Does anyone know how to get back at the "other woman?"
I want a legal way to let everyone know what a whore this woman is that works with my husband.
In all honesty, there isn't much you can do LEGALLY to let everyone know this. Considering she is a co-worker of his the excuse that "she didn't know he was married" wouldn't be able to be applied here. Although I'm sure it is painful and vengeance seems as though the best option, why waste your time and energy on her? In all honesty, it is him you should be upset with. He is the one who broke your trust.
Go to www.therevengeguy.com. He has some very interesting articles and ideas there you might get some help from.
Your husband might have told her that he was separated or in the process of getting divorced or some other lie. I'm not condoning her behavior, she probably is a stupid whore, but I think your husband is more to blame than anyone.
The best way to get back at her is to let her have him. If he'll cheat on you, he will eventually cheat on her.
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Not sure if it's legal but there is a website called thedirty.com where this guy named Nik Richie posts peoples gossip on other people... leaving the gossiper anonymous, and the gossiped about completely exposed. If she gets posted in there the website is popular enough that every time someone googles her name they'll see her plastered, and exposed on that website. Not a great idea to do something like that though... guess in a sense I'm playing the devil by giving you the matches, and leaving it up to you to start the fire ..
You don't. You be the bigger person.. Don't stoop to her level, pluse plans like these usually backfire onto you and make you the bad person.
Why be such a mouse? Aren't you mad at your husband at all? If this woman didn't even know you, then her sleeping with your husband was nothing personal toward you. I'm sure he has no feelings for this woman, which means he'll probably cheat again with someone else. If this bothers you, you should take it up with him or divorce him. I'm sorry this happened to you. It's terrible. Best of luck.
The woman is not the person you should be directing your anger towards. It's him. You married him and he is the one responsible for considering you in the choices he makes.
If I were you I'd have asked him to leave his job or I would leave. I would not want my husband continuing to work with someone he cheated on me with. Then I would have left him.
Cheating is a deal breaker for me in a relationship. You don't know what stories a cheat tells a women to get them into bed either, who knows what he told her about the state of your marriage. You may never know, so you can't blame her. Direct your energy towards dealing with what HE did, she doesn't matter.
I am with LoriSoard. The best way to get back at her is to let her have the bum.
As everyone's said, your husband is to blame! The best thing for you to do is to divorce him and to get on with your life. You will never trust him again in any job or with any woman. You mean nothing to this woman, she has not gone against you, just gone for your husband. Whereas your husband has gone against you! I know it it hurts to hear...as the truth often does; but it's your husband who's the whore! I hope you find the peace you're looking for. All the best
I am so glad that someone is seeing it how it is. The woman does not owe the wife anything, but the husband does. Yet it is the woman who is being besmirched and insulted and the man who is now the "victim" to be "saved"!! Gimme a break!!
But shouldn't women respect other women enough NOT TO DO THAT?
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I am very mad at my husband. I don't think men have feeling for anyone but themselves. I have no doubt he will cheat again. I know it is high school but I do feel like I am in love with him. I am 41, have been married before but never felt like I really loved someone. that is why it is hard to let go, I feel so blindsided by what he did, that he could lie so good and I had NO CLUE! I would have rather been raped by a stranger.
Hire a detective and pay him to devise a way to film her in the act. Send her a copy without your name on it. Tell her that you will send a copy to his wife and several social networks if she does not shape up. You have to keep this to yourself, or your husband will know and tell her that you sent it. The game is to put fear in her. She should not know who has it. Do not tell a soul because your girlfriends would find it too juicy to keep their lips zipped.
Now, if this does not cause her to behave, she is indeed a low woman, and will eventually cause your husband much regret. I advise you to insist on condoms for health safety.
Why would you care to get back at her? You need to get back at your husband. He either went after her, or he didn't say no if she went after him. I am an OW. I am single. I don't care to have a man in my life day in and day out. There are a lot of women like me. Older, kids grown, lived a life of propriety and honor to be good role models for our kids. Now we can have fun like in our single days before kids, only no fear of getting pregnant after menopause. We go for MM. Why? Because they are safe. Sure, some OW want the guy to leave his wife and marry them, but those are only the top of the iceberg. Under the water are the more numerous women who like the status quo. We don't want a man for a partner who cheats on his wife. Why would you? Leave him or put up with it if you don't wish to leave, but don't dis the OW. We didn't twist his arm and we aren't lying to anyone such as a boyfriend or spouse.
