Why Do Wives Get Mad With Husbands Watching Porn? How Does It Interfere With Mar

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   DATALOADposted 11 years ago

   They don't like the thought of their husband being aroused by someone else. That's my first instinct on the subject.

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   Liberationposted 11 years ago

   Your body is for your wife as the bible says when you watch porn is life being in the actual act with another person.  I pray for your deliverance in Jesus name

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   Ranziposted 11 years ago

   Geez so many uptight people on here quoting from the bible. Seriously what is right and wrong? What is moral and what's not? People need to chill out and be secure in themselves and stop making so many rules which go against human nature. Your man, unless a sexless zombie or (A sexual Sheldon from the big bang) will lust about another women ALL THE TIME! Whether it's through some crappy porn or in his secret fantasies he will lust, and do things with his imagination that perhaps he would never dare do or breath in the real world. In the end you must realise that WE ARE HUMANS, NOT JESUS or some holier than thou VIRGIN MARY. So seriously people chill out, have a glass of wine and join your husband or wife in their fun.
   
   
   BTW what about that badly written porn that came out last year for women? What was it called? Oh yeah '50 shades of sadistic crap' Maybe the husbands should have burned their wives books.

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   lifelovemysteryposted 11 years ago

   I think that it dishonors the vow to 'love, honor and cherish'.

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   moshe1posted 11 years ago

   To answer the first part of your question, porn is just wrong. It promotes abuse of females, homosexuality, and other forms of sexual acts that are considered not abnormal. I feel that if you choose to expose yourself to that type of media then you become and abuser, a fornicator, someone who thinks sinning is okay.
   
   To answer your second question, viewing pornographic material can be catastrophic to your marriage. Married men view pornography can be susceptible to cheating on their wife. Depending on the type of porn they watch, they can be tempted to reenact what most arrouses them. For example, if you watch porn that depicts a young female, you can have a storng urge to lust after a young female. Some men fail to restrain themselves, and will cheat on their wives. Other forms f porn, such as homosexual porn or animal porn can lead to lusting after another man or animals.
   
   Another issues is that a married man who watches porn will often time look forward to porn, rather than sharing a passionate moment with his wife. Soon, the relationship grows apart and divorce ensues.
   
   Let's not forget that viewing porn is immoral. If you are a Christian, viewing porn is the same a cheating on your wife. You are committing a sin by lusting after another person.
   
   There is really nothing good that can come from a married man viewing porn.

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      Deborah Sextonposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I agree 100% with everything you've said. Many pretend they don't know this

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   Alexandra Karnesposted 11 years ago

   The woman feels that she isn't pretty enough for the man, she thinks that porn is what makes him happy and not her. She basically feels unworthy for her husband. My friends bf watches porn while they are doing it and after she tells me that she's depressed, or that she doesn't think she's good enough for him.

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   denisedaltoposted 11 years ago

   We are all here to try and figure out why our men are watching Porn right? Well here's my take on the question. How many times have you been on a website and an ad for Match.com comes up?  After a while curiosity kills the cat and he simply starts browsing just to see whats out there (grass is greener on the other side mentality) in his area. So here is where it begins for the MARRIED MAN because this website is for singles right.  Most cheating married men are not looking for a relationship but simply for SOMETHING DIFFERENT. Now they start browsing different sites for porn which as we know is all over the Internet too. He starts watching but sooner than later he wants even more. Now he's handing out his credit card number to watch LIVE porn. And then when he gets bored with that he seeks to act on the fantasies that the porn star in this live video has put in his head. Now again, he need look no further then the Internet for that either. We've got Craigslist,  Backpage, and of course escort sites offering everything from back rubs (with a happy ending) to fulfilling their every fantasy and fetish!  Ladies, if you think you know your man's every fantasy or fetish I'm here to tell you first hand....YOU DON'T! Not every man will act on them but after reading the stats,  50% (or more) WILL!  Mine did and I suspect you are on this website because yours may have also.  I suspected for years but any time I brought the subject up he would swear (even looked me in the eyes and swore on our children) he wasn't.  It became so bad one time that he  actually said  "prove it and come back to me when you have it"! SO...I did what he asked,  I installed a program on his phone called Stealth Genie. As soon as that code went into his phone my every nightmare was proven.  Up came all his texts,  Web browsing history,  photos and more.  I let it stay on his phone for two months as I gathered the "PROOF" he so needed.  Then I hit him with it and asked him to leave.  Tore my heart to shreds to say the least. He texted me every day apologizing and a week later he begged to come home promising everything from going to counseling to full disclosure of his phone and computer.  I made the mistake of taking him back though.  Thats probably the one thing I regret most in my life!  In his eyes he got away with a slap on the wrist because once he was back there was NO COUNCILING or anything else he promised.  Five months later I now want the divorce I should have asked for then!

