Chatter's Thread.......
Cheese?
Been doing well and hopefully you have been doing well also.
had to go rescue my son...he ran out of gas on his way home from his dads house
*bump* who is out there?
hello Cagsil
Hiya Figment & Cagsil. How ya doing today?
I am doing fine. I'm checking in on the forums from time to time, while gathering information on more hubs.
I realized there are a lot more Celebrities that can be done, and found a list of the A-List Celebrities to work with. So, researching the stuff needed to make hubs.
I was initially doing A-List Celebrities I knew were really A-Listers and Gorgeous
- not really done yet, but close.
Why are win-win situations so hard to come by??
Because, very few people realize it takes compromise to make a situation a "Win-Win" for everyone.
Well, then that does prove one thing. That person is a liar or lying about it. Hmmm.....? That does not bode well.
Yeah, I'm not looking forward to the presentation tomorrow... But - the instructor offered (before the first presentation) to exchange the group grades with the grades he assigned. Once he shows the grades he assigned there's no turning back. So, all I have to do is wait until we assign our grades and find out.
almost time for bed...but, I'm not tired yet
Okay, if you say so.
maybe my phone is going to ring?? lol*usually I agree with that statement
You should never lose sight of that statement.
Because it is a cool story and I thought you might like to participate
Oh really. You call that being picky?
Had you not assumed something not said, then the whole conversation would have been moot.
I didn't say anything that wasn't logically sound or factual.
How am I being picky?
I am not even sure what an appropriate response to that is!
Okay, who is here, who is lurking about and who isn't here?
Hi there,
gotta get ready to go to class soon. Have a peaceful hubbery sleep you two.
- Hi!!
How's your day going? Nice weather? It is here, again! (72 outside & 77 inside)
sorry, but what does it mean to have horse teeth 'floated'? It sounds like it'd be hilarious...or not so much...
Actually, when you go to the dentist, you are using a "device" to keep your jaw open, while the dentist does their work. You use your mind(even though the thought of biting him a good one probably does cross your mind, but don't) as a device to keep your mouth open.
A horse cannot think or focus to keep their mouth open, thus the need to force them to do so.
Yes, it does create a healthier life for the horse. Scientists & archeologists that have uncovered horses that died many moons ago have found that many died from tooth absess. If you think about it, horses in the wild don't live too long. So there you go.
I want a breeze! Well, I guess, I do see trees moving out there...and there isn't an earthquake or a storm....
Then it is a safe bet to say there is some sort of breeze, if the trees are moving.
- short lived breezes - it'd be nice if they lasted longer or were a bit stronger so I could feel them inside....Maybe I need to go outside for awhile...
Good Day Matehhmm, I need to remember to go out for walks. gosh, I was such an active youngster I'm absolutely shocked at how lazy I've become as an adult. But, it's part of my current goals - to improve my life - to change my lifestyle back to what it was a loooong time ago! lol
So, I'm adding it to my schedule! Take a walk, first thing in the morning, around the block is good enough (for now)
I have multiple paths to take. I have several small blocks around me, that I can pick and choose which one, based how long I want to walk.
First, recognize you are not the same age anymore. Then, make sure you take a slow pace at start. Pushing yourself or your body, without having direct knowledge of the impact, could wipe you out and make you even more lazy in the future.
It makes sense, but it is a shame that you seem to have forgot how to be more active. I'm sure it isn't the fact that you forgot, but do not have energy or mindset to be active. Unfortunately, the only person who can change that is you.Cagsil - what you say makes sense more and more.
Yeah, I realize I haven't forgotten but merely 'lack the energy or drive' to be active. And, unfortunately, I realize I'm the only person who can change that fact for myself. lol Doesn't make it any easier! lol
So, you're saying, go for it but take it easy and don't expect too much too soon. Just like the doctors say. lol
yeah....I knew it wouldn't last....
Thanks, Aficionada. Next time I'll do more explosions! That sounds like a great idea!! lol
Funny you should mention that, turning it back on them.... we had to 'grade' each other throughout the project and then after the presentation write a couple paragraphs about what went right and what could be improved within the group.... yeah....I started off by saying, (ahem)
Throughout the presentation I thought we were doing an excellent job of showing how not to follow the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
and then I listed all 7 habits and what I did or didn't do and what the other members did or didn't do and I highlighted my concerns about whether or not our presentation would work. I didn't know what else to do because throughout the later planning stages I felt completely lost. I had no idea what anyone was doing or why including myself - I only had a vague idea of what I was supposed to do and then when I did it I was told it wasn't right!
What I mean to say is - I listed one thing for each habit, not one thing for everyone for each habit. Wow, for a minute I thought I sounded like a stalker or something
Sooo Frustrating!!Woo-hoooo!! WELL DONE! Way to go, Girlfriend!!!!!!!!
I guess great minds think alike, right?
That had to be infuriating and deflating at the same time. I don't know whether there will be any other opportunities to pass these thoughts along to them, or even if you would feel up to it. But I think it is something that would be valuable to stress to them again, if you can - either orally or if there is any sort of written group self-evaluation or anything similar. Some people (like the group) need to hear something multiple times before they "get it."
They need to understand that it is important - when working in groups (I guess I should say in this type of group) - to be sure everyone understands what they are supposed to do and, if possible, why; and it can also be helpful to have at least a general idea of what the others in the group are doing. I'm pretty mad at those people right now.
Well, yeah! That's putting it mildly, I would have to say.
You certainly deserve to give yourself some pats on the back for all the good things you did throughout the project and presentation. You jumped some pretty big hurdles, didn't you? and quite beautifully, too.
