What Makes a Man Ugly?

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   Rishy Richposted 15 years ago

   Tell me what not to do?

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      Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Do not:
      
      Open your mouth and speak around women.
      Eat food in front of anyone.
      Breath to heavy on anyone.
      Forget to take a shower, at least every other day.
      Forget her name.
      Forget her phone number.
      
      And, absolutely do not forget to put to keep your penile tool in your pocket, until she is ready, able and willing to accept it.
      
      Well, from this point of view....there isn't much that doesn't make a man ugly. So good luck.

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         free4indiaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         nice points

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      MordechaiZoltanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      I myself am ugly however I found the following to be received positively by the opposite sex:
      1. Mention your love of snuggling.
      2. Advertise your burning desire to share feelings.
      3. Never offer advice-just listen.
      4. Ask questions.
      5. Tell her that if you were not able to hold hands you would perish.
      
      Please note that I am single however!

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      Justine76posted 15 years agoin reply to this

      dont lie, break promises, and dont be purposefully cruel.

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      prettydarkhorseposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      physically is the usual stuff just maintain cleanliness in your body
      
      overbearing nature plus being irresposible and the attitude of I dont care--no no for me

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      cosetteposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      i think when men brag about how "well-endowed" they are , or make lewd remarks and gestures or get in your face. last night at the grocery store i was minding my own business and this motorcycleish dude kept following me, so i diverted into the feminine products aisle thinking i would be safe there and there he is right in front of me two inches away so i ignored him and he goes "I WONT BITE" and i just turned around and he goes "Pfft". anyway, pushy men, along with the other traits i mentioned are the most unattractive any way you slice it.

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      rebekahELLEposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      don't be rude, arrogant or slovenly dressed.
      
      most decent women like a nice man with manners. bad boys are highly overrated.

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      qwarkposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      what do you mean? ugly???

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      cosetteposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      don't be a whiny little beyotch.

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         drej2522posted 15 years agoin reply to this

         haha...I think that goes the same for the gals!

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      RachaelLeflerposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      I know, fashion wise, all men look better in a suit than in casual clothes.
      
      Also, do not brag or talk about yourself too much, or generally be a jerk, you should know what this means if you were raised with any sort of manners...

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         RachaelLeflerposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Plus, you can't be a cheapskate. Especially on the first date because you want to make a good impression. Coupons are bad. Asking her for money is bad. That doesn't mean that you have to take her out to the most expensive restaurant ever, just a guy paying for my hot dog at A and W would be great for me, or something. But if you do splurge on an expensive date, you are almost guaranteed to get laid.

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   Stevennix2001posted 15 years ago

   well starting with common sense, don't be a freaking slob where you don't take a bath for days or possibly months at a time.  Don't scratch yourself in inappropriate places.  brush your teeth two to three times daily.  wear good looking and CLEAN clothes.  and most of all DISCO IS FREAKING DEAD!!!!  There, that should be enough to start you off.  the rest, i'm sure some of our own hubpages ladies can help you figure out the rest.  lol.

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      Ghost32posted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Pretty good list of tips.  Now...if I can just FIND my teeth, maybe I can brush 'em....

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   HubChiefposted 15 years ago

   The skeptical intentions!!

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   skyfireposted 15 years ago

   I see, why i'm single.

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      Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Even that's believable over the "GOD" concept.

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   Pani Midnyte Odinposted 15 years ago

   1. Personal hygiene is very important.
   2. Make us feel at ease around you.
   3. Don't talk about yourself too much.
   4. Make us feel special, like we are the only person in the world at that moment.
   5. Call us beautiful instead of cute or hot.
   6. Just reach out and hold us once in awhile without expecting anything in return.
   7. When you kiss us, don't go straight down our throats with your tongue. Instead, gently kiss us with your mouth partially open and wait for us to take the lead.
   8. Hold our hands sometimes. Make us feel like you are proud to be seen in public with us.
   9. Let us know that you want us, need us, and love us without being overly obsessive about it.
   10. Just be yourself.

