How do I get my boyfriend to give me more attention?

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   healthyfitnessposted 11 years ago

   Dress slutier.
   
   This is the only answer.

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      bwinwrightposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Excellent idea.  A smart woman can spend as little as 30-45 minutes per week, wearing super-sexy things, high heels, etc. for her man so he knows its just for him.  Do this for a few weeks and you will see a huge difference in his feelings for you.

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   HoneyJaiposted 11 years ago

   Any man that does not pay attention to his woman usually has something that is pre-occupying his time. You should pay more attention to him to see what is distracting him from noticing or should I say give you the attention you are deserving and so ask for. Try asking him how he is doing and checking on him without a plan, you will get to the bottom of his distraction and possibly see that you may need to move on. Now note that when you do come unplanned and announced that you may get more than the truth but you may get a reality check.

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   SANTHOSHGLposted 11 years ago

   Hi, First of all take time be sure you want to have the relationship with him?? If yes You should pay more attention to him to see what is distracting him. Is he having any problem or focusing on achieving any goal if so help him with it. One way to draw attention is to spending more time helping and hanging out with his loved ones for example his parents,siblings. Helping him or sharing stuffs he likes for example one of his hobbies.Have a moderate phone calls not too much which may start annoying or not too less which gives ignoring feeling. If things doesn't get any better in couple of weeks time.one and only alternative way is to tell him your concern directly and ask for the reason or to have better  time from that time on wards and finally take your decisions based on it. All the best. Hope My answer could be of any help god bless you..

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   jaylove41posted 11 years ago

   I am currently short on time, but I wanted to respond to AllaboutY's question, about her man not giving her enough attention. Ok, let me explain, first off, all women are beautiful. However, some may need a little more enhancement to make themselves more appealing to the opposite sex.
   
   Whether its make up, lingerie or some sexy high heels, you should be aware these are turn-ons for men, or at least they should be.
   My advise to you is, show him the more sexier you, and then if he doesn't respond, then their could be other issues that may need to be addressed.
   Good Luck,
   Jaylove

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      Kathleen Odenthalposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      seriously? that is awful advice.

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   Ilona1posted 11 years ago

   You are asking the wrong question. The question should be how do you become the most interesting, attractive, and best person you can be? What matters most is who you are, and not how people react  to you, or how much attention you get. Concentrate on becoming the best person you can be and you can't help but have admirers.

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      bwinwrightposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      IIona1,  this is a great answer.  Being the best woman you can be involves understanding how to take control of the SEX department most effectively.
      Please your man this way and he will conquer the world to please you.

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   Room of My Ownposted 11 years ago

   Give your partner the same kind of attention that you want. Show him, through your own acts of love and affection, what positive attention means to you. I think that humans naturally pick up on and mirror each other's behaviors and moods.

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   Collins Gordyposted 11 years ago

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   ddl81posted 11 years ago

   Start ignoring him. You can start off by not answering the phone every time he calls. Make him think you have a life.

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   klm412posted 11 years ago

   If you are only seeing each other twice a month that's not a relationship...that's a "booty-call".  More than likely he's also seeing other women and isn't going to take you seriously.  To have a relationship you need to spend significant time with a person, seeing someone two times in 30 days is a mere acquaintance.  Move on!  Someone who respects and cares about you will want to spend as much time with you as possible and move heaven and earth to see you.

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    Sadiq Busuriposted 11 years ago

    Maybe you should just tell him you. Communication is key in a relationship.

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    Kemet Musiqposted 11 years ago

    Give him less attention. If your doing all the work then he isn't going to fell like he needs to. If he is that laid back I bet you are a nervous wreck. Take a chapter from his book and switch the roles a bit. See what happens.

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    Mehboob ali shahposted 11 years ago

    my advice about your this question is that you don"t talk to him /one day they come and serious for you because he miss you

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    TheScarletPlagueposted 11 years ago

    The best way to get attention from someone you like is to become busy. Live life, go out and do stuff. Accomplish goals. If s/he is interested, s/he'll hit you up, naturally you'll talk about what you've been doing with yourself and you can set dates to talk/meet up again later.
    
    No one likes a deadweight or a doormat. If all you're doing (I'm not saying you are, just speaking in general advice-giving terms) is moping around and whining about him not giving you attention it makes you look insecure (whether you are or not) and that's generally something most people find unattractive.
    
