How do you feel when someone talks about death?
Death to me is an inevitable end to all life, but others look very overwhelmed when I mention death or dying. I'm not necessarily talking about my own demise, but sometimes during a general conversation about life.
I can talk about death. At one time in my life it scared me but that was long ago. I think we must all accept it since there is no way around it. I have been close to it more than once so maybe why it is not scary to me.
It doesn't bother me at all if someone talks about death. We are all headed there anyway. I've written a hub about it titled: Where, O Death, Is Your Sting?
One way people can be categorized is as either spiritual or materialistic. Those of the former view tend to consider death less important than do most materialists, who by definition believe that this life is all they ever will see. It's a generalization, of course, but you can say spiritualists characteristically don't fear death because they believe this world is the illusion and the real one is to come, while materialists do fear it because they believe spirituality is an illusion and this world is the only one.
In that classification, I'm a spiritualist. I don't at all mind thinking and talking about death, and the prospect of it holds no fear for me.
I don't mind if someone mentions someone who has died, but I'm not particularly a fan of talking of death. Then again, I don't mind if someone talks about "life after death" or about their belief that there's not such a thing - or that kind of thing (but that's more of a "debate" kind of thing to me, not really talking specifically about dying).
Life is short (I learned that one a long time ago). I don't want to use my "brain time" here, talking too much about death. I'm not afraid of it or spooked by it. I just don't want to spend my brain time thinking and talking about it.
I feel awkward and sad, and lost and confused about it because I really have no ideas what it means, and I know if I am faced with it it will scare the $&@% out of me... but I also feel it has to be talked about because it will happen, talking is like a reminder that it will come.
It's a fact that we all have to accept will eventually happen to each and every one of us. I feel it's a matter that should be openly spoken about. I personally have no problem speaking on the subject.
For me, death is merely a passage to the next phase of existence.
The mortal consciousness may be gone, with its identity, attitudes and beliefs, but the immortal, true self (child of God) persists.
If the person is discussing death philosophically, I'm comfortable discussing such things.
If they are in pain or anguish over a recent death or their own imminent demise, I would like to remain compassionate and supportive, but I don't know how strong I would be until it happens.
I like having such conversations. Yes, serial killers are a hobby as well as knowing herbal poisons in different countries. But I like hearing about the possibilities of how people react to death. There are the five steps every person makes when they face death (there is a great youtube video about it "giraff and death steps"). There are my own emotions about my beloved grandmother dieing. And then there consists of my belief system. I do believe the dead watch over us from heaven. The two children who have visited heaven have convinced me of that. Though the most difficult piece to the puzzle is what happens after death which I then debate with the philosophy view.
So... A lot!
No, talking about it doesn't bother me. My faith give me that. I do notice a lot of people do not like to talk about it or even hear about it.
I don't want to focus on the death process--but talking about death is a good thing (in balance, of course). It helps people to think about the fragility of life and hopefully that will motivate them to live for a higher purpose than temporal pleasures. I've written a lot about death--probably 1/3 of my hubs are on this topic. I've experience a lot of death in my life so it's something I've had to face since I was a young child. It has been a sad journey in many ways, but one that has taught me to value life and the time I do have here and with others. I think many people who don't want to talk about it is because they fear it. People fear the "unknown." Those that believe they know what waits on the other side of eternity probably don't fear it. I look forward to the new life that will come through the passageway of death. (But I'm not in a hurry to get there until I've accomplished what this life is for!). Good question!
I feel okay about it because I truly believe "we are not this body, but an eternal spirit-soul." People who aren't sure or who believe we die with the body would, of course, feel quite differently.
When someone talks about death it doesn't bother me at all. I lost my father when I was ten years old. It seemed after he died more family members did too, then friends. It was always difficult but I was use to it.
Some people don't even want to think of dying, it's too scary,even though it's going to happen to everyone. We all have that in common. I love how some cultures embrace death and have celebrations for days.
Death, the word itself feels gloomy. Death of old people is easy to digest, but when I see young people dying, it makes me sad and depressed.
When I talk about death I feel that I am not ready yet because I still want to be my loved ones. It's kinda scary but I know it is unstoppable.
I am not affected by talks of death previously until last November 2011 when my elder brother died suddenly at the age of 48 years old in his living room. I still can't get over it and sometimes find myself crying whenever his memories cross my mind. I believe he should still be alive today if his attending doctor was aggressive enough to look into his complaint of chest pain and breathlessness.
So now whenever someone talks of death, I really get so depressed sometimes to the point that I become less productive at work.
There was a time when talking about death was fear. I believe it was because I had gone so far away from God. As soon as I obeyed Him, the fear began to lessen. Today I am in awe of the possibilities that can be after this life, but I am secure in staying here in order to grow closer to Jesus and help others come to Him so that He can cleanse and save them.
Now death is a subject I desire to talk with others about. I have been there without actually dying.
i don't like the conversation about death, for me life is beautiful and i want to keep on living it with every one who is part of my life.
I would allow myself to get involved in such topic though I know i would feel sad and sorry somehow...ever since my dear grandfather and mom left me 30 and 20 years back, I have come to know that we have to face it bravely no matter how we love those beloved one or how we are loved by them...
Death is a natural process, but that doesn't change how saddening it is to lose a loved one to death. To me it's sad because I'd no longer get to see the amazing person. I'd miss them so much! I'd try to take as much pleasure out of the memories that I had with the person, but when I'm walking around I'd hope to see them and wouldn't be able to.
When someone mentions death, it just makes me think of everything that comes to my mind in relation to death. I feel sad because I think about how a loved one of mine could die. I feel even more motivated to finish my pursuits so that if I were to die, I would feel fulfilled with my experiences and growth as a person.
It does not bother me at all. This is our destiny and eventually we all have to get there sooner or later.
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