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      lbritestar2posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      computers, cell phones, social sites have made it all to easy for both men and women to stray and cheat. I to have been going through the same thing.

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      sassydeeposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      well that sucks you know I always wonder why women look for things their husbands are doing wrong (im not saying you but most women) because once they get their proof they don't really do anything about it but give them a slap on the wrist!

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   scrittore1938posted 11 years ago

   I was initially drawn to this question because I enjoy watching loving acts between women. I find that the gentleness of two women performing varied sex acts is a beautiful thing. Lets  acknowledge that most of these videos are performed by actors who in many cases are better at their craft  than the mainstream thespians. While reading the answers of many of the other contributors I was taken aback with the adamant fervour against the practice of visiting pornography.  I have found that the enjoyment of voyerism has kept a marraige sound and the visual exitement of cavorting lovers, reduces the necessity of seeking outside assistance in the actual sex acts.  I read throughout the answers an almost zealous distain by many who use theology as a bludgeon against the practice.  Jealousy seems to prevail with women who might not be "happily" married, where it not for the porn industry.  As far as the religionists, perhaps you to might not be facing jail terms if you spent more time looking at porn instead of exercise your demons outwardly

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      Deborah Sextonposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Why do you see these as loving acts? That's not loving. Porn stars are usually those who failed in every other attempt at a job, either through laziness, or stupidity, and nothing else

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      It is only meposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Wow! First you described porn lesbians as loving. And then you said that porn prevents you from physically cheating on your spouse who you promised to love, honor, cherish, respect, etc. Did your vows say, "I will accomplish this with porn"? Unlikely

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   jeffreymaskelposted 11 years ago

   I am not married so I am also not an expert in this at all.  I would assume wives feel as if they are being put second to porn in something that is probably very intimate to them.  I can totally understand this.  I also think that wives should understand that a major part of a man's sexuality is automatic and mechanical for lack of better terms.  Not to say a man cannot have a intimate situation.  Just saying.

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    ElleBeeposted 11 years ago

    Wow. This question clearly got a lot of attention - because 3 years later it showed up high in the questions list for me today.  In addition to the many mentioned reasons i.e. visual adultery, the woman feeling like she isn't satisfying her husband etc.  I think one of the big issues with pornography is that it creates unrealistic expectations.  Especially if people view pornography before being in an intimate relationship, they have this image of perfect-looking photo shopped individuals, often times doing things/moving in ways that most people aren't able to etc.  and this becomes the person's expectation of what their own relationship(s) are going to look like.

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    Destiny Amyposted 11 years ago

    Because, it makes the wife feel as if she isn't enough for her husband.

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    MrsGray32posted 11 years ago

    I think woman worry that husbands will think of whomever it was they were watching while loving their wife instead of thinking about their wife.  Way to solve this problem Invite her to watch with you.  If your not ashamed and have no fetish feelings to hide then why not enjoy the show together.  Who knows maybe she will like the same things you do.

