In today's society there is this ingrained idea that relationships have a natural tendency to become weaker as the feelings that originated it cool down or even cease to exist. However, there are still many couples that remain together in love for decades on end. Do you believe that relationship decay is a natural tendency? And if it is, can it be avoided?
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This is pretty much what I think. A lot of people answer with surprise when I tell them that me and my girlfriend is going strong as ever. You can't just stop charming your loved one just because the relationship has become stable.
I love your answer. I would add that over time you need to put in more work, especially when and if things aren't going as well as they once did. If you want your relationship to work you need to put a lot of effort into it.
I've read your hub about relationship decay. However, it would be apparent to me if behavioral patterns changes overtime it because the way the couple once saw one another changes .
Now, there are different reasons why feelings may change overtime
There are a myriad of reasons why relationships fail.While there is comfort in DS's answer there is another truth.Sometimes there r reasons we will never know or understand that cause marriages to end.Good marriages are blessings, not accomplishments
Married nearly twenty years and agree completely. Too many expect their relationship to be some effortless happily-ever-after fairytale. In real life, everything worthwhile requires hard work.
Wow! You're married. And it's a good one. I'm truly happy for you and your hubby.
I feel people have a tendency to forget just how important the small things are. While commitment is certainly important by itself, the feelings need to be nourished in order to keep everyone happy.
These are all excellent points. My partner and I play together and create together, and I believe that's why our relationship works.
Excellent points especially regarding flirting.
I often wonder why so many people only regulate it towards strangers and budding new romances. Flirty & playful behavior helps keep to the magic alive. Everyone wants to feel desired!
Right?? We should flirt until our dying breath. It's good for us.;)
Agreed. Plus, this isn't the 19th century, just because you age, it doesn't mean you should become a saintly analogue. Anyway, I'll be working on a hub on this soon and I'll be using the best answers for this question on it, if permission is given.
If you like my answer, you have my permission to allude to it in your new hub. Looking forward to reading it. ;)
Hey Savvy, can we have coffee together?
Anyways,Your Answer is one of the best.
Well....maybe if I ever get to India. ;)
Sure, I am looking forward to it. I really do mean it.You are most welcome.
I and my wife have been married for 22 years and I agree with your entire comment - just from the point of view of the Ol' Grumpy Bear !
That's awesome, Sandra. Your life is real.
I loved your reply. It's true, what I feel is, relationship becomes more natural with time. Rather than leading it with surprises, expectations and gifts you start living it and loving it.
What was once romantic love is bound to evolve into a partnership of equality. I feel it is important to show your best side at first, but as the relationship progresses into a mature love, it's necessary to want to feel at ease.
You are a wise man.
Indeed. Having kids only puts emphasis on the necessity for cooperation in couples. I haven't gone into the subject of the effect kids can have in a relationship in that hub since I have no experience with it, but the input is very appreciated.
I agree. A real relationship can't just base itself off that those young feelings that you get when you start to date someone. They need to evolve over time as you get to know your partner better.
There is a big difference between fleeting passion and real love. When all is said and done, it is respectfulness that keeps love alive. However, if someone is a real jerk, respectfulness is not a given.
Yea, a relationship isn't a static entity. It needs to evolve. If people just stop caring because the relationship has stabilized then of course things will start to decay.
The question in this case is what were the original interest behind the feelings shared between couples. If we're talking about an adult relationship then love is predomenantly cultivated by a given set of interest. If we're talking about a child rel
Very profound answer! I agree with every word!
A great answer Emma! Love is a two-way street, a dance for two. Your testimony reminded me of my ex likewise. In a way, the effort is what makes the relationship alive. Many divorces happen because the other one just decided to "stop responding"...
I agree wholeheartedly Matt ... why stay in something empty
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Yep. There are many relationships which only keep a thin mask of being alive in order to not cause problems for the kids or startle the family, but are very much dead on the inside. This is the reason we see old people divorcing at 60 or even 70.
It can be avoided, but people need to invest effort into that. Like anything a relationship will die if its not properly nurtured. If a partner has changed over time, then so must the other change his/her effort to maintain the relationship.
Finding the right person is def important, but you should always remember that you also play a huge part in making relationships work! Also, sorry everyone if I haven't been very active here lately, kinda sick.
Hi Ephraim, you're absolutely right. Nowadays most relationships are based on lust, and that's a problem. Pure love is kinda rare these days.
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