Can you really have a relationship with someone you don't trust.

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  1. passionatelearnr profile image83
    passionatelearnrposted 7 years ago

    NO,move on.Without trust there's no relationship.Its impossible to trust someone who has betrayed us.

  2. profile image51
    Samanthamarie10posted 7 years ago

    No, trust is one of the key things in a relationship and life to have with people you connect with. It be a family member, close friend, or significant other, having trust is key. It helps build the foundation and lets your relationship build more and more. Having trust is letting the other person do what they are interested in but not having you by send. If someone gives you a reason not to trust them then it takes a lot to get the trust back. If you can not trust someone you will constantly worry about what they are doing instead of enjoying life.

  3. Hilbuck profile image60
    Hilbuckposted 7 years ago

    No because I think marriage is based on trust.

  4. YvetteParker profile image61
    YvetteParkerposted 7 years ago

    Without trust, there is no relationship.

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  6. swalia profile image86
    swaliaposted 7 years ago

    Trust is the foundation of any relationship. Without a solid foundation, no building can last long. Similarly without trust, the relationship cannot survive.

  7. iggy7117 profile image90
    iggy7117posted 7 years ago

    I am going to say no, you may be able to get along but there will not be trust. This will cause problems and lead to a dysfunctional relationship at best.

  8. bluesradio profile image59
    bluesradioposted 7 years ago

    If trust is gone, you need to work at rebuilding it... But if it is beyond repair, it is time to move on?  Whatever you do, do not use the broken trust as a weapon of revenge....That will just further rush the demise and the absolute end might be very ugly,,,,,

  9. Happylovejoy profile image94
    Happylovejoyposted 6 years ago

    Of course not. Trust is one of the core foundations of a relationship. Don't depend on others to change - if there is a trust issue that cannot be resolved, then don't waste your time and energy hoping it will turn for the better.

  10. Susanna Willis profile image60
    Susanna Willisposted 6 years ago

    No don't even go there trust is what relationships are built on if you cant trust that person don't get into a relationship with them. There is a reason you do not trust him or her so start with looking at that first.

  11. KrakyePoku profile image59
    KrakyePokuposted 6 years ago

    There may be something they might have done or a behavior they have portrayed that you may still find difficult to get over with. But nevertheless, one core strength of every relationship is trust, if you dont trust them, it may either take a very long time to do so, an amount of time that would have done much good if utilised elsewhere, to be able to finally know their worth after they might have struggled to prove so. But in short a relationship without trust certainly has a low probability of success rate and time spent to wait for it may be a fruitless endeavor

  12. viveresperando profile image63
    viveresperandoposted 6 years ago

    Yes you can really have a relationship with someone you don't trust.  Is it going to be fun, loving, joyful, and peaceful relationship? Probably no - you don't trust them.   Some people hang on to bad relationships that have no trust. Some have been able to turn them around into amazing, loving, nurturing, and trusting relationships.

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    Lexi-112posted 6 years ago

    You could be in a relationship with someone you don't trust but this would just kill you inside and make you go insane

  14. Chathushkie profile image60
    Chathushkieposted 6 years ago

    Yes you can have, but at least with the hope that trust will be reinstalled. Personally I think that, if the respective other doesn't try to regain your trust, its just a waste of your time, he/she is not the one for you

  15. Denis Lubojanski profile image39
    Denis Lubojanskiposted 6 years ago

    To share my opinion, No, you cannot run the relationship longer. Well, there will be lot of chaos in your life. If you always think that your partner is gonna distrust you, certainly it will hurt your mentality as well as your career. So it is better not to have any relationship with someone you cannot trust.

  16. Angela Jason profile image55
    Angela Jasonposted 6 years ago

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    threekeysposted 6 years ago

    I can't believe I am going to say this.... but now? Circumstances determines your actions. Since we may have not experienced all life has to offer us we can never say resolutely that we can  trust another 100% or even ourselves 100%. Once upon a time I would have said yes. But not now.