I cant actually believe what you have written in your comment! Your heartless and quite frankly disgusting, ok u never twisted his arm but you knew he was married, what if he has kids or going through a breakdown, women like you are vile, you make ou
You are delusional if you think Married Men are safe, because their are Married Men with HIV, and Herpesviruses. That would serve you right.
I got revenge on both of them. She had been using his tablet and forgot to log out on Facebook. He gave the tablet to me without knowing that she was logged in. When I discovered it, I confronted him and then started having fun on her page. I changed all of her settings to "public" and put her on blast. I changed her life event to "Busted" and added the date I found out and a description of what she was busted for. I also posted his picture so that people would know the deal if they were seen together and listed all of the details that I knew. She was seeing another man at the same time and I told my husband that he might find a world of trouble if he ran into the other guy while "visiting" her, especially since the guy now knew what he looked like. She called my husband, mortified that her business was out there and her friends, coworkers, the other man and her church members had seen it. I also got her email address from the page for later use. I had access to the page for half a day before she could figure out how to get me out of it. I later created a temporary email account and wrote her a letter about the whole affair, with a few "choice" words thrown in. I would not have gone after her, but she was his ex girlfriend from high school and she blantantly pursued him again, even though she met me when I attended an event with him. That is where she had gotten his phone number. Everyone around was exchanging their info, so he hadn't thought twice about it. She had given me a dirty look while his back was turned. I knew that she would be a problem and I warned him, but he didn't take it seriously and thought I was being jealous. He immediately broke off contact and changed his number. He is still in the doghouse and trying to figure out what to do to redeem himself.
Flaunt in her face how fabulous and happy your life is regardless if she is there or not. If she's going to be a slut, in the back of her head chances are she's thinking he's going to be with her, so making her think everything is fine and dandy is going to piss her off.
If you want to do something about him, leave his ass.
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I have been thinking about this myself. Let's face it, men are weak, and if there weren't so many stupid whores out there, men wouldn't have someone to cheat with. Ignore those ignorant people who say to "be the bigger person." No one did that for you and no one did that for me.....and society provides a wife no protection when women sleep with married men, but virtually gives the man a pass. After all, he's viewed as a flawed man, but he won't receive any shame from his peers....however, he should be ostracized for his actions and the whore should too. Get your revenge on both. Him for wasting most likely years of your life and her for assisting him in doing it and actually enjoying it. Because after all, we know women do this to feed their egos by taking another woman's man. I'd been the better person my whole life and it didn't get me much. Do what you need to do, they did what they wanted with no regard for the consequences and you should too.
I had to answer this question because I have wondered the same thing myself. I think Lori Soard answered it as eloquently as possible. Let her have him. That is the sweetest of revenge. His issues, his infidelity are now her problem and your weight has been lifted. They say birds of a feather flock together, who knows she may be unfaithful as well. I am speaking from years of experience of living with a man who was unfaithful, at some point she has to know he is married and that means she doesn't respect marriage either. Even if he makes a thousand excuses as to why he strayed, she should always wonder in the back of her mind, is he going to do that to me? Most will say no, their relationship is different, but it's not. If he cheated once what is going to stop him from doing it again?
True from your perspective of being the victim. But that is the very point .God can see all sides of the problem at one time
We only see what we think .
If we get revenge what do we need God for ? He backs out we have stepped ahead of him and reap.
I absolutely agree with Lorisoard! What a perfect answer!
But you might want to get back at HIM before you let her have him and his disgusting ways.
One personal revenge I heard about was when someone (not me) put her ex-boyfriend's name and address into ever contest and drawing, requested every possible free catalog and newsletter, and plastered his email all over the internet until he was drowning in junk snail mail and spam. That could work for the other woman too.
Or you could can get your revenge by living well. This will probably save you a lot of time, work, and heartache in the long run.
Personally I agree with Lori Soard and Funny Status Updates. He is the party who wronged you. He is the one who promised to be faithful in your wedding vows. The other woman is probably just another victim of deviousness and his cheating nature. If a man cheats on the one who loves him most, he will tell another woman any lie. She might think the two of you are legally separated with a divorce in progress or that you have an open marriage.
You should address it with him or rest assured that it will happen again. It is possible that he has exposed you both to disease. You need to get tested for STDs.
Forgive and move one. Revenge is for God. Do not do anything at all. Just pray and ask God to take care of it. God has won things out for me many times in just this way.
