How to understand men

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  1. HubPages profile imageSTAFF
    HubPagesposted 14 years ago

    How to understand men

  2. Donna Steiner profile image69
    Donna Steinerposted 14 years ago

    If you really want to understand men, particularly if you are in a relationship with one please get the Anthony Robbins Ultimate Relationship program.  It has been excellent for helping me understand men.  Men really do want to please women, but sometimes our behaviours get in the way.  Please see my profile if you want more details.  I have started a review of the program.


  3. stricktlydating profile image84
    stricktlydatingposted 14 years ago

    Each man is different, you really can't 'generalise' - So the best way to understand him, is to communicate more with him, because the way he feels/thinks and what he wants is not neccessarily what all men feel/think/want.

  4. Cow Flipper profile image74
    Cow Flipperposted 14 years ago

    Men are sexual beings   Also Visit: A Mans How to For Relationships a Guide for Men to Understand Women   Okay, this shouldn't be that hard to answer being that I am a man. I won't go into any deep philosophical debate as to how men and women are so... read more

  5. the franklin profile image60
    the franklinposted 14 years ago

    Well from my point of view being the MAN. I would like to throw out there the natural difference between a man and a woman.
    The obvious reproductive differences, but one mainly. Women have hormones, Men have hornymones. This is not a typo and it is a bit of a generalization of guys, but not always far from the truth in most cases. Some men have better social and communication skills than others, but we all have one thing in common. We want to know we are Needed, Respected, and treated like the Men we are. We were not made different for no reason, it is so that we could co-exist and love another.

    Hope this helps and God Bless

    -The Franklin

  6. Richard Hill III profile image60
    Richard Hill IIIposted 14 years ago

    The question of how to understand a man is a very daunting question indeed. Just as confusing as understand a woman. The problem with trying to answer this question is because we have been living under the misconception that men and women are worlds apart. This is a fallacy.

    At one point in time, as society had oppressed women, men and women tended to be very different. Men were the more aggressive leaders, and women were more meek and compassionate. The change in our society has confused these roles, and it has lead to some pretty astounding philosophical finds.

    One, we are now understanding that women and men are both capable of the wide range of attributes that were at one time seperated by gender. Compassion was once a major attribute of a woman, and a weakness in a man. Now as times have forced change upon us, we have learned that for a family unit to be successful the man and the woman both need to show strong levels of compassion. Fortitude was once a very masculine virtue, and a woman needed only to rely on a man for strength. This of course has changed, and now we have seen that a woman can possess a high level of fortitude just as a man. This crossing over for women into what was once a man's world, has left a void that will soon be filled.

    A woman, as we have seen is every bit as capable of being both a woman and a man. Though we have not yet seen a man be comfortable with become more feminine, if we decide to begin to keep family structures together, this will have to come to pass. A woman is learning the ways of man, and it is only natural that a man begins to learn the ways of the old style women. We are evolving...

    As we begin to close the gap between woman and man, we will begin to understand one another more and more. As it stands currently, the only way a woman is to understand a man is to study themselves. Reconcile all the feelings that come from the labor of strength and responsibility, and then minus the feelings of compassion. If a woman can effectively think of thier own reaction as it would be without the value of compassion, then a woman may understand only some of the most manly men in our current society. This of course will not be true of all men, as some are evolving to become more balanced already. To generalize all women and all men is to allow a large margin for error. We are a constantly evolving specie, and we will continue to be. To understand men, you must get to know the man.

  7. dabeaner profile image60
    dabeanerposted 14 years ago

    We want to eat, drink, work, play, sleep, watch TV, and have sex.  And we don't want you to nag us or play girl mind-games with us.  Is that so complicated?

  8. Niteriter profile image60
    Niteriterposted 14 years ago

    For centuries, women have been passionate about their desire to understand men. Let me say up front that I have no quarrel with women. I find comfort in the possibility that their undying quest to understand us is a testament to our magnificent... read more

  9. kirsib profile image63
    kirsibposted 14 years ago

    To understand a man you have to sit back and put yourself in his shoes. Then try to take the argument in hand and look it in the light from maybe a totally different perspective. And in the end if you for some unlikely reason would totally understand where he is coming from, would he ever understand why you are being so understanding.

  10. angie avon profile image61
    angie avonposted 14 years ago

    The better you understand yourself the better you'll understand others.
    Because being the best that you can be doesn't put any exception on others.
    With this, your a happy person which makes happy relationships with others.

  11. Miss Goody-Goody profile image60
    Miss Goody-Goodyposted 14 years ago have to make sure first if he is willing to let you understand him. If not, then no bother, and you will never understand him.

  12. GNelson profile image61
    GNelsonposted 14 years ago

    My experience is that men don’t easily talk about their feelings.  Women talk about their feelings much easier than men.  Men talk more easily about things or sports such as cars, sports, fishing, or how to fix something.  (I would say that woman probably have it right.)  If you bring up feelings with a new guy, it might not go over real well.  However when a guy does tell you about his feelings than he is telling you that he trusts you.  And that is a beginning.