    Within the realm of typical life happenings with accompanying typical levels of trustworthiness? You need to be reliable and dependable to the extent solid levels of trust can be built up. Combine this level of trust with openness and fighting fairly, then something good is on it's way....

  18. lucile onyango profile image61
    lucile onyangoposted 6 years ago

    Your relationship will never be a happy one since there is lack of trust! issue on trust comes when you have doubts in your partner or your partner's actions really makes you to loose trust! The best thing ever is to talk about any issue that may lead you to loose trust .with this you will get to love each other and be happy!

  19. tamarawilhite profile image86
    tamarawilhiteposted 6 years ago

    You don't want to hire a contractor you don't trust to do a good job.
    You don't want to hire a babysitter you can't trust to keep the kids safe.
    You don't want a spouse who you can't trust not to steal money or have sex with someone else.

    If you have to have a relationship, it then has to have safeguards that undermine the relationship such as his and hers bank accounts or spying on them to make sure they aren't cheating. And that's not a healthy relationship.

    If you don't trust them, you shouldn't be with them.

  20. brimancandy profile image70
    brimancandyposted 6 years ago

    Not sure if I have answered this one. But most of the relationships I have been in have a certain level of mistrust that ended the relationships.

    However I am a gay man, and men in general are not the most trustful people. There will always be that worry that a partner is going to cheat on you, and I have not had one yet who did not cheat on me. To which I did the thing that men do, and that is monkey see, monkey do.

    But, as I had more relationships, I knew that cheating was just going to happen, and you just deal with it. You can also come to an understanding with your partner, that is if he is going to cheat, I am going to do the same. My current partner and I have been together 26 years. So, the cheating thing is no longer an issue.

    What I dont care for is the partner who not only lies about cheating, but every thing else too. Like stealing money, or lying about where they have been, or not paying bills that they said they paid, and you get stuck catching it all up. or, breaking the rule, that says no visitors to our home without saying something about it.

    Nothing like walking in the door, and finding your partner in bed with someone, whom they can't even remember their name.

  21. KristieTownsend profile image60
    KristieTownsendposted 6 years ago

    I don't think that it would be realistic to expect a relationship to survive or be healthy without trust

  22. Akshita Singh profile image59
    Akshita Singhposted 6 years ago

    u need to tell him this that you don't trust him ....

  23. roselinsojan profile image59
    roselinsojanposted 6 years ago

    No.without trust no relationship. but  patience is a good thing .wait ,yes I will give time and hope for the best.

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    himanshu200937posted 6 years ago

    Trust is really important to be in relationship. It is completely impossible to spend more than 1-2 month without trust.

  25. Laura Karina profile image60
    Laura Karinaposted 6 years ago

    No, it'll never work. Save yourself.

    Save your time, money and effort. Spend it on someone who deserves it. Someone you can and forever will trust. By the way... Trust is earned not given and it's the foundation of everything that can make or break you depending where you place it.

  26. Kiss andTales profile image60
    Kiss andTalesposted 6 years ago

    No .because love and trust work together like fingers with your hand.
    Your mouth with your tongue, your eyes with your head.
    One without the other is not possible.
    You can manage but it's many problems trying to make it work.
    To love is to trust that person with yourself.
    When trusts leave love is attached.
    You can like and you can care but love and trust is a deeper heartfelt meaning then these two.

  27. Deepak Chaturvedi profile image63
    Deepak Chaturvediposted 6 years ago

    First it is better to understand the other mood whether she likes you or not but if you find any negativity just leave it.No matter how long was the relation.

  28. Chanson Intrepide profile image60
    Chanson Intrepideposted 6 years ago

    Sure. You can have a relationship with anyone. Hating involves a relationship. Maybe the question is more about whether it works without trust.

    Would you allow someone to cut your hair whose work you have observed on others to be unflattering?

    Would you give money to a thief?

    Would you allow a convicted child molester to provide day care to your children?

    Then why would you give your heart to someone you don't trust?

