By taking a long, honest look at what I am doing with life and when I do, I usually find that I am shortchanging myself.
When we perceive ourselves as getting the short end of the stick, yes, we usually do indeed!
"The short end of the stick (bat) used to be the way we decided who should go to bat first in a pickup game of baseball. It made that person the winner.
I take it one day at a time. Some days are better than others.
You have ups and downs in life. One day your up and it never seems like enough. One day your down and you never think you'll be back up again.
Living in circles.
The best way to deal with being "shortchanged in life" is to make a greater investment.
I don't deal with it. It's too exhausting and overwhelming to deal with how many things in life I feel shortchanged by. I just have to look at it as God blessed the crap out of me!
Seriously...I lost my job in the recession, got Rheumatoid arthritis (previously healthy person, no smoking, drinking, drugs, and exercised and ate very healthy). That's why I'll disagree with the people who comment about how we shortchange ourselves. That's like telling people somehow they caused the hundreds of autoimmune illnesses out there like mine with no cause.
You basically have to hope one day things will get better. Honestly I think about other people who have it worse or the person who overcame a lot without arms or legs or something like that. I can agree to some extent that it's mind over matter on how we deal with what we've been given, but some days I have just enough energy to deal with what's on my plate, not worrying about why it's there.
I couldn't agree more w/ your statement about people who feel we shortchange ourselves! You're exactly right. Did the woman who was hit/ killed by a car on her 30th birthday in LA last week, or the victims of 9/11 shortchange themselves? Best 2 u
I suppose people who say so mean that we shortchange ourselves when we behave negatively - the usual negative behaviors - but yes, the circumstances without our control do not constitute short changing ourselves. All the best to you.
Even though my situation for example, is out of my control, I feel short-changed...losing my youth in my mid-thrities to pain and arthritis. I agree with the people who've said it's usually the outlook we have.
Quotes help me. I like this one by Louisa Mae Alcott: "Life breaks everyone, and many are strong in the broken places." She also wrote, "I'm not afraid of storms for I'm learning to sail my ship." But the quote that helped me through the worst time of my life is from Neitzche: "He who has a 'why' to his existence, can bear with almost any 'how'. The secret, I believe, is to work on gratitude for all that is left. I essentially lost everything I cherished when my husband left. The picture I was painting of my life and family was ripped to shreds, and I often feel very "short-changed". However, I look at those thoughts of regret as a bad dragon that sits off of my left shoulder. I can feed that dragon and make those regrets bigger, or I can look to the beautiful, multi-colored dragon who sits on my right. He is the dragon of plans I have, my projects, my dreams, my appreciation for all that's good in my life. I try hard to turn away from the bad dragon and look to the good dragon and feed him with all of the attention he deserves.
I measure the value of what I've lost. If it is of value, I stand up for what is right. If not, I learn from it and move on. I've learned to pick my battles.
There is no doubt that some individuals have it easier than others. There is nothing that can be done about the circumstances we were born in, or bad things that happen that are beyond our control.
I think the best way to deal with it is to overcome circumstances with action such as education, or physical activity, or helping others. In a person's quest to overcome, the person will probably find that he/she is happier and that being "shortchanged" is no longer an obstacle. Being "shortchanged" may even become a gift because it gives a person strengths others do not have.
In order to be short changed in life, you have to compare yourself with something or someone. Once you realize we are all unique, there is no comparison that has to be made. We are all special in our own way. If there is something that is giving you negative feelings, count your blessings. If you still have negative feelings, reframe your focus. There is alway a flip-side to the coin of every issue. Focus on the positive side of the coin, not the negaive side.
I blame everyone except for myself. That's the American way y'know!!
...kidding, folks, I'm kidding.
IN INDIA THAT TOO DOWN SOUTH WE CALL IT LUCK IF WE GET WHAT WE WANT AND CALL IT FATE WHEN WE DO NOT GET WHAT WE WANT.
Take it on the chin and keep going really, the thing is not to let yourself become bitter by taking it personally. Some people or things will have you come off worse than better. As long as you don't end up becoming bitter then it's just another event in life's rich tapestry!
I used to ask that question...I think in our lives we will experience something that looks like an injustice, sometimes more than once..as in the book "Why do bad things happen to good people?"
