Are Smart Women Intimidating?
you snooze...you lose
No!
I would agree if others weren't intimidated merely by her presence.
It's a double edge sword, really. If a smart woman isn't intimidating then she's perceived as stupid because in all reality she does intimidate others but denies it to herself while others take advantage of the fact.
No
Sometimes one can feel intimidated by incredibly intelligent people and it is sometimes up to the very intelligent person to *dumb it down* if they see that others are feeling insecure in the way they are expressing themselves.The trouble with the expectation of smart women to "dumb it down" in order to make someone else feel more comfortable is, if she's smart enough to be convincing at it, she will essentially be driven into the closet; with nobody knowing the real her and, worse, those she's convinced treating her as if she's dumber than she really is.
On the other hand, if doesn't dumb it down she'll seem like someone who isn't smart enough in dealing with people to know to dumb it down.
It pretty much goes back to smart women not being able to win, one way or another (at least if they're dealing with insecure people (and this, in a time when pretty much most people think it would be horrible when some other groups are expected to remain "in the closet").I wrote a hub on the BULLSH!T that is called "politically correct". I do suggest you give it a read.
Only to Dumb Men
Smart men often do like smart women. You know why, though?
Because if they can feel smarter than a smart woman they feel really smart - and so many men are going to believe they'll always be smarter than even the smartest woman, just because they do.
(And now here's the obligatory, "but, of course, that's not ALL men - only some". )- wademcmasterposted 13 years ago
0..and one thing that really doesn't work out well with those people is to EVER say something like, "I may be wrong, but.....". The minute you give them that, they're ready to go with thinking you ARE wrong; while they won't leave room for the possibility that they may be wrong too.
only if they look like this..
- funny!
well, very well said rafini!
that's the smallest statement I have ever seen go to someone's head.
PS Isn't the weather awesome today! Gotta love that humidity, but I'm not complaining, just intimidating you. that's BIT*H to you, 'K?
xo
TO is awesome
- kimberlyslyricsposted 13 years ago0
well, let's meet and I can share with you what wish I have right now, my way. Later I'll tell you what you did wrong and critique you politely, show you how to properly perform in any work enviornment, review with what clearly what I only have to compare to, then pay you accordingly. Pending this situation I will determine if you can continue to work for me or ask you to close door behind as you as you will be fired. Thank you either way for your HARD efforts
I AM NOT AFRAID TO MAKE A STAND. SO TAKE MY HAND, AND WALK WITH ME. WE'LL WALK THIS WORLD TOGETHER.
-eminem
On a serious note, my answer is NO only intimidated by those who work for them most times. Which I feel is the worst way to work with your employees. You get much more productivity from people that respect you.
Again, if people treated each of us as we treated them yesterday then.......................um Denise, "dumbing down" someone is so manipulation and control can be obtained by other people.
I suppose if someone's manipulative they'll use whatever tricks they have up their sleeve to accomplish what they want, but I think dumbing down is most often done when someone (particularly some women) knows they're dealing with someone else who will be offended, insecure, hostile, or otherwise react poorly to someone who "have the nerve" to be so sure of herself, secure, and straightforward. It's not a manipulative thing or a "game" thing. It's a defense thing.
(This whole thread gives me an idea for a Hub, at a time when I'm pretty short on ideas - so thanks. )
I love women who express their intelligence with grace. For example: My grandmother closed her front door...tightly... on a salesman's foot. While he was hopping around in the yard....she explained in detail....the definition of her, "NO SOLICITORS" sign and the community code of law that banned residential and commercial solicitations. She then...very politely told him that he should get some ice for that sore foot.
Not intimidating at all!
In fact they are hot! hot! hot!I have never meet one
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