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    Kalmiyaposted 11 years ago

    Women shouldn't get mad about this.  If you dislike your husband watching porn, LEAVE HIM.
    
    If not, ignore it. Men are stupid animals and this whole discussion doesn't warrant any further thought.

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       It is only meposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       You are right in one respect. If you hate porn & your husband won't stop, then yes leave him. However, I think your 2nd point is wrong. I believe men are capable of being more than "stupid animals". Men, like women, can be whatever they set out t

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    KysEyesposted 10 years ago

    Frankly, I know my husband is young and he probably fantasies about other women. I honestly don't, I know if we are out to eat and the waitress has nice breasts or a nice booty then he may look. He may try 'not' to out of respect for me being there with him but some times it just happens, its part of being human. Women say they don't do it but they probably do it more than they realize. If your find your man interested in porn, I think you shouldn't over react but simply sit down and watch it with him. Sometimes that sort of thing works wonders for a couple. My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years, I know that isn't a lot but if there is something that interests my husband, I don't yell at him for it. Instead I try to approach the situation with an open mind and try to share with him that particular interest. With that being said, I don't agree with sharing...so things like 3-some's or orgies or swinging simply wont do. But my husband is faithful and isn't afraid to talk to me about trying something new in the bedroom. I am only 23 but I know enough to know it is better to embrace who your husband is and what excites them instead of making them feel ashamed of those things.

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       Deborah Sextonposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       I can honestly say I have never watched porn, and never will. I have been happily married to a wonderful man for a long time. Here he is
       http://joelmclendon.hubpages.com/

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    lostohanababyposted 10 years ago

    It becomes annoying and frustrating to a wife, that you have compete with the playful chicks romping about on "Porn" films.  The magic of whatever 'closeness' you have or had between yourself and your husband, now seems violated and not satisfying, anymore.   If the situation persists in the home, where your husband chooses those precious moments he could be with you, instead he is more interested in the 'Porn Goddess".   Its time to have a serious talk with him and find out, what's wrong with your relationship in your marriage or relationship.  If it should go to the next level, where he is ignoring you and becoming more uncaring towards you.  Pack up or put him out.   There are no standards involved that you have to put up with this behavior from your husband or steady partner!

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    Nicole Heringposted 10 years ago

    Someone I knew had a husband who watched porn and he started cheating on her more than once after a while because he wanted more sexually that she wasn't interested in doing. I'm not sure if watching porn was why he wanted more or what. They're still married though because he pleaded for her to come back like a wuss. I don't know if they're happy exactly, but half of the family refuses to talk to him, so socially they're a bit crippled now.

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    brakel2posted 10 years ago

    Porn can become addictive and will affect a relationship. I know a college professor who had porn on his computer that went to jail for three years. I would be very upset if my spouse watched porn

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    Aime Fposted 10 years ago

    Reading the answers to this question was... an experience. First of all, I find it absolutely hilarious that people are hammering on about their husbands disrespecting them while saying stuff like "men are stupid, men are pigs, blah blah." If you can't see the irony in that...
    
    Secondly, as a woman and a wife, I watch porn. Probably more than my husband does. We have a toddler and work alternate hours and sometimes the timing just doesn't work out. And sometimes, I am comfortable to admit, I just want a quick release and the whole foreplay, undressing, getting each other 'there' thing doesn't sound all that appealing. Maybe I'm just lazy. I don't know. But we have a lovely marriage and he knows I watch porn and I don't ever reject him when he asks for something (assuming I'm not sleeping or heading out the door). It doesn't replace our sex life, it just adds to mine.
    
    I would never in a million years view my husband watching porn as cheating, because I know that when I watch porn it's not so much about the specific person (I probably wouldn't even recognize anyone I've watched in a video if I saw them again), it's about something being visually stimulating on a really simple, obvious level.
    