    Also, if you're busy doing your own thing, you won't be so focused on the attention he isn't giving you, and you'll be better able to see if he's just also busy and has a life, or if he's really neglecting you.
    
    Best of luck!

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    kimsrobposted 11 years ago

    Frankly,wanting a guy's attention is the biggest reason for him not to give it to you...All i can say is that,when you self analyse yourself you'll find that you have started to become somehow clingy after starting to date him.(sorry if am  wrong)But guys like a little bit of challenge.Cause most guys won't admit it,but we do like our ego,and we do like the things that feed our ego.A good challenge means a good amount of ego when won.So to be a challenge you need to be completely unpredictable.For example,he expects you to call tonight,don't call.By doing this you'll make him wonder if he is the only thing in your mind,if you continue being unpredictable he will surely know that he is not the only thing in your mind..So he will try as much as possible to win you back and that will give you the attention you want....After you get it,you got to play the game right....keep it interesting....But honestly,the kind of guy you have to play those kind of games with is not  a husband material...JUST SOMETHING TO NOTE....wish you all the best...

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    salmasifposted 11 years ago

    dont run after him and do not expose your weakness for him . be good and never let useless things become a matter of argument between you two.

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    piinkstarrrposted 11 years ago

    First off, I give you props for being able to handle this long distance type of relationship. And in all honesty if you were both on the same page, you wouldn;t feel like this. Does he know about your feelings you are sharing here with us? Maybe he has no clue you want/need more of him. I have been in a relationship for 14 years and it has gone...to shit basically. I wish you the best and hope you guys can talk and see where you both are at. If he still doesnt come to your needs after that, then i would reconsider yourself. I'm sure you are a beautiful person inside and out. Everyone deserves the person they need

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    Greg Deanposted 11 years ago

    This is probably a little old now, but it may help many others who come by this question and relate.
    
    There is time spent with you and then there is QUALITY time spent with you. When a man hits 30 he is suddenly hit with the realisation that he must   conquer his long term financial future. There is a whole lot of pressure that he will soon realise is coming his way. So if you find he is starting to spend more time on his career, for example, remember he still really loves you, but he knows you may not be with him forever and he needs to take care of his business.
    
    Don't be pushy for his time because it will push him away. If you are supportive and loving, you are being welcoming.

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    Shelly Elliottposted 11 years ago

    Stop giving him attention. Most men are too busy and you are just a "part" of their life. It is not until a man reaches about 40 that they may realize that family is the most important thing in the world. Relationships are top of the list for most of us women, however men usually are only interested in well you know...

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    ashley hindsposted 11 years ago

    thats jest men thry never show they emotion,jest tell him abut it

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    Adam Neslehaposted 11 years ago

    Ignore him                                                                                                                s

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    rakisha singletonposted 11 years ago

    by this I really needed this thank u  very much lol.

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    jaydeneposted 11 years ago

    Have you asked him in a way that  makes him think it is his idea? 
    communication is so important.  I wish you the best

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    cebutouristspotposted 11 years ago

    First thing you should consider is he really into the long distant thing and meet only 2 times a month ?
    
    Guys also need their girl to be near them.
    
    Does he have someone else on the side ? (Or are you the girl on the side )
    
    Bottom line confrontation is the best medicine for you right now. 
    
    P.S. - Just be prepared you might not like his respond

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    cam8510posted 11 years ago

    This question was posted three years ago.   The poster has no hubs and one follower.  Don't know if her disappearance is due to the relationship or not.   Maybe we should let this question rest in peace.

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    SabrinaSnicketposted 11 years ago

    Hello there!
    
    here are some tips I would like to sure to you:
    1. keep on touch. text him during spare times like coffee breaks or lunch breaks. greet him like: hi! hello good morning! How are you? i miss you! if he didn't reply, don't insist him to do so. just let him reply whenever  he wants.
    2. every time you visit in his town, talk to him personally. tell him the things that is in your mind. open up to him.
    3. show him that you really love him and care for him.
    4. be super sweet
    5. be pretty always. (not with the help of heavy make-ups!)
    6. talk about the things you want in the future and listen to his also.
    7. understand his likes and dislikes.
    8. if you had a chance, always cook for him. (if you are not an excellent cook, then seek help.)
    9. suggest to him that you two need a vacation. go to the places you can relax.
    
