What does "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" mean?

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  1. Solaras profile image94
    Solarasposted 6 years ago

    It means I care about you ,but don't touch me.

  2. be grateful profile image61
    be gratefulposted 6 years ago

    In my opinion, it means two people share a intimacy and attachment for one another, but lack sexual chemistry.  Maybe, it fizzled out after a long period of time or maybe it was never there from the start.

  3. Filmistan profile image59
    Filmistanposted 6 years ago

    This means you like me and you have lots of confusion about in your mind.

  4. Pamela Sarzana profile image57
    Pamela Sarzanaposted 6 years ago

    It ranks up there with.."I'm not that into you"...only a kinder way of saying it.

  5. lostohanababy profile image57
    lostohanababyposted 6 years ago

    Either one is expressed in 'honesty'.  You have to catch the emotion you may feel when the term..  "I love you" is said.  What is your emotional acceptance of how it is said to you.     "I'm not in love with you" is sometimes said in a colder way, sort of like a 'rejection' to any emotion that person wants to give you.  You'll know.  And can tell the difference, if you pay attention.

  6. profile image0
    swilliamsposted 6 years ago

    Hi Beamboh! I love you but I'm not in love with you. The person is most likely responding on a physical standpoint. I love you like a sister. Which can be sad if you love the other person in a intimate nature.

  7. Mohan Punia profile image60
    Mohan Puniaposted 6 years ago

    Mean's,i love you and your nature.i like to talk with you or share my felling's.but,i eant to make sexual relationship with you. That's means,i love you but as friend

  8. Oztinato profile image78
    Oztinatoposted 6 years ago

    It means the person saying it is a hypocrite and you need to put a great amount of distance between yourself and that person!
    "I love you but I don't love you" is the same as saying "I want my cake but I want to eat it too!"

  9. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    It means, "I care a lot about you." BUT: You are NOT "the one"!
    Anyone who tells you they love you but they're not "in love" with you is warning you not to become too emotionally invested in them because they don't see themselves being with (you) long-term.
    They're just passing through! Appreciate their honesty and move on.

  10. Velcapitan profile image60
    Velcapitanposted 6 years ago

    I like you.  I care about you, but were only together for a reason or a season.

  11. AVANA678 profile image56
    AVANA678posted 6 years ago

    SAME THING HAPPENED TO ME! its tough but its not mean you should just tell him the truth.

  12. Aare Adewale profile image56
    Aare Adewaleposted 6 years ago

    it simply means we can be friend but not lovers,we can be lovers but no practical in a nut shell already with someelse may you migth be luck next time .

  13. thanhlyhangcunet profile image60
    thanhlyhangcunetposted 5 years ago

    I love you. Thank you very much because I see you , I very happy

  14. dillon102 profile image58
    dillon102posted 5 years ago

    Lets be friends smile

    It sucks when you hear that, sorry!!!

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    Melanie Altheaposted 5 years ago

    That's easy. You can love someone without having romantic "in love with you" feelings. But If you are trying to have a romantic relationship with someone, and you are starting to have feelings for the person, but it is not reciprocated, let......him/her...............go. IT WILL NOT WORK! You are only setting yourself up for heartache. There should be a chemistry there on both parts. Don't wait to be in a long term relationship when you sense that it is not working, or that the feelings are not reciprocated. Cut your loses and keep it moving.

  16. Don Fairchild profile image71
    Don Fairchildposted 5 years ago

    Sounds like a large load of (uhmmm).   Perhaps this person likes the physical love as opposed to the emotional love....?

  17. profile image0
    Deborah Sextonposted 5 years ago

    It means they care about you as a friend, but if you are looking for a relationship with them, you can forget it

    1. dashingscorpio profile image86
      dashingscorpioposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Exactly! They're saying :
      "I don't see you as being (the one) for me."

    2. profile image0
      Deborah Sextonposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, I agree with you DashingScorpio (my husband is a dashing Scorpio too smile November 5th.
      Anyway thank you

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    BoomBoomBabyposted 5 years ago

    He an a___hole who deserves a really good slap across the face and maybe pushed down a flight of stairs. But most of all whatever you DO NOT LET HIM SEE HE HURT YOU. AND DONT NOT YELL AT HIM OR CALL HIM NAMES. EVER!! This gives you POWER. If you want to cry do it in private. By just turning and walking away without saying a word that high horse that he was on just became a prairie dog. And in a a week he will be saying he's sorry and that's when you kick him to the curb. Personal experience.  :-)

  19. Khaled Hmd profile image61
    Khaled Hmdposted 5 years ago

    you are just my friend not my lover.we can see this kind of relation in family.unversity.school...etc

  20. tribhuban profile image60
    tribhubanposted 5 years ago

    This means simply i hate you like i love you..........

  21. namanya profile image61
    namanyaposted 5 years ago

    i gt this so much love to offer but i am not getting enough of you inreciprocation,thoughtful feeling

  22. Zoraya Nash profile image60
    Zoraya Nashposted 5 years ago

    In my opinion it means I love and highly respect you as a person, but I don't love you as a man (woman)

  23. profile image48
    Lillian diamondposted 5 years ago

    It means that they care for you as a person. But, do not want to have a intimate relationship

  24. Nigham AFZAL profile image68
    Nigham AFZALposted 5 years ago

    It means, "Yeah! you're my good friend, but there is no chance you and I can be husband and wife."  :p

  25. Kate Mc Bride profile image85
    Kate Mc Brideposted 5 years ago

    It is a contradiction in terms,is all-a double standard.Someone using that line simply wants the best of both worlds.

