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I lost a fan today.

  1. bgamall profile image84
    bgamallposted 8 years ago

    I really hate to lose fans. I would rather that they come and discuss with me what they don't like and maybe we could just agree to agree on things we like mutually. But it is unpleasant when someone leaves:)

    1. Mark Knowles profile image60
      Mark Knowlesposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      I just joined. And I do not do that very often. smile

      1. bgamall profile image84
        bgamallposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Thanks Mark, I know we don't agree on everything but we agree on alot and that should be what brings fans together. I do write about some controversy but I don't mean for it to push people away. I would think that hubbers would be tolerant of the right to express.

        Thanks for the encouragement, all.

    2. darkside profile image80
      darksideposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Maybe it's just me, but I think you're taking the fan thing far too seriously.

      1. KCC Big Country profile image85
        KCC Big Countryposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        I agree! Those who like you will follow your work and those who don't, won't.  Some people will follow your work who won't even click to be a fan.  It doesn't matter.

        1. bgamall profile image84
          bgamallposted 8 years ago in reply to this

          Oh I agree. You can follow a specific hub without following the author. But you and our pirate can't make Darkside feel warm and fuzzy about his comment. It wouldn't be right:)

      2. bgamall profile image84
        bgamallposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Lol, it was all warm and fuzzy then you came along. But you are keeping with character!!

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          badcompany99posted 8 years ago in reply to this

          If it was warm and fuzzy why complain, Darkside gave you an honest view !

      3. Rochelle Frank profile image88
        Rochelle Frankposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        You are absolutely right-- once you get to  certain point and score--  many people fan you for no real reason( or perhaps, possibly ...  self- promotion?), which becomes meaningless, especially when they leave no reason for fanning.

    3. alekhouse profile image81
      alekhouseposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Well, I've only been on hubpages a very short time and don't have very many fans. Wish I had more, but I guess it takes time to get to know people in a new community. So sorry you have lost one of your fans, but I guess there's more to life than fan clubs.

    4. nicomp profile image57
      nicompposted 8 years ago in reply to this
      1. bgamall profile image84
        bgamallposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        I can't see that link.

    5. apeksha profile image60
      apekshaposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Oh ! dont worry you will get new ones..as I am now Your fan...

    6. AEvans profile image65
      AEvansposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Sometimes, the system makes them disappear as many of us have experienced believing we were someone's fan and when we have gone back, we are gone. Don't fret I am certain they will be back as they may not realize they are missing either. smile

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      Béla Mongyiposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Well, yes. I'd love to talk to my fans too. smile

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      dennisemattposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      but, you have 180.....and I see you write about controversy? how exciting!! I will go read right now!!

  2. dipless profile image87
    diplessposted 8 years ago

    sad

  3. profile image0
    \Brenda Scullyposted 8 years ago

    Maybe it is because they just keep getting too many e.mails and the only way to stop them is to just stop being a fan....... sometimes I get about 80 then I feel guilty that I can't read them all and have considered losing a few, but maybe not, in fact I may just add another one eh????

    1. beautyrose profile image51
      beautyroseposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      and you added me. hehe ty. And it has a long way to go still.

  4. profile image49
    badcompany99posted 8 years ago

    Don't sweat on it mate if they were a true fan of you they wouldnt have left. I have had fans leave and to be honest I couldnt care less because Hubs gets loads of new good peeps daily. They were not a true fan, dont even try and think why they took you out, not worth it !

  5. viryabo profile image86
    viryaboposted 8 years ago

    I would hate to loose a fan, cos its hard enough for me to have a good fan base. Maybe i'm doing something wrong.

  6. Dame Scribe profile image61
    Dame Scribeposted 8 years ago

    I would not worry Bgamall smile your remainder outnumbers those gone wink

  7. Rochelle Frank profile image88
    Rochelle Frankposted 8 years ago

    I am wondering-- do people have to purposely withdraw to 'unfan"? or do they disappear from your list if they just withdraw from hubpages altogether?

