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Roberta S (robertaharden)

Joined 13 years ago from California on the rocks

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  • Online Dating: Welcome to the FREAKS show

    Online Dating: Welcome to the FREAKS show

    5 years ago

    I’m baaaaaaaaaaack! It’s been forever since I have actually taken the time to write my blog, and to all my kind and thoughtful readers, please forgive my leave of absence, life has been crazy, and busy, and crazy. Lately I have ventured to go...

  • True Love is Effortless

    True Love is Effortless

    11 years ago

    I’m smiling right now. As I picture the friends that inspired this blog, I smile. And it’s the kind of smile that leaves me sad, but gives me comfort at the same time because the emotions they stirred in me last night are bitter sweet. They...

  • Love is a scary, scary thought

    Love is a scary, scary thought

    12 years ago

    Well, the title says it all, somehow. I remember the times when I couldn’t wait to fall in love, and now love has become such a scary, scary thought. Sitting on my porch in the still of the night, I cannot help but feeling queasy at the idea of...

  • Life is now

    Life is now

    12 years ago

    In honor of my beloved friend Kristin, and his ever wise, kind words: “In life, there are people who act and people who react. You and I, we act, and maybe, we’ll never be able to understand people who, instead, just react. If life doesn’t...

  • A few words

    A few words

    12 years ago

    The other day, as I was sitting on my front porch, I realized just how much I have loved you. I loved you with every drop of my essence, with every breath that my soul could take. And then I thought about you, I thought of the way you are. I thought...

  • On Karma and Reincarnation. The power of Forgiveness.

    On Karma and Reincarnation. The power of Forgiveness.

    12 years ago

    Lately I’ve been educating myself on the theories of Karma and Reincarnation through a book called “Unlocking Your 800 Lives to Enlightenment”. According to the author, Barbara Martin, we are granted 800 lives in order to reach that level of...

  • I open my eyes, and you're gone.

    I open my eyes, and you're gone.

    12 years ago

    I close my eyes; you’re here. I open my eyes; you’re gone. The secret lies in the magic power of the mind; the capability to recollect precise memories in the exact moment that they happened, just by closing my eyes and letting go of reality. I...

  • Letter to my daughter

    Letter to my daughter

    12 years ago

    Daughter, when these words will truly reach your soul you will probably be my age, and by then you will have realized that this world isn’t perfect, but you can still make it wonderful each day that you step in it, fierce, but still with the...

  • I keep you alive for me.

    I keep you alive for me.

    12 years ago

    Everybody wants it. Everybody looks for it. The big L word. We’re all so anxious to get it; then we let it go because we’re too afraid to keep it. I’ve been thinking about it a lot lately. Ironically not because I want it, but because I...

  • But...Why do I still care??

    But...Why do I still care??

    12 years ago

    Come on, admit it, this is a question you have asked yourself at least once in your love life if not 100 times. The inspiration to this hub has come to me in light of two separate instances, one outside of my personal experience, the other… Very...

  • Memories in a Box

    Memories in a Box

    13 years ago

    Memories, like scattered papers on a cement floor in a corner of my mind. I remember I couldn’t sleep next to you. You tossed and turned; I stared at the ceiling all night, my eyes wide open, my mind waiting for the sun to come. Your breath was...

  • The

    The "Joys" of Online Dating

    13 years ago

    Back to dating. Easier said than done, my friends. Despite my reluctance to going back to the dating pool, I gave in and decided to join a dating website a few weeks ago. So far, a complete disaster, but I admit that I may partially be one of the...

  • Admit your Love is Just Gone

    Admit your Love is Just Gone

    13 years ago

    This is going to be a brief hub, my friends. I felt like I owed this premise to all my faithful readers that are accustomed to my usual logorrheic writing about the random topic of choice. No. This is not an ordinary piece of mine. This is a moment...

  • He Won't Commit- Let it Go.

    He Won't Commit- Let it Go.

    13 years ago

    This morning I was frantically getting into my usual routine of checking my emails, my public networks emails and notifications, while juggling with phone calls and text messages, and allowing comments on my dating blog, when I abruptly realized...

