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What are the symptoms of being in love?

  1. Simone Smith profile image93
    Simone Smithposted 5 years ago

    What are the symptoms of being in love?

    One of my goals this year was to fall in love, but I neglected to set criteria for achievement. Could someone spot me a checklist?

  2. Inspired to write profile image78
    Inspired to writeposted 5 years ago

    Yes, one symptom is, you seem to forget many things (or most things) that you did before you got together because you focus too much energy onto them, but don't change (within reason) what ever you do because your lover found you attractive as YOU (the one they met) so, stay you.

    You are you, doing your own thing, being your own boss & runner of your life, in a relationship, things need adjusting slightly to cater for your new partner, kind of commitments how ever small they may be,

    Things will change, as you venture into your new relationship, think long & hard about 'is this what I'm prepared for' because now, there will be another in your life.

    But the symptoms of being in love, WOW, you get all these squidgy & emotional feelings & sensations of bondness & fondness for another human being but don't get too blindfolded with infatuation instead, decide what are you willing to adhere to, behaviour from this other person & then, keep your own personal standards & values & once the step has been trodden over, get back to your personal standards & resolve the issue in your favour, do not let it pass! We, as humans, only put up with what we allow ourselves to put up with.

    But the symptoms of love, WOW, go for it, if you find a like minded person to connect with, FANTASTICO fill your boots with respect for them & hopefully, if they are right for you, they will portray that respect straight back to you.

    Regards Dale

    1. Simone Smith profile image93
      Simone Smithposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Sweet! I'll add Forgetfulness and squidgy/emotional feelings, and fondness to the list.

  3. davenmidtown profile image89
    davenmidtownposted 5 years ago

    I am not sure if love is something that can be scheduled. Setting goals to fall in love is a bit delusional in that you would have to convince your mind and not your heart. A mind full of "love" is usually a short lived experience since our minds often find other things to be interested in fairly quickly and thus, the apple of ones eye suddenly had spots and blemishes... Then your next question will be how do I get out of a relationship I don't want to be in... If you are lucky you will escape unscared, but the apple of your eye may be hurt for life. So rather than schedule love... just let it happen...and trust me you will know when it does...

    1. Simone Smith profile image93
      Simone Smithposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Oooh, we'll see, davenmidtown. Though I specialize in delusions.

    2. davenmidtown profile image89
      davenmidtownposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I have always been a fan of your delusions!

  4. Mr Nice profile image79
    Mr Niceposted 5 years ago

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    ~ Think of love as a card game: first, get rid of the jokers, throw away the hearts, keep the diamonds... then try to get a king. ~

    Love is like:

    ~ A friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, Often hot and fierce, But still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature. And our love becomes as coals, Deep-burning and unquenchable. ~ Bruce Lee

    "Love and electricity are one and the same, my dear. If you do not feel the jolt in your soul every time a kiss is shared, a whisper is spoken, a touch is felt, then you are not really in love at all." C. J. Franks

    1. LaThing profile image73
      LaThingposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Love the first comment! smile

    2. Mr Nice profile image79
      Mr Niceposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for liking the quote, here is another one.

      ~ Don't find love, let love find you. That's why its called falling in love, because you don't force yourself to fall, you just fall. ~Hannah

    3. Simone Smith profile image93
      Simone Smithposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      "A friendship caught on fire." I like that.

    4. articlesocean profile image60
      articlesoceanposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with Simone! Good quote!
      Like the image too smile

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    Larry Wallposted 5 years ago

    Love happens.
    It happens differently for almost everyone. You cannot plan it and you cannot predict it.

    I met my wife on a blind date. I knew the first time she smile, I was going to marry her. She was not as impressed with me as I was with her. I did the whole bit, flowers on her birthday, a small gift everytime I came (lived in different cities) frequent letters, phone calls (no cell phones or unlimited long distance--paid a fortune to AT&T), met the parents and finally one night we were out at a top of some tower bar, listening to a singer and she leaned over and kissed me unexpectedly. I was on the right track. I proposed seven months after meeting her, we were married 12 days past the one year anniversary of our first date and will celebrate 32 years in July.

    It just happens. If you have a schedule, throw it away; You are going to scare all the guys away.

    1. Simone Smith profile image93
      Simone Smithposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      But scaring them is half the fun!

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      Larry Wallposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Come on now, guys have enough insecurities when dealing with women. There no need to scare them, especially the younger ones. A woman has no idea the trauma a guy goes through when asking a girl out for a first date (high school age group).