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      Janettaposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      If a person leaves hubpages, as in deletes the acct or gets banned, they get removed from your fan list.
      Otherwise, if they are still a member, they have to purposely withdraw.

      So, that could be what happened bgamall--someone could have left HP

  8. Lady_E profile image82
    Lady_Eposted 8 years ago

    Like Damescribe said, I wouldn't worry about it. Infact, after writing this, I'm going to your Profile Page to join your fan club. So you might have lost one but you've gained another.

  9. profile image49
    badcompany99posted 8 years ago

    Actually agree with you 100 percent Darkside !

  10. profile image49
    badcompany99posted 8 years ago

    Besides we all remove people we fan, I have 4 I intend to remove myself who I follow but who are to busy farting about on the forums to read my hubs. I will remove them and not care what they think, if someone fans you it means they like your hubs, unless its just a numbers game and if it is then I have no place for them in my fans. I have 5 that fit that bill and they will be removed, just acccept certain people are fake !

    1. bgamall profile image84
      bgamallposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      I do try to get to other people's hubs and comment. If I like a hub I will comment.

    2. alekhouse profile image81
      alekhouseposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      I have fans that never read my hubs. I was sort of hoping they'd give them a peek at least now and then. But maybe the hub challenge is getting in the way.

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    badcompany99posted 8 years ago

    I really am the last person to stick up for Darkside but all he said was you were taking it to serious and he was right !

    1. bgamall profile image84
      bgamallposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      I was just joking around.

  12. moposan profile image54
    moposanposted 8 years ago

    Hell with the fan

    1. profile image49
      badcompany99posted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Agreed ! Nice moustache ; )

      1. moposan profile image54
        moposanposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Thanks.yours as good as a hell.

    2. Lisa HW profile image81
      Lisa HWposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      lol

  13. Dame Scribe profile image61
    Dame Scribeposted 8 years ago

    Darkside is a wonderful Hubber smile nothing wrong with candor. As I said, never mind the one in comparison to the the 100, Bgamall wink

    1. bgamall profile image84
      bgamallposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Yes Dame he is "Mr Wonderful". I wonder if his other (light) side comes out in his personal relationships and work, and I wonder if we are his therapy group.smile

  14. goldentoad profile image61
    goldentoadposted 8 years ago

    That shit happens to me all the time. I quit caring about it a long time ago, in fact I think its pretty funny someone would have such sensitive skin. Good riddance I say.

    1. profile image49
      badcompany99posted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Awww Toad what can one say, people come, people go, my Cabin Girl says she misses you smile

      1. goldentoad profile image61
        goldentoadposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        yeah, I miss my morning insult. Now everyone just says good day. I need a good jab to get going.

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          Janettaposted 8 years ago in reply to this

          I could start throwing out insults when I see ya, if you want big_smile

          awww...how am I kidding?? No I couldn't.  big_smile

          1. goldentoad profile image61
            goldentoadposted 8 years ago in reply to this

            I would just take my verbal beating from you and go cry in a corner. I wouldn't be able to fight back.

    2. bgamall profile image84
      bgamallposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Lol, you have 500 fans. Lol.

      And Rochelle, true.

  15. Ladybird33 profile image41
    Ladybird33posted 8 years ago

    Isn't hubbing about communication?  Then the fan should have communicated to you why they are leaving...I would hope that if it happened to me too.

    1. darkside profile image80
      darksideposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      If we were able to have our usernames changed I'd probably change it to Mr Cranky. Or perhaps I should use Simon Cowell as my avatar instead.


      Hubbing is about publishing.

      There are many reasons why you'd cancel your subscription to a magazine. If you felt compelled to tell them, they may read it, they may take it to heart, they may just screw it up and throw it in the bin.

      People fan others for various reasons. Some because there is a connection between the writer and the reader. Sometimes because a person wants garner as many fans as they possibly can and think the way to do it is to fan others en masse.

