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Roberta S (robertaharden)

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So, I am actually gonna attempt to write a bio...How fun! Uhmmmm...So WHO AM I? I am a woman, with all faults and privileges that come with being one. I thank the Lord every day for every single year of experience that He granted me throughout my life. You couldn't pay me enough to be 20 again.

I am honest to a fault. Now, I am not rude or unkind, but I'll tell you exactly how I feel every single time. You may not like it, you may not wanna hear it, but you'll only get the truth from me, only the truth.

I am loyal to the core. If you have my trust, I will never direspect you, betray you or leave you behind, no matter what. If I love you, you have my world. If you lose my trust for good, it's all over, no purpose in dwelling about it.

I don't regret. I will try anything I can to never have to say "What if" in my life. I'd rather make a mistake than wonder about what could have been.

My word is bond. My promise is forever.

I have everything I need in life and so much more. I cannot even begin to fathom everything that I have accomplished in my life since I moved from a small country town in Sicily. I work for a company that makes me proud every day, and I have come to love my job with a passion.

I don't need a man. But I want a man to love me. I want love because I am made of love and I give love. I will never settle for a man who doesn't give me everything I want because I know that, every day that passes by, I will give him everything and I will be there for him every step of the way, no matter what.

I believe that you can't find happiness in someone else. Happiness is within you. Nobody can give you happiness if you don't own happiness.

My life is crazy and my schedule is tight, but I will always make room and time for true friends. My friends are everything to me.

I hate drama. Drama turns me off for good. Talk to me, open up, and let it go. No reason to be a mystery. We were given the power of speech for a reason. Don't bullshit me. You'll be history before you know it.

I have a few pet peeves. I absolutely cannot stand people who can't spell. Do NOT text to me like "ppl cant tlk lk tht". Speak fucking English to me or be a retard on someone else's phone. I cannot stand people who drive slow. The clock is ticking, chop chop. Stop your drama on facebook, nobody wants to see you arguing on a public network, that's ghetto. Go to Jerry Springer instead, I heard they pay at least. Don't play games with me. I think there are casinos for that. Don't get drunk to the point you can't even walk straight, have some class! Don't say alcohol made you do it. Science says there is no such a thing. If you fucked up, own it and move on.

I believe in love. I believe in fate. I believe that what's meant to happen will be. What's not meant to happen will burn. I believe in Margaritas when life gets rough. I believe a kiss on the forhead can heal any heartache. I believe you have to experience pain to recognize happiness. I believe that once a cheater, always a cheater. I believe that if you've been cheated on, you should know better, and if you don't, you're a sucker and I have no time for you. I believe in forgiving, but I don't believe in forgetting. People don't change, no matter how much you would like them to.

I love America. America is my home, my country, the place I will always come back to.

I believe in apologies, but only if they're genuine. Don't bullshit me with your, "I'm sorry you feel that way", I do THAT job for a living. Instead, come clean to me, and show me you're sorry. Actions speak much louder than words. I believe in apologizing when I am wrong, and I believe admitting I was wrong has made much stronger in so many ways.

Love me or hate me. Chances are you can't do in between.

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