Should A Husband And Wife Have The Habit Of Using Sarcastic Jokes In Kidding One

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  1. ngureco profile image80
    ngurecoposted 13 years ago

    Should A Husband And Wife Have The Habit Of Using Sarcastic Jokes In Kidding One Another?

  2. badassbloggster profile image60
    badassbloggsterposted 13 years ago

    Yes why not?  This can be very witty and makes tough issues somewhat light hearted.

  3. kaleigh_123 profile image60
    kaleigh_123posted 13 years ago

    It depends on how much they like or dislike one another!  I would add never in front of others, especially children.  Keep in mind it takes 21 days to "make or break" a habit!  Good luck!

  4. Springboard profile image81
    Springboardposted 13 years ago

    No. Everything should be uberserious. Never laugh. Never have fun. Just sit there and be serious. smile

  5. Jaggedfrost profile image59
    Jaggedfrostposted 13 years ago

    Hmmm This question is more serious then your last one and actually less substantial at the same time.  If you are asking if it is right for humor to be allowed which digs at each spouses natures (even if they are impervious or thought to be so) then the answer is no.  No marriage is so bullet proof that they can afford to create wedges and throw them at each other just for laughs  Sooner or latter Life will make those wedges that much bigger and one will find purchase and then the damage becomes irreversible.  There are other forms of humor that actually help spice up life and make marriages more bearable. It might pay to explore what your spouse thinks about acceptable humor and create a sign to express between you as to when things have gone too far.

  6. EmmaMedu profile image68
    EmmaMeduposted 13 years ago

    Sarcastic jokes ake fine if you know each other well, It's ok to do it sometimes, but not to make a habit out of it.

  7. BeccaHubbardWoods profile image89
    BeccaHubbardWoodsposted 13 years ago

    It depends on the couple. If neither have a problem with the sarcastic nature of the jokes, then that could simply be a way they bond. I see no problem with it. My husband and I do this a lot. It's fun and we know when it would be inappropriate.

  8. fred hensel profile image58
    fred henselposted 13 years ago

    The key to the answer , for me, is in the question itself. A sarcastic joke occasionally is not bad, in and of itself. Of course, it depends on the individuals involved, their way of realting, and what is acceptable to the target of the sarcasm.
    However, when it becomes a "habit" it is hardly ever acceptable since it will eventually grate on a person. When it's a habit it will inevitably leak into areas where it is totally inappropriate. The joker may be so in the habit, so to speak , that he or she is unaware when they have stepped out of bounds.
    So if you honor your spouse you never develope the habit of sarcastic jokes!

  9. ladyjane1 profile image75
    ladyjane1posted 13 years ago

    In my humble opinion I think that couples should tread very carefully when it comes to using sarcasm or anything that might push someone's buttons and cause an all out fight with one another. I think that couples pretty much know how far they can... read more

  10. estranged911 profile image61
    estranged911posted 13 years ago

    Yes they should.. i think its healthy if done in limits..

  11. philosotographer profile image60
    philosotographerposted 13 years ago

    I tried telling my wife the joke about the horse walking into the bar and the bartender asking him "why the long face?"  and she slapped the hell out of me... last time I joke around with her.  lol jk I just think everyone should know what joking is and what is going too far and what is too sarcastic.  Some are really bad at it and some are really good at, it's just a fact of life.  My wife and I have a great relationship filled with many laughing until we can't take it kind of moments.

  12. sofs profile image79
    sofsposted 13 years ago

    That would be the best way to ruin any relationship. This being a very sensitive relationship need handling with kid gloves. You are at liberty to make jokes about yourself in public not your spouse ,this can only be done if the other is okay with it.

  13. MrKnowledge profile image61
    MrKnowledgeposted 13 years ago

    I'm not sure what this sarcasm thing is, but it sounds counterproductive to a relationship. If it's some sort of crude "joke" then no. Being easy going, or fun loving, or just being a smart-ass for a quick laugh is never productive towards your relationship. A good relationship can't make jokes back and forth, and you can NEVER make a joke about some sort of blunder that the other has made. Relationships are to be like Church, you should be straightforward and never try and humor one another. Laughing is bad for your health.

  14. gqgirl profile image67
    gqgirlposted 13 years ago

    Heck my hubby to be and I are sarcastic all the time towards eachother and it works out just fine. Yes I admit that there are days I would rather it be a bit more on the serious tone, but it's good for both. smile

  15. WoesOfACollegeKid profile image61
    WoesOfACollegeKidposted 13 years ago

    I'm not married, but I think think that humor is one of the most important parts of any relationship, particularly a romantic one--a husband and a wife have to be able to make each other laugh and be able to laugh with one another.  If both the husband and the wife have a sense of humor characterized by sarcasm, and they both know how to interpret sarcasm and use it with one another, I don't think there's any harm in it.

  16. OnlineHub profile image70
    OnlineHubposted 13 years ago

    It's better to avoid it, not a good idea because the other partner might not know that he or she has already hurt the feelings of the other in a deeper level.