      There are no rules why you should fan another, its just personal preference. The same applies to 'unfanning'.

      If anyone left my 'fan club' (the name alone makes me cringe, while I may write for readers, visitors or an audience, the very mention of 'fans' makes me feel like I'm a pompous rockstar) it wouldn't concern me. In fact I'd find it a waste of the former fans time to feel compelled to justify their actions or reasons.

      1. bgamall profile image84
        bgamallposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        You are a bit of a rock star here:) You have fans, that is reality, accept it. Wait, now I am talking like you!!!

      2. Eaglekiwi profile image71
        Eaglekiwiposted 8 years ago in reply to this
  16. Tom Cornett profile image56
    Tom Cornettposted 8 years ago

    I usually lose fans when I put anything on about religion.  I lost three over a weekend once.

  17. Eaglekiwi profile image71
    Eaglekiwiposted 8 years ago

    How do you know if you lost one?
    I dont check ,naughty of me I guess
    Emailed once I think ,god im boring lol

  18. Shirley Anderson profile image82
    Shirley Andersonposted 8 years ago

    A couple of people asked about defanning a person to cut down on emails.  You don't have to do that, you can just turn that feature off.  The option is in your profile.

    Just uncheck this line:
    [] Notify me when my favorite authors publish a new hub?

  19. Ivorwen profile image78
    Ivorwenposted 8 years ago

    The few times I've lost fans, it has been because they left hubpages.

  20. Mrvoodoo profile image60
    Mrvoodooposted 8 years ago

    No disrespect to anybody who has joined my fan club, but I'm here for the search engine traffic, and the occasional bit of banter in the forums.  I don't need fans and I don't need comments, just cold hard cash! smile

  21. bgpappa profile image82
    bgpappaposted 8 years ago

    wouldn't worry about it.  Sometimes debates get heated, that is what is supposed to happen in debate.  As long as you welcome their opinion, whether you agree or not, then what more can you do?

  22. Charia Samher profile image73
    Charia Samherposted 8 years ago

    I've lost some too, and feel bad about it. But then we have to move on...hahaha Do I sound so serious? Hmmmm maybe I'll worry much if they are all gone; by then there's no doubt that I'm doing something wrong.

  23. countrywomen profile image61
    countrywomenposted 8 years ago

    I have lost too. But then I don't quit there's in return. There opinion of me doesn't change my opinion of them. If they were my fan to begin with then they will remain my fan forever.

    I am sure there would be others who would join you for your views or temperament whereas some leave for the very same reason. Bill Cosby once said “I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.” smile

    1. Elena. profile image85
      Elena.posted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Always SO smart, CW! big_smile  BESOS to you!

      1. countrywomen profile image61
        countrywomenposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Elena Thanks for appreciating.http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/images/clapping.gifBesos/flowers for you.http://i52.photobucket.com/albums/g24/LisaMznutz/Smilies/flowersforyou.gif

  24. nicomp profile image57
    nicompposted 8 years ago

    Even trolling from Mark Knowles is preferable to this. wink

  25. Mireille G profile image68
    Mireille Gposted 8 years ago

    I am relatively new at posting on hubs but I am an old goat and face things straight on. So let me see if I can convey my opinion and feelings about this.
    1 We will gain and loose fans, let's not waste too much energy on it, accept it as a fact of life.
    2 We join people's fans because it makes our numbers go up, sometimes because we really like what they write, sometimes just to return the favor. It is what it is.
    3 We are all very busy, too busy to read everything we land on. One thing we can do that only takes a click and no time is to give the people in our fan list that we visit a UP click, if we don't have time for a comment.
    4 Courtesy and reciprocal courtesy is beneficial to the giver and the receiver.
    Thanks for reading this if you took the time. Have a great day and build more hubs regardless of the reason why you do it. If you are in my fan club, I will continue to visit once in a while and give you a up if I can't leave a comment.

