Can you really have a relationship with someone you don't trust.

1. 82

   peachpurpleposted 10 years ago

   nope, you can't  put your trust in a relationship at all if you can't trust a person. Might as well don't get into it then you will not regret

   replyreport
2. 59

   Dudley Dorightposted 10 years ago

   This is rather an old question, but I'm drawn to give my two cents. It's time to study the persons character if you don't trust them. If they cheated, why did they cheat? Some people have impulse problems and are easy to pick out of a crowd. They may not mean or intend to cheat, but when confronted with a dilemma they may not think things through properly. These people are particularly problematic because they may be good people and may not mean to cheat, but they do anyway and will continue to do so. An impulsive person will continue to be impulsive, that a simple fact.
   
   How to spot these people? Simple, bring them to a grocery store and watch what they pick up especially in the cashier's line. If they are buying stuff they don't need simply because it's in front of them and they have a history of cheating, run...

   replyreport
3. 57

   Dayana moonposted 10 years ago

   no, if you can't trust the person how you will be able to be in a relationship you don't trust him/her. it will end up sooner or later and all will be with you is marks of  broken relationship and it will effect or further choices in life as well.

   replyreport
4. 60

   creativewriter123posted 10 years ago

   First give it some time and see what happens. If trust is still a issue between you two, talk about it and them maybe part your ways on friendly terms.

   replyreport
5. 85

   pstraubie48posted 10 years ago

   Perhaps you could have a relationship on some level perhaps as an acquaintance. But if this is someone that you are considering giving your heart to then I would have to say no.
   At least for me in a romantic relationship if I cannot trust the person to be faithful to me then it would never work.If I found I could not expect that, then all bets are off.
   That is how my marriage ended back in 1981 after 9 years...

   replyreport
6. 51

   Joyfulcrownposted 10 years ago

   I don't think you have a relationship without trust.   But I belief if you are open you can build trust up again.

   replyreport
7. 68

   CrescentSkiesposted 9 years ago

   Well you can have a relationship, but if you don't trust them it can't become serious for you.

   replyreport
   1. 60

      Carol Reedposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Relationships sometimes are like a one-way street and when trust isn't there it becomes unhealthy and unsafe like driving the wrong way on a one-way street.

      replyreport
8. 0

   MrDanielAbramposted 9 years ago

   No you should be able to trust anyone you are in a relationship with.

   replyreport
9. 71

   erinshelbyposted 9 years ago

   I don't think the question is *can* you have a relationship but *should* you.. If you're married, it's obvious that you would want to stay because you've made a commitment, and if this person has betrayed you, they should show a willingness to work on the relationship and regain your trust (which takes time- it doesn't happen overnight). If you're dating, however, and they've proven to be untrustworthy through their actions or their character, then what is the point?

   replyreport
10. 57

    Vonda Geeposted 9 years ago

    Oh WOW.................................................................!

    replyreport
11. 48

    becca-pposted 9 years ago

    I believe you can depending on the trust issues that are to be had. It could be rather difficult constantly wondering if your partner is ever betraying you.

    replyreport
12. 74

    sandeep15rposted 9 years ago

    No, It's no point in being in a relationship if you don't trust the person you are with. It will kill you each moment. So, the better is to trust and enjoy the bliss of a relationship.

    replyreport
13. 60

    Isa Levineposted 9 years ago

    I think you can still have a relationship with someone you don't trust but if you want it to lasts or maybe considering marrying that person one day trust is a must ,Well, I guess it still boils down to where that relationship is heading. If your looking for someone to be with for a while and be totally not emotionally attached well  trust is not a big deal. And one thing to consider is the feelings of the other person it depends if their sensitive or observant, because they would eventually sense that you don't trust them. Well, for me TRUST is one of the foundations of a good relationship.
    
    Asses first why don't you trust him/her, why can't you easily give your trust. Figure out the root cause of your trust issues.
    