  17. roxxxy42 profile image60
    roxxxy42posted 13 years ago

    Never do that .Its demeaning to the other person and you might think they will forget but they never will. Never never do this to children they will remember it for the rest of their lives.  roxxxy42

  18. michaelmalyon profile image55
    michaelmalyonposted 13 years ago

    Being a quick witted person myself, i had to sit down and out reason this one for myself.

    The problem is that a child's self-esteem is directly linked to how they see the parent. Their parents are the closest beings they have to themselves. This is why kids blame themselves when their parents get divorced. Now while you and i might be able to understand that sharp humour is only empty words, your seven year old won't. It will change how they see you and your wife. It will hurt them.

  19. Squidmom profile image60
    Squidmomposted 13 years ago

    Should a husband and wife use sarcastic jokes in kidding one I don't think they should. I've always believed that every word you speaks belays a truth behind it. So, although you are "kidding" there is something behind those words that has a grain of truth to it. And look at it from the point of someone that says no I absolutely was kidding, what I said to my wife or husband I do not believe myself at all. Well once those words are out there, they can't be taken back. And you never know what will sting someone the most. A simple remark taken to mean nothing by everyone else can have the power to grow and fester til it destroys the self worth of one person. I'm not saying I've never done it myself, I'd be lying to say this. I have done it in the past, but I've also almost always regretted it right after. There is also something harsh within being sarcastic to someone else. There's a bitterness there that will almost always get out of hand once it is taken out of it's box to be played with. So I would say don't be sarcastic with your wife or husband, don't be sarcastic with anybody, but especially not them. This, remember is the person you've promised to love, to honor til you two should part. People take that for granted I think. It's a sacred trust between two people in where they say, you are it for me forever, I will always love you, I will always honor you.Furthermore, I will not willingly cause you pain, in fact I will do everything that I can in order to avoid that.whoah long answer to a simple question, smile.

  20. Doc Snow profile image89
    Doc Snowposted 13 years ago

    Probably not.

    Sarcasm can too easily wound unintentionally.  There are better ways to be light-hearted together.

  21. profile image51
    leightposted 13 years ago

    i think husband and wife can kid around as long as the jokes are of general nature and not one targetting a particular attribute of the partner. Also it depends on the partner likes to joke when I am in a medical situation, which I don't appreciate at all, especially when I am doubling over with pain

  22. profile image0
    Tina Trueloveposted 13 years ago

    I think once in a while is OK.  When it becomes a habit, it becomes dangerous and can lower self esteem.  My husband and I joke around a lot, sometimes sarcastically.  But there are times when it becomes a habit and it begins to appear that statements made sarcastically are his actual thoughts and opinions which leads to resentment.  Just keep in under control.  It is a much better habit to form if you find ways to build one another up instead.

  23. nightwork4 profile image59
    nightwork4posted 13 years ago

    i think it would depend on the couple. my wife and i use sarcasm often but thankfully we both have a good sense of humour. my ex-wife, well lets not even think about her.

  24. lifeisabeach profile image61
    lifeisabeachposted 13 years ago

    Should be fine, but sometimes I think it shadows for the real deal and there's an underlying problem there which needs to be solved.

  25. NCapamaggio profile image61
    NCapamaggioposted 13 years ago

    Depends on the couple.  If they have fun doing it, and in the end bonds them together than yes. If it sometimes causes fights than no.  If one person can handle it and the other person can not, out of love they shouldn't be said between each other.  Do what the scripture says. Prefer others before your self. Find out how they joke around and do it their way.

  26. titobay profile image71
    titobayposted 13 years ago

    I think its a good idea to examine our sense of humor from time to time. I don't see any reason why husband and wife should not use sarcastic jokes in kidding one another for as long as its not derogatory. A couple must uphold mutual respect for one another. Any joke that would affect the ego or personality of the other is definitely not right. We should draw the limit once you realize the jokes are not going down well and apologize if we go beyond the normal. Otherwise, if its to drown a tension and create a relaxed atmosphere, its all good.

  27. James McV Sailor profile image80
    James McV Sailorposted 13 years ago

    No..... Sarcasism does not reflect respect or afinity and is certainly not constructive in enhancing any relationship with the target of such humor.

  28. Storytellersrus profile image67
    Storytellersrusposted 13 years ago

    Not if the marriage is going to last.  Sarcasm with or without jokes do not create meaningful discussion and only fuel simmering coals.  Probably better to leave and come together later when those coals have cooled.  Dig into them with a stick and stir them around a bit, breaking them apart into smaller chunks that can be managed.  And when they are  exposed, dump a huge bucket of water on them.  Ashes to ashes!  They're dead and buried.

  29. Evan Hutchinson profile image70
    Evan Hutchinsonposted 13 years ago

    Absolutely they should use. My wife and I use humor and sarcasm all the time, and our relationship would be boring if we didn't.