  26. Julie-Ann Amos profile image45
    Julie-Ann Amosposted 8 years ago

    In the last few hrs when posting about 30 hubs for the hubchallenge I lost a fair few fans.  Hopefully they'll be back (and not in a Terminator kind of way).

  27. soni2006 profile image45
    soni2006posted 8 years ago

    I also lost my ceiling fan today..

  28. Davinagirl3 profile image60
    Davinagirl3posted 8 years ago

    I was at 69 fans for about a week, then I had 70.  Now, I am back to 69.  I guess 69 is my lucky number.  I can't get away from it. wink  Seriously, though, it kind of sucks to lose a fan.  I guess they got to know me better.

    1. Anti-Valentine profile image93
      Anti-Valentineposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Yep.

      1. Davinagirl3 profile image60
        Davinagirl3posted 8 years ago in reply to this

        You're kinky...lol

  29. Anti-Valentine profile image93
    Anti-Valentineposted 8 years ago

    Well, I just notice these things. smile

    1. Eaglekiwi profile image71
      Eaglekiwiposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      psst can you share why you chose your nic?
      im curious is all smile

      1. Anti-Valentine profile image93
        Anti-Valentineposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        It started years ago. I was an angry person. I guess I don't view relationships, love, or even life with the same enthusiasm and gullibility that most do.

        I use different nicks on different sites though. smile

        1. Eaglekiwi profile image71
          Eaglekiwiposted 8 years ago in reply to this

          Ok cool ,thankyou for responding, and I think you seem quite lovely smile

  30. Eaglekiwi profile image71
    Eaglekiwiposted 8 years ago

    I gained a fan  smile

  31. Anti-Valentine profile image93
    Anti-Valentineposted 8 years ago

    I try. I like to joke around on HP sometimes. It's the only real forum or site that I've taken the time to get "into".

    "Lovely" is probably one of the most unique words someone has used to describe me, especially without meeting me. smile

    Is that word commonly used your way- in NZ, I'm guessing by the name?

    1. Eaglekiwi profile image71
      Eaglekiwiposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      "Lovely" is unique? well yes I spose it might be if you are not use to it, and it is indeed used alot in New Zealand , a throwback from colonial days.
      Funny thing you mention unique though, because my new neighbor friend after chatting for a few minutes said .."Oh youre a "hoot", my mind thought , ok I remind her of an owl , is that a good thing , shes laughing so it must be ok ..lol ( and thats with the ability to read body language)
      so "lovely" is nice n friendly rolled into one (my opinion)

  32. Anti-Valentine profile image93
    Anti-Valentineposted 8 years ago

    Yes, "a real hoot". I often hear that in movies, but not in real life. It's a positive thing, for sure. It's like saying, "you're a real riot!" I think.

  33. profile image0
    pgrundyposted 8 years ago

    Fans come and go--half the time they click the fan thing impulsively and then have to weed out people because their mailboxes get swamped. Don't take it to heart.

    If you try to please everyone you end up pleasing no one. Let it go bgamall. It happens. smile

  34. Tuff Kid profile image52
    Tuff Kidposted 8 years ago

    I have none so its way worse for me!!

    1. Davinagirl3 profile image60
      Davinagirl3posted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Well, showing yourself on the forums doesn't hurt.  I read a few of your hubs and they are good.  I am a new fan!

  35. Mighty Mom profile image90
    Mighty Momposted 8 years ago

    Agree with PGrundy. Unless you specifically know who unfanned you and the reason behind it, it doesn't matter. Fandom abhors a vacuum, and s new fan (or fans) will swoosh in and take his/her place!

    We've all lost fans. Like life outside, life within Hub Pages is not a linear rise to the top! MM

  36. Tuff Kid profile image52
    Tuff Kidposted 8 years ago

    haha I'm still learning!

  37. bgpappa profile image82
    bgpappaposted 8 years ago

    All you can do is post your positions, if they don't like it too bad. You have a welcoming forum so don't sweat it.

 
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