  • SHE is just not that into you!

    SHE is just not that into you!

    13 years ago

    You know what I have noticed in these last few months of dating and relationships speculation? I have observed that majority of literature regarding dating advice and anecdotes for a successful dating life are destined to an audience made primarily...

  • Rules of Engagement and Bar Dating...

    Rules of Engagement and Bar Dating...

    13 years ago

    Now that I have finally convinced myself to say goodbye and let go for good of “the ex”, I am back in the dreadful scenario of the night life and dating game. I am quite not ready for, or better, I consciously decided to opt out of the online...

  • You, her, or anybody else!

    You, her, or anybody else!

    13 years ago

    This hub is dedicated to all lovely men out there who, in the midst of loneliness and misery, would rather stub their pinky toe against a sharp wooden surface and take a chance to have a nail fall off, than being alone and single. I praise you,...

  • I Didn't Cheat and I'm Glad

    I Didn't Cheat and I'm Glad

    13 years ago

    Moment of truth, finally, after years, I did get my moment of truth. It still feels bitter sweet, not completely fulfilling, yet slightly amusing. My fiancé of four years took the chance to apologize today for all the negative memories that he was...

  • I Wanted to Help Him- NO, You Wanted to Change Him

    I Wanted to Help Him- NO, You Wanted to Change Him

    13 years ago

    I have to admit lately I have been blessed with the presence of people in my life who have done their very best to soothe the bitter passions left over by my most recent breakup. Some of these extraordinary people have been amazing men who, not...

  • From closure to forgiveness

    From closure to forgiveness

    13 years ago

    On January 8, 2010 I started a frantic internet search on local Lutheran churches in the vicinity of what, at the time, was my place of residence. I had spent days and nights looking for religions that resembled my thinking style and my personal...

  • The mind is moving on; the heart, instead, is draaaaaaaaaagging.

    The mind is moving on; the heart, instead, is draaaaaaaaaagging.

    13 years ago

    In getting over a broken heart, I think the most frustrating part is that constant up and down of emotions that keeps us literally going from being ecstatically blissful one moment to feeling entirely despondent an hour later (sometimes rather...

  • I am NOT dating

    I am NOT dating

    13 years ago

    Lately I have been incrementing my culture in breakups literature by going to my local Barnes and Noble store and spending hours deeply immersed in a variety of books about separation from very different perspectives, from the psychological PhD...

  • Forever Love...?

    Forever Love...?

    13 years ago

    I found the inspiration for this blog in a question that was recently presented to me by a stranger through my facebook account. It is of the outmost interest to me to see how public networks such as facebook, myspace, and Friendster have positively...

  • How can I mend my broken heart?

    How can I mend my broken heart?

    13 years ago

     Upon joining hubpages, I found myself browsing among the various topics and blogs posted by our fellas blogwriters and one thing that somehow surprised me was the copious amount of “how to mend a broken heart” articles. Typically they look...

  • Hide and Seek Lovegames

    Hide and Seek Lovegames

    13 years ago

    Have you ever found yourself stuck in a game of hide and seek with a man that one day is almost adoring you, being the sweetest gentleman you’ve ever known, catering to your every need, and the day after…Disappears? I have, and I know it comes...

  • The F-ugly Truth

    The F-ugly Truth

    13 years ago

    I want to think that every woman at least once in her life has liked/cared for a man so much that she just refused to see the f-ugly truth. It’s just like watching a movie of which you already know the ending (just because you’ve watched many...

  • From Italian to English: languages and feelings lost in translation.

    From Italian to English: languages and feelings lost in translation.

    13 years ago

    Today I had quite a long time to think and meditate about life, maybe about waaaaaaaay too many things I would not meditate about otherwise. I don't know if that's good or bad exactly, but I am still grateful to have an active brain to exploit from...

  • Dating Mr. Nerd

    Dating Mr. Nerd

    13 years ago

    So, for the first time in my life I am actually SINGLE, and not only am I single, but I am single in a city where "singleness" is actually a lifestyle, a credo, the rule of life for majority of people my age. My dear friend Mari recently showed me a...


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