    You don't say how your trust was lost or broken. Maybe we aren't even talking about you, but for the sake of argument, I'll phrase it that way.

    It doesn't really matter what the circumstances are. If you have been lied to, cheated on, had your money stolen, felt controlled, been betrayed... why would you continue to be vulnerable to this person? Trust requires vulnerability. It's allowing the known possibility of betrayal with the assurance you won't be betrayed. Without trust, you're missing the promise that your vulnerability won't be exploited.

    Forgiving is one thing. Restoring trust is another. One is a decision you can make, but trust should not be blindly awarded to the wrong person with a history of having been wounded.

    And what is it like to live without trust? Suspicion? Uncertainty? Fear? That uneasy feeling in the pit of your stomach? The possibility of danger?

    I would say yes, you can have a relationship without trust, but it will erode emotional safety, love and eventually self respect. Only you know if it's worth all that.

  29. short lady profile image75
    short ladyposted 6 years ago

    You can have a relationship with ANYone who is willing to be in one with you. The question is, can you really have a GOOD, or healthy, relationship with someone you don't trust?

    And in my experience, no. That doesn't mean you need to give up the instant you have trust issues, but hard work has to go into it in order to bring the relationship back into a good place. Often, there are reasons for the trust issues, and that is more important to resolve.

    1. robertsongail profile image57
      robertsongailposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      yeah

  30. Brynn Raub profile image61
    Brynn Raubposted 6 years ago

    I believe you can.  It might not be best option, but when your in love it's amazing what things you can tend to overlook.  If you do realize they are dishonest it just depends on the person you are and if that is an acceptable trait for them to have or if it's a deal breaker.

  31. Ngozi Ebubedike profile image80
    Ngozi Ebubedikeposted 6 years ago

    What is a relationship without trust. relationship could be of several kinds, but in all, trust is the bedrock,or the glue that holds the people together without which they will unglue along the way.

  32. Sagarreddy123 profile image56
    Sagarreddy123posted 6 years ago

    We must spend some time with that person .know how he is his nature behaviour and habits and how he spends money after this we know whether he is trustable or not after that we can make relationship with him

  33. WiccanSage profile image89
    WiccanSageposted 6 years ago

    Yes; not a good one, but yes, you can carry on for a long time unhappily. People do it all the time.

  34. Anuththara Ekeli profile image59
    Anuththara Ekeliposted 6 years ago

    No you can't. As a human relationships are based on "trust" it is impossible to maintain a relationship with someone you don't trust. Through mutual "deception" as it appear in Shakespear's sonnet 138, you can continue the relationship but the result of the relationship will be "pain".

  35. profile image0
    asphaltcowboy84posted 6 years ago

    No, for me it would be impossible. In order to find compatibility, I need trust to have a working relationship with someone. Otherwise, it is like playing with a keg of dynamite

  36. Edgemaster profile image68
    Edgemasterposted 6 years ago

    The main question is why you don't trust them? Is it personal trust issues or did that person give reason to not trust? Because if you don't trust your partner then that could also be some personal issues that one might have and nothing to do with the other. I've been on the other end of being accused of cheating when I'm 100% faithful. When it was the other person who had issues on trust. Usually when that happens that person needs to learn to be happy with themselves before they can be happy with another. Breaks down to 2 emotions in the end 'Love or Fear'.. When someone chooses fear over love you will eventually lose any love that you had.

    "But you don't have to take my word for it" - Reading Rainbow

  37. profile image50
    aniket123posted 6 years ago

    A relationship is always based on trust. You must trust someone at first before you are in a relationship with him/her. Although you must love too. But without trust it will be foolish thing to have a relation. If you get into a relationship like this, without any trust. It will not last long. After some time, all you can do is to regret about your this mistake. But in other case, you may trust on him/her after the relationship. But yjis is a poor possibility. Don't think about this before you get into this kind of situation.