  30. Toxinfree profile image60
    Toxinfreeposted 13 years ago

    Having been happily married for over 25 years now, I would say that it depends on the sarcasm. I've seen a lot of couples using sarcasm to put one another down. Not a good idea.

    Light humorous sarcasm that's not belittling the partner is probably ok for a bit of fun and a laugh, but for the most part I'd say no.

  31. mymobileskins profile image60
    mymobileskinsposted 13 years ago

    Nope. Sarcastic jokes in kidding might lead to misunderstanding very soon. At earlier stage they might able to accept. Sooner or later gonna explode one day when you hit the wrong button. Why jeopardize such a lovely relationship?

  32. World-Traveler profile image60
    World-Travelerposted 13 years ago

    I do not think it is a good idea to use sarcastic jokes in marriage. I would never think of using a sarcastic jokes in any kind of relationship, especially not in a romantic relationship.

  33. fyxer profile image59
    fyxerposted 13 years ago

    if it work for them then its all good,if they are both cool with it  its ok, but if it make one person cry and go sit in a corner then its not ok--everything is not for everyone.

  34. lorlie6 profile image75
    lorlie6posted 13 years ago

    Gad, if my hubby and I weren't constantly making fun of each other, we'd have nothing else to do!
    Honestly, humor is the key to our 22 year old marriage-and the key to life.

  35. Babypushchairs profile image60
    Babypushchairsposted 13 years ago

    They can joke around sometimes using sarcastic jokes but never make it a habit!

  36. Richard Craig profile image60
    Richard Craigposted 13 years ago

    I've never been married, it's too early for me, but when you're in a relationship it's good to laugh together.  Why wouldn't it be?  If there's violence involved then there's a problem.

  37. profile image54
    chrgubbelsposted 13 years ago

    Absolutely! My husband and I always make a point of using sarcasm in our everyday conversations. We just know the limits, and know each other well enough to not say hurtful things. If people have heard us, we dont care, because its our way of having fun with one another. It can get pretty comical at home, and the kids love to join in!

  38. blackhatworld profile image61
    blackhatworldposted 13 years ago

    I don't know. But in terms of women are they smart enough to appreciate good sarcasm?  LOL  I am sure to get a rise here...!

  39. Bibowen profile image89
    Bibowenposted 13 years ago

    There's nothing wrong with a sarcastic comment in humor now and then. But if you give the comment and all you get is a smirk and not a laugh, it's time to employ more healthy humor.

  40. soheilr profile image58
    soheilrposted 13 years ago

    No, at times it could be difficult to tell the difference between sarcasm and being serious.

  41. proxybluex profile image60
    proxybluexposted 13 years ago

    My boyfriend and I have fun teasing each other about our age difference (he's younger), but we have a strong, secure relationship so neither of us take the other seriously in this little 'game' of ours.

    But you have to ask yourself are the jokes truly in jest or are they a way to say what is really felt under the guise that it's just a joke?

    If both parties are secure in the relationship, know where the other is coming from and are comfortable with this type of teasing, then there's nothing wrong with it at all.

    But if either party has doubts or concerns then no, it's not wise to engage in such behavior.

  42. minakay profile image67
    minakayposted 12 years ago

    Jokes are good within limits but when they are sarcastic, they are a nuclear bomb. You can end the marriage because of a stupid sarcastic joke which at the time seemed a good idea. Sarcasm should be among friends who don't really trust each other but when it has to do with marriage, no sarcasm please! Women learn fast and if the man is at the receiving end, it can be painful.

  43. Curtis Aron profile image71
    Curtis Aronposted 12 years ago

    I think that it is essential that humor be involved in any relationship.  Whether or not sarcasm is the type of humor depends totally on the couple in question.  It will work for some and it won't work for others.

  44. chspublish profile image78
    chspublishposted 12 years ago

    A difficult question to answer clearly. It would all depend on the persons in question. Some people have a great sense of humour no matter what comes at them. Others can be so sensitive to words and context that sarcasm would just add to the burden of negativity of misunderstandings.
    There's give and take in a relationship, but then again some people are good at more giving than taking and this would include the use of sarcasm.
    The frequent or infrequent use of sarcasm would be a factor in affecting a healthy relationship. Too much would erode the goodness within.
    Also it would be important to address the usage of sarcasm - is it masking a particular need not addressed by the relationship?

  45. profile image0
    jasper420posted 12 years ago

    i dont see why not as long as its just kidding

  46. profile image0
    CJ Sledgehammerposted 11 years ago

    A wise man once said, "Sarcasm is anger's ugly cousin."

    I think sarcasm is like taking a nice leisurely stroll on thin ice. In my opinion, it's just a matter of time before someone gets their feelings hurt.

    I think a little sarcasm has its place, but it better be used wisely, responsibly and sparingly.

    On a personal level, I typically do not like a steady diet of's somewhat like cheese-cake - where a little goes a long way.  :0)


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