    I'd be interested to hear if people thought literotica (written porn) was cheating/disrespectful, too? You're not actually looking at a real person, you're reading about a fictional character. Or what about masturbating and thinking about someone other than your spouse (say, some random attractive celebrity), is that cheating?
    
    If the reaction of the majority here was representative of people in the real world I think I would have been single until the end of time.

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       It is only meposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       I am sorry but, I have lived my 30 yr marriage directing all sex & sexual thoughts toward my husband. But 25 yrs into our marriage, my husband admitted that porn made him think only of other women, even when we supposedly "made love". How's that?

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       Deborah Sextonposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       You asked so, yes, it's cheating anytime a man or woman thinks of another besides their spouse And it's cheating when you lust even when reading a poem

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       Aime Fposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       Interesting. I wonder how many people manage to think of only their spouse for decades on end.

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       Deborah Sextonposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       My mom and dad did, and after she died, he didn't have anything to do with such things, and died shortly after
       My husband and I have been happily married a long time  ask him- http://joelmclendon.hubpages.com/ I do marriage counseling .

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       Aime Fposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       It was a hypothetical question as I'm not sure how you could possibly know that someone has never even thought about anyone else.

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       Deborah Sextonposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       I know my parents would have told me, because we talked about everything. Plus I know them. Something you couldn't possibly understand. I also know myself and Joel

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       Aime Fposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       

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       Deborah Sextonposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       What's the for ? My parents were different from most, and I'm guessing a lot different than yours In the years I knew my mom, she never even used a bad word My folks were 58 yrs married

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       It is only meposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       My heart is broken & I'm thinking of ending my 30 yr marriage because of my husband's porn & fantasy activities. I only recently learned that porn has caused him to think of everyone but me. He even thinks of his past relationships, women we

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        SAHM9posted 8 years agoin reply to this

        Oh I love this! You sound just like me! My husband works and we have four children, where do we find the time and energy to have sex! When we do, it's amazing and special, but in the mean time, I will please myself!!

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    SAQIB6608posted 10 years ago

    Everyone has ego and perhaps self respect. It gets hurts, makes a mess really. Although i am a guy but i can as a matter of fact understand it. Other thing is considering watching porn as social evil.

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    Zeron87posted 10 years ago

    Because the man is lusting after someone else instead of her, that's why.  It makes the wife feel inadequate, physically or sexually (or both).  But the ladies need to remember this:  Marriage is a two-way street in the bedroom too.  The man needs to satisfy his woman, just as the woman needs to satisfy her man.  Any party resorting to pornography is either addicted (if started before marriage) or desperate (if started after it).  A man can feel inadequate too if his wife shows little interest in him sexually, or shows no enthusiasm when they're in the act.  If one party refuses to satisfy the other, and they can't come to a consensus, then they need to separate.  Two of the biggest marriage killers:  Money and sexual dissatisfaction.

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    sassydeeposted 10 years ago

    It depends on the wives morals and beliefs but basically I think the main reason besides looking at morals or religious beliefs they just get mad because the husband is sneaky about it and watches it without the wife

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    Sangeeta12posted 10 years ago

    I have read most of the below comments and like the other ladies i do feel its not right and it does hurt that your partner is ogling at other women. But what do you do when u are not able to give or offer your partner the physical intimacy that he craves for.
    It could be health related , that you do not feel up to having sex or you are just over tired with household chores etc. At this point it seems ok that the partner can relieve himself then going out and looking for sex.

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    bethperryposted 10 years ago

    My husband and I agreed a long time ago that if either of us are interested in watching porn, it has to be approved by the other first. And in 20 years of marriage we have watched two porn films; and my husband turned off the second half-way through because he said no actress compares to his real thing. I believe if either partner gets angry over the other watching porn it is probably due to the fact their spouse is showing more interest in some paid sex maker than their real thing. And that would hurt me if it happened, so I imagine it would hurt anyone else.