  38. Karry Uribe profile image59
    Karry Uribeposted 6 years ago

    No, because in a relationship, trust is all that matters. You love that person because you trust him or her; thus, this may lead to a long and trustworthy relationship.

  39. profile image51
    frumpletonposted 6 years ago

    If you don't trust them, ask yourself why that is?  Is it the person or is it your own feelings from past involvements?  Couple test each other a lot.  They will flirt to get reassurance that you get jealous.  That makes them feel that you still love and want them.  But the signals of someone you can't trust (some) are:  Secret texting or phone calls.  Unexplained mileage on a car when supposedly someone only went to work, to the store and home.  Hangup calls.  No interest in sex (at least, for a man).  And if he comes home late from work really late and needs an immediate shower, I think I would wonder.  The last thing:  Is this person spending more money than normal?  If so, can that be explained?

  40. Michael Saoke profile image61
    Michael Saokeposted 6 years ago

    It depends on alot of issues. If you look at it in a broader perspective then its possible. but on a lean perspective ,nah. how many times have you heard of women having sponsors? They get into the relationships with the sponsors but don't have trust in them...They only need their money. And have you heard of spies and undercover cops who get into relationships just to get information. Although real love needs trust but relationships can be manipulated to suit one or both parties.

  41. stanzyy profile image61
    stanzyyposted 6 years ago

    No, absolutely no!
    One major factor so as to work a relationship is trust.
    First of all, the only one that is tortured is you and as a consequence, your boyfriend/girlfriend.
    In my opinion, if lack of trust comes from infidelity you either break up or deal with it and keep going on a normal relationship.
    On the other hand, if you are a nature distrustful it's something you have to work with yourself. Only after you will solve it, you'll be able to continue in a relationship.
    Last but not least dear ShanteD, you can't hope for the best without trying. All kind of relationship, friends, loves, relatives, should be worked every single in order to succeed.

  42. trysextoy profile image60
    trysextoyposted 6 years ago

    No way. I always have to have complete trust with my partner. If I don't have trust then it's game over. I wouldn't give it time I would cut it off and move on to the next person. Im very in touch with my feelings and I know when things don't feel right. I always act on instinct and gut feeling. If it's not feeling right then I just wouldn't do it.

  43. DIGITAL OMEGA profile image61
    DIGITAL OMEGAposted 6 years ago

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  44. alaknath profile image62
    alaknathposted 6 years ago
  45. Cricrinel profile image60
    Cricrinelposted 6 years ago

    Excellent question. Many people remain in their marriages or relationships while they don't trust their partners anymore. I believe the couples that face lack of trust, need to talk extensively about this matter. In this way they might take the right decision either to stay or break up. Communication in such cases matters a lot.

    Kind regards
    Elizabeth

  46. Papeeebooks profile image76
    Papeeebooksposted 6 years ago

    No.There is no way the relationship will work if you do not trust your partner. Trust forms an integral part of love,which is essential in a relationship. Time will not change anything.

  47. kellywil profile image60
    kellywilposted 6 years ago

    Short answer: yes - if you're working to rebuild the trust. I used to think if someone lied to me, they didn't truly love and respect me. Granted, it is NOT ok for these things to happen, I now taken the person and their upbringing into account. People are raised differently. They have different relationships and experiences. Some people, quite frankly, had poor examples of love and respect. How do they learn if never given the chance? Repeated betrayal is unacceptable; someone willing to learn and WANT to be the best they can be, deserve at least a chance.

  48. profile image0
    MasterDripperposted 6 years ago

    there are 3 things that keep a relationship strong and long term - mutual communication, mutual trust and plenty of sex (not necessarily in this order)

  49. Omar Eldamsheety profile image81
    Omar Eldamsheetyposted 6 years ago

    Yes, If I love her, then I will give he time and love and all what I can till we both trust each other.

  50. MicahI profile image83
    MicahIposted 6 years ago

    A wise man once told me that Love = Time + Trust.  I don't believe you can have a "relationship" with anyone without love, which by definition requires trust.

 
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