  6. yssubramanyam profile image59
    yssubramanyamposted 5 years ago

    Love is incidental/accidental. it has no fore cast system. It is every hearts demand to share pleasure /pain with intimate individual. In true love security is assured.

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      Larry Wallposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Well stated, practical but romantic. Perfect description.

    2. yssubramanyam profile image59
      yssubramanyamposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      regards, sir..

    3. Simone Smith profile image93
      Simone Smithposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Intriguing!

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    CJ Sledgehammerposted 5 years ago

    It has been said that "falling in love" has many of the same symptoms as having a mental illness.

    So, should you think you are in need of mental therapy...perhaps you are in love. Then again, depending on whom you fall in love with...your friends and family may suggest that you visit a psychiatrist.  :0)

    1. LaThing profile image73
      LaThingposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Hahahaha...... My kind of guy!

    2. Simone Smith profile image93
      Simone Smithposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Hehehee, good one!

  8. LaThing profile image73
    LaThingposted 5 years ago

    Pain, heart ache, chills, shakes, dizziness, can't focus, in daze, confused, forgetfulness etc. You know, all the symptoms of a flu, and then some! Believe me, it's true *_*

    1. Simone Smith profile image93
      Simone Smithposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Hahaa, those are good ones! Love it.

    2. vox vocis profile image84
      vox vocisposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      ...and temporary blindness! Yes, I recognize these symptoms. Being in love is a feeling that fades away with time and turns into love or disappears completely. This is a good thing - think how it would be to live with these symptoms forever lol

  9. chefmichaelo profile image59
    chefmichaeloposted 5 years ago

    First off, OPEN your mind!! Dont fall into the bag boy trap! For me it was many things, anticipating meeting again. Look for who makes you feel special while still remaining who you are. Never change for someone else, its just a matter of time before you resent him or her if you do. Love openly and expect the same in return. when you cant get that someone special out of your mind. .

  10. jacharless profile image79
    jacharlessposted 5 years ago

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    Yup, 1st symptom: "neglected to set criteria for achievement".
    You got it baaaaad. big_smile

  11. sholland10 profile image92
    sholland10posted 5 years ago

    Heart racing

    Blushing

    Feeling your face warm up or even burn when that special someone is in the same room.

    After the initial romantic phase:

    Feeling comfortable

    Laughing with sincerity

    Feelings of security

    Smiling when you think of the person

    Being able to rely on the person

    Oh, maybe a biggie: if your pet likes the person -- they know

    You still feel free, yet you want to be with the person -- it's a choice

    As time goes by, the person sticks with you through good and bad

    You accept the good and the bad of the person

    You just know... can't explain it... :-)

    1. Simone Smith profile image93
      Simone Smithposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      These are really good. Thank you so much, sholland10!

  12. Patkay profile image90
    Patkayposted 5 years ago

    ...and getting jealous, feeling threatened when you suspect some kind of competition.

  13. Radikum profile image59
    Radikumposted 5 years ago

    The Seven deadly sins, just about sums it up. If you need me to elaborate, maybe I'll create a hub specifically tailored to just that.

    1. Simone Smith profile image93
      Simone Smithposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Sounds promising... big_smile

  14. Captainausume profile image60
    Captainausumeposted 5 years ago

    You accept a person's faults gracefully, not not stupidly.

    1. Simone Smith profile image93
      Simone Smithposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      That's a VERY good one.

  15. JideAlexander profile image62
    JideAlexanderposted 5 years ago

    You'll experience your heart skipping beats every time you kiss or see each other.

    1. Simone Smith profile image93
      Simone Smithposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Heee. XD

  16. ecoggins profile image92
    ecogginsposted 5 years ago

    I have to agree with Larry. I'm not sure you can simply set a goal to fall in love within a certain time table. it happened differently with each person and couple. as for the requirements for achievement, you have to set your own criteria. of course the main ingredient to a successful relationship is active listening. do they genuinely care about you and who you are.

  17. Riley's Outlook profile image70
    Riley's Outlookposted 5 years ago

    Here is a checklist for you:

    1.)  Begin to do what you've always wanted to do.  If you are already in pursuit of your dreams....dig deeper.

    2.)  Enjoy your life and the people you meet along the way. Find something special in everyone, even the ones you don't care for and the ones that don't care for you.

    3.)  Go places in your head and heart that you've never been before then take yourself there physically (if that is possible).

    Then write and tell us all about the love of your life!