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    chanelconocoposted 10 years ago

    I personally think it depends on how much of your time you are devoting to watching porn. I don't see anything with my
    Bf/husband watching poem as long as it does not become an addiction. It is also good if the couple chooses to watch it together they're both learn a thing or two.

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       It is only meposted 8 years agoin reply to this

       You do realize that when men watch porn, it's all about them connecting sexually with other women, instead of their wives. And, if you watch porn with him, you become his sperm receptacle...while he is having an orgasm over another woman. How Loving!

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    Deborah Sextonposted 10 years ago

    It is extremely hurtful to some wives, and porn should be left out of marriage period.
    Only a terrible, uncaring husband would watch porn

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       Aime Fposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       That's a massive generalization. Some of us are completely okay with porn. My husband watches it and is completely honest about it and I assure you he is neither terrible nor uncaring.

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       Deborah Sextonposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       If that's what you want to believe, but I still stand on my statement. Some men expect women to put up with anything they do, but  the love they feel is for themselves.  When the wife agrees they are in a codependent relationship + sinful

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       Aime Fposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       Lovely.

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       Deborah Sextonposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       Isn't It

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       It is only meposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       I totally agree!  And the women who think it is okay for their husbands to lust over & have orgasms with the thoughts of other women on their minds,  instead of their wives, are in for a rude awakening someday.

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    ShujinkoDegusposted 10 years ago

    Isn't it obvious? Why should a married person lust for another person?

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    chaitanyasaivbposted 10 years ago

    Basically, Watching a content, like that is not an appreciable thing, if a person is married or not. But, After marriage, It will increase the gap between a wife and a husband. Even, in some cases, the issue will goes up to divorce.
    
            After marriage, Husband, must show love towards his wife. Even, they must have better understanding of each other, to escape situations like these. It will be better, if husbands, won't watch such content.

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    Besarienposted 10 years ago

    Porn is addictive and degrading to women and men. If it isn't, then it isn't pornography.

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    Oztinatoposted 10 years ago

    A generation ago the only people into porn were disgusting dirty old men in raincoats. Modern marketing, atheist trends and the net have tried to make the disgusting fashionable but human ethics and commonsense will always see orherwise. Hence decent good wives object to gross porn as an affront to love.

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       Aime Fposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       Not true. Sex-positive feminists fought the anti-pornography crowd in the 70s. Erotic novels date back to the 1600s and I doubt "dirty old men in raincoats" made up the 40% of those who were actually literate at the time.

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       Oztinatoposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       Aime
       I am not talking about art but cheap gross dirty hard core porn.

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    TheSocialGazetteposted 10 years ago

    I think it would depend on the couple and how close they are, comfortable with each other.

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    Calypso02posted 10 years ago

    I can understand why some women wouldn't want their husbands watching porn.  When you get married, you make a solid vow before God to forsake all others, and you must keep that vow.  Looking at another female is adultery.  The wife should be all the husband needs.  No one wants to be compared to a Victoria's Secret model.

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       SAHM9posted 8 years agoin reply to this

       I am no Victoria Secret model, but I wouldn't deny my husband the chance to look at one and admire her. Hell, I would too! Do you think putting unreal expectations on any person would lead them to cheat or be secretive in what they do?

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    Dheeraj Guliaposted 10 years ago

    Sex is a real mind blowing activity. it starts from mind. When we think about sex then our mind say to do sex to us. When we watch porn videos with our partner than we can't control own self. It's not a thing of another woman or man in the video. It is the way to  wake up our mind for make a sex.

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       It is only meposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       When men watch porn, they most often lust over other women & their wives just become the convenient sperm receptacle. Nothing loving or intimate in that!

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    Caitlyn Ramosposted 10 years ago

    Personally, I don't mind that my boyfriends watches porn. But we aren't married.
    
    I believe that if we were married and committed to each other that I'd want him to look at me and only me and be pleased until the end of our days.
    