  13. floating mind profile image69
    floating mindposted 14 years ago

    To understand a man, I think you have to first understand what you want from a man.  Once you have figured that out, then you need to ask yourself if what you want from a man is realistic or not!  You have to be very honest to yourself here.  If you are not honest with yourself, you may never get to a point where you can understand men. 

    If you are honest with  yourself, then I think you have taken your first real step toward understand men.  Yes we do think about sex a lot!  But that is not the only thing running around in our heads.  We also think about sports, cars, and women too; among other things.  And we also have our moments when we think about the future, how women will fit into our lives, the emotions of a relationship and how we may cope with it, and more. 

    I do not think that we are difficult to understand, just that our approach to things will differ (wildly from man to man) than a womans approach.  Be open to the differences and celebrate it.  The differences between us is one of the reasons we men love women so much.

  14. Senojism profile image60
    Senojismposted 14 years ago

    Read Steve Harveys book about how woman should think like men...

  15. freebiescity profile image62
    freebiescityposted 14 years ago

    When I truly like a man, I pursue him. I shamelessly go
    after him with every bit of energy I have and if I may tut my own horn, I always
    get my man. I know that I’m not the typical woman. I know that what I just
    admitted goes against every single... read more

  16. maverickmonk profile image59
    maverickmonkposted 14 years ago

    men and women belong to same species, so the major thing that makes men to think differently from women is sex. To understand a man is not a complex task but it depends on how you understand him/ take him, similarly a women... for instance : "if you want to feel the poor then spend time with them in their huts, similarly if you want to feel a man then spend time with him in his heart"

  17. beloved0000 profile image62
    beloved0000posted 14 years ago

    The Man Mart: 6 floors, where women shop for men

    This is not original, but author unknown, I thought it was worth repeating.

    2 rules for shopping there 1) you must be a woman to shop there 2) you must relinquish all traits and all men you give up as you ascend to the next floor

    Let's begin.

    floor 1) Woman walks in. All men have jobs on this floor. "Having a job is important," she says to herself, "But I need more." She gives up her man with a job.

    floor 2) Woman walks in. All men here have jobs AND help around the house. "Wow, now that's important, too. But I have to have more." She gives up her man with a job who helps around the house.

    floor 3) Woman walks in. All men on this floor have a job, help around the house AND love children. "Oh yes. He MUST love children. But if it only gets better on each floor, I've GOT to see what's on floor #4." She gives up her man with a job who helps around the house and loves children.

    floor 4) Woman walks in. All men on this floor have jobs, help around the house, love children AND are extremely good looking. "Well that's a bonus, but a GREAT bonus. But what if..."She gives up her man with a job who helps around the house, loves children and is extremely good looking.

    floor 5) Woman walks in, full of anticipation. If 4 floors held that kind of promise, what is to be found here? She finds men who have jobs, help around the house, love children, are extremely good looking, AND are ROMANTIC!!! "O....M....G....this can't be TRUE! But if this is the 5th floor man, WHAT'S...ON...THE 6TH...FLOOR???!!!" She gives up her man with a job who helps around the house who loves children who is extremely good looking who is also romantic to ascend to the 6th floor.

    floor 6) The elevator doors open. There is not a soul there except herself and huge neon sign flashing "You are the 10 trillionth visitor to this floor. This floor exists only to prove to men you cannot please a woman."

    I'd like to say I'd have taken the 5th or even the 4th floor man, but they're right. We as women have a tendency to be THAT picky. Sorry guys.


  18. Erin LeFey profile image69
    Erin LeFeyposted 14 years ago

    read up on the history of this, the Capuchin Crypt in Rome, Italy - a truly humbling tomb across the street from the Hard Rock Cafe and right up from Bernini Square. These Monks knew themselves, and the value of life. And death. And leaving something read more

  19. sportsguy12 profile image60
    sportsguy12posted 13 years ago

    Never just assume something about a guy before you really get to know him.  It is somewhat of a gut feeling that you start to get when you realize his natural tendency's and actions.  No 2 guys are exactly the same, so don't compare him to a past boyfriend.  If he is quiet, start the conversation and ask him about himself.  If he is outgoing, then get him started on a subject and he will give you all you need to know.  Men are territorial and all have an ego, it just depends how big it is.  So do not make them feel any less of a man or any dumber.  Get to know them, but never expect too much!  Expect the worst and hope he gives you the best!

  20. Dana Rae profile image59
    Dana Raeposted 13 years ago

    Women and Men are both very complicated in many ways.  I think instead of trying to understand men, maybe the focus should be on understanding the man.  The one that you just don't quite understand. 

    Then think about what that means to you.  Is this a love interest, a friend, a coworker maybe?  Understanding the man in each of those roles would be very different.  I don't think there is a simple answer and also feel that not only are all men unique, but the impact and role that man plays in your life could influence your understanding of his nature.

  21. hipsterriot profile image59
    hipsterriotposted 13 years ago

    The needs of men are not veiled, tricky, or even hard to figure out. Employ Ockham's Razor; the simplest answer is probably the right one. Men don't like to play games, and if they do, then it is not worth your time.  It is not about understanding men, but getting them to understand you. That is the hard part. The thing that works best is earning their respect. If you sleep with a man on the first or second date he will not respect you. If he doesn't try to sleep with you on the first or second date, but wants to continue seeing you, he likes you. If he wants to sleep with you right away, he is probably not interested in a long-term relationship and still needs time to sew his wild man oats. Bottom line, it's where a man is at in his life that makes him want to settle down. If he just wants to party and have fun, it's not you, it is just that he isn't ready for a relationship. Men are simple creatures, that's the secret.