Do not do anything at all. That way, God gets all the glory.
Enemies get promoted, or transferred to other cities. Sometimes, they are forced to leave to another city (e.g. the drug dealers who damaged my car for fun.) But, you will find that God is a measure merciful even to those who harm us.
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The best 'revenge' is a happy life.
Get your mind and heart working on making a great life for yourself.
This is the ultimate betrayal and you do not need either of these people
in your new life.
Good luck and great life to you!
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Jenni....While I can feel your anger and hurt, please know that revenge backfires more often than not. It won't soothe your anger nor heal your hurt and it definitely will not bother either one of THEM! If either of them thought of you for one second, you'd not be where you are at the moment.
Get on with your life with more zest and confidence than before. Even if you must force yourself or fake it til you make it. Be better, stronger, happier and busier than you ever have.
She and your husband are the losers. They deserve each other. I'll guarantee you it's over between them in a very short time. If not, then I guess misery loves company and they BELONG together. How do they TRUST each other?? LOL
Do not call him (or her).....don't communicate with him and never let him see you cry. You're better than him. Hold your head high and remember to SMILE. I wish you much happiness.
Truly Jenni.....revenge is not what you should focus on....Peace, Paula
Maybe you can set up a way for her to meet a nice man similar to your husband if you know of any single ones. A single man is always looking for an attractive woman especially if she's single. Of course, it would take cleverness to link them. Don't let her think that you are a jealous one. At the same time is the husband leading her on? If he is then he's the culprit. Not her. I hate to say this but I knew of a guy cheating on his wife boldly until she started doing the same thing. Now he comes home every day and night waiting for her to come home. The table got turned around. He's Mr. Faithful now. Now, the new problem is the fact that she's enjoying hanging out with another. Lastly, give it all to God and let Him deal with it if you don't want to stoop low to get even...
In Taiwan, Japan and South Korea, you can sue a man/woman for having an affair with your husband/wife (only count if they had sex and you have video or photographic evidence.) it is a civil suit, but they need to pay you a lot of money for financial compensation. I don't know about the west.
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You can't do it legally unless she is sexually harassing him which he has to report (as far as I know). The best revenge is to get on with your life and he will see that he lost an intelligent, honest, and beautiful woman. Work on yourself. Revenge is fleeting. It isn't worth it. Have a great life. Find another man to share your life with.
Have you watched the move The Revenant? What does the movie teach us about revenge? Unlike the movie, the best revenge is disdain. The feelings of revenge will consume you. The "other woman" likely hasn't wasted any of her time thinking about you. Why do you waste time thinking about her? The best revenge is to ignore the individual. Give her no attention. Leave revenge in the hands of God.
It is easier said then done. Especially since I really loved this man. My life is on hold and I know I should move on but I can't for some reason. It sounds dramatic but it I the truth. Also, I have not seen the Revenant but I will watch it soon.
Jenni, seriously?? Your life has been on hold for FOUR YEARS?? Because if that is truly the case you need professional help to let this guy go. He is not your possession, he is a person. Not a thing. A PERSON. Let him go.
I can understand your pain but the best revenge is to live well. Karma is real. Your biggest anger should be with your husband. If he was faithful and honored your union the "whore" wouldn't have been a temptation or been a reality.
Figure out how to live well because doing anything else will give you temporary victory but ultimately will have bad consequences. Don't tie yourself to public situations like this because you're not only putting her business out in the street but yours as well.
Well, now in my humble opinion, this is not a good idea. I say this respectfully but you have to think about your "karma." What goes around comes around. There is no use in attracting poor karma to yourself. Of course it is hard to let go of something painful, but unfortunately life is all about letting go many times.
Wait. Let me take notes...
#1 He did this. He cheated. HE is the committed one.
Let her have him. Him and all the responsibility because if he did it to you he will do it to her. And THAT... in vengeance. Leave and spend something special of his on a cabana boy or the like. Girls trip, whatever, and he can watch the kids. You deserve it. Then shake IT off. If you devote yourself to harming another it'll consume you. It makes you think you'll feel better but no, it doesn't take away that he violated your trust. It doesn't take away that you were very much hurt. You need to walk away and if he begs let that build up your ego, but never show face. Stay classy, rise above, and exit like the lady you are. Find what you deserve for it's never too late for love and you deserve kindness not revenge. You deserve to trust and not worry. You deserve time... to heal. Never rush that process. Work on bettering you instead of dwelling on others, because no one can touch you or even come close to the person you can be at your best. It'll bring you more joy than you can imagine,
Honestly, I would let her have him. I don't know you're real situation but I always see women behave in ways unimaginable to get a guy who's married or with someone but I also wouldn't put all the blame on her because there's one other participant and that's the husband.