    Women want to be "enough" and even more for their significant others.

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    brendaaposted 10 years ago

    Wives get mad because of husbands who are addicted to porn. Husbands who spend most of their time on porn sites rather  than doing something productive. Addiction to porn interferes with marriage. It takes away time that could have been spent getting to know each other better. It could become a turn off gauge where intimacy is involved especially by the partner who doesn't like watching. A partner may not be able to differentiate between reality and fantasy, this may lead to having unrealistic standards of intimacy.

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    Patrick McCormackposted 10 years ago

    Wives get angry at their husbands for watching porn because first of all she should be the only woman your are lusting after and fantasizing about having sex with and second of all porn objectifies woman in a way their your wife may not be comfortable with herself. These two things together may make the wife believe that the husband isn't attracted to her anymore and is interested in other women or he is interested in the different things then they are doing in the bedroom and that could make her feel insecure. Either the wife will get used to the idea and learn to accept the husbands fantasies are really harmless, he will have to learn to engage her in the porn by performing things he sees, or give up porn altogether. It can end up interfering with marriage because some men cannot stop watching porn and may have a porn addiction. Some men actually believe porn can encourage cheating by the values it promotes and a marriage can become healthier but limiting or better yet abstaining from porn. I think it makes sense from a psychological point of view, its pretty interesting, wives should have a concern especially if your husband is watching porn over having intercourse with you. I wouldn't go as far as some and say its cheating but I can understand the case for it as well. I would definitely say that the more interested you are in your wife the less appealing porn will become unless you have a porn addiction. I think part of the problem is if men aren't getting what they want sexually out of a relationship most men in that situation are selfish and don't step back and take a look at their marriage or relationship and say what can I be doing better or what am I not doing that I should be. Instead these men may resort to porn and never ask these questions. Of course there also are women who out there who don't care if their man watches porn not all women get mad their husbands.

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    Sara Jofreposted 10 years ago

    Can't answer you that... I don't get mad. The "worst" I might do is joining in...

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    BRichardsposted 10 years ago

    I  feel when men are watching porn, they then get a  imagine of  a fake reality.the men then look  at us in a different way, as to why cant we be like them.

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    rainsanmartinposted 10 years ago

    This is cheating in the heart. It is "extremely" hurtful to the spouse and greatly lowers her self esteem. 7000 others will never be enough. Only "one" in holy matrimony can ever satisfy. We should put God first in our lives, invest in our spouse with selfless devotion and God will surely reward us with a passionate marriage.  "But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." (Mathew 5:28)

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       Kiss andTalesposted 8 years agoin reply to this

       Rain , I am so sorry for your anguish and pain on this subject. This is a growing problem all over the world.
       And maybe you are fighting a battl. that only the Heavenly Father can help you with, its in the heart that this developed in.

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    EmilySpurlockposted 10 years ago

    It bothers me because it's like my husband is more interested on masturbating to porn than he is having sex with me. Women are already more self-conscious beings, so you have to understand why this can bother a woman. It sure makes me feel less of myself, like I'm not pretty enough or have as great of a body, or even that I'm not as good as the girls in the porn industry.
    I used to never have a problem with it until he stopped complimenting me. This isn't an issue for all women, but that sure jerks my chains the wrong way.

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       It is only meposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       As my husband's porn interest increased, his interest in me decreased...to the point of... he began always choosing porn over me. Not a very nice thing for a wife to deal with. My self esteem & self worth took a huge hit. My womanhood was gone.

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    MrDanielAbramposted 10 years ago

    Wives get mad because they feel insulted.. They should be getting the attention.

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    melbelposted 10 years ago

    I think it's a jealousy issue. Perhaps it leads the wife to think the husband isn't getting enough of something in the bedroom or perhaps he is bored. I think it's an insecurity issue. However, it's something the couple needs to talk about to see if they can resolve it whether it ends in her being okay with him watching porn or he stop watching it.

