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What is your view of online dating?


Please feel free to share a story about you or someone you know. If you have never tried online dating and you are single, what is holding you back?

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Best Answer Sandi Kroeger says

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    savvydating 5 months ago

    Great Answer. Congratulations and thanks for the fabulous tips! Learn to be safe first and then we can concentrate on having fun! It is very true that men who are only interested in sex will not stick around very long, so they filter themselves out.

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Kylyssa Shay (Kylyssa) says

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    savvydating 5 months ago

    That's the thing, Kylyssa, shy people almost, if not always, do better "meeting" through the written word. Introverts need time to think about things. Kudos to your man for having the patience to chat. I am very happy that you found a wonderful guy!


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Frank Atanacio says

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    savvydating 6 months ago

    Alas, Frank....there is a lot to be said about the "good ole days." I do think that if people can find a way to meet others in group settings, then it may be possible to glean some information about that person through observation--in person.;)

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    Yoleen Lucas (Say Yes To Life) 6 months ago

    It does seem people don't enjoy dating, and want to cut to the chase. I knew someone who told me that. She joined a singles ministry and married a man within a few months. The results were DISASTROUS!


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Alessio Ganci says

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    savvydating 5 months ago

    Hi Alessio....I hadn't thought to search the photo profile on Google. Do you type in their online name? And yes, we are surely dealing with a stranger in the beginning stages.


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Maria Burgess (MBurgess) says

5 months ago
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    savvydating 5 months ago

    That's the thing about online dating----you meet a lot of creeps. After awhile, you get a feel for who to avoid, but it's still discouraging to meet so many "bad apples" in one place. Why some guys they think that icky behavior is OK, defies reason.

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    ptosis 6 months ago

    Holy Crap!


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Vince (iggy7117) says

6 months ago
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    savvydating 6 months ago

    Online dating actually works for some people. I've met a number of couples who met online. On the other hand, 10% of people online are sociopaths, while some others are just looking for sex. That's where it's helpful to read between the lines!

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Tommy (Tommy Blake) says

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    savvydating 5 months ago

    I love that you are willing to ask a woman out in person. It's almost unheard of nowadays. Ha!. It's not easy to risk rejection, but asking in person most definitely helps in building upon our social skills. Thanks for dropping by, Tommy.

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suraj punjabi says

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    savvydating 5 months ago

    Well, McDonald's does have apple slices, but who ever orders them when it is easier to buy the french-fries. Yes, you make a good point. It is "healthy" to meet people in groups or through friends. That is not to say one is guaranteed anything...

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IslandBites says

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    savvydating 6 months ago

    How adorable. I love it, IslandBites. Congratulations! There is a lot to be said for socializing with people of similar interests. Your situation was happenstance, which makes your story all the more fascinating. :)


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Ronnie wrenchBiscuit (wrenchBiscuit) says

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    savvydating 6 months ago

    Why do I have the feeling that dating is not your forte, Ronnie? Seriously, you will do anything to talk about "the darkness of materialism." Anyone who dates you must find it exhausting. Relax. Buy her some flowers, even if it is "materialistic."


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Kim Maravich says

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    dashingscorpio 5 months ago

    Congratulations!

    I've always said online dating was in many ways better for people in their 30s, 40s, and beyond. It's great to have another option for meeting new people.

    It's not (how) you meet but (who) you meet that counts!


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Matt (mattdenzil) says

4 months ago
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    savvydating 4 months ago

    Nothing to apologize for, Matt. The thing that has bugged me about online dating is it's convenience. Something about mixing love with convenience really rubs me the wrong way. That being said, I do believe that online dating can be used properly...

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Guilherme Radaeli (Dakk) says

6 months ago
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    savvydating 6 months ago

    True answer, Dakk. It's all about safety first. Another important tip is that if someone tries to rush you in a way that is uncomfortable, then it is best to let them know or move on to someone who has more patience, or who acts more respectfully.

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Manjunath7472 says

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    savvydating 5 months ago

    I like your analysis, Manjunath. I personally know of couples who met online and later married.

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Tim Mitchell (tsmog) says

6 months ago
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    savvydating 6 months ago

    Great answer, Tsmog. Online dating is definitely a learning experience that need not be all bad. One of the problems is that you run into so much of the same, and if you're not looking for "same" it is easy to become discouraged. Appreciate your info


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DeylightWriter says

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    savvydating 6 months ago

    What a wonderfully positive answer, Deylight. Common sense is a must when dating. Period. Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom. And yes, it is all about following your gut. We have an inner warning system. It's wise not to ignore it.

