I've just completed a hub on what valentines day gifts for what men really want. Looking into a woman's perspective, I think there is a real conflict of interests! So, thought that a discussion on this would be really helpful...
So what do you think men really want?
I will start...
a takeaway, followed by watching fav sport of tv.. a tinny and a quickie (provided he isnt full with the takeaway and pished with the beer!) ... will the guys be honest in this thread or do you think guys will tell us girls what they THINK we want to hear?
(p.s. I know this is a sweeping generalisation, but thought it might be fun!)
My hubby is dead set on getting a recliner I told him he has to wait until we get a bigger place and we have the room. Plus my mom might be giving us my grandpa's recliiner (the one who passed) and we love that thought because having something that belonged to him is great.
And also I think a nice home-made meal, a beer like Shade said...while ur dressed in a sexy lingerie lol
guys ulimately (I think) want what we want. To be cared for. HOW they want it demonstrated varies from women....but seriously, I can think of a few things that would make any man happy, and they are all free. whats wrong with that?
I suppose I'm lucky, mine wants pretty much what I want...a Papa Murphy's pizza, one of my homemade pumpkin pecan cheesecakes, and a good movie to be enjoyed on the couch at home...with the curtains closed.
Valentine's day . . . jeez, is it that close already?! What do men really want? Can't speak for all men, but if I'm in a relationship and I'm happy with it, I already have what I want. If not, Valentine's Day doesn't really register on the radar. Strange, though, women who never give me the time of day are suddenly very interested in me in the days leading up to Feb14.
A lady, that would know how to give a boost to his ego - at least this is what one guy has recently told me.
In other words, get a nice evening dress out (the one that makes you look stunning), stilettos, nice perfume, behave like a lady, make everyone around look at you and be fascinated by the way you look, BUT pay attention only to your man. At the same time let him (and ONLY him) see what indecent things are on your mind...
I think the idea stays the same, though the means may change a bit (like stilettos can be replaced by flats or indecent things with good memories, etc). In addition, if you've been married for so long, appearance is not that important - I'm sure your partner would just appreciate an effort to look good. You'd look very nice to him anyway.
From my experience that is true only for a short while, as the the wound to your beating heart at her death is soon a small delicate scar that gives warmth and comfort in the cold nights alone. When you are truly as one in life it can never be undone not even unto death. You then can but await, with sweet anticipation, the day you will be once again together. and while knowing the day will most certainly come, as it must. Using all that she has given you in life to see and feel all things more certainly and tenderly and with the beauty that life gives in color texture, sight, sound and soul..Things like each of you and all of you...
/sagging and wrinkles are only in your (emphasis your) mind. They may even be reality, but to your knight his maiden fair is there before him everyday, fair and lovely as the day you met and he knew he must hand you his heart and soul. So Fear not about time and its changes instead treasure every day that you have...
To answer the topic, -- A wink a smile and the passion returned that he sees in you..XXOO
Hehehe...I've recently gotten a taste of this, I can always tell when my name comes up at my husband's work...he works in the hospital, and many of the women are jealous of my hair and all of the wonderful things he says about me, while the men point out -- respectfully -- that they've definitely noticed the "pretty young thing" he has at home. I've never considered myself much to look at so it's a nice ego stroke for me, but from the huge grin on his face I can tell it's at least as much a one for him.
That said, he's on call Valentine's Day weekend so I'm guessing he'll be wanting the dishes washed (something he often does) and some food that he doesn't have to cook (something he usually does...he's better at it than I am ). All the fun gets to come in the weekend before
i can't speak for all guys, and I don't have a girl friend at the moment either. However, my only wish from a girl on valentine's day would be just to be with her. Heck, her company and love alone would be the best gift of all to me. i know that sounds cliche and silly to be honest, but that's what i would want from a girl. just her love and company. and by love, i don't mean anything has to happen between us either. just being with her and seeing her smile at being with me would be enough to show her love for me.
From a mans point of view... I wanted true love... I actually found it and got married on valentines day... We were married for 12 not so great years and had 5 kids together before the divorce... That was 18 years ago... Do I still love her? Sure I do... She is the mother of my children... If given the chance, would I do it again ? Not on your life !!! Not unless I knew then what I know now... We were far to young and far too much in love to care about anything else... Even though I love her still, I would never do it again under the circumstances...
I want someone to be there when i give that girl her gifts, and make her smile and giggle, it it such a great feeling when I give the ladies things on Valentines day. There reaction is really something that you dont forget.
This is my first Valentines day without having a Valentine ...Maybe next year.
This is a beautiful topic and I am truly glad that there are some men still out there that get the idea that love should be given as well as received.
In my personal experience, though, men just want one thing and that is to be serviced on Valentine's Day. The majority of them, in my opinion, expect to be catered to on that day without doing anything in return for us ladies. They feel that if we ladies do all of the cute things for them, cook for them, clean for them, dress provocatively for them (whether in evening gown & heels, sexy lingerie, or nothing at all), then we like doing that no matter how they treat us on the days prior to Valentine's Day. They all too often think that everything is all hunky-dorey with our feelings and any uncaring behavior on their part is forgiven. They act as if we're being paid to love them... there's another word for that!
Often, too, if we do those nice things for them, they don't feel that they should reciprocate the kindness and the effort that we put into it. Don't give them the excuse of "well, their men and they're not as creative as we women are". Just put something in front of them that they WANT to do, like feed their faces or play video games in their stinking underwear, they get creative real fast.
If a woman WANTS to give their man something that HE wants, that's all fine and good. But, that man had better realize what a great gift he's been given and he had better WANT to do the same for her. Men do NOT deserve our attention if they're not going to give US attention, too. Don't forget that, ladies. You're not a piece of meat that he's paid for.
Think real, Gifting things are just a formality. I would say most of the men would want is that his women will be with him for the every second of life's Ups and downs No matters what. Whoever say whatever , the real commitment Men want is this one.
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