If you fell in love with someone 20 years elder than you, would you marry them?

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   cmaddoxposted 13 years ago

   Of course!  Age is just a number that too many people get hung up on and to sacrifice a possible soul-mate because of that number is absurd.  I married my husband 6 years ago this month and he is the best thing that ever happened to me.  He is 12 years older than me and if he was 20 I would have still happily married him.  Some people may never get over the age difference, but the only thing that matters is the couples happiness with each other.  As long as neither one of them are bothered by it then it is blissful.

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   marxwasrightposted 13 years ago

   Absolutely. Love is what it is and wants what it wants. That may be like dating someone the age of my father but if I was in love with them then age doesn't matter. Age is as meaningless as looks and wealth is, it just doesn't matter when you love someone.

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   AnnNoEposted 13 years ago

   Absolutely - in fact I did. My first husband was 21 years older than I was. He was a young 42; I was an old 21. We had a great 15-year marriage until he passed away from lung cancer at 57. My second husband is 11 years younger than I am. We've been married 25 years. Marriage is great with the right partner.

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   samanthamayerposted 13 years ago

   Socially this would be a very difficult and challenging situation, yes. But I think that no matter who your true love is, you have to go for it. Even if in literature, true love always seems to be doomed (Romeo and Juliet springs to mind), how would you live with yourself, knowing you had let your one true love pass you by? If we have this mentality that we cannot accept love if it poses other challenges, we will never be truly happy in ourselves.

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   Hubpage Galposted 13 years ago

   Because one falls in love does not mean that one has to marry.  Age should not be a factor because the maturity of a person is not dictated by the number of years but by how much they enjoy life and having that special person a part of it.  I would marry someone 20 years older because of that reasoning.

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   galinaaposted 13 years ago

   Oh yes I did Best wishes for you and your husband!!

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   Steve R McDowellposted 13 years ago

   yes I would, age doesn't matter if it's real love

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   Senoritaaposted 13 years ago

   Only if he wants to marry me despite the age gap, and if we have both considered the future.

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   beautyspot2010posted 13 years ago

   100% if you love someone that much then age doesn't matter

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    meiwolferposted 13 years ago

    love is love, love is nothing~  nothing is love~

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    Jennifer Angelposted 13 years ago

    Yes! Age is only a number. Why waste away with someone or something you don't like? If you just can't live without them, why not? You only have one life, live it to the fullest! ~ Good luck

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    williiamwilliamposted 12 years ago

    if two adults or in love no one should talk negative if they love each other the age is not a factor to the lady who said no who goes by the name living by faith                    don't be negative this is how a person ends up missing a blessing from GOD be positive my wife is 15 yrs younger then me 47 what GOD has for me is for me.

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    Ghost32posted 11 years ago

    That could be tough for me.  Since I'm closing in 70, the other person would be around 90--and I've yet to be strongly attracted to a 90 year old hottie.
    Besides, I really think my wife might object.

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       fpherj48posted 11 years agoin reply to this

       LOL! Ghost.....That's FUNNY!.....a 90 yr old hottie!!  LOL.......Actually, if your wife thinks about it...next to a 90 year old.....your wife would be the HOTTIE!!   She might just like having the old bag around!  LOL

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    Ciel Clarkposted 11 years ago

    Sure, unless I was a 60 year old man who desperately wanted children and and she said she was against adoption.

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    stricktlydatingposted 11 years ago

    No, if he was 20 years my junior I wouldn't even allow myself to think I was in love with him.  Actually, I wouldn't consider dating someone who I was old enough to be the parent of, or if they were old enough to be my parent. 20 years is way too much of a gap for me.

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       Raitu Disongposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       You are right!

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    brakel2posted 11 years ago

    I know several people who have husbands or boyfriends 20 years older. They are all very happy. I don't know if I could do it. However, love changes everything   Look at Calista Flockhart and Harrison Ford. Some women marry for security and love. Isn't love grand?

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    AWhiteMAPoetryposted 11 years ago

    Love comes in all forms that you can think of. There is someone for everyone. Im 29 years of age now. And next month I will be marrying my Fiance of 54 years of age. As long as you are happy and  the love  and respect is there, you will have the one person you were meant to fall in love with. Love is a beautiful thing. Follow your hearts desire and follow my up coming HUBS !