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Shanae Grant (Massacre Mama) says

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Yoleen Lucas (Say Yes To Life) says

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    ptosis 6 months ago

    I agree. If you want to meet interesting people then do the things that interest you and have fun. Dating seems pre-ordained 'yes' permission for sex as if don't have a right to change your mind or feelings.


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Kawai (Happylovejoy) says

5 months ago
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    savvydating 5 months ago

    Right. There are lesser online sites for that, unfortunately.

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Stella Kaye says

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    Guilherme Radaeli (Dakk) 5 months ago

    This is completely true. Online dating combines two very troublesome things, which is the feeling of liberty it gives, and people with terrible personalities. You can find amazing people on dating sites, but you'll have to sift through trash first.

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Chris Mills (cam8510) says

5 months ago
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    savvydating 5 months ago

    Words of wisdom, Chris. I agree with your points wholeheartedly. Congratulations on finding a woman with common interests who also touches your heart.


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John Hansen (Jodah) says

6 months ago
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    savvydating 6 months ago

    John, it is wonderful to hear a success story. Thank you for that. So true that we have to use common sense whether meeting online or not. Also, online dating doesn't have the stigma of "being desperate" that it once did. I'm glad your son found love

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Rod Martin Jr (lone77star) says

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beaddve1800 says

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    savvydating 5 months ago

    That's true beaddve. The trick is having the patience to sift through all the bad before getting to the good.

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Tessa Schlesinger (TessSchlesinger) says

5 months ago
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    savvydating 5 months ago

    Yes, Tessa...I have found that men are generally not into communicating online for very long, although a few men here have stated they enjoy online communication. Men pretty much want sex regardless, but the plethora of prowlers online is astounding!

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Lena Kovadlo (lovebuglena) says

5 months ago
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    savvydating 5 months ago

    Ouch! That hurts. Just know, Lena, that if someone says they're "in love" online, that's always a red flag. It's best not to talk for hours on end. Ironically, we still need our space, even online.

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Julie Norman (short lady) says

4 months ago
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    savvydating 4 months ago

    A very wise answer, Julie. You covered it all, and I agree with what you have said here.

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Keith Abt (FatFreddysCat) says

6 months ago
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    savvydating 6 months ago

    Hello Keith....It turns out that one third of American marriages started out with an online date. That's a pretty decent (and surprising) figure. I wonder if someone will share a horror story. Might be an interesting way to learn something valuable.

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smcopywrite says

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    savvydating 5 months ago

    Several people writing in this Q&A have had immense success, while for others, it was a nightmare. Go figure.

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Lolita Monroe (LoliHey) says

6 months ago
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    Vince (iggy7117) 6 months ago

    I'm single Lolita.. The world moves fast today and people feel they know someone before they actually do.The typical way of getting to know someone before getting serious has fallen to fast paced instant gratification relationships.Not for me.

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Louisiana (DionesiaP) says

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    Kari (Laura Karina) 6 months ago

    You gave up after 1 first date? Did u give up college after orientation? No, u struggled through useless & not so useless classes,classmates, and profs. Same with dating. You never have to do anything. 100. smile & wave to the next. good will


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Jake Greenly says

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Lee Hansen says

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    Sandi Kroeger 5 months ago

    It's true Lee.. you can never really know. I'm sorry to hear of your loss!


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Asad Ahmed (Esad Uhmedi) says

5 months ago
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    savvydating 5 months ago

    True. Without safety measures, we're asking for trouble. Unfortunately, some people find it all too easy to lie when hiding behind a computer screen.

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Word (word55) says

6 months ago
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    savvydating 6 months ago

    I am glad you brought this up, Word55. We forget that we can meet "crazies" in person too, and that the opportunity to meet more undesirable people is greater online only because there are more available people online than offline---in one location.

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Liz Bracer says

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    savvydating 5 months ago

    As my hipster son would say, "True that."


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    Yoleen Lucas (Say Yes To Life) 5 months ago

    Thanks for this useful information! I'm copying the link for future reference.

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Timothy (Snarky Puppy) says

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    savvydating 5 months ago

    The paying sites take complaints seriously, so in that manner, they can separate the "wheat from the chaff." to an extent. I appreciate your point about "being honest with ourselves" if we decide to engage in online dating. Thanks, Timothy.


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Paula (fpherj48) says

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    savvydating 5 months ago

    Hi Paula...the thing about online dating is---it is the epitome of "kissing" (not literally) a lot of frogs & wondering if the pond has a prince or two. That's the most discouraging part, so I don't blame anyone for skipping the online scene. Lol


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Sulabha Dhavalikar (Sulabha) says

5 months ago
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    savvydating 5 months ago

    Thank you for commenting, Sulabha. I truly appreciate hearing perspectives from those whose culture differs from my own. I am happy for you and your children for having met life partners in a manner which is acceptable for you and them as well.