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    Silent Keyposted 10 years ago

    In my opinion this is due to lots of things actually. As a wife, I know personally that we women go through so many different emotions in a day, less known an hour so I believe  it's partly to do with an emotion stance. If my husband hasn't looked at me and told me I was appealing to him in any manner, I'd feel self conscious about myself compared to a video vixen. Which goes along with the fact that my husband is watching another naked woman who's body has not had the same journey in life as my own. She may have had children in some cases, but she has also had the funds to make over some of her natural wear and tear. Most women don't, most have the means of taking care of home, kids, and a career as well as the task of taking care of hubby after all else is done.
    Also, some men tend to get caught up in pornographic fantasies and often want to create their own personal porn stars at home, if you have a wife who works (especially one like myself), she's going to need way more than just the general idea of you wanting her sexually to excite her. Porn for most women does not turn us on, it's useful as background noise more than anything. We can become excited but I guarantee you that it's because of something you did or said and not because of the porn. Lastly, women need to feel like they are the most attractive thing you've ever come across, especially if you're wanting maximum performance from her. I'm assuming that men like porn because of 1.naked women, 2. sex on camera and 3. the performance given by the vixen;   but it's like this, there not one superstar that would come and perform at a show that sold no tickets. Think of your woman as that Superstar and your ability to delight her as the tickets to her show. If you can not provide the delight for her, she won't show up to do a show!!!

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    Joshtheplumberposted 10 years ago

    They get mad because they want to be the one that you pursue. Instead you keep an eye out for the next pretty young thing. Guess what fellas, she won't be young and pretty forever and she knows it, but she'll still need you. If you forget how to approach her, someone else will figure it out. And you'll miss out on where she could've taken you.

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    passionatelearnrposted 9 years ago

    Watching porn is not a good habit anyway so don't do it.

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    tamarawilhiteposted 9 years ago

    1. It causes him to judge her against impossible standards, so she's seen less by her own husband compared to women whose behavior is really acting and bodies are artificially altered to impossible dimensions.
    2. When the man watches too much porn, he is conditioned to it - and now he can't have normal sexual relations with his wife because he sees the relationship with her as woefully inadequate. They are finding young men now unable to have sex with real women because they don't find real women attractive enough and don't know how to relate with them to have a real relationship.

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    Kiss andTalesposted 8 years ago

    Basically the eyes are one of the most power organ we own.
    Example did the eye of Eve get us all in trouble ?
    Judas 30 pieces of silver must had look good to him to betray his close companion. Even Faithful Job had to make a promise with his own eyes not to look at a virgin.
    Reference Bible Job 31:1 31. "A covenant I have concluded with my eyes. So how could I show myself attentive to a virgin? 
    You see we have to be careful what we entertain with our eyes because the influence our actions for the good or bad.
    To end this scriptures just makes it all the more clear.
    Mt 5:28 28. But I say to YOU that everyone that keeps on looking at a woman so as to have a passion for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
    So what we entertain through the eyes can reach the heart very quickly we are to guard our visions .

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    Kiki Estimeposted 8 years ago

    Wives get mad, because you not watching the porn together. In my opinion a marriage couple should have fun together. Have you wife do play role like she one of the porn stars. Both of your need to compromise. A wife wants to feel sexy for their husband. Just don't make it all about the porn. I don't think interfere with marriage. It make it more sexy! If you doing it right.

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    Tracey Hentonposted 8 years ago

    I feel like it affects the marriage a lot because y'all are as one now and any pleasure you desire your partner should be able to take care of that

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    MsLowrieposted 8 years ago

    I was an emotionally, financially, and sexually abused wife. My ex-husband was a sex addict. Like many men today, he thought that what he saw in those movies was reality and was always comparing me to them.

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    CYong74posted 8 years ago

    Some women I know even get upset with husbands staring too "hard" at an actress on TV. Of course porn is a big no no.

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