Hate Mail...

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   KristenGraceposted 12 years ago

   Yup, definitely just got my first piece of hate mail... (Not fanmail...)
   
   It's totally uncalled for, and I think people need to respect others.  I try my hardest to remain considerate, open-minded and polite with others, and I wish they would do the same. 
   
   Note: I know most of you are respectful... Just sayin' I found this very rude.

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      Ellarose92posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      wow i cant believe someone would actually do that!! i love your work but even if someone disliked it theres no need to leave rude non sense on someones page, i'd like to give that person a piece of my mind!! anyways i hope you get a million good fan mails to counteract that bad one in the near future!!

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         KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Aw, thanks so much Ellarose - I was really surprised to get that e-mail, but I appreciate your positive energy very much!

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      Megavitaminposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      That's so crazy, especially since you're one of the nicest hubbers!  Sorry to hear about the hate mail, I think all the positive things people say about/to you far outweigh that one tiny negative.

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         KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Haha, I certainly try to be nice !!  And yes, I've certainly appreciated all of this positivity.

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      PegCole17posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      That is really a shame. Shame on them. So sorry that happened to you. Try not to take it to heart. I know that's difficult. It seems like the world has taken the hater approach with the different TV shows full of meanness and anger. Keep your chin up and don't let the bad guys get you down.

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      ssaulposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Sad that people behave the way they do, shame on them, whoever you are! Even if I don't agree with someone, it doesn't give me the right to go off on a tantrum. Kristen you are a trooper, this will soon pass! lol

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      perfectperceptionposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      That's so sad!  Growth!! That's what it takes. You have be respectful of other and their opinions. It's just cruel and only haters try to be cruel.  Hold your head up high.  It's not worth it and neither are they.

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         KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Thanks for replying guys.  It is sad - but I'm definitely past it now!

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   paradigmsearchposted 12 years ago

   Imho, you are a fellow fine human being in your own right.

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   Cagsilposted 12 years ago

   Hate mail...
   
   Sorry to hear you received "hate" mail. I've not come across anything that is "hate" mongering in my email, but I am sure it is to come sooner or later.
   
   Just pass it along to Admin or report it as SPAM.

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      KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      No it came to my personal e-mail, so I just deleted it... It wasn't left on a hub or as fanmail.
      
      Thanks for taking the time to respond, though, Cagsil.

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         Hauntyposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         If it was sent via HP you can tell admin the name of the person and they will still be able to see the message even if you deleted it.

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   KristenGraceposted 12 years ago

   Thanks paradigmsearch - That makes me feel better!!

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   lrohnerposted 12 years ago

   Wow! I'm shocked! So sorry you had to be the recipient. I would definitely report it to the HP team.

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      KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      You know, the person who wrote it, I can't find their profile on HP... It's odd.  However it came "via HubPages..."

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         ryankettposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Anybody can choose to contact you via Hubpages, it doesn't require the sender to be a member of the site. The via Hubpages bit just tells you that they used the contact form from your profile.

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            KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            Interesting... Then I'm not sure... But they used their full name, so it would be odd that somebody would say something cruel and just sign off on their name.

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               ryankettposted 12 years agoin reply to this

               What was it? Their name? If it was an unusual name we could possibly track them down through Facebook or something? Do you have their email address? You can always find something with somebodies email address.
               
               Failing that, you could post their email address on a huge public forum, with the thread title "abuse this person"; maybe even this forum? Sounds good to me

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                  KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                  LOL.   That sounds good to me, too  
                  
                  If it happens again, I'm seeking you out to support me in that that forum thread!

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                  Pcunixposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                  Well, you wouldn't want to do that.
                  
                  If I know your email I can send email to anyone else pretending to be you.  The only way  the recipient would know it wasn't you would be if they looked at the full headers and noticed that the mail came through a U.S. Verizon address.
                  
                  If we were both in the same area, using the same ISP, only that ISP could tell that it was not actually from you.

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         To Start Againposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         a reader can still send you email via the contact you button on your profile even if they aren't a member of the site.
         
         Sorry you had to get a crummy note But it all comes with the gig The hard part is not letting it bother you...

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            KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            I know.  I'm getting better at that. 
            
            It's just sad that I would never say something mean "just to be mean..." so I don't understand that mindset.

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   Midnight Oilposted 12 years ago

   It comes with being successful... While most people love your stuff, there is always a few that are really green with envy and will do anything to drag you down to their level. 
   
   I have had it several times in the past, just trash it and take no notice - report to HP team if necessary...

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      KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for the insight, Midnight Oil.  I appreciate it.  I guess I could look at it like they are as you said, "envious."  Hopefully they don't really feel the way they described.

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         Midnight Oilposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Just don't let it get to you...  I have lost a couple of good friends due their envy over my successful writing, but made many more new friends over the years as a result of it.
         
         Envy is not one of the best human traits

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            KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            I agree.
            
            Thanks again. 

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   David 470posted 12 years ago

   There's a lot of haters on the internet, and in general. I see it everyday on forums, youtube, over xbox live chat, and etc...
   
   Some people just troll for kicks...They want to start fights between people, and just watch as the fire ensues.. 
   