It takes a long time to see those "injustices" as an avenue for growth. Certainly not while one is steeped into the situation.
The best way is to reverse the situation. Will you take an eye for an eye or a tooth for a tooth, knowing that you can, or will you turn the other cheek? It does not matter what you choose. Just know that either action is a path.
Yes, we all know that we have to look the other way, and doing do is the difficult part, especially when we are in the situation. Just know to look the right way, in ripe time.
Fight it all the way. When I can't fight it -I try hard to go with the flow. I suppose that some things are just worth more than money. Others are worth little now and more later on.
We do our best with what we're given, indeed.
This is it Midget. We can really only do what we can and there will always be people who like to be mean and unfair to others-sadly. Ignore and carry on.
I accept my circumstances, and accept that I have the power to change them.
This question and its subsequent answers combine for some of the most enlightening and thought provoking dialogue I have seen here on hub pages. In my humble opinion there are no right or wrong, black or white, or easy answers.
For me, I have learned that when I feel shortchanged it is an indication that I have some internal re-evaluation to accomplish. I first look at my definition of short-changed. (Short changed compared to what)
Each time I do this I find that I had been developing a negative view in that particular area of my life. That re-evaluation or self-examination causes me to focus on being more grateful for what I do have and eventually the feeling of being short changed dissipates. (Not over night mind you, but it does dissipate)
I also want to take this opportunity to thank my fellow hubbers here who have offered pieces of themselves, exposed their inner feelings so to speak, to help others see a potentially different and healing perspective!!!
Gratitude is indeed the key....and if we stop looking at our circumstances as debilitating, they're so much easier to overcome! And thanks too, for contributing to the discussion and I hope that it provides the healing we all need!
It's not clear to me that I have been "shortchanged in life." The metaphor seems to refer to situations where I "get back" less than I "should", perhaps in relation to what I "paid" in terms of time, money, effort or caring.
But while I sometimes feel that I put out a lot and received little, I must in fairness recognize that I am also the recipient of a long, long list of advantages for which I put out exactly nothing. Who can say how these things balance out? So, how can I say that my occasional feelings of being "shortchanged" really have any validity?
Best to get on with playing the hand I've been dealt.
Being shortchanged occurs in a relationship between two individuals. Shortchanging is engaged in mostly by institutions, corporations and countries; the individual is a victim of social injustice. read more
With a cold one and the realization that that's just the way it is.
I think you just have to keep your chin up and look on the bright side. There might be people who have more than you, but there are also people who have less. It's a good idea to make the best out of what you have. Always look toward making your life better; it doesn't always have to be with something big. Start with something small and be happy!
Believe there is no such thing, and learn how to count your blessings opposed to your misfortunes.
Everything in life happens for a reason and believe me there are times (especially lately) that I question it and then another door opens that gives me a new purpose or reason for being grateful. With every medical issue, passing of others, etc. etc etc. I have learned that what is here on this earth, and my spirituality is a gift incomparable to any amount of money, relationship, or material thing that I could ever have.
Remember if it wasn't for those days when it seems all is lost and there is no way to get out of the hole we seem to have fallen into, the days when we are really blessed would have nothing to be compared too.
A blessing received is the result of a blessing given. Think about it.
According to The Secret you receive what you perceive which revolves around our attitude and thoughts. Try it you'll be amazed at the results. I think it's a matter of faith.
I pray to God daily and always try to be positive. I also always try to be a blessing to others every where I go.
When I get short Changed it is only because I myself neglected to count the change before walking away from the cashier.
You always have the option of speaking up when you get the short end of the stick.
Something happened, it just happened, We cannot change the fact. The only thing we can do is to find out why it happened and to avoid it happening again. Learn something from what happened to you and keep going forward. Our personal power is very limited. I would do whatever I need and whatever I can and leave the rest to our Creator. He knows everything and can take care of everything else.
Take it as it comes. We all get shortchanged somehow, in some way, many times in our lives, and have very little control over it. Personally, it's easier for me to rant about it to someone willing to listen, and then try to move on and learn from the experience if possible. I think being shortchanged by others, and by circumstances beyond our control, are opportunities for learning even if it doesn't seem like it at the time.
I do the best I can, with the abilities I have and accept the things I cannot change.
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