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    NiaLeeposted 11 years ago

    If we match and he loves me as much, YES!

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    Composantposted 11 years ago

    I wouldn't. If I was a woman, I would. If anything, it's extremely disadvantageous for me.

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    Raitu Disongposted 11 years ago

    I'll think twice before I say yes!
    I think for a girl its okay, but for a boy to marry a woman 20 years older is not a good option...
    
    She will be like a mom to me:)
    Just an opinion...

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    Sharkye11posted 11 years ago

    Yes. I did. He is 28 years older than me. I was in my late 20's when we got together. I believe that for some of us there is only one right person, and I waited until I found my one. I've heard all the nay-saying, and still, I think that, like so many others have said, you have to go with love and your instincts.

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    padmendraposted 11 years ago

    When you are in love with a person who is more than 20 years older than you, it is certain that you will not care about the age difference since love blinds you. Maybe older men seem to care more If he is really good to you and you will get more mature as an advantage of the age difference, your parents will also support your marriage one day. But the most important thing is to make sure of what you feel and expect some tough times. This kind of relationship runs in very exceptional and rare case.

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    epbooksposted 11 years ago

    If we had many goals and morals in common and could hold an intelligent conversation, then I don't see anything wrong with it.

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    Anita Dobsonposted 11 years ago

    hi as you can see i have also married a man who is 20 years older than myself.  People are so quick to judge...We are so happy and in love with each other, when i'm with him, my heart feels at piece, honestly i have never been so happy in my life till the day i met my husband i don't care what people say or think why, they don't care about me.

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    SJ9190posted 11 years ago

    I have no idea, what would i do in this condition.

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    wychicposted 11 years ago

    I would and have . My husband is 27 years my senior, and neither of us have ever been so happy. When we met, I was 22 and he 49. We both believe that age is just a number. It's more about being in compatible stages of life and maturity levels than about exact ages. He is patient and has a secure ego, and tends to be far more considerate and hard-working than any man I've met my own age. It's hard to point out all the benefits of age-gap relationships, though I did start to do so in this hub . Many more to come on the subject, I think. http://wychic.hubpages.com/hub/Why-Do-O … ive-Longer

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    Suzanne Dayposted 11 years ago

    Definitely. True love does not come along every day.

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    jemuelOposted 11 years ago

    Yes, I will. Age doesn't matter, as they say. There's nothing wrong in marrying someone who is older than you. Why not settle down with the person you love (regardless of age)? Just remember that looks and physical attributes will fade with time, love doesn't.

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    dennisbrucknerposted 11 years ago

    Love is love!  Why NOT?  We only live once, so might as well enjoy it, no matter age, race, gender, whatever!

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    DennyMinnposted 11 years ago

    If I fell in love with someone 20 years elder than me , I guess i may be will marry them , for love, the age is not a problem .

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    jarcade92posted 11 years ago

    LOVE IS LOVE!!!! you cant help who you fall inlove with and if anyone has a problem with it tell them too get stuffed because at the end of the day they arent in the relationship you are

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    dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

    I guess it would depend on how old I was and what our financial situation was. Hypothetically lets say one is 45 and their mate is 65 or one is 50 and their mate is 70: Depending on where they are health wise and financially they would have to consider whether or not it would be safer/better to remain unmarried.
    One of the leading causes for bankruptcy in the U.S. is due to medical cost. Another factor that older people have to consider is money they've set aside for their adult children and grand-children. Oftentimes seniors will elect not to remarry after being divorced or having a spouse die especially if it will effect their social security or pension funds.
    Then again you have very rich people like Hugh Hefner founder of Playboy Magazine who at age (86) married his bride who was (26) at the time. A 60 year age difference makes a 20 year difference sound like nothing!
    I'm fairly certain Hugh Hefner has a solid pre-nuptial agreement and his medical insurance along with other financial concerns are well managed. Nevertheless it's doubtful a 26 year old man would ever marry an 86 year old woman no matter how rich she was!
    Generally speaking the older someone is the odds increase they've been married before and sometimes more than once. It's usually the younger person who has never been married that wants to experience the ceremony or they're looking for a measure of financial security. All in all age is not the overriding factor as much as the (health and finances) are for both people.