    1. Simone Smith profile image93
      Simone Smithposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      On it!

  18. Brittanie2216 profile image84
    Brittanie2216posted 5 years ago

    You will know instantly the moment you are in love.  You can't help it,  most people don't even see it coming.  I think the biggest symptom is acting crazy.  You are still yourself just more spontaneous and light hearted.  You are inspired and feel indestructible as if nothing can hinder the "I'm on top of the world!" feeling you get.

    good luck I hope you find what you are looking for smile

  19. anam hasib profile image60
    anam hasibposted 5 years ago

    you seem to be much more happier,excited,restless,day dreamer.You try to act smart,wise,innocent in front of your crush just to impress her.When she looks at you, that moment makes your entire day.You are distracted,have new priorities.Eagerly wait for the next day to arrive at nights just to see her face again.You try to dress up well,special attention on you hair..big_smile.Take reviews from your friends about your looks.And when she looks at you continuously segregating the whole crowd just too see you,its like heaven and you know she likes you.smile

    1. Simone Smith profile image93
      Simone Smithposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Fabulous symptoms! Thanks Anam!

  20. Vasiliki Bouras profile image61
    Vasiliki Bourasposted 5 years ago

    The symptoms vary from person to person, However based on my personal experience, The first thing I feel are butterflies in your gut. Those butterflies twist and turn your stomach and make you feel uncomfortable. Sometimes depending on the "potency" of the individual and their effect on you; you may feel like throwing up, or doing a number 2 stat.
    All that aside, this uncomfortable feeling mixed with panic and anxiety feels irresistably intoxicating and gives you a high that you become addicted too.
    When you are high, those feelings of panic don't matter, and comes with the territory and is worth it.
    I'm not sure of the chemical name that gets released in your brain when your "in love", but it literaly shuts down the part of your brain that controls rational thought.
    Isn't that fun?
    Some people, including myself forget to eat, and forget many things- because your main objection is to keep around what is making you high on life. You will push away important meetings, or dinner with Mom, because all you want to do is be with that person who is making you feel AMAZING!

  21. Anne Losch profile image65
    Anne Loschposted 5 years ago

    During infatuation, your partner is always on your mind.  You cannot wait for the day to end so you are one day closer to seeing him/her again.  After infatuation, you love being with your partner but you are also comfortable being apart and independent knowing that you will be together again soon.

    1. Simone Smith profile image93
      Simone Smithposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Excellent symptoms. Thanks Anne!

  22. J.S.Matthew profile image82
    J.S.Matthewposted 5 years ago

    Love can get confused with other emotions and behaviors such as Infatuation and Codependency. True Love is when you want to be with someone because... read more

  23. Beata Stasak profile image82
    Beata Stasakposted 5 years ago
  24. Leroyworld profile image59
    Leroyworldposted 5 years ago

    Symptoms?  Love is not a disease to be cured.  That about all I know about love.

  25. Vellur profile image90
    Vellurposted 5 years ago

    You are in love -

    When you feel like you are,

    Floating up on a cloud,

    Touching rainbows high above,

    Catching up with the flying birds,

    Feeling dizzy, full of delight and mirth,

    There is no getting back on the ground.

    Dreams of  your love, bouncing you,

    All around,

    Your heart is filled with happiness,

    Nothing goes wrong,

    Even wrongs seem right instead,

    Always feeling the gentle caress,

    Of your loved one, making you feel,

    You are now truly in love, forever.

    And for the best.

  26. mattodom profile image60
    mattodomposted 5 years ago

    I know even as a young adult (age 18) I'm extremely in love with my girlfriend, Now I'm not going to make it sound cheesy, or usual, but to me, it all happened, and still happens today.

    -Butterflies. Number one thing that happens to you when you're near someone you love. I get these, to this day. Whenever I saw my 'love' before we started dating, it would be nervewracking, and I would get these insane monarch butterflies during migrating season in my stomach, and I couldn't even break out a sentence!

    - You feel like yourself. There's nothing worse than being someone you're not to fall in love with someone. I was myself the minute I started talking to her, even though my face lit up like the sun in an Arizona desert, I still did not change personal character. If you feel you are in fact changing character and charisma, take it a step back, and make sure you promote yourself!

    -Constant phone checks, Facebook checks, E-mail checks, WHATEVER checks! When I first had the feeling of being in love, I wouldn't stop thinking about her, even if she said she was going camping for two weeks, I would've still checked my phone or whatnot, and hoped for a miracle message.

    - You're constantly, and let me say it again, CONSTANTLY, happy, joyous, and thrilled in your life. Even if you are having an argument with the person you seem to love, you'll always be happy nonetheless, in my own opinion, it's really hard relating my relationship of a year to any couple that constantly fights, ergo, they aren't necessarily happy.