    Hope this helps

    replyreport
14. 71

    Medusa13posted 9 years ago

    Who is the person with the real issue? Is the other person truly untrustworthy based on actual actions? Or does the partner have trust issues due to being hurt in the past while the person whom they are with has given them no real reason to not trust him or her? This may make a difference in whether or not the relationship can progress. The former can mostly never work because you cannot change an untrustworthy person. However, with the latter, a person with trust issues can get help with those issues and eventually have successful relationships.

    replyreport
15. 66

    lucabrandtposted 9 years ago

    Never. Why would you want to? Relationships are about sharing experiences, personality, time, and sometimes a home and finances.  Why would you share anything with someone you don't trust? Of course, if the problem is you having a hard time trusting people, you need to evaluate the situation and decide whether this person is worth the stress they will unintentionally be inflicting on you.

    replyreport
16. 49

    Kayla Lynn Cposted 9 years ago

    You could try to have a relationship with someone that you don't really trust, however most relationships are based on trust. If you stay in a relationship where there is no trust, I can almost guarantee you that someone will end up leaving the relationship.

    replyreport
17. 51

    ERICKS Melendezposted 9 years ago

    That is so true,,I been though it,, if you put your 100 percent,,and your partner don't,that mean it time to move on...

    replyreport
18. 54

    peter565posted 9 years ago

    If it is just in it for the sex, why not?

    replyreport
19. 60

    Ali Sulehriaposted 9 years ago

    One can but it will be really damaging and a negative kind of relationship!!

    replyreport
20. 73

    realtalk247posted 9 years ago

    No. Provided you don't have trust issues to begin with, if that person you are dating makes you feel like they can't be trusted it's time to move on.  Hello Huge Character Flaw.  If they are distrustful or lie about little things they are capable of being deceptive with big things.

    replyreport
21. 81

    chuckandus6posted 9 years ago

    The only way to survive in a relationship without.trust is to..
    Stop caring or
    gain trust

    replyreport
22. 68

    lolaestrellaposted 9 years ago

    No. I think in order to have a peace of mind, I need to be in a relationship with someone I can trust. Especially when it comes to bringing me happiness, I need to know that I can trust him wherever I go and whatever situation that I'm in. I personally refuse to be in a relationship with someone who is unreliable emotionally - being in love doesn't have to equal to being stupid. You live to be happy, and not being in a misery.
    
    It's better off being single than being doubtful in your relationship.

    replyreport
23. 59

    MonkeyShine75posted 9 years ago

    Trust seems to be more important than love in a relationship
    Why would anyone want to be in a relationship with someone they don't trust? I wouldn't

    replyreport
24. 62

    M Asif Jameelposted 9 years ago

    Off course we  can't have a relationship with  whom we  don't trust but some relations are made by God instead of men and we have to keep these relations though we shouldn't  trust them because they aren't trustworthy.

    replyreport
    1. 52

       frumpletonposted 8 years agoin reply to this

       You shouldn't suffer the rest of your life with someone just because you are married if they are deceptive.  God doesn't like evil.

       replyreport
25. 60

    Steven Lindquistposted 9 years ago

    First you would have to ask yourself why would you want to have a relationship with someone you don't trust and then ask yourself is it worth it to pursue such such a relationship. Many times the answers will be the same but some times they aren't and it depends on what you qualify as a relationship. Is it merely casual, in which case you may have relationships with those that you don't trust. In the odd chance you want a relationship that is more in depth be prepared to be hurt and let down.

    replyreport
26. 62

    Cerulean Crayonposted 9 years ago

    Only part of a relationship.
    
    
    
    
    That's my whole answer.

    replyreport
27. 85

    Chriswillman90posted 9 years ago

    Unless you want a nightmarish relationship then of course not. Trust is the first thing that should be established in any relationship because it can't work well without it. Without trust you'll always be wondering what the other person is doing at all times of the day, and it can get quite obsessive if not dangerous for some.
    
