Can a guy be friends with a gal?

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   Agnes Pennposted 12 years ago

   Can a guy be friends with a gal?
   
   My grandparents often said, "the mouse was a friend to the cheese and the mouse ate the cheese!"  Can men and women remain strictly friends?

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   Credence2posted 12 years ago

   Yes, it is possible with the right man or right women. A certain maturity would be expected.

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   Sunshine625posted 12 years ago

   Absolutely! I have a few male friends and I appreciate their friendship.

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   As long as they are not physically attracted to each other. Even with that once one of them falls in love with a significant other they want be spending much time with their "opposite sex friends".  Most girlfriends don't want their boyfriends hanging out other women and vice versa. Most people will choose love of their significant other over friendship in the end.

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   WhatBigJohnThinksposted 12 years ago

   One of the questions that has stumped man-kind for ions. The short answer I think is no.

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   cat on a soapboxposted 12 years ago

   Yes, but that doesn't mean there won't be some sexual tension if both are hetero. In most cases, I wouldn't recommend maintaining these relationships once married if the friend remains single.

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   nikki_mposted 12 years ago

   I think it's possible, but it definitely depends on the individuals and the dynamic of the relationship. It's a lot easier to be friends with someone at work, where it's more of a casual fashion, but spending a lot of time together, getting to know each other, becoming "best" friends sort of thing, would make the relationship complicated. Even if the individuals don't have any kind of sexual attraction, it can cause problems with their significant others.

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   Jennie Demarioposted 12 years ago

   Depends on how attractive they are.. LOL.  Kidding of course.  There are plenty of variables involved in such a friendship.  Did they grow up together or is it a new friendship?  Anything is possible but I have seen friend zone situations end rather dramatically.   Things get weird real fast if it is more than platonic for just one of the two.

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   calpol25posted 12 years ago

   It works for gay people all the time because women do not say gay men as a threat, and men do not see gay women as a threat.  So yes they can be friends.

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    .josh.posted 12 years ago

    Absolutely -- is there the potential for complications? Sure, but the idea that men and women can't be friends is ludicrous; some of my best friends are women, and while there have been issues with crushes and such in the past, it has always been dealt with maturely, and never ended with cheating.
    
    And for those who do answer no, I wonder what this means for people who are bisexual. Are they allowed to have friends at all?

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    Cardisaposted 12 years ago

    I don't see why not. If they respect each other and there is no hidden agenda. A male female relationship can prove to be very healthy for both.

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    edhanposted 12 years ago

    Yes. Definitely.
    
    I have been friends with some gals for more than 20 years. We have a great time together in outing.
    
    It is all in your mind. If you regards them as friends, it will be the same for them to you.

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    nightwork4posted 12 years ago

    of course a guy and a girl can be friends. i have some female friends and it's nevber been an issue. when i was single, it was cool because we could turn to each other for sex instead of picking up someone who would end up being bad in bed. also it's nice to have a friend who can give you a female understanding of certain things.

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    jacqui2011posted 12 years ago

    Definitely yes. I have a couple of friends who are men. One is single and the other is married. There have never been any complications as we are "just friends." I think it depends on the people as individuals - there could be complications ahead in some cases if there is a chemistry between the two.

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    Kate Hposted 12 years ago

    I think it really depends on the individuals involved.  If they are flirtatious people naturally this is a bad situation for friendship.  If they are single, this will never work with most people in my opinion.  And like someone stated earlier it really depends on how much you see the person and how close you become. 
    
    For me personally, I don't have guy friends unless they are mutual friends with my boyfriend and they are all in a relationship.  I really think if I got to know a guy very well and we talked more than a couple days a week it could easily progress into more.  Why put myself in the position of having feelings for a friend?  But I know lots of people who have friends of the opposite sex so I'm sure with certain people who aren't at all attracted to each other, it would work out okay.

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    nabeelplusposted 12 years ago

    I dont think so, due to the opposite gender there is a fair chance that someday or the other the feelings will generate in either of the sex

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    sj_workman79posted 12 years ago

    I think it's possible if you are single but once you aren't it becomes a sticky situation. Male friends I used to spend time with alone platonically in the past I no longer do out of respect to my husband. I only do in groups now. I've lost touch with a lot of male friends now that I'm married which sucks, but my husband is more important to me.

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    selfdefenselessonposted 12 years ago

    Yes. If he isn't attracted to her at all. Like there's no physical attraction.
    
    Also if the man is in a loving fulfilling relationship that he doesn't want to lose.

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    danielleantoszposted 12 years ago

    This is a tough one for sure.  When I was single, I found it nearly impossible to have a completely "platonic" friendship with a guy. Now that I have been in a long term relationship it is much easier to "just be friends".   It is possible, but can get complicated.

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    mickaa2001posted 12 years ago

    yes thats totally possible. Guys are great to hang out with and get man advice. When we are young we have guy friends and its cool. i had a boy that I made play barbies with me. So as adults we should still have just friends not lovers not fwb but just friends. I have guy friends with no possiblity of anything happening and its great

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