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    Sophary Vannposted 11 years ago

    the age just in number only!!
    but pls manage yr love in the advantage to yr self and society.

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    Engeltaposted 11 years ago

    I have one dad at home, I do not need another one!

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    Foodeeeposted 11 years ago

    Sure why not. Love is love. Age is a poor determination of love.

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    Oztinatoposted 10 years ago

    Why not?
    You can always divorce later if it doesn't work, and/or, you will certainly outlive that person.
    Make them and yourself happy.

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    Alyssa Nicholposted 10 years ago

    yes.  If you are in love and are willing to make the commitment, why not?

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    Zoraya Nashposted 10 years ago

    Age isn't the thing which people should pay attention to, if they fall in love. Of course, I would. My husband is 10 years older. We don't feel the difference at all.

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    Sara Jofreposted 10 years ago

    Well, I don't marry my boy friend for the last 11 years, but, imagining I considered marriage something essential, of course I would marry, I don't see why not!

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    TUAN AZLANposted 10 years ago

    YEAH FOR SURE.BECUZ FIRST REASON IS LOVE IS BLIND. AND OTHER THING IS LOVE COMES FROM OUR INNER FEELINGS NOT LOOKING AT THE PERSON BEAUTY .

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    Maria Roblesposted 10 years ago

    Well I'm 57-years old and single right now.  There is a young man interested in me from India.  We have been talking for almost a year.  Ask me for marriage and right now I'm hesitant due to the age.

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    monia saadposted 9 years ago

    I think it's a difficult question. You must be sure of your feelings and should know that the decision to marry very difficult. If you are honest in your feelings and sure that he also loves you. Do not hesitate. Maybe we do not find his chances of happiness in our lives once again easily

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    Glenn Coposted 9 years ago

    I have a hub pertaining to this very subject.
       My wife was 22, and I was 44 when we married, and we've been very happily married now for 15 yrs.
       There are certainly aspects to the age difference that were unexpected, but in hindsight, we knew them before we married, but had never thought about them.
       The most significant is that when I was in my prime, my wife was just starting out, and working hard to establish herself.
       Now, I'm ready to relax a bit, and my wife, who is now in her mid thirties, is coming into her prime, and our roles within the marriage have changed. (My wife is now taking more of a leadership role, while I'm becoming more and more happy to let her do so.)
       We're very happy, have a beautiful home, and love each other very much, but the dynamics of the relationship have changed, as we would have expected, if we'd had reason beforehand to think about it.

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    bluesradioposted 9 years ago

    /Age should not be a barrier to true love, but I generally feel that it would have to be an older spirit by the younger person for it to work...I have heard a lot of people have luck with the formula, half your age plus 7 so as you get older, the chances of it being 20 year difference more plausible...
    For example by that formula, a 60 year old could get with someone 37 hence 20 years plus older....

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    ElenasModelsposted 8 years ago

    Read my blog post where I have written on huge age difference relationship.
    http://blogs.elenasmodels.com/en/best-a … ge-dating/

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    Wilma Henryposted 8 years ago

    My late husband was ten years older than me and we had eleven wonderful years together. I don't think age is important.

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    roselinsojanposted 8 years ago

    My opinion is, think twice before you leap.

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    Deborah Demanderposted 8 years ago

    My first husband was 22 years my senior. We were married for nearly 20 years. It was an abusive and scary relationship that left me feeling worthless.
    My second husband was 18 years older. Although he seemed nice at first, I learned by the second year that all was not as it seemed. Again, after six years, I was left feeling worthless.

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    Janeller Thomasposted 8 years ago

    I would definitely marry because this person would be settled and would have a lot of experience in relationships and therefore would not have to be searching for anything outside of what was found in our realationship

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    KristineSausoraposted 8 years ago

    I would. In fact, I'm currently dating one.
    He's actually 21 years older than me.
    The people around me are against it.
    But I still love him anyway.
    Love does really move in mysterious ways.

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