   Don't worry about them. Sometimes that's easier said than done, but you just have to toss them aside.

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   Randy Godwinposted 12 years ago

   Small people do small things.  Ignore those tiny irritants! 

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   KristenGraceposted 12 years ago

   I like that, Randy...
   
   David, I agree.  It's sad that that's the best thing they can think of to do with their time.

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    Iontachposted 12 years ago

    No way!!! Sorry about that Kristen Do you know I've been expecting some recently...I wonder will I get any soon.

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       KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       LOL, I'll share mine.

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          Iontachposted 12 years agoin reply to this

          Did you say something in a forum or answer that somebody didnt like? I'm all  nosey and want to know the full scoop. lol

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             KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

             I don't think so!!
             That's why it was so surprising...

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    Pcunixposted 12 years ago

    Huh?  You?
    
    For what?
    
    Me, sure. I'm very hateable and I'm nasty and arrogant on top of that.
    
    You are a sweet heart. What did they find to hate?????

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       KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       I don't want to name names, but it was more disturbing that they thought it was relevant to negatively comment on my looks.

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          Pcunixposted 12 years agoin reply to this

          Even nuttier..

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    Lisa HWposted 12 years ago

    In all the time I've been on here (of course, I don't really write much of anything that ought to be all that controversial), I've received a few.  Not all of them came from here, though.  Every once in a great while, though, some person who is either a jerk or a lunatic (or both) either takes "hate-issue" with some innocuous thing that's written, or else makes up what he thinks the author means or thinks, and sends a hate mail (which is a very different thing from "opposing-view" mail, which I don't mind at all). 
    
    I don't think it happens too often for most people.  You can either write those e.mail-senders off as the jerks they are; or else, if you're in the mood, you can always post a few quotes somewhere like here, on the forum, and let everyone have a good, public, laugh at them.   

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    Rafiniposted 12 years ago

    Hate mail?  omg - what will they think of next??
    
    
    Sorry you had to deal with that - this is for you, hope it makes you feel better:
    
    
    

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       KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       How sweet are you!!!  Thanks so much - That makes me feel better on Valentine's Day

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    Uninvited Writerposted 12 years ago

    I got one once, I assumed it came from someone who disagreed with me on the political forum.

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       Lisa HWposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       The few I've gotten have had absolutely nothing to do with "the usual suspects" - like religion or politics.  They were, oddly enough, things I wrote in an attempt to kind of defend one group or another of perfectly decent people or, and kind of try to point out that sometimes not understanding someone else's thinking, or not understanding that people can just be different, can make others think of some people more negatively than those people deserve (and without saying or implying anything bad about anyone on the "other side").  Harmless, right?  (Trying to spread a little "human understanding" in the world.)  Wrong, apparently.  It appears there are people who don't like their hatred of, or superior attitude toward, other people threatened by something like trying to understand a little better.     And they REALLY hate someone who tries to calm anyone else's hate. 
       
       As my kids' father has often said, "People don't like to to be enlightened."   

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    Mikeydoesposted 12 years ago

    You will be getting hatemail from me very soon! When you beat me to 200!

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       KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       I am so close!!!  Haven't seen you in awhile!

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          Mikeydoesposted 12 years agoin reply to this

          Yeah, I thought I was going to be able to work on hubpages.. Haven't got to come on or do anything!

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             KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

             Well, it was good to hear from you.
             
             How close are you getting to the 200,000 ?

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    Hugh Williamsonposted 12 years ago

    Sorry you had to experience the nasty Email.
    
    Please be cautious, keep a paper copy of the Email and, if it contained anything that could be considered a threat, notify police, ISP, etc.
    
    It's probably just some harmless bungwad, but then, it's best to be careful.

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       KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       No, no, nothing that serious.
       
       Just upsetting

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    Rastamermaidposted 12 years ago

    Sorry this happened to you, but you know the  saying....
    
    Got Haters?
    
    You're doing something right!

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       KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       LOL.  I hope I'm doing something right!

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    Beth100posted 12 years ago

    Sorry to hear that you've received this.  Probably someone who is jealous of you, and the only way they can cope is to belittle you.  Don't let it get you down or upset.  This person is not worth your time, attention or energy.

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       KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       Yup, you're right.
       
       Thanks for your support, Beth100!

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       ryankettposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       Some people go through life being nothing other than simple minded and spiteful little cretins, those people seldom see the error of their ways, and as such we should show pity. Personally I think that the occassional encounter with these idiots is a great way of reaffirming belief in ourselves; particularly the way that we conduct ourselves. It is likely that the offender was dragged up, most of us were raised.

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          rebekahELLEposted 12 years agoin reply to this

          Ryan said it much more eloquently than how I was about to respond.
          
          don't give it any more thought, it's not worth taking personally.

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             KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

             Thanks for taking the time to write.
             
             I know.  I'm over it now - Initially, it just sort of threw me.

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                rebekahELLEposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                oh, I know, it's disturbing. I remember someone posting something in the forums when I was still rather new and I couldn't believe someone was so mean. I had to walk away from the computer and go clean the pool to shake it off. but remember this, it's not about you, it's something within the person that they're not comfortable dealing with when they react with repugnance and hateful remarks.