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      Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      You lost every single man right there.   You know they cannot be themselves. Their ego is too much in the way, they always have to pretend to be something else.

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      skyfireposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      If last one is applied then remaining 9 will fall for sure.

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      Hokeyposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      I already do all this. I must just hook up with the wrong ones. I am laid back. Usually they pick me. Maybe that's the problem. 

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      RachaelLeflerposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      What's wrong with being called cute or hot, not beautiful? I like any compliments...

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         RachaelLeflerposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         I think, honestly, if a guy was gonna follow your rules 1-9, rule number 10 would kind of go out the window because the guy would have to be faking something.

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            RachaelLeflerposted 15 years agoin reply to this

            And how the hell is number 9 possible? You're making it seem so hard to be a guy... honestly...

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               Pani Midnyte Odinposted 15 years agoin reply to this

               It's not impossible to make someone feel loved and needed without being overly obsessive about it.
               
               For example, I once dated a man who LITERALLY never stopped touching me unless I went to the bathroom. I dated him for a total of three days.

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            Pani Midnyte Odinposted 15 years agoin reply to this

            #10 would not fly out the window. I've met many men who behave in these ways and that IS who they are. They were taught manners and respect for women, something most men seem to have forgotten completely or were never taught.

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         Pani Midnyte Odinposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Well, I would call a kitten or a puppy cute. And to me, calling someone hot is cheap or trashy.
         
         I'd rather be called beautiful, pretty, or sexy than be compared to a kitten or a puppy or a pin up poster.

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   pinkyleeposted 15 years ago

   i personally think men need to not lie so much and cheat .. this goes for women as well as it is 50/50. stay clean, give the woman every reason in the world to trust you rather every reason not to,make her feel wanted as a person and not a sex object...just a few off the top of my head

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   lyricsingrayposted 15 years ago

   bad manners and unclean toe and fingernails, untrimmed nose and ear hair and bad breath.

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      Hokeyposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      I will make sure I bathe. 

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   Rishy Richposted 15 years ago

   I guess its easier to b single

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      RachaelLeflerposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      it totally is. but it's fun to have a relationship too... less boring and lonely!

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   StormRyderposted 15 years ago

   Aside from the physical which has been pointed out already I would say arrogance is a big turn off and can make the most attractive man ugly.

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    pooja0908posted 15 years ago

    His selfish and self centered nature

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       pooja0908posted 15 years agoin reply to this

       A man is ugly for others who thinks about himself only without taking care of others feelings or desires. Physical charm cannot be with him ever so it does not get much importance.

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    earnestshubposted 15 years ago

    I don't get this question. We are all ugly or beautiful to someone. I do not have much regard for concepts of 'ugly' except when someone male or female has an ugly disposition.
    I have never cared what females thought of my looks or my clothes. Take me how I am or leave it out has been my way of seeing it, and I have had plenty of beautiful females in my life.

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       AnythingArtzyposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       I don't usually agree with you on much earnest but I do on this.   True Ugliness/beauty comes from the inside but I do have to agree that hygene is very important for everybody.

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       seasoningposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       he he we can see that earnesthub.....  mind if i leave you, only joking of course.... you must care what your wife thinks surely?

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       WriteAngledposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Absolutely agree. Some men who certainly do not have classical good looks can be immensely attractive. For me, Leonard Bernstein was one of the hottest men ever. It was the way he moved to the music while he conducted that did it  *melt*
       
       Attitude is vital. Ex no. 1 was a control freak and convinced his way of thinking and doing things was the only way. Anyone who disagreed was an emotional cripple, a failure, insane or all three.
       
       I also agree with the comments on personal hygiene and general slobbishness. That is what killed it with ex no. 2, who thought once he was married he no longer had to bother.

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       ceciliabeltranposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       well, not to flirt with you but you don't exactly look like a horse, hence the women.

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    Misterlakposted 15 years ago

    I would say that somebody is ugly when that person is trying to be evil. It's the most unatractive feature of somebody.