I don't know those people and I don't know how valuable their opinion is to you. But just remember that some people in the world will find a way to find fault with others, no matter what the truth is. I got a big boost one time when someone pointed out to me (after someone had said something cutting to me): "Consider the source." If the group acted or spoke brutally or unkindly towards you, that says more about them than it does about you.You did it!! Thank You!!! "Consider the source." Perfect! Absolutely Perfect! lol (coming from a Great Mind
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All I have to do is not allow it to go to my head... I guess I have a tendancy to do that. But, it isn't going to my head to feel good about myself and what I've accomplished, now is it? Just consider the source. Is it a valuable source? I get it! lol 
Thank you! You have made my day!! I will keep the flower smiley for as long as I can; maybe I should see if I can put it in a glass of water or something to keep it fresh.
I have to remind myself multiple times (especially about some people I know) to Consider the Source. I'll admit I have found that sometimes it helps me keep perspective on myself too. Like this:...
I know that I can be my own worst critic, so when I feel like criticizing myself, if I remind myself to Consider the Source, it can help me to remember that often I am harsh and unrealistic towards myself. Sometimes that can help me to temper my self-criticism. On the other hand...
I know that I can be my own worst critic, so when I feel like complimenting myself about something, if I remind myself to Consider the Source, I can remember that my self-compliment may have more value than the words of someone else who doesn't really understand what I've been through.
I hope tomorrow is a much better day for you, and I hope you will sleep well tonight. I'd better say goodnight - maybe we'll meet again tomorrow.
Hey Rafini,
For what it's worth, I think you did an excellent job, if your group received 193 out of a possible 200 for score. That's damn good!
Remember, perfection can only be obtain on an individual basis and only for a brief moment. It is 100x harder to do it in a group.
Edit: Awesome job! Congrats! You're quite welcome.
I am going to tell you why? But, I want you to accept it for whatever it is worth.
The reason you let things keep bothering you is because you hate failure and you are too hard on yourself, each and every time, you fail to accomplish.
You could accomplish 20 things, but fail to do one and the 20 before it would no longer matter as much as the failed attempt.
You place too much value on failing, when you only need to accept the fact(really accept it) you are indeed human and will fail from time to time. Acceptance that you will make mistakes will lessen the impact of making mistakes. Because, they are expected.
No one is perfect and no one can be but for a moment in time. A person can create some sort of perfection, but it can never be maintained, striving for it, causes depression and low self-esteem, unless you can create 100x more positive effects to offset the one mistake that does happen.
That's my thoughts on it.- excellent thoughts. Ones I'm sure I've heard before and I know I've told myself....I think I've even posted a comment in these forums saying "Nobody's perfect". So how is it I can understand the concept yet fail to implement it? (sorry, kind of a rhetorical question....)
You do say something new to me - I hate failure. I think I knew that, but didn't really believe (?) it. Too much value on failing....so, how much of a value does failing deserve? Obviously less, lol, but....how to determine how much less? (sorry, same as above...lol...kind of a rhetorical question)
Thanks for listening, I really appreciate it. So you're saying I'm expecting myself to produce 'perfect' results therefore when I fail there's too much emphasis on it because it wasn't 'perfect'? My god! I would have thought by now I'd have gotten passed this problem!! I worked pretty hard at it before becoming an adult and it seems like my entire adult life has been one huge failure after another....
Assess actions of failure...in what way? Like, through journaling? So...what I should be doing right now is evaluating my actions and reviewing the steps that brought me to my actions and see if there was something I missed. (brainstorm for all available options?) Then, if I don't find a missed option, remind myself to be more aware. I can try this.
You summarized well except it was a group effort to set up for failure but I'm not believing it was intentional. It was due to their ignorance and disbelief that I was lacking in social interactions - even after I told them.
- Hi, Cagsil. Kinda better - got a headache (I don't take asperin for some reason...lol) and I keep rehashing everything. But I'll be okay. Thanks for asking. xoxoxoxox
How about you?I am doing well. I have to say so far it has been an interesting day, to say the least.
I'm great.
Glad to hear you're doing well. Anything new Fluffy?
Where is everyone?
Hi, anyone -
I don't know if anyone is still around here. I've been dipping into some other forums to ask questions, to answer one or two, to comment - and my blood pressure is getting higher! It must be time for me to stop.
Good point!
In one case, I hadn't read any of the posts earlier, but the title caught my eye tonight. So I read almost the entire series of threads. I think it was too much to take in all at once. The original posts had been spread out over days, maybe even weeks.
"Stopping" is my way of trying not to let them get to me.- well, that would explain why I didn't get it!
thought it was after midnight hours ago? how come you're still up? I slept most of the day today, so I'm not tired now. my headache is dull enough that I can think straight (mostly!) but it's midnight here, now.
Yeah, it really is time to turn in here (1am). I just popped in to this thread to blow off a little bit of steam where there were some friendly faces around. I think it's a good idea for me to follow Ohma's suggestion and just turn off the computer.
Oiii 7pm here, hello????? hello?????? echo cho cho....
(Looks down at microphone.....) Is this thing on?Hello everyone
I am doing well Precious. I hope you are as well. Nice to see you again.
I am glad you were able to find something to make you smile, that means less work for me to do.
Being self-obsessed isn't a bad thing, as long as, you make useful efforts to make positive effects.
I'm always trying to self-improve, keep my mind open and be able to talk to almost anyone, about anything. Civility is not over rated, but missing in much of society.Actually, if you really stop and think about it, a lot of what our parent said has come true to an extent. However, even their limited capacity stunted our expansion, with regards to knowledge and wisdom, such as discerning the truth from things.
This is something I was never told as a child- *you must discern truth.
My family has always seen truth as relative to what they have learned and experienced, instead of adding in other factors.
It is funny how we sound like our parents. I always get a chuckle out of it, when I am reminded of something I was told by them. I do not find it sad, just sort of funny.
Now that's a shame. (have you read the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People?)
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