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Kris (krischavez) says

5 months ago
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    savvydating 5 months ago

    You and Suraj are on the same page on this one. I wouldn't say online dating is bad, but I do prefer meeting people through groups or friends. Thanks for stopping by, Kris.

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Michael Adewale Olubode (micadeolu) says

5 months ago
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    savvydating 5 months ago

    Excellent point, Michael, about moral values. Without them, communication is not gratifying or truly meaningful in any way.

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Aldous Orwell says

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    savvydating 5 months ago

    Aldous, I believe you are exactly right.

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Elena Verduyn says

6 months ago
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    savvydating 5 months ago

    It could be, Elena, but it usually isn't for most individuals. However, one must always use safety precautions when dating, in general.

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paugom says

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    savvydating 5 months ago

    There's no doubt that it can happen. It's encouraging to hear the success stories, paugom.

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ZaiTheAngel says

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    Yoleen Lucas (Say Yes To Life) 5 months ago

    "Onlie dating"? Sounds like a Freudian slip! LOL!

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Rudra (chocolateboy1996) says

5 months ago
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    savvydating 5 months ago

    But if you have already met the person, that would not be online dating, Rudra.


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Malorie Thompson says

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Yael mah says

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    savvydating 6 months ago

    That's sweet. Just know Yael, that instant attraction is instantaneous, but love develops over time. That being said, " love at first site" has happened. The trick is to take your time when dating. There's no rush when all is said and done.

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rexy says

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    savvydating 6 months ago

    You have a point, rexy. For example, when children & parents first began using email, they actually found they could open up and connect better than they had before. You've brought something relevant, I believe.


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Evane G (Evane) says

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    savvydating 5 months ago

    I assume you mean that the dating site keeps the pictures, of closed accounts, still available for people to see.


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    hamza ijaz (hamza941) 5 months ago

    you are just talking. redrose65 you never meet him. Here talk is about meeting. I agree with you that just talking with a person on any site is not bad but i shall never share my personal information with such person as i can not trust too much.


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Kayla Edwards says

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    savvydating 6 months ago

    That's understandable, Kayla. I think it's great that you enjoy being single. There's no rush...

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hamza ijaz (hamza941) says

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    savvydating 5 months ago

    There is something to meeting in groups or having had the opportunity to observe someone from a distance. Interesting perspective, hamza.


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Matthew Woolsey says

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    savvydating 6 months ago

    Matthew, being a better parent is the most rewarding thing you will ever do. Maybe the time isn't right for you to find love, but true love exists. The trick is in choosing well by taking note of red flags in the beginning & by valuing true chara


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Riz jhon says

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nessemilyreece says

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    savvydating 5 months ago

    How depressing, nessemily! Can't say I'm at all surprised by your sexy account findings, but the plain Jane results were truly alarming. My feeling is that meeting people in group settings is best for you. I'm sorry you had to experience all of that.


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Sumit Arora (sumitnabham) says

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    Oztinato 6 months ago

    My sentiments exactly. My nightmare online "date" fantasised about castrating males and turned out to be a litiginous psychotic undiagnosed schizophrenic


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Devika Primić (DDE) says

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Annie (Darknlovely3436) says

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    savvydating 5 months ago

    Did you meet him right away or was he a long time coming? Either way, I am very happy for you!


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Sarah1298 says

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    savvydating 5 months ago

    I've tried it. It was just okay...I could take it or leave it. I do agree that one must be very cautious indeed. You are correct about that, Sarah! Thanks for commenting.

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Leigh Moir says

5 months ago
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    savvydating 5 months ago

    Hi Leigh. If the person is willing to talk, you can definitely garner some information; however, observing a person's actions and interactions is even better. Thank you for commenting..

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Meethecardens says

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    savvydating 6 months ago

    Hello! It's always nice to hear a success story. The other side of the coin is that, due to lack of common sense, some people have been scammed out of money. But why anyone would give money to someone online is beyond me. Anyway, I am happy for you!


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Rohan Kulkarni says

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Rogers Olare says

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    savvydating 5 months ago

    I appreciate your input, Rogers. I am glad your experience has been positive.

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peter565 says

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    savvydating 6 months ago

    Peter, I have to say that I love a man who is persistent enough to get the girl, in person. Someone like you doesn't really need online dating. You're the type of guy who is always going to meet girls easily the "old fashioned" way. :)


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