  26. Kanchanpunetha profile image60
    Kanchanpunethaposted 5 years ago

    Love has a wide prospect to look. One can at a same time  love family, friend, a special one as well.
    but if some one is saying "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" that means you have taken him/her wrong some how.
    he loves u cos u are important for that person & cant afford to loose you. but you are making tough for that person to answer your question cos he just cant be romantic with you.

  27. profile image0
    MrDanielAbramposted 5 years ago

    Family members love each other and care for each other but are not in love only they love each other.

  28. Chriswillman90 profile image97
    Chriswillman90posted 5 years ago

    I would assume it's that whole I love you like a friend or close friend but not enough to be with you. For me statements like this are way too wishy-washy and I'd rather they just tell me like it is.

    In a relationship if you tell your partner this, then it seems that there's a lack of commitment. How could you love them but not be in love with them? Instead of saying I love you maybe the better choice of phrasing would be I care about you a lot and you mean a lot to me but I'm not in love with you.

  29. QC_1983 profile image72
    QC_1983posted 5 years ago

    To me, it means that may like you as a friend, but they don't want you as a potential mate nor that person doesn't have any romantic interest or feelings for you. Just be upfront with me on where we stand instead of leading me on so it'll save us some time.

  30. profile image0
    ahorsebackposted 5 years ago

    In todays world ?  It means the sex is great ,now don't ask me to commit !

  31. Angel Van Atta profile image75
    Angel Van Attaposted 5 years ago

    I think that it means that this person cares enough about you to not want to hurt you, but not enough to want to continue a romantic relationship with you.

  32. Nyc1996 profile image65
    Nyc1996posted 5 years ago

    In my opinion, it means that the person cares for you, but his/her love is not enough to be with you for the rest of his/ her life. He/She doesn't see you two together when you get old.

  33. Ali Sulehria profile image59
    Ali Sulehriaposted 5 years ago

    Means i do care about you and have feelings for you, but i can't stay with you.

  34. profile image60
    peter565posted 5 years ago

    It mean he doesn't love you in a romantic way

  35. Nicole Grizzle profile image91
    Nicole Grizzleposted 5 years ago

    "I deeply care about you as a person. I love you platonically. But, I do not want a romantic relationship with you, and all that entails."

    Basically, you are like a family member to them. There really isn't much you can do to change that.

  36. Sherry Thornburg profile image84
    Sherry Thornburgposted 5 years ago

    I'd say it means you are cared for but not worth a commitment.  This is a back off slowly warning. Just saying that means the speaker is uncomfortable with the way the relationship is going or might be moving toward.

  37. Isaiah Gnagny profile image55
    Isaiah Gnagnyposted 5 years ago

    Well, in this context i love mean have an ephemeral love for someone but i'm not in love with you mean not be in real love for someone

  38. Rituparna Biswas profile image59
    Rituparna Biswasposted 5 years ago

    This means he likes you as a friend but not as a lover.He is not ready for any kinda commitment I guess.

  39. ashleyrs1996 profile image61
    ashleyrs1996posted 5 years ago

    It means that they are aiming towards more of a short-term relationship. They aren't willing to be committed, to where eventually he will consider asking you to marry him. He loves you, but he is not in-love with you to the point where he would do anything to make sure you are his for the long-run.

  40. Simarpreet Singh profile image64
    Simarpreet Singhposted 5 years ago

    That means that the person cares about you as a friend but does not have feelings above friendship. He just likes you but don't want to grow old with you.  ;-)

  41. profile image53
    JoeSceglioposted 4 years ago

    Sadly in most of these cases with these statements, you don't even get to remain friends. People tend to love who they shouldn't and risk their hearts for broke. One person always roller-coasters alone while the other chooses to be blindly selfish with a friendship. Feelings don't turn on and off so easily and loving someone always comes before falling in love. My theory is you over rationalize who to give a chance at falling in love with and usually choose wrong.

  42. Abluesfornina profile image65
    Abluesforninaposted 4 years ago

    You're a friend and there's no passion for you.

  43. nomadspirit profile image95
    nomadspiritposted 4 years ago

    The person who says this normally means that he likes you, respects you, and loves you as far as unromantic love goes, BUT HE HAS NO FEELINGS OF attraction/chemistry/ that special tingly feeling that makes him think about you all the time/having an intimate committed relationship with you.
    A person who says this, saves the object of his statement a lot of future heartache and frees her to pursue other people who can fulfill her.
    I think it is  a good idea to take this statement for what it is, and move on immediately.

  44. Edge Valmond profile image60
    Edge Valmondposted 4 years ago

    Simply it means you love them as a friend -_-. As someone that is dear to you,but not in an intimate way.

  45. roselinsojan profile image61
    roselinsojanposted 4 years ago

    Be a good friend nothing more.I love you but (some thing)I am helpless,I can't disclose it to you.

  46. RUPAL PANDEY profile image60
    RUPAL PANDEYposted 3 years ago

    Someone adore you or admire you as a person , its like I LOVE YOU...
    Someone is more than happy then you are in your happiness & more sad than you are in your sadness , its like I CANNOT LIVE WITHOUT YOU...
    And when its opposite happens, it is I AM NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU...

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