    I wouldn't give it much time because your hopeful prospects will be very low if you do.

    replyreport
28. 60

    Pooja Gohilposted 9 years ago

    just believe in your heart. if your heart says that the person would not do any thing wrong to you then just follow it . i would like to tell you even i was stuck in such condition. even i was too disturbed but at that time I had confident in my selection and my love. person can commit mistake because after all v are human. and second should be given if u feel the person is genuine.

    replyreport
29. 59

    Emily Simposted 9 years ago

    Trust is relationship reason.If you do not trust people you can't be with him and your relationship can't work,becouse you haven't respect and love from another people.

    replyreport
30. 48

    GizSleepposted 9 years ago

    I would say you can have a relationship with them of course, but how functional that relationship is would be another matter. The problem wouldn't be there everyday but it would be there when that person is perhaps going on a night out and your trust issues (whether warranted or not) come to the surface and two things will happen; you'll hate the relationship for making you feel anxious and your partner will resent you for making them feel guilty about going out. Another issue is that, if your partner has cheated in the past and you've moved on, it's likely you'll bring up past indiscretions in an argument which will cause further problems.

    replyreport
31. 73

    Nicole Grizzleposted 9 years ago

    Trust is the foundation of everything! Be it school friendships, work relationships, your parents, your boyfriend, etc. If you cannot trust the other person, the whole relationship falls apart.

    replyreport
32. 78

    AnnaCiaposted 9 years ago

    It is my opinion, that if there are facts and evidences for you not to trust him. then you should walk away.  If, on the other hand, it is a problem that comes from your mind, then you need to work on that.

    replyreport
33. 65

    evancatposted 9 years ago

    To simply answer this question: yes. To delve into what your definition of "relationship" is factors in a new set of ideas. Can you marry someone, grow old with them and live a happy, fulfilling life? This would have be a "no." Relationships in this sense are built on trust. Trust meaning all areas of life. Will they take care of the pets if you have to leave to visit your mother for two days? Will they make sure that they pay the bills on time? Can you trust them to run to the store with your best friend while you're cooking to grab some items before a get together and not have to worry about infidelity? Why spend all of the time and energy worrying when that same energy can be put into loving someone completely and worrying about issues outside of your relationship as they arise? Life is too short to lay down next to someone at night that you don't truly know, because you don't trust them.

    replyreport
34. 56

    Er Sonu Yadavposted 9 years ago

    if you really love him / her . and want his relationship then turst is important.  because if there is no turst between relationship . Good relationship don't occur. it break one Day.

    replyreport
35. 60

    malikkhuriposted 9 years ago

    I don't think so, trust is the key to successful relationships, what is the point of having a relationship with no trust.

    replyreport
36. 0

    lisasuniquevoiceposted 9 years ago

    ShanteD,
    If you have a relationship with someone you don't trust it will always be strained. You won't be able to just sit and laugh because you can't relax in a situation like that. It's best to cut someone to the curb if you can't trust them.
    Lisa

    replyreport
37. 0

    Diana Abrahamsonposted 9 years ago

    Trust is earned and a two way attitude. Broken trust leaves the heart broken and it takes a long time for the healing and trust to be restored.

    replyreport
    1. 51

       Krissy16posted 8 years agoin reply to this

       I'm with my child's father we been together for 3yrs I don't trust him he shows me he only wants me but it's things he do that makes me think otherwise like change his phone code wen I had it want give me his code to laptop change his FB password

       replyreport
38. 57

    walaa salahposted 9 years ago

    When trust is denied no love could be earned again. Doubting and questioning each and every move or action by your partner will prevail. no love could possibly exist in such an environment!

    replyreport
39. 0

    Joshtheplumberposted 9 years ago

    If you could read minds you wouldn't trust anybody. So is it possible to have a relationship at all? We've all pulled it off somehow.