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    poetlorraineposted 15 years ago

    the question is what makes a man ugly.....
    
    well i only know what makes him attractive sorry...
    
    kind eyes.....
    
    caring disposition,
    
    teeth are quite important.....
    
    smelly men, are a bit of a turn off....
    
    I have men in mind who i consider attractive, but actually they do not necessarily look great..... it is more that they are nice to be around.  An ugly man could be beautiful on the outside, but you get a strong feeling, you just do not want to be around him.....
    
    That is my take on this

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    AEvansposted 15 years ago

    What makes a man unattractive is arrogancy and control you can always work on the outside together but you cannot always fix them on the inside.

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    manlypoetrymanposted 15 years ago

    beer bellies...?

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       Justine76posted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Nooooo that makes them Men

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    manlypoetrymanposted 15 years ago

    bushy ear hair...?

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       Justine76posted 15 years agoin reply to this

       I would take a hard working honest man with beer gut and ear hair over a lying, selfish, Brad Pitt look alike.

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          Hauntyposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          Curse my bad luck.

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             Justine76posted 15 years agoin reply to this

             

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    Hauntyposted 15 years ago

    A truly educational thread.

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       Justine76posted 15 years agoin reply to this

       really? Im pretty sure you knew all this ....... 

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          Hauntyposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          Thanks for the credit. lol I didn't know the 'let the woman take the lead while kissing' part. I thought it was all about the tease.

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             Justine76posted 15 years agoin reply to this

             ohhhh....I didnt know there was leading at all....I thought kissing was mutual.

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    Deborah Sextonposted 15 years ago

    The Ugly Man:
    
    Group 1:
    Cruel-sadistic-brutal-savage-heartless-unkind-harsh-inhumane
    To humans, animals or any living thing
    
    Group 2:
    Mocking-scornful-contemptuous-fake-pretender-phony
    Makes something seem laughably unreal or impossible
    Makes fun of and laughs at others and their ideas
    
    Group 3:
    Tyrant-bully-unreasonable-arbitrary-control freak
    
    Group 4:
    Temper-angers easily-out of control of his emotions
    
    Group 5:
    Unrelenting-unforgiving
    
    Group 6:
    Braggart-egoist-big mouth-show-off-liar
    
    Group 7:
    Suspicious-distrusting-cynical
    
    Group 8:
    Vulgar-low class-coarse-rude-dirty-indecent-sleazy-profane-lewd-crude-loud-uneducated
    
    Group 9:
    Sloppy-dirty-too casual-lax-lazy-lack of ambition-lack of purpose-scruffy-not groomed-messy
    
    Group 10:
    Unhealthy-out of shape

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       mega1posted 15 years agoin reply to this

       that about covers it - oh, also when they don't listen!

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    theirishobserver.posted 15 years ago

    wearing a thong when his meat and two veg are hanging out

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    theirishobserver.posted 15 years ago

    cosette, so right, pushy men, I hate them

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    camloposted 15 years ago

    I think a lack of hygiene and grooming makes anyone unattractive. I've never understood how some men can let a thatch of hairs spout from their nostrils and earholes -- that really is revolting, and there are good trimmers on the market nowadays. And men with whiny voices must surely be a turn-off to women.

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    Sara Tonynposted 15 years ago

    What makes a man ugly?
    
    A cold heart, a superiority complex and the need to dominate everyone and everything through disrespect, condescension, sarcasm and intimidation.

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       free4indiaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       does man here mean man like in human or just not woman ?

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    theirishobserver.posted 15 years ago

    Sara your so right

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    Dolores Monetposted 15 years ago

    Once, the magazine GQ I think it was, picked up several homeless men, took them into a studio, cleaned them up, fixed up with some nice clothing and presto - the awful mess they were disappeared. They all became handsome gentlemen.

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    Chaotic Chicaposted 15 years ago

    Ugliness, in my opinion, is not about physical looks.  It's about attitude.  This applies to men and women.  Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and a man who is real, honest, approachable, these things matter.  A man who is not conventionally handsome but treats others with respect and never judges or stereotypes another person is attractive to me. 
    