I guess, when it comes to cheating, there's always two parts of the story. Why not talk to your husband first and know what's the reason why he's hooked on her? Most men will always notice someone provocative in all ways but it may not mean he's cheating.
On the other hand, if she really is the other woman, then maybe your husband is wanting out.
Simple instructions and wisdom comes from the Bible . On the grounds of adultery you are released from the bounds of marriage.
2 . Ro 12:19 19 Do not avenge yourselves, beloved, but yield place to the wrath; for it is written: “Vengeance is mine; I will repay, says Jehovah.”
3. Heb 13:4 4 Let marriage be honorable among all, and the marriage bed be without defilement, for God will judge fornicators and adulterers.
You see there is a higher court that is above us it keeps in session.
These scriptures tell us our Heavenly Father runs a higher Supreme Court.
This court will always stand.
We reap what we sow. Meaning if return evil for evil we reap evil and Gods judgment has to judge you for your conduct. Two wrongs never solved a right .
But the wisdom of it is knowing when it is not your department but only God's to handle.
The problem with resentment and unforgiveness is that they mostly punish you.
Realize that their behavior really has nothing to do with you, and who you are, but only speaks about who they are and their character.
Take a deep breath and get on with your life.
Let them suffer their own misfortune. People who behave badly will eventually have to answer for their misdeeds.
Holding on to your anger will only make you feel worse, and in some twisted way, make them feel justified.
Let them both go out of your life, and seek peace and happiness for yourself.
Try and forgive and move on ..bitter words that are sent backwards and forwards makes things far worse! Easier said than done..but it is the only way out of continual pain and suffering!
U could always sue her ass for violating your marriage n also sue yr husband for mental anguish and pain of the heart. There's a word for it and I can't think of it right now,sorry. Definitely talk to an attorney and Sue the whore if she had any personal relations with your husband!!! Then DIVORCE your husband....
Only losers with no life outside their SOs would do any of the dumb garbage people are suggesting here. Move on.
It isn't clear from your posting if you are still married to your husband or not?
If you are then just being with him condones his adultery.
As others have suggested, you need to kick his cheating @r$e into touch and let her have him.
That's the best way to get back at her.
Women are so petty ! Be angry at your husband he was the one who was supposed to be loyal to you. For all you know he told he he was divorced or getting divorced or never mentioned you at all. Don't punish her because your husband is an A-hole !!
Why does it say this was posted 6 weeks ago when it's been 4 years? Maybe you ought to just send a lot of happy life articles to a newspaper. She would probably get mad over it. Other than hiring a private detective, there's probably not much you can do except tear up his clothes and deposit them at her house. That's what I did once -- cut out the blue jean's private area and wrote slut, whore, bastard on his t-shirts and then deposited them at the slut's house
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You can find many legal ways to do this, the problem is not getting caught. I would hire someone lol. If not, you need proof. Set up a camera and then send it to everyone that your husband works with. Next options, might be childish, but will get her and your husband rilled up, spray paint "whore" on something where everyone can see it. The fact of the matter is, cheating goes both ways. Yes, you have every single right to be mad at this woman, but your heartbreak should come from your husband, not the "Other Woman". Don't let her dictate you and your future life.
Jenni, I'd like to first express how much I feel for you in this situation. I'd like to point out though that it seems as though your anger should be directed more so towards your husband as opposed to his coworker, whore though she might well be. I feel as if the logical first step would be to attempt to solve the problem with your unfaithful hubby, rather than attacking a woman he cheated with. His actions and, ultimately, his character is the real problem here, the woman is merely a symptom. Studies show that men who cheat on their wives are highly likely to cheat more than once, and after all, the world is full of enough whores that exposing one is likely not going to make a difference for your relationship. So, my best advice would be to try to deal with the problem of your husband.. Best of luck to you in this most trying of circumstances.
They are both equally at fault if they did something and if it is flirting, then he has probably encouraged it. She would have had knowledge that you existed but in saying that, let it go! Rise above it and be there more grounded person, don't lower yourself to revenge as it will bring with it ill health and a side of your personality you may not want on display. Move on if you need to but don;t take this approach - it's not worth it, the anger will pass
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