    replyreport
40. 56

    Whitney Turnerposted 9 years ago

    I believe you can. I have relationships with people at my job and I don't trust them. We have a very basic "relationship" , just so I can get my work done. So it's possible. But I believe it's not possible to have a very intimate relationship with someone you do now trust. Good question .

    replyreport
    1. 73

       realtalk247posted 8 years agoin reply to this

       That's an interesting and true scenario. I guess in basic relationship situations that true but in matters of the heart that is unacceptable. At least in my book it's unacceptable.

       replyreport
41. 60

    lolontkaposted 9 years ago

    Yes so long as you take their untrustworthiness into account. It may not be a good relationship and you may have to keep certain information to yourself but a relationship is possible. With some difficult people you have to tell them what they want to hear in order to shield yourself.

    replyreport
42. 61

    keishialeelouisposted 9 years ago

    You could, but it wouldn't be a very good or healthy one.

    replyreport
43. 72

    serenityjmillerposted 9 years ago

    Sure, you can have a relationship with anyone. In fact, you already do have a relationship... with everyone you interact with. Some are good relationships, some are bad relationships, some are neutral relationships - they're all relationships. The key is to decide what kind of a relationship you want and with whom, then vocalize your hopes and desires for that relationship, then determine whether the other person is willing to work toward a mutually satisfactory relationship with you. The real question might be more like "Why don't you trust this person?" And "What can be done to help you trust this person?" Better yet, "Why do you want a relationship with someone you don't trust?"

    replyreport
44. 60

    everythingzealousposted 9 years ago

    Although most say that you cannot love without trust, it is possible. Maybe you had already trusted and loved that person. And they made a mistake and broke that trust.. so what are we just going to leave every person that breaks our trust and not give them at least one chance to make it better? Especially if you have been with that person for years before that trust was broken. It may take alot of time but it is possible to build up that trust again - and it may not be easy but I strongly believe that things that test relationships keep them strong. If you can make it through the tough times with said person - than your love for them will grow stronger and stronger.

    replyreport
45. 60

    NehaAshposted 9 years ago

    I have not faced this type of opportunity.
    I think, If we have a relationship with someone, then it means that we trust him/her. Can't say that you don't trust. You trust him/her, but a little bit.
    The relationship always starts with trust. Not without trust.
    If you tied a knot forcefully with someone without your wish than at that time you can say that you don't have a trust but still are in relationship. At that time, you should give them to understand him/her.

    replyreport
46. 59

    Payal N Naikposted 9 years ago

    Trust is the key for any relationship to work. Without trust the relationship can go on say for few days or few months but for a relationship to last forever, trust is the key ingredient. If there is no trust in a relationship, then with time things will always turn bad rather than doing any good to relationship.Trust once broken takes forever to repair. If you don't trust your partner then its better on your part to move on, because with time lack of trust with start creating a gap between two people in relationship and take away the love forever.

    replyreport
47. 84

    Dakkposted 9 years ago

    Yes, but not a healthy one. Without trust, the relationship will degerate in the long run, and become ever more painful untill it becomes unbearable. Either the couple learns to develop trust in eachother, or it'll keep degenerating into ever more painful situations.

    replyreport
48. 52

    srijithrposted 9 years ago

    99% of all relationships in this world are based on the foundation of trust. when the couple distrust each other, they are bound to suspect each and every activity of the other person which may cause the relationship to become unstable.

    replyreport
49. 67

    Gaurav Oberoiposted 9 years ago

    The answer is not easy but very simple. NO. It will never ever work and the relationship will end up in flames. Distance adds to the misery. Long distance relationships go through this problem more often than not. The only way out is to sit with the partner and discuss it up-to the point of a proper closure. And before doing that it is pertinent to establish some ground rules, especially no yelling or 'flying objects.'

    replyreport
50. 37

    ogochukwu1posted 9 years ago

    Every relationship is built on two things 1. Love 2. Trust

    replyreport