    If you're looking to score with a chick, forget it, you've already disrespected her. If you're looking for a relationship, get to know her. Play up your strengths, forget about your looks. Listen to her, she will tell you what she wants from you. Until you get to know her, how can you know how to approach her? Be her friend. Be her friend's friend. You can let her know you're interested but you must give her space. Neediness indicates a man who needs a mother, not a lover and that, too, is unattractive.
    
    Bottom line, respect her, treat others fairly and kindly and don't pretend to be someone you are not and the girls worth your time will find you attractive.

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    Dolores Monetposted 15 years ago

    Well, we should all pay attention to looks. I went to Catholic school and even the nuns had a thing about looks and how you keep yourself. 'The body is the temple of the Holy Spirit,' they said. Being attractive is all about being clean and appropriately attired. If some guy is a big, fat, stinky slob, that shows disrespect for himself as well as the people that he meets.

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       Chaotic Chicaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       You are right in that aspect.  What I mean when I say to not worry about your looks is not to be bothered by a crooked nose or a tall forehead or little ears, things about your physical being that you cannot change without unneccesary surgery.  So what if you do not have the looks to grace a magazine spread? Yes, care enough about how you look to be clean, but do not focus on imperfections.
       
       God knew you before you were born and loves you unconditionally.  In His eyes, vanity is a sin and cleanliness is next to godliness.  The two are different.  Care about your health and hygene, not about 'looks'.

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    tantrumposted 15 years ago

    What Makes a Man Ugly?
    
    Pettines and avarice

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    Flightkeeperposted 15 years ago

    I think the better question you should ask yourself Rishy is What Makes a Man Attractive?  There have been ugly men who have attracted women, albeit they're usually rich, but usually plain men are not a turnoff for women if that man has attractive qualities.

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    yenajeonposted 15 years ago

    Be clean and be a gentlemen. There's nothing worse than bad odors and a really rude person. Dressing nice doesnt hurt either!

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    Colebabieposted 15 years ago

    Everything is about balance. If you have good balance in your life you're probably an attractive man.

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    defenestratethisposted 15 years ago

    A guy who is insecure in his masculinity often makes up for it by by being arrogant, mean, and obnoxious. The sexiest men are the confidant ones, who love women not just for their bodies and looks, but for everything that makes them female.

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    MissEposted 15 years ago

    Nothing puts me off more than narcissium!

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    Paradise7posted 15 years ago

    I don't find scrubby facial hair very appealing on men.  Either shave clean or grow a beard.  One or the other.  Make up your mind.  That stubbly look is not for me.  Even if Brad Pitt can get away with it, remember, you aren't Brad Pitt.  Or are you?
    
    Personality is 'nother whole story, and I don't want to cast too many stones as I have a few personal flaws, myself.

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    wordscribe41posted 15 years ago

    The ugliest man I've ever seen is one who's mean to children and/or animals.

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       Paradise7posted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Yes!  I agree so much.  Mean is ugly.

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    errum fattahposted 15 years ago

    the thing which makes a man ugly is;
      do not tease women think them as ur sisters
      do not clean ur bear or u would look gay, n people can't know tht u r man or woman?

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    myownworldposted 15 years ago

    In my eyes, there's no such thing as an 'ugly man'... just ugly traits.
    And even those depend on individual perceptions.

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       tantrumposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       What about bad breath, bad smell, bad environment ??
       
       
       
       

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          myownworldposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          ugly TRAITS all of them!
          
          (And what are you doing near them?! Get away ASAP!! )

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             tantrumposted 15 years agoin reply to this

             I'm never near ! LOL
             
             I love myself too much to let some stinky man come into my life !

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                myownworldposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                  wise choice....
                
                but what if the perfectly clean and sweet smelling man you married began stinking after a while??

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                   tantrumposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                   A hot Bubble Bath and aromatic oils every night
                   

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                      myownworldposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                      
                      yeah I know....but what an effort...... !

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                         tantrumposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                         
                         
                         It depends...but can be worthwhile ! LOL!

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                            myownworldposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                            nah, I prefer the stink...! wait, I didn't just say that...!

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                               tantrumposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                               !!!!!!!