    Good Luck! Smile always!

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    mcj37posted 11 years ago

    Less is more.  Your giving him attention by rewarding what he is doing.  If you want him to notice more, than stop interacting.  Go be awesome, be sexy, be free.  Dont worry about him, worry about you and all the other wonderful people whom you come in contact with! BE DISTRACTED!

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    xhacker14xposted 11 years ago

    As my opinion Ms. AllboutY, age doesn't matter as long as your relationship is strong. You're the one who can answer your question, ask yourself what things you've done wrong with him; or maybe he got jealous or something like that.

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    shanice whitterposted 11 years ago

    This is an interesting question.It is very important to always dress up for him and cook is favorite meal.If your doing all those things then you are safe but if he look past your efforts I think you both need to sit down and have a little talk.Most women crave attention while some men crave sex.Thus,you have a write to make your demands.

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    SatendraSainiposted 11 years ago

    Actually age factor is not that what you are talking about. You have to see that thing or catch that point why your boyfriend is neglecting you. You have to care about your habits mostly. You also have to ask about the personal life of your boyfriend. If he tell correctly then you are making mistake. & If he hesitate during answer then he is making mistake.

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    Timir Deb Nathposted 11 years ago

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    Find a balance in your relationship. Relationships are all about finding balance. Balance will help you stay in love with each other, and should keep your boyfriend from feeling suffocated, a common complaint of guys. Focus on finding a balance between the following three ideas:
    
        * Routine and spontaneity. Remember to make a fun routine out of some of the things you and your boyfriend love to do, but remember to switch it up. Friday movies are great, but so is going to monster truck race, even if it interrupts your normal routine.
        * Love and lust. Love is selfless, timeless, and forgiving. Lust is selfish, brief, and unforgiving. In a relationship, remember to give, even as you take. Do things that satisfy your desires, but make sure the other person's desires are satisfied, too.
        * Speaking and listening. Take the time to listen as much to your boyfriend as you talk at him. He may need to be taught things from time to time, but he probably knows plenty that he can teach you, too. Remember the saying: "The foolish man speaks; the wise man listens."
    Make sure your boyfriend has time to himself. Guys are naturally independent, so give him some space by not always being on his back about things. No one likes to be constantly watched or hovered over. Go out with some girlfriends while he's out with his boys to get your mind off things. Guys tend to relieve stress and worries when talking to their friends, just like girls:Warrior Adventure Quest let the healing begin
    
        * This shows him that you trust him. If you let him know he's earned your trust, he's actually less likely to throw that trust away. If you don't trust him to be responsible on his own, he could be more likely to betray that trust just because he resents not being trusted.
    continue let him to know that you are important for his life .. <3

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    eleonorabelpassiposted 11 years ago

    Hello, you have to think that to get attention from your boyfriend you haveto be the most interesting of all the people he knows.
    It is not easy, I know.
    
    You have to try to cure your appearance and your mind.
    
    First of all, take care of your body, a pretty girl is easy to love.
    Then cure your interests and your passions, do not show that your time is up to him, but you can find some time for him!
    A person with strong interest is very appealing and intrigue, he will be interested to ask you what you did during the day and when you're not with him he ever wonders what you'll be doing. In addition, he'll be proud of you when he meets his friends and relatives, because if a interesting and smart person is with you, increases the judgment that others have of you.
    
    Help him, try to be present and comfortable. And finally, make he feels special, and surprise him with some moments together. Liven up the monotony and make him not be able to live without you!

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    Kathleen Odenthalposted 11 years ago

    Find a new boyfriend. If he doesn't take you serious, he doesn't deserve you. The right guy will appreciate you for who you are.

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    cashbaccoukposted 11 years ago

    Actually its normal, I have seen in lots of cases boyfriend some time ignore their girlfriend. It happen when we try to be more aggressive and want he always notice me. First try what he think about you, he is busy or just ignore you. Don't impose him try to understand whats wrong.

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    Olivia Burleighposted 11 years ago

    Give him more attention! Make it really obvious you want his attention and eventually he will give it to you

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    CriticalMessageposted 11 years ago

    Test him by making yourself even less available... If he doesn't get the hint?... You have bigger issues that need to be addressed.

