BEING IN LOVE A PLUS OR NEGATIVE FOR WRITERS
Have You ALSO Noticed How many of us Also get upset when someone thinks it's OK In the Forums to YELL AT US IN CAPS?
Please...... Do yourself the favor- ahorsebackposted 13 years ago
0 I think that is BS! What makes us all writers is because we can write about anything, with emotions or without emotions..regardless if we are in love or not. Of course that doesn't mean we are all excellent writers
But it does mean that writing comes from the heart. And if you are that in tune with your writing and yourself, a relationship isn't going to bias your material.Feelings, thoughts and everything else is a beneficial to a writer. It all builds some sort of inspiration.
- kimberlyslyricsposted 13 years ago0
I understand one can pull from any emotion or experience relevant to their lives. Clearly, if I understand correctly< being in 'love' would not have any more or less effect on a writer comparable to any creative person, and more so, everyone else, I believe, anyways
I enjoyed reading all these other comments so much. Everyone seems to express their poiont of view with excellence.
fair nough
i guess there's times i get in the zone, words seem to just appear without my thinking.but i write in third person.. first person just doesn't happen for me, although, it has in one short story. i'll find out how well i wrote that later in the year tho as i entered it in a short story competition in the UK.
i was thinking about it earlier how i can write the opposite of my feelings.. i often concentrate on using both sides of my brain (being a horse educator i kind of need to be able to) and can create conversations in both amusing and sad text all in the same chapter. i have no idea how or where it ocmes from.. and yes, we are all different.. hehe you're safe, ya can't catch my weird brainHow do you concentrate on using both sides of your brain? (at the moment I can only remember one side is 'creative'....does that mean the other side is logic?)
lol I remember when I was young I thought the only people that could use both sides of their brain at the same time had to be ambidextrous.
But I'm with you, you're lucky you can't catch my brain cuz it isn't any fun. i haven't always used this to my advantage and unfortunately for me i am ambidextrous, but it's easy for anyone to teach themselves to use both sides of the brain . logic and creative at the same time can be quite fun.
even animals especially horses are left or right handed and to get the right balance when breaking (educating) them to saddle means they learn to use both sides of their body equally too and not favour one or the other..
it took many years tor me to learn that i was beign one sided with a lot of things, now, i find it natural and most times, my writing has both the creative and logical mixed together.. also helps being a logical thinkier and being able to see both sides of any situation the joys of being a libra... haha
As most writing explores the faults in society - and the nooks and crannies of weird stuff in peoples heads, any emotion is useful and love is no different - except that it is the most 'done' subject in the world. A love poem is a bit like finding a really good keyword and then finding it has the BIGGEST SEOC competition on the net
- ShotgunChelleposted 13 years ago0
If depression resulting from a broken heart makes me write better then I'm all for LOVE
Mainstream society is full of people who don't know what they're talking about and yet who keep talking anyway.
If I'm upset I'm not in the mood to write. My head has to be clear, and I can't feel all frazzled or sad or whatever. Generally, I'm not "all upset" or frazzled all that often; so the fact that I sometimes don't write when I am doesn't mean I'm not a writer.
I've actually written more than a few letters to the divorce lawyer in fits of anger, complete with giant red fonts, bad words, and even hand-drawn pictures of things like mean faces ( ); and, trust me, they wouldn't have made a good Hub. In fact, I would have been banned by HubPages AND Google.
The way I incorporate/use emotion in my writing is only after I've processed the emotion, "turned it into thoughts" (rather than feelings), and labeled the emotions/feelings with words. Then I'll call upon my memory in order to "bring back" what I was feeling when I was in a less calm, less reasonable, state.
Why I feel like this works well for me is that I'm in my "logical", word-crafting, skill-based, writing mode; while I have access to the words and feelings that help otherwise "cold" writing be warmed up and seem more real. For me, this lets me be in my "best-writing" mode while also having those emotions and thoughts associated with them in my "word/feeling" mental-bank or files. Some of my better writing appears to include a lot of emotion, but in reality it's pretty "cold and calculated" (although genuine and not at all "calculated" in a less than authentic way).
People sometimes mistake the fact that I can be honest about emotions for my feeling emotional by writing; but the truth is I don't share any emotions in writing until they're no longer emotions and are, instead, memories of emotions and "nothing more than thoughts" for me.
Whatever emotions I'm feeling or haven't gotten over, they aren't showing up in my writing at all. They'll show up later, maybe.
By the way, I'm pretty much one of those people who feels like she's a writer by nature, not just by profession; and I've never been lonely in my life (well, maybe a couple of times after losses, I suppose). For the most part, I'm a happy-at-the-core person, although, like so many people who are generally happy underneath, these days there are some things that are keeping me from being "perfectly happy" and making me only "generally happy for the most part". I think if people read some of the things I write they'd never guess that I'm actually reasonably happy. Then again, if they read some stuff, they'd have no idea about some of the crap I've had in my life at one time or another. Most of that is "surface stuff", though. Underneath - neither lonely nor all that unhappy.
To me, all the things in life - good and bad - are things that can make for good writing if we know how to process them and turn them into something other than present and raw emotion. Grammar rules and raw emotion don't go all that well together. Neither does forgetting reader and only worrying about what we have to express. Whether I can always accomplish it or not, I usually aim to "give the reader a little ride" by moving from "straight facts" to a little whimsy to something sobering to "punching them" here or there. (Not in everything I write, of course, but in a lot of things.) I aim to let the reader feel (as much as possible) whatever I've felt that went into whatever I'm writing. If they can't feel what I've felt, I am to at least say something that will "ring a bell" for them. Once in awhile (more often these days) I'll just write because I feel like writing what I feel like saying. Usually, though, there's never a time when I'm not thinking of what the impact of my choice of words will be on the reader. That takes too much thought to be able to effectively do it if I'm not clear-headed and calm.
In answer to the OPs question, I think it depends on the writer and how how, if at all, he uses/processes emotions, and on whether he can separate his emotions from his "writing thinking" when necessary. Also, there's a difference between whether he writes about,say, auto transmissions or writes about dating or relationships. I think being in love would have little impact on writing about some things. Or, the same if the the writer is writing Science Fiction.- ahorsebackposted 13 years ago0
...on the other hand... Sorry, sugz, but my mother was a Libra, and that was a constant saying around our house
I find there are times when events/info/feelings/experiences come in, and are enjoyed, or felt, or wept over, or whatever emotions they elicit, are felt, in their moments.
Then, this stuff gets stirred around and simmered, and stewed, and filtered, and whatever other processing happens in there takes place.
Then, when the writing occurs, the filtered/simmered/stewed/stirred around feelings/events/experiences come out.
Sounds like a recipe, kindaI guess it can be both. It all depends on how that person allows their positive or negative experience in love to be expressed through their choice of words and style of writing. No doubt that either way it affects a writers thoughts and inspirations, but as with anything how they choose to compose and share their writing is really what matters. Interesting thought.
- ahorsebackposted 13 years ago0
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