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                                  myownworldposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                                  

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                      Hokeyposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                      and a sponge bath???     

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                         tantrumposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                         Do you need it ??
                         
                         

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    errum fattahposted 15 years ago

    Last year i was on the way to sweden, i found many good people there, friendly, kind and beautifull but the one thing i hate in sweden was tht men were clean shaved so it was difficult to me to know tht who is man n who is woman? cuz most of men were wearing caps n there face were not clear.. thts y i say men should have bear they looks good, much handsome like robbert pattinson having bear now..

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    thisisoliposted 15 years ago

    They say beauty is in symmetry. A symmetrical face is a beautiful face, which is why I hate the fact that mine is a little bit lobsided.

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       myownworldposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       oh C'mon Oli, that symmetry notion is just out dated....I think what you call 'lopsided' might lend character is some one else's eyes.... it's all down to perceptions to be honest....

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          china manposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          I don't think it is outdated - it is the opposite that is outdated.
          
          Form symmetry and balance are how it is made, how we see those things are our subjective view of it.  BUT  if you have one eye one inch higher than the other?, or a very wide nose and small mouth? Symmetry catches most of it, a wide nose with a wide mouth can be beautiful, and glitches can show just how beautiful everything else is.
          
          The idea that we 'just know' from some inner place is Romantic era thinking where painters would move waterfalls to achieve the balance and symmetry to make their idea of beauty.

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    Disturbiaposted 15 years ago

    Dishonesty makes a man ugly... and chewing tobacco, men look really ugly with a wad of chew in their cheek and it's even more ugly when they spit it out!

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    theirishobserver.posted 15 years ago

    G - String with everything hanging out

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       myownworldposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       um...the thread said MEN!

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    theirishobserver.posted 15 years ago

    I was only saying what my girlfriend said when I dressed up as Tarzan

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    Rafiniposted 15 years ago

    What makes a man ugly?
    
    1. a controlling nature
    2. manipulation
    3. deceit
    4. lewd humor
    5. inappropriate dependency while claiming appropriate "strong family ties"
    6. insensitivity to others
    7. selfishness
    8. loud & obnoxious
    9. argumentative (I don't mean men have to always agree - just don't argue ALL the time!)
    10. laziness
    11. physical care mentioned prior
    
    Of course, this applies to women as well!

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    probafixposted 15 years ago

    A short height..

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    anneleahposted 15 years ago

    A man becomes <a href="http://mysexystories.com/blog/2010/02/24/newsflash-ugly-guys-dont-treat-you-better">ugly</a> when he doesn't make himself presentable enough. He doesn't care about what others may say about his attitude or appearance. Like he just don't care about anything.

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    AEvansposted 15 years ago

    Do not be a pessimist all of the time, also be optimistic and always listen to a woman when she is speaking. Be attentive to her and give her respect.

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    Pearldiverposted 15 years ago

    What makes a man ugly huh?
    
    Clearly his parents must take some responsibility for the ugly genes that they passed on!
    
    The ugliest men are those who never learnt to not be angry and take it out on others.

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    Pearldiverposted 15 years ago

    And Spammers are pretty ugly too.

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    blondepoetposted 15 years ago

    What makes a man ugly is a ugly personality.
    A man who doesn't respect women,is violent, rude or talks a pile of crock wash and has his head so far up his butt he may as well be a dim sim.
    He can be the best lookin' sort on the outside but if he doesn't have it going on inside_____________________down he goes.
    Same goes for women.

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    _cheryl_posted 15 years ago

    Do not be anything less than who you really are. Whether you're arrogant, or self conscious, so be it. Not that you shouldn't strive to be your best possible self, but just be real about who you are and what you stand for.

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    cosetteposted 15 years ago

    
    
    i think men in control of their emotions are very sexy...

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       drej2522posted 15 years agoin reply to this

       dammit, I was so close to being sexy in your eyes...
       
       sh1t a$$ crap!!!

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          Cathi Suttonposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          A nose with a bunch of black heads is VERY ugly on a man, (or woman)!

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