I same, i was shit scared of my bf's mum..well don't have worry about her anymore!! She appears to have no emotion, and i was intimidated by her and she made me nervous, because she is super smart. She is one of the top 10 smartest people in NZ- my country.
Death was the first thing that came to my mind when I read the title of this forum. It's a really big one for me. Have you found any ways of overcoming it? I'm hoping that as I age (as I will hopefully have the opportunity to do!) I will be able to reconcile with it. And you?
I too think it is the biggest fear for everybody, whether people realize this or not. And the first thing to overcoming it is to realize that you have it and that it controls most if not all of what you think and do - and looks like you are there already.
Then you naturally want your life back, and from that point it just becomes a question of technicalities. How do we overcome our fears? We face them. And when we look at them long enough, we see them for what they are, and they subside and go away. That's the only way I know
I don't think we ever overcome fear of death. I became very aware of my own mortality -- and that of people I cared about -- when I was nine. The summer when I turned nine I was totally focused on death. Then I "got over it" by focusing on other things. I'm not less afraid of death now, than before. I just think about it less.
Aya, as I said above, the only way I know is to face it, not to hide it. It takes a while (years) to realize that there is nothing to fear, really - no matter if there is an afterlife and/or reincarnation - or not. If there is - there is a whole lot of new (or may be old LOL) things to explore after death. If there is not - then what to fear?
The thing to fear is not the process of dying, but the non-existence that is its result. To me, when I was a child, contemplating my own non-existence -- not just after I died but also before I ever was born -- was terrifying. To realize that the world would keep on going just as before, but I would play no part in it, was to come face to face with my own insignificance. The idea that I'm not important scares me more than anything!
Wow, my brother actually hates spiders. He did not even remember that he brought a big one home in a jar from Florida and kept it in his room for years, to scare me with it so I would not tattle on him. I left that out of the hub I wrote on him, but may have to add it
it took him a long time to love our mother, she was sick a lot and that can make children angry with the person. he got over it when he grew up... or did he?
I have an irrational fear of birds and fish..even dead ones. Once when i was home alone, i discovered this dead bird that my cat had dragged in. My bf was away, so i called my boss, and he came round to my house to get it out!! I wouldn't even walkpast it..Still havn't gotten over those fears.
I was afraid of the dark up until about 2 years ago!!! At 17-18 years old, i would wake up my bf in the night to come with me to the toilet!!! Because there was no light out there, it was an old house and the power was a bit dodgy.
When I was a little kid I was afraid of breaking my arm, then one day during junior high football practice it happened. It hurt just as bad as I knew it would, but the sympathy you get while it's in a cast is awesome. Plus there was a guy in the emergency room that accidentally cut off his thumb with a chainsaw, so the grass is always greener I guess.
Most recently, well within the past year anyway, I finally overcame my fear of the dark. Some would say it's pretty sad to have an intense fear of the dark when you're 32. I say - it was horrific and glad that it is finally behind me!
My biggest fear was thunder and lightning, when I was younger I used to hide, close the curtains play my music loud. Not good for my neighbours but great for me, now I have got older it does not bother me anymore and I like to watch it now.
My acraphobia (fear of heights) has greatly improved since I climbed the fire escape Aug 24, 2004 in Los Angeles. YOu can read my hub about it, My Reality Show Experience: the whole story. Anyhow, my fear has greatly alleviated thanks to a kind and loving God who opened the door for me to experience such validation. It controlled my life but now is way down the list on priority fears.
I think disappointment is a pretty big one. I used to not do things because I was afraid I'd end up disappointing myself or not performing up to the standards I set. Recently, I've realized that it's pretty hard to fail at anything if you try enough times.
Lyrics, quick story, I heard that song Don't Cry Out Loud and amde it my mantra as everyone hated that I could not stop crying once I started. I toughened myself up and became like steel... Then the day cam when I should cry, needed to, wanted to and prayyed I would and the tears would not come. It became so hard, everyone thought I was completely heartless and self centered and my heart was breaking but no tears would come. It took six months of solid prayer to get God to give me back the ability to cry and I will cry, even if it makes others uncomfortable. Not crying is what kills ya. Yes it hurts and you can't swallow and the lump in your throat is so big, but being unable to show others your feelings can be an emotional hell I would not wish on anyone. Especially you.
thank you lyrics, but I dont know if I will be staying....we left on mass the last forum I was on as the complainers spoiled the fun for everyone else....I see you have them here as well trying to control everything.....I think these people are the lowest form of life.....if they lived in a small village they would be peeping out the curtians minding the neighbours business.....pathetic....thanks anyway.....actually I think I will write to the hub pages team and ask them who is actually running these forums....the busy bodies or the people who want to interact and share knowledge and fun.....
I'm on the path to overcoming a fear today. Being alone. My man broke up with me last weeks, after a 5 year relationship. He just left about 20mins ago. He's going back to our home country, NZ. I am in Australia. Iv'e lived in this town with him for about 8months. I know some people through work. But the closest thing i have to friends here, is 2 60 year old men whom have a soft spot for me.
What is one thing you are afraid of the most?- Ghosts- Men- Women- Animals- Snakes- fill in the listI'll compile the stats every weekend to give you update on fear factor. Woudl be very interesting to understand your...
Were you ever fearful , or afraid of the dark etc? and how did you overcome?I use to be scared as hell about eleven years ago I would be so afraid to stay home alone. Go to the washroom by myself etc. I wished so hard...