    These are just some, but I hope I filled you in enough with my own personal experience, and I wish the best for you!

  27. dmoney4god profile image60
    dmoney4godposted 5 years ago

    One of the main ways you know you are in love is when that person is always on your mind and you can't stop thinking about that person.

  28. calynbana profile image81
    calynbanaposted 5 years ago

    The concept of being "in love" is flawed. The symptoms associated with being in "love" are the symptoms of being infatuated.

    Love is something that you work at over time, and you realize over time. It is an over night phenomena. This will sound a little silly to recommend to a single person but the book "The Meaning of Marriage" by Tim and Kathy Keller could help you out. It is an amazing book for singles and and couples alike, it will help you look at love in a new way, without the burden of the media portrayed love that does not exist.

    1. profile image0
      Larry Wallposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      You present an excellent point. The early infatuation, the attraction and the early stages of romance draw people together, but true love does require a much deeper commitment. I guess we need a term for "I think I am falling in love."

    2. calynbana profile image81
      calynbanaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Oops I meant not an overnight phenomenon. lol

  29. cityalice profile image58
    cityaliceposted 5 years ago

    I think you can tell by a kiss.   That's a good goal.

  30. Redberry Sky profile image94
    Redberry Skyposted 5 years ago

    You can't think of anyone or anything else, and you know it will be like this for The Rest Of Your Life. smile  Plus, you get an extraordinary craving for chocolate.  And you write poems about them in your head in the shower. And you get the Warm Fuzzies every time you think of the way they look at you. What, me? In love? Never! I deny it absolutely!  I'm just sayin' - that's how I *imagine* it would be (stares off into the distance longingly) smile

  31. JKenny profile image92
    JKennyposted 5 years ago

    I've recently fallen in love, and I can tell you that the symptoms are increased heartbeat, not being able to think about anything but your lover. Happiness, but also stress and worry when you're away from them, or haven't heard off them. You develop a strange tendency to listen to the same romantic songs over and over again. Your voice becomes slightly higher in pitch and takes on a musical quality. You also develop an immunity to negativity- you just shrug it off, smile and rejoice the fact you're in love. It's quite simply the best feeling in the world.

  32. sharonchristy profile image70
    sharonchristyposted 5 years ago

    You know you're in love when you, as JKenny says, have a racing heart and breathlessness when you speak with him. After speaking, you can't think about nothing else, dreaming all day about him, romantic pictures, movies and any thing which gives you serenity or warmth or happiness reminds you of him. Whenever someone speaks about their own love life, you smile unconsciously, get so happy thinking of him, smile in your prayers at his name. You wish you could spend every moment with him, you fall in love with certain aspects that you never would have noticed so minutely in anyone else, for example, it may be his voice, his eyes, his speech even sometimes his exasperating quiet way of speaking. At weddings you get overwhelmed, you have pangs of pain as well as yearning and joy at seeing the happy couple. You share everything with him, careless of any judgement he may pass on you which you may not do with any other. You feel you can trust him, you respect him and adore him.Eventually you become very proud of him and know this is it, you know you're at the cape of no return and just allow yourself to get carried away and wallow in the precious eternity and sacredness of love! Wish you a wonderful love and God bless and keep you and you love forever!

    1. JKenny profile image92
      JKennyposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I couldn't have put it better myself Sharon wink

    2. sharonchristy profile image70
      sharonchristyposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you JKenny! Wish you and your love a happy life ahead! wink

    3. articlesocean profile image60
      articlesoceanposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      That's very true! And it's exactly what I went Through smile

  33. articlesocean profile image60
    articlesoceanposted 5 years ago

    You think about the person you're in love with, the conversations you had with each other. while you think about the person you love , you forget whats happening around you and are completely in a different world.  You can not focus on what you're doing or need to do. I couldn't concentrate on anything either home family, friends or studies. Every time I spoke to that person I was all excited and wanted the conversation to go on day and night! This is my personal experience. Others experience could be different. Now that person is my Husband.

    1. yssubramanyam profile image59
      yssubramanyamposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      very lucky. i experienced sleep less nights, anxiety and loss of concentration. finally successful.

    2. articlesocean profile image60
      articlesoceanposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Yup, Lucky indeed !
      Hmm similar to mine I guess !

  34. kygirl89 profile image60
    kygirl89posted 5 years ago

    You become useless, because you can't think of anyone or anything else.  It's amazing!

 
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