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    Pix Hatterposted 11 years ago

    I feel if you make a little drama, things will change. Just pretend as if you are not interested in him. Do not take his calls always. Do not always give time to him. Watch how the things are changing. If it does not improve, you are only 22, cut off at this stage. You will get someone better.
    
    Although it sounds harsh, it is very practical. Whatsoever be the reason, he might have changed his mind or finding something is not going as per his will or fancy -- so he is behaving this way. Whatever it is, if both of you are not contented, there is no point in dragging the relation.
    
    You wrote, "I really want our relationship to work..." See, sometimes a relationship works, sometimes doesn't. Nobody can make a ralation work. It is a theoretical talk, far from practicality. To make it work, you will have to compromise at many areas. Remember, 'compromise is a good umbrella but a poor roof.' Do you want to stay under an umbrella or a roof? You have to decide...

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    IJR112posted 11 years ago

    Make him feel jealousy by talking to a guy or two at a bar.  Once he notices that, he will get antsy and will start to come around and give you more attention.

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    Penny Gposted 11 years ago

    Make him think or let him know if he doesn't someone else will. They hate that!

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    jujugasmsposted 11 years ago

    Not be seeming to be trying so hard to get it. Or if you really want him to know how you feel just skip the game of trying to get him to figure it out by the way your acting or whatever just discuss it with him calmly.

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    Windyingposted 11 years ago

    First of all, I would like to say this; Long distance relationship isn't my strong point. Been there, done that. But anyway, he's properly tired? You would have to count on his normal life style and schedule too. Like how much times does he even have for himself? is he working?
    
    If not that then, there are only a couple option left that I think it could grab his attention to you. Love him love you so much that he would think about you anytime that he's available. Try to spent as much time with him as you possible can without interruption when you went to visit him or the other way around.
    
    But most of all, you better make sure that he didn't have anyone else beside you because if he did, then it pretty much explain why he was neglecting you. After all, there's a saying that said: No matter how much love there is, if the heart is weaken, then distances itself was the road that cut off your path to each other.

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    donwilsoonposted 11 years ago

    Oh, girl, if he loves you, you don't have to ask for his attention. He will give you all the time in the world!

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    CurtisLWilliamsSrposted 11 years ago

    Let him know you would like for him to show you more attention.

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    DChance2posted 11 years ago

    This may be really late advice but I would have dumped him.

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    padmendraposted 10 years ago

    Try to show your boyfriend that you care about him and catch his attention on you. You need to be always looking beautiful, spend some time with him and take an interest in the things what he likes most. You can also catch his attention towards you by preparing something delicious he likes most, visit his workplace once in a while and allow him space to spend  some  time with his friends.
    
    I hope this way, you might get back your boyfriend's attention towards you.

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    Karen Ranoniposted 10 years ago

    Stop acting like you want his attention so badly and back off a little bit, the less you give a guy the more they will want!

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    lostohanababyposted 10 years ago

    Be 'attentative', a little more.   Maybe dress a little different.  A new hair cut or wear your hair long for a change.  Sometimes wearing a new perfume, helps!

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    ckarnabposted 10 years ago

    ignore him in front of him. it will make him bound to think about your ignorance.

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    Oztinatoposted 10 years ago

    By getting a better boyfriend. If he isnt giving you enough attention he is no longer a real boyfriend.

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    GossipGirl29posted 10 years ago

    My name is amber and I thought I might help a little or try. So I have been in so many different situations that life has taught me if you want change you have to put effort into it. The only thing is that its a very valuable lesson to realize you cannot change anyone unless they are willing to put effort into what's important to not only you,Their companion, But what's necessary for the relationship to have a chance at all to last.
    There is really only one way of letting you know if the relationship is a healthy one or not.
      Remember communication is the most important part of any relationships.
    Take  some time and look to see if he puts an effort. Things should always be 50 /50 . You may not know it yet but everybody has that somebody out there who makes the time we spend alone worth it. Never be afraid to be alone if its for the right reasons.

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    vignesh118posted 10 years ago

    Flirt with him everyday by texting. Send him a good morning or good night message and start to build the conversation. try teasing or making fun of him , but not in a harsh way ofcourse. Just mess around.

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       Tina Widlerposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       Great point guys love it when a girl flirts with them!

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