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    SpanStarposted 12 years ago

    KristenGrace,
    
        That is unfortnate that someone isn't mature enough to deal with that which they don't agree with.
    
         Personally what I like to do is take information like that and post it everywhere I can think of so I can take it out of the dark and bring it into the light-But that's just me.
    
      Seem likes with all these post you have a lot of support.

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       KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       A lot of good people here at HP
       
       It was silly and didn't even have anything to do with my writing... which is just silly...

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    sofsposted 12 years ago

    Kristen  there will always been some people who are mean and bitter just ignore them. What negative people say speaks more about them than about you... cheer up girl.. and continue being what you are!!<3 U!!!

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       KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       Aw, you're the best!  Thanks so much sofs!

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    Happyboomernurseposted 12 years ago

    Sorry for the rudeness that a reader inflicted on you. Glad that so many fellow hubbers have responded to this forum with tremendous support on your behalf.

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       KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       A lot of heart on Valentines Day

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    tlpoagueposted 12 years ago

    Sorry about your hate mail. I recieved my first bit of hate mail over my La-Chon hubs. Apparently they thought I was an abusive dog breeder. I mainly ignored it, but made a note to watch for that person in the future.
    Has anyone recieved email from an HP stalker?

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       KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       Never had a stalker, but have received many positive e-mails or e-mails asking questions about HP.

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    Kangaroo_Jaseposted 12 years ago

    Kristen,
    
    Don't concern yourself about that type of email at all, you will always encounter people who feel they accomplish something by attempting to hurt your feelings.
    
    My response to such hate mail, is usually to think, f*** it email writer, your a f***wit anyway and your commentary has as much value as a wart on my arse.
    
    And bugger it if they talk about my looks, don't these people know I have a head for radio anyway???
    
    Chin up and onto better things Kristen

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    Flightkeeperposted 12 years ago

    Kristen, if the emails came through Hubpages, don't ignore it, report it.  You shouldn't have to deal with that.  Hubpages may find a way to trace it and nip it in the bud.

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    skyfireposted 12 years ago

    Some people have too much time in their hands. Being rude to others on the internet is the only way for them to pass time.
    
    If you're getting too many hate mails then you're doing just fine.

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       KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       People need to find something better to do !

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          Mikeydoesposted 12 years agoin reply to this

          171 what about you!

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             KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

             195,000 - Haha, I had posted a thread about it because I was getting so excited!

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    brimancandyposted 12 years ago

    The first time I ever joined a personals website, I was in the chatroom, and this guy says. Man! That (My username) is one ugly mo-fo. Someone get a net and catch that troll and boot him off the site. Quick before I throw up!
    
    Being the way I am I thought it was pretty funny. But, you should have seen how fast the other users in the room pounced on him. They said, if you don't like anyone here keep it to yourself or leave.
    And, the insults were flying. I felt like I had started a war.
    
    Then I figured out that people often do that kind of stuff to draw attention to themselves. I clicked on the guys profile, and he was just some ugly kid giving the camera the finger. He was probably just some bored kid, with nothing better to do than hang around chat rooms causing trouble. We eventually had him banned.
    
    Some people just like to be mean. I usually ignore it.

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       KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       Thanks for sharing that experience with me.  It's odd to me why people would want to be mean... But I agree that it's people with, as you said, nothing better to do.

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    kimberlyslyricsposted 12 years ago

    Was this harmful to you?  Did it come from HP's? meaning someone here?  I hope you don't get more but come sit in my inbox there's some fun
    
    but report it if it is someone here and if so, they really shouldn't have had your personal email :
    
    good luck 

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       KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       No, not harmful.  Just not very nice.
       
       Thanks for responding to my thread here.  I appreciate it.

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    mistyhorizon2003posted 12 years ago

    Also, bear in mind, a disgruntled hubber can always log out and then contact you by the contact link, or post a nasty comment on your hub, and not be 'obviously' identified. However, their IP address is visible under the approve/deny area of a comment on YOUR hub, and I expect Hubpages can see the IP address from an internally generated email. If it did come from another hubber, they can act or even ban the hubber, but you will need to report it first so they can check it out.
    Good luck, and don't take it to heart, I get hateful comments on occasion, but I just delete them and ignore them for the most part. They soon move on to targets who will react to their venom. As for emails, ignore these too, for the same reason, plus you don't want them to have your actual email address if you reply.

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       KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       Yup.  You're right.
       
       And I didn't give the satisfaction of replying

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          mistyhorizon2003posted 12 years agoin reply to this

          Good on you. Many decent hubbers get this kind of abuse, but only a coward would do this, and clearly the support is all with you, which speaks volumes

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             KristenGraceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

             And I sincerely appreciate the hubber support !

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    BobbiRantposted 12 years ago

    That's so uncalled for.  If someone does not like a person's views they need to move on, and leave it be.  Hate mail accomplishes nothing and makes a person look like they are simply nuts in my book anyway.  I'm sorry that happened to you.  We are all entitled to our own views and if a person cannot intelligently write a comment, they need not resort to hate.

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