  22. worldonedigital profile image46
    worldonedigitalposted 13 years ago

    Simple, yet powerful secrets to capture a man's heart.  Gain valuable insight on capturing and keeping his undivided attention. read more

  23. profile image55
    emorehart1posted 13 years ago

    I wrote a hub about how to understand men in relationships. It has some really good information on how to understand your man better or future men you may want to get involved with. Check it out! … ationships

  24. MickS profile image60
    MickSposted 13 years ago

    Men don't need to understand men, women have no way of understanding men in much the same way that men have no way of understanding women, just live with the fact that we're different.

  25. SEO Expert Kerala profile image58
    SEO Expert Keralaposted 13 years ago

    Men are important part of any woman’s life. They are strong and superior in any activity that is non-verbal in nature. But they are not at all organized and their ability to think and pay attention is not as good as that of woman.

  26. Jh_Ross profile image60
    Jh_Rossposted 13 years ago

    There is no way to understand a man. We are not complex beings, most of us just want the woman we choose to be with to be themselves. That's not too much to ask. If you give us the chance to talk about our feelings and thoughts we will. We don't like being asked constantly.

  27. Hublord profile image62
    Hublordposted 13 years ago

    Ladies listen up! If you are already in a relationship with a man or
    you are about to, then I have some words of advice for you on how you can
    master the very important art of understanding the man – your man with whom you
    are in the relationship.... read more

  28. Daegal Thorsson profile image59
    Daegal Thorssonposted 13 years ago

    We men are simple creatures. We have simple needs. Women are more complex and assume everybody is just as complex. Just as men mistakenly think their female counterparts should be simple creatures. But this question usually is really, "How can I change my man?"

    Men settle into, and easily adapt to, comfort zones. Even the so-called "type-A personality" must have a comport zone. Whatever our comfort zone, most men will only reluctantly move out of this space.

    The problems occur when a woman intrudes into her mate's comfort zone and attempts to "change him." She does not understand why any person would want to live his way, and he doesn't know what the big deal is.

    Chaucer's Canterbury Tales state that a woman's job is to make her man think he is in charge. This means that if you want him to change you must make him believe it is his own idea by planting the thoughts in his head. Eventually those thoughts, with careful nurturing on your part, will grow and bloom.

    Approach it as a you would if he were applying for a job and you are asking him about items on his resume.

    Where does he expect to be in 10 years?
    What are his dreams?
    Who are his friends and what does he think of what kind of people they are? It's amazing how many guys hang together even if they really don't trust each other.
    What kind of relationship does he have with his parents and siblings?

    These sound like difficult questions to ask, but we are mostly trusting creatures. Whether it's our ideology that refuses to believe it or our ego that dismisses the possibility, we are weak to warm conversation. A woman's pleasant and understanding companionship will make us spill our guts.

    When you apply Chaucer's slant and work them into conversations your intended's answers to these and other personal subjects will tell you all you need to know about a his loyalties and self-respect.

    Then you will understand your man better than he does himself.

  29. profile image52
    scholtingbposted 13 years ago
  30. vagabund profile image61
    vagabundposted 13 years ago

    First of all to understand the men, you need to understand yourself and your needs. Men differently respond to situations, and feelings. If you are really want to know them make them comfortable around you. I had so many example of approaches to different types of the men personalities, but one is working almost all the time. Do not talk to much, and you will become men new friend. Just listen, and watch expressions on the men face. Men does not like to be told what to do. I can debate about human personalities and give examples. I might start doing whole hub relationship advice. This can make me going on different stages of feelings, and situations through our lives.

  31. JohnBarret profile image59
    JohnBarretposted 13 years ago

    People differ in qualities, responses, etc.
    So, to understand men you need to be with him, but it doesn't mean you know all men.
    So, leave it and enjoy life on your own.

  32. profile image0
    Marliza Gunterposted 13 years ago

    this is let him do all the talking and let him always be right....laugh at his every attempt to make a pat and stroke him a 5 times faster, cleverer, and more versatile than him, but never show him that...if he lies, don't tell him you know, he would just find another route next time...hehe..and with bed play, you leave him totally wrecked, his whole body aches and he cant get up...I promise you..he would not be mr knight in shining armor, but he will most definitely always be thinking that he don't want to loose you...

  33. lemmyC profile image73
    lemmyCposted 13 years ago

    This question how to understand men was asked in the Hubpages, but to answer this question I felt that I'll make the question more applicable to may be solving a particular problem. The first question "How to understand men" was rather vague. This... read more

  34. Bronson_Hub profile image62
    Bronson_Hubposted 13 years ago

    Get to know the guy you have in mind.  We're all different. As individuals, we change our minds and our moods also change, too.  For this complicated problem, there's always a simple solution... that doesn't work.


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