Yes, I actually do it very correctly. Even though many times it does not work for me, still I believe in it. Truth will always prevail.
Yes, we can evaluate ourselves accurately and effectively. Methods have been developed both in the East and in the West. Here are key points:
1) We must be committed to the truth, and to changing what we do according to what we learn, that is, to living in Truth.
2) Our self-evaluation is to be loving and non-judgmental. Judging ourselves is harsh, and in response we hide and avoid. If we create an inner environment of fear and hiding, that will distort our self-evaluation.
3) We accept the law of karma. We know that we will receive the consequences of our own actions. So we evaluate ourselves to open the door to a better life.
4) We observe and record our actions, and, as we grow, our thoughts and feelings, as well.
5) We observe the results of each thought, feeling, and action. Did it give us what we wanted, or did it have harmful effects.
6) We take corrective action. We stop doing what doesn't work. We start doing what does work, and do more of it.
7) We learn to examine our assumptions, and change them if they are not true.
8) We get more and more precise in our self-evaluation.
With this, we can move into a flow of joyful work known as "mastery" and "excellence." (Read my hudbs on Zen and on quality movements like 6 Sigma and CMM, and my book, Quality Management Demystified, for more.)
Thanks SidKemp, for the detailed answer and I quite agree with your views. If we follow your suggestions, the self evaluation will be honest and help improve our actions and behavior for the better, for sure. I would certainly read your work/ book.
We can only go so far in evaluating ourselves. We all have blind spots in our own behaviors and abilities. There are things we can do to overcome these blind spots, but without a major shift, I don't know if we can ever truly get over them.
Above all, I think it's a matter of doing our best to continue to grow and develop. Don't let your beliefs stand in your way and always be willing to learn and re-evaluate yourself.
No, I don't think so. I don't think anyone can evaluate themselves honestly. I know I can't, which is why I am glad when someone else evaluates me.
I agree. We can so easily make excuses for our words and actions.
Thanks davidlivermore, for responding to the question. I agree, we can overlook our weaknesses, while evaluating ourselves. It is good to ask others about it.
Many people also overlook their strengths. Low self-image can be as crippling as denial of our flaws!
I agree completely, SidKemp. Thanks again for making another valuable point.
SWOT analysis is one of the best techniques I know, which works for me well. It is quite simple and can be done at any given point of time. For example immediately after a corporate meeting or after a social gathering, or even while you are lying on the bed thinking about the things you did today!!!
SWOT, strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats---Yes, I have heard about this tool being used in various organisations.
Thanks nisargmehta, for answering the question.
I would say it's way more difficult to evaluate yourself in any situation than it is to evaluate others. Maybe if you were to keep a list of expectations you have for yourself, related to the situation/project, and what characteristics you should see in order to have met those expectations, you could come close.
However this would require a great deal of self-control and brutal honesty. lol Until you get good at it, it's probably best to see how you compare in another's eyes.
Thanks VVanNess, for your response to the question. ''......Brutal honesty......'', I like the expression, which is difficult to possess. We are not saints. Ordinary people with ordinary vices. Getting yourself evaluated by others, is a better option
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With each of our time on stage, and most of my experiences was hands on training. I taught myself most of what I know. Sure I took online courses but to no degree. I used what I could get out of it.
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I think if you want a true evaluation of yourself, you need to ask someone else. How many times have you seen someone with such an obvious flaw who was completely unaware of it? Why should we think ourselves any more self-aware?
I remember distributing 'Evaluation of the teacher' sheet to my students. They were very helpful to improve teaching and focus on the topics in which students needed more clarity.
Thanks Sherry Hewins for your response and bringing in a valid point.
Professionally I have been asked to evaluate my performace, interaction with colleagues and clients etc. I am usually good at underplaying my abilities and appreciate when my supervisor gives me feedback about what I do well and things I don't do so well and ways to help me improve. Whilst I think we can learn to be objective and self evaluate, we also need the input of others to help us with our blind spots and recognize exemplary qualities that we may not recognize as being important to others.
I largely agree with SidKemp's answer to this question. There are some great points he brings up. There is one piece of information, however, I feel is very important that is missing. Other people.
Without outside perspective to give us some of the answers we need, we are missing sometimes very large parts of who we are. We cannot see what we do from someone else's perspective. At least, not without a lot of personal growth in the ego department. Or letting go of ego, perhaps.
We are all experiencing a world in collaboration with other people. Self is incomplete without others. Self improvement is great, but unless we plan to be a hermit, separate from all other people and all forms of communication, we can never divorce ourselves entirely from others. So self evaluation is incomplete without evaluating how we are with others.
I think it is possible to evaluate yourself correctly especially if you honestly want to improve. If you know how to evaluate yourself and can be honest with yourself it is possible. I would recommend getting a second opinion though. Just because you can evaluate yourself correctly does not mean that you could possibly miss something someone with an outside view could catch.
The two hardest things for us as humans to do is to be honest and objective of ourselves. The perception we have of ourselves is usually the perception we want others to have of us. We all have truths about ourselves that we haven't or may never accept.
We all know that it is so much easier to be honest and objective of other people because we don't feel the pain of the truth. Remember, truth hurts. So, for a "real" evaluation of ourselves, have someone else do it. But, be careful what you ask for. You may not like what you get.
Thanks IDONO! I agree with your views. It is difficult to be honest, while evaluating ourselves and if someone else, points out our shortcomings, we may not like it. But I believe, only those who really want to improve ask others to evaluate them.
IDONO, I agree with all that you said here, and I hope you don't mind if I quote you in my hub on this topic. In addition, though, some people can't be honest and objective about others: They either run them down or put them on a pedestal.
Sid- I think it's not that they can't be honest. They WON'T be honest for fear of hurting ones feelings or angering them. But we have to understand, that attitude is harming them. Not helping them. A nice person can ruin your life by just being nice.
We pretty much agree. I think some can't be honest, and others won't. I enjoyed writing about the dangers of niceness. I think you'll enjoy the hub; it will be up soon.
To improve, we need to know what we are doing well, and what we are doing poorly. When can we evaluate ourselves, and when must we rely on others? read more
Absolutely; however, your correctness may not be analogous with someone else's view of your correctness and this is where the significant "rub" is. Your self evaluation may perhaps be based on diferent data or data points then your supervisor/colleague/sponsor. The real issue is aligning your evaluation with standardized measures effectively communicated in the beginning and remaining the same throughout the evaluation period. This is indeed the issue.
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