago

    Laura, I love your words and great insight reflected in them. This is the only way to appreciate and revel in existence of all beings living in this beautiful planet.


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    Bellz23 2 years ago

    Im not hating on my brothers, I'm concerned about their thinking. Im just saying "why is the pot calling the kettle black".


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Magicallymystical says

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    Bellz23 2 years ago

    Yup that is true i've also witnessed the degrading of dark skin women.


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Harish Mamgain (Harishprasad) says

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  • CDegrate 3 years ago

    This whole discussion has gotten corny period. Women have to stop making excuses for why they can't get ANY man to stay with them. It's not prison, downlow, white, or light skin; it's YOU. You attract what you are. Most men marry character over color


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    Bellz23 2 years ago

    respectable answer.


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Devika Primić (DDE) says

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    Bellz23 2 years ago

    You will be surprised how many African Americans still have this mentality.

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CDegrate says

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  • Kris Koshner (spock28) 2 years ago

    color is not the only consideration, but ceteris paribus lighter skin holds the sway most of the time, common lets admit it!!

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ReymundoExcava says

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    violetheaven 2 years ago

    I agree to a certain degree,its important to note that not every black man who chooses to be with lighter skinned female hates their self or skin color. Sometimes they are genuinely in love, for any/every reason other than skin color.


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Kris Koshner (spock28) says

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  • Kris Koshner (spock28) 2 years ago

    add to that , look at internet terminology white list and black list, always black gets the negative connotation!!

    Though scientifically its proved dark skin is better and less prone to skin cancer and sunburns due to dark pigmentation of the skin.

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    realtalk247 2 years ago

    "The idea that lighter is better is idiotic. stupid hip hop & rap videos where 90% of the women on them have white/mixed race." True, I've seen men pay rent make supreme efforts but discount darker skinned women based on appearance alone. It's s

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    Bellz23 2 years ago

    Ill read up more on MGM's. This is a good point, my nieces and nephews are bi-racial (black and white) and I always wonder how they will choose to identify themselves when they are older.(So far they call themselves black, but they are under 10y/o)


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  • CDegrate 3 years ago

    1. I seriously doubt he said that. 2. No man equates strength with complexion. 3. Weak men want weak women, strong men want strong women, but NO MAN wants constant unneccessary conflict. 4. Attitude and strength are not one in the same.

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    Bellz23 2 years ago

    I've noticed this as well. I really think black women in general need to try more interracial dating.

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  • Kris Koshner (spock28) 2 years ago

    when it comes to beauty, love etc its the heart that rules no amount of logic or reasoning can change that. next question will be why men prefer beautiful women and not ugly ladies? common lets accept facts and move on!!

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  • Kris Koshner (spock28) 2 years ago

    true its the pot calling the kettle black, the pot is neutral gender neither man or women ,!! can i say yo have been discriminatory in liking only some comments and its not reasonable no its ludicrous in life we make choice its discriminatory

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    realtalk247 2 years ago

    "We?" If you don't see beauty in that which looks like you then you will seek not to partner with people of your same tone or perhaps darker.

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    realtalk247 2 years ago

    The Official Dark Girls Movie Documentary sheds light on these issues

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  • Kris Koshner (spock28) 2 years ago

    Attraction is mutual you need two hands to clap, if black marries a white it happens only when vice versa is also true probably white ladies find black attractive too!! so blame the white lady and not the poor black guy!!

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    Sir you are absolutely right , I understand !

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    Bellz23 2 years ago

    Thanks for your answer.


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    realtalk247 2 years ago

    Mental conditioning to be "turned off" by the physical features is a psychological conditioning disorder and can not be seen as just a "preference." It's a major issue if you are dark skinned and disregard people that mirror your features.


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    realtalk247 2 years ago

    Grady. People of all shades get rejected but I wonder if your approach and treatment of women were the same. Did you pay rent for light skinned girls and offered the dark skinned girl a hamburger and can't understand why she wasn't interested?

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  • Nicole Rene (Nikkipoo1974) 2 years ago

    We As a people lost our identity we have been spliced culturally, genetically and spiritually. All the particles have fallen back scrambled and displaced leaving us socially and culturally amiss and incomplete ....however